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Tuesday, May 26, 2015

FLOG SWARM DEADLINE TONIGHT, and Purpose


The Flog Swarm is an annual event, hosted by gay leathermen, welcoming our heterosexual, bi and trans sisters and brothers to COME PLAY WITH US.  We want to develop deeper friendships and trust within our shared Tribe.  You are warmly invited.

Tonight (Tuesday the 26th) at midnight is the LAST CHANCE to attend this year’s Flog Swarm.  Just like last year, many folks have neglected to sign up until the last moment (we are busy people), and it’s a problem.  We need a certain number of folks to make it work for the venue’s purposes.  Please make sure that you follow through, right away!

Please go IMMEDIATELY to the Eventbrite page and get on the list, because we want you there!

Sunday, May 24, 2015

Purchase Flog Swarm 2015 and Dinner tickets ASAP!

Flog Swarm 2015 and Dinner ticket sales ENDS
just before midnight on Tuesday, 26 May 2015. 

Why so soon?
Because we need to inform the caterer Wednesday morning how many people will be joining us for dinner Saturday evening. 






Every year, the men of FetishMenSanDiego host the rest of the San Diego kink community for pleasurable events that draw us closer as a family.

This year, the theme is "ALL IN THE LEATHER FAMILY!"

The mood will be light, the events will be low-pressure, and the opportunities to build new friendships will be numerous!

More events may be added, later on…

Saturday, May 30: 


Flog Swarm and Dinner, starting at 4PM, and ending after dinner is done.  Followed by:

We WILL be taking our annual group photo 
before we go in to see the movie - It's a tradition!



Movie Night: SEED MONEY, starting at 10PM, hosted by FilmOut San Diego and FetishMenSanDiego.

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

All Male Butchmann's Experience, Phoenix Arizona June 12-14

The All Male Butchmann's Experience will be held in Phoenix Arizona June 12 to June 14 this year.  This is a weekend opportunity for self discovery. The event uses basic S&M practices to explore awareness of internal direction and it uses the practices of Master/slave dynamics to mindfully inner resources and qualities that we find transferable to our relationships in our life. 



We held a BE here in San Diego in January that was sold out and very successful. You probably know someone who attended. Ask them about their experience, though yours will be different.

Check out the Butchmanns Web site to get more information. and to register.

Sunday, May 10, 2015

Family Reunion Weekend 2015: "ALL IN THE LEATHER FAMILY!"


Every year, the men of FetishMenSanDiego host the rest of the San Diego kink community for pleasurable events that draw us closer as a family.

This year, the theme is "ALL IN THE LEATHER FAMILY!"

The mood will be light, the events will be low-pressure, and the opportunities to build new friendships will be numerous!

More events may be added, later on…

Saturday, May 30: 


Flog Swarm and Dinner, starting at 4PM, and ending after dinner is done.  Followed by:

We WILL be taking our annual group photo 
before we go in to see the movie - It's a tradition!

Movie Night: SEED MONEY, starting at 10PM, hosted by FilmOut San Diego and FetishMenSanDiego.

Movie Night, May 30: SEED MONEY

This event is part of the larger Family Reunion Weekend!



There WILL be a group photo outside the theater at 9:45PM… 
It's an annual tradition!

Movie Night, Saturday, May 30th, starting at 10PM, presented by FilmOut San Diego and FetishMenSanDiego.

Festival is at the North Park Theatre. 2891 University.


SEED MONEY: THE CHUCK HOLMES STORY – West Coast Premiere!!

See the trailer here.

Buy your tickets online

Sponsored By: SDGLN/SDPix

2015, Director: Michael Stabile, USA, 72 min:
This documentary is a revealing look at Chuck Holmes, San Francisco Falcon Studio’s founder/pornographer turned philanthropist. Holmes helped shaped and create gay identity in the years after Stonewall,and became a founder of gay rights advocacy groups like the Human Rights Campaign and the LGBT Victory Fund…only to find later in life that while his philanthropic money was welcome, he wasn't.

Appearances by John Waters, Jeff Stryker, Chi-Chi La Rue, Holly Woodlawn, Jake Shears, Zak Spears and John Rutherford.

**This film contains nudity and scenes of sexual situations**

With: HOLE – California Premiere
2015, Dir: Tony Radevski, Australia, 5 min:
Two men share an unlikely encounter at a bathroom gloryhole in this insightful animated short.

With: MIDNIGHT – West Coast Premiere
2015, Dir: Ted Wilkinson, USA, 22 min:
Shane (Sean Paul Lockhart) and Aiden (Anderson Goncalves) are a couple who decide to try an open relationship. As one-on-one encounters turn into group orgies…will their experiment broaden their horizons, or lead to mistrust and paranoia?


Here is the ticket link:
http://filmoutsandiego.tix.com/Event.aspx?EventCode=753959

Here is the Facebook link to spread to your peeps:
https://www.facebook.com/events/809857989070070/

FLOG SWARM!!! Saturday, May 30th

This event is part of the larger Family Reunion Weekend!





The newest, exciting, and deeply TRIBAL Flog Swarm is coming soon! Come for the Flog Swarm, and stay for the dinner!   It's all part of the FAMILY REUNION WEEKEND.


WHEN: Saturday, May 30, 2015. The Flog Swarm starts at 4pm SHARP!!!

If you are not there and ready by 4 PM, we will start without you. No mercy. This event is very tightly coordinated, and will be following specific plans that will cause people to bond closely as friends. If you miss out, you miss out.

Dinner starts at 7PM.

WHERE: Sunset Temple
3911 Kansas Street
San Diego, CA 92104

COST: For the entire event, (which includes the Flog Swarm and a sit-down dinner), is $25 per person.

PAY FOR YOUR TICKET HERE.

Ticket sales for Flog Swarm 2015 and Dinner end just before midnight, Tuesday, 26 May 2015. We need to inform the caterer Wednesday morning how many folks to serve Saturday evening. 


IF YOU WANT TO LEARN HOW TO USE A FLOGGER:



Papa Tony's one-hour online instructional video is strongly recommended.

If you would like to participate in the practice-sessions before the Swarm, contact us at SignMeUpForEvent AT gmail DOT com



So… What is a Flog Swarm?



It is coordinated and joyful kinky play, that is designed to break down the walls between us. This event is for the most open-minded folks, who tend to lead with their big, beautiful hearts. 

If you struggle without a rock-solid itinerary, you're really not going to enjoy this. However, if you're willing to open your mind, drop the shields and play as if you were a happy three-year-old in a mud puddle, you're going to have a great time!

If you are one of the 72 lucky folks who attended last year's Flog Swarm, please bring your best new ideas along with you  this year, because we want to stir things up a lot. Bring your A-game! We want to hear from you, preferably beforehand, so that we can mix your ideas in with everyone else's. 

Send your ideas to us at SignMeUpForEvent AT gmail DOT com.




The Kinky King is Back!

Photos by Scott Smith and Mike.

This time around, our brother Brett will be the Ringmaster for the Swarm. He played the role of "King Versatile The First" last year. He brings creativity, patience, credibility and a wonderful sense of humor to the party.


Brett will be guiding the flow of events and people, as only a deeply creative person can do. Brett, Papa Tony and International Ms. Leather 2015 Sarge all share the exact same personality-type. We will all be in attendance, along with dozens of other women and men who are natural Tribal leaders, elders, hotties and activists.



Expect surprises, laughter, thoroughly pleasing flogging in every possible style, and wonderful new friends that you never thought that you would ever find reasons to treasure. 



RULES

- The #1 rule for the Flog Swarm is: "No Lonely People!"  So, let's all drop the shields and reach out to the shy, the new and the unsure. There is no one here who will cause you harm, or treat you shabbily.  We guarantee it.


- There will be cameras. If you're not wild about the idea, please bring a mask, or, we can help you make one. Your presence is greatly desired.


- There will be various levels of nudity, but no bare asses. This is as a courtesy to the folks who own the venue, who don't want to dry-clean the furniture after we leave. This seems reasonable.
















Photos by Mike:





The super-popular and powerful DANCE OF THE BOOBIES!  This was meant to break down the walls between women and gay men.  It worked wonderfully.








Friday, May 8, 2015

FMSD Potluck and Sock Donation

Wednesday, May 13, 2015, 6:30 to 9PM at Stomping Ground.

Photo by the ever-excellent Scott Smith!

From Kurt:

Hi Fellow FMSD Guys, Kinksters and Bro's.

Time to Show Off your FOOD, COOKING and ORAL GRATIFICATION talents!!

We’ve got us a POTLUCK Dinner happening at NEXT WEEK’S MEETING.  If YOUR LAST NAME starts with:

A-K: Please bring us a salad, maybe a light and non messy / finger food kind of appetizer, or a side dish.

L-Z: Bring a main dish, the primary entrée item that the rest of the meal is built around.

Meat or Vegan, Hot or Cold, Sweet or Spicy or Mild, … no worries.  It’s a food item that really “Turns You On.”

Baby Back Ribs, Meat Loaf, A Meatless Item … whatever is your favorite that you really enjoy, and want to share and want to open the door to the rest of us on … “what are you into …. With food???”

We did Pizza and Fried Chicken at the Park Picnic, so some new items will be a great variation for us, this time around, ok?

If you would like to bring a dessert item, it can be in addition to your main/side dish choice.  Again, something that you really are into, and think the rest of us will be into.   I got hooked up on some killer Cinnamon Rolls that are usually a breakfast item, but says who that we can’t have them.  Personally, it would be like Pig Heaven for me, if someone brought Bacon … still slightly Limp, and also the Hard Munchy kind.  Just saying.  It could be a Kurt-Kink.  (kidding buds)

I don’t know how if we have a stash of Utensils and Napkins and Table-wear somewhere, so if anyone can clue me in, or bring some, that would be kewl.



SOCK DONATION

Also, Friday evening is the night that I bring Food, Clothes and Sleeping Bags to Homeless Kids.  FYI, the leftover Bagels last week went to a Homeless Dude in Mission Valley and the Day Laborers in the Home Depot parking lot.

People living on the streets have a need for Socks and Laundry Detergent.  Sox wear out, and they can’t carry a gallon bottle of Liquid Detergent like we keep above our Washing Machine.

Hence, if you can please bring any gently worn sox  ( a hole at the toe or heel isn’t a big deal when you have no sox at  all ) or a baggie with enough Dry Laundry Detergent to wash one Load of clothes, that would be sweet.

I learned about the laundry detergent issue when a guy asked me if I would turn him on to enough of it to wash his clothes at the Encinitas laundrymat.  He even mixed the colors and the whites.  No bleach.

Anyone with any thoughts, suggestions or support from past experiences … please share. “I’ve never done anything like this before,” and since we all like to eat, we all like each other and enjoy sharing … I wanted to put the word out, since Jerry’s pictures  of Hot Masculinity distracted me.  You know, shiny objects, lights, dudes and I glaze over.

Looking forward to seeing everyone next Wednesday, May 13th, at the Stomping Ground around 06:30pm, ok?

Stay Happy

L8rz

kurt

Sunday, May 3, 2015

FMSD Calendar of Events as of 3 May 2015

NEWS YOU CAN USE

FetishMenSanDiego has a NEW MEETING SPACE to use every Wednesday except for holidays and special events.

For the 6 May meeting we are test driving a new schedule.
Doors open at about 6:30pm so we can socialize
until 7pm and then start the Discussion, Instruction or Practical topic. Depending on how the evening is going we'll stop 
around 8:30pm and have more social time until 9pm.

Please let us know what you think of this new time allocation. 




FMSD Calendar of Events as of 3 May 2015
While our group is going through changes in management, we are trying out new, better ways to get news out about upcoming events in a timely fashion… without so much work!

The calendar below CHANGES, so if you come back to this same page later on, the information will be updated.

You can also subscribe to the FMSD calendar, so that the events show up on your portable device or computer, and will update within seconds if changes are made on this end.






UPCOMING EVENTS

This newsletter focuses on details of events that occur in 
San Diego and includes many events in the Southwest, 
as well as some major events in the country 
from the date of this post through the end of 2015.

More updates to come in future newsletters.





  

San Diego, CA (Mission Valley)
Wednesday, May 6, 7PM:  at The Stomping Ground San Diego.
Discussion Topic: "Masculinity in Popular Culture"


6:30 - 7:00 Social
7:00 - 8:30 ish discussion - followed by socialization

8:30-ish - 9:00pm - More socialization

Masculinitymas·cu·lin·i·ty, maskyəˈlinədē/


possession of the qualities traditionally associated with men.

noun: masculinity; plural noun: masculinities
"handsome, muscled, and driven, he's a prime example of masculinity"

synonyms: virility, manliness, maleness, machismo, vigor, strength, muscularity, ruggedness, robustness; informal testosterone
"he's the picture of masculinity"


Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!




San Diego, CA (North Park)
Wednesday, May 6 (first Wednesday of each month), 9PM: Puppy Night @ San Diego Eagle, at 3040 North Park Way.




San Diego, CA (North Park)
Thursday, May 7 (first and third Thursday of each month), 10pm: Yellow Hankie Social Night @ the San Diego Eagle, at 3040 N Park Way



San Diego, CA (Hillcrest)
Friday, May 8 (second Friday of each month), 10PM:  





San Diego, CA (North Park)
Saturday, May 9, 4pm - 7pm: Eli Correa's IML Sendoff
Numbers Bar, at 3811 Park Blvd.

From Eli's Facebook event:
Make sure to mark your calendar's for a night of fun and fellowship as we send off Mr. San Diego Leather 2013/2014 Eli Correa to International Mr. Leather 37 in Chicago. He will be competing with men from around the world and know he will make San Diego proud. 

Why: To show our support and raise some funds for anything he may still need or come up during IML. 

Make sure to bring some extra cash for our table of Fetish Finds. We will have harnesses, leather, and more for low prices. 

We look forward to seeing everyone out and stay tuned for more details to come. With special Guest DJ Ryan Racino bringing the energy, Emcee Amanda Reckinwith., and bootblack Shilo Vix. Honored to have a such diverse and loving community.

Huge thanks to the sponsors including San Diego Eagle, The Leather Foundation, Big Black Boots, and Mr-S-Leather. Thanks for making this become a reality.




San Diego, CA (Mission Valley)
Wednesday, May 13, 7PM: at The Stomping Ground San Diego.
Potluck Social!

Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!




San Diego, CA (North Park)
Thursday, May 14 (second Thursday of each month), 9PM; Red Hankie Social Night @ the Eagle, @ 3040 N Park Way.






San Diego, CA (East County)
Friday through Sunday, May 15-17: Mankind Project: New Warrior Training Adventure GBTQ GatewayThe next step in the growth and transformational change of our Tribe!




Long Beach, CA
Saturday and Sunday, May 16-17: Long Beach Pride, with the parade on Sunday, May 17.




San Diego, CA (Mission Valley)
Wednesday, May 20, 7PM: at The Stomping Ground San Diego.
Instruction Topic: Flogging

Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!




Chicago, IL
Friday through Monday, May 22-25: International Mr. Leather 2015 Contest in Chicago





San Diego, CA (Mission Valley)
Wednesday, May 27, 7PM: at The Stomping Ground San Diego.
Practical Topic: Flogging.
Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!


FAMILY REUNION WEEKEND

Noon: FLOG SWARM and Dinner9PM: GEAR CONTEST10PM: MOVIE NIGHT

Save The Date!     Saturday, 30 May 2015


Noon: Flog Swarm at Sunset Temple
Post Flog Swarm: Dinner at Claire de Lune
3911 Kansas St, San Diego, CA 92104

More details to come. In the meantime, if you wish to attend please send email to SignMeUpForEvent [at] GMail.com




San Diego, CA (North Park)
Saturday, 30 May, 10PM at The Observatory - North Park
2891 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92104
Short film: Midnight
Short film: Hole
Feature film: Seed Money: The Chuck Holmes Story (West Coast Premiere!)

Fetish Men San Diego and FilmOut San Diego Co-Present 

"SEED MONEY: THE CHUCK HOLMES STORY” and two short films, “Midnight” by Ted Wilkinson and “Hole” by Tony Radevski

SEED MONEY: THE CHUCK HOLMES STORY – West Coast Premiere!! 2015, Director: Michael Stabile, USA, 70 min:


Life of Chuck Holmes, the San Francisco Falcon Studio’s pornographer turned philanthropist. Holmes helped shape and create gay identity in the years after Stonewall, and became a founder of gay advocacy groups like the Human Rights Campaign and the LGBT Victory Fund, only to find later in life that while his money was welcome in philanthropic circles, he wasn't. Appearances by John Waters, Jeff Stryker, Chi Chi La Rue, Holly Woodlawn, Zak Spears and John Rutherford. 

**This film contains scenes of sexual situations**

2 and a half minute promo video of the movie

https://vimeo.com/33672245
Chuck Holmes founded a gay porn empire, then tried to use his fortune to help propel the gay rights movement forward -- only to find that while his money was welcome, he sometimes wasn't. SEED MONEY is a feature-length documentary about one of gay cultures most unlikely heroes.

Director Mike Stabile (Seed Money), director Ted Wilkinson (Midnight) and actor Brent Corrigan - Sean Paul Lockhart (Midnight), as well as additional cast members, will be in attendance for the Q&A after the movies. 


Three films for only $10.00 - you can't beat that!






Los Angeles, CA
Friday through Sunday, June 12-14: Los Angeles Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, June 14.




Palm Springs, CA
Friday through Sunday, June 12-14: FistFest West




Phoenix, AZ
Friday through Sunday, June 12-14 - All Male Butchmanns Experience, Phoenix, AZ




South El Monte, CA (East of Los Angeles near the 60 and 605 interchange)
Google Maps view of South El Monte, CA  Zoom out about three times to see it in relation to Los Angeles, CA

(SCLG) is an annual outdoor picnic gathering that is open to ALL leather, bdsm, fetish, kink, motorcycle and bear groups/individuals of all genders and orientations. The aim of the event is to provide an opportunity for these various folk to interact in a relaxed atmosphere, have fun and raise awareness about the size and diversity of the leather/bdsm groups within Southern California.




San Francisco, CA
June 27-28: San Francisco Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, June 28.




Palm Springs, CA
July 17-19: Wet ’n Hot Weekend in Palm Springs. Over 500 sexy, attitude-free guys will descend upon an underground location in Palm Springs for a weekend filled with uninhibited pig play, brotherhood and fun. It’s the Biggest Piss Party on the Planet, and it’s unlike anything else that you’ve ever experienced!





San Diego, CA (Hillcrest and Balboa Park)
July 17-19: San Diego Pride, with the parade on SATURDAY, July 18, and the Leather Realm on Saturday and Sunday.

This is a few of the 100 or so folks in the 
2014 Pride Parade Leather Contingent!



San Francisco, CA
Sunday, July 26, 11am to 6PM: Up Your Alley Street Fair in San Francisco





Guerneville, CA (75 miles north west of San Francisco, CA)
Late July: Lazy Bear Weekend in Guerneville, California
Google Maps view of Guerneville, CA  Zoom out about five times to see where it is in relation to San Francisco, CA




Las Vegas, NV
September 18-19: Las Vegas Pride, with the parade at NIGHT, from 7-10PM, on SATURDAY, Sep. 19.




Thursday, September 3, 2015Master/slave Conference - MsC 2015

MsC 2015 - Building Community!

MsC 2015 is produced by MTTA, Inc., a 501-c-3 all-volunteer non-profit educational organization.

The highly educational and unique event will take place over Labor Day Weekend outside Washington, DC

Education, Networking and History!

MsC 2015 will include a diversity of educational opportunities with Workshops, Intensives, Panels, Roundtables and Service Stations on Master/slave relationships

Keynote Speaker: Patrick Mulcahey from San Francisco

Our Traditions Live! Program: A Tribute to Men and Women of Color in the Master/slave. Leather and BDSM Communities. Speaker: Sir Guy from New York City

Labor Day Weekend - Sept, 3 - 7, 2015

Crowne Plaza Rockville / Washington DC
Two exclusive hotels with 257 rooms!

Online Registration & Hotel Room Booking will open in March 2015

Advance Registration: $125 (to May 31)
Early Registration: $150 (to July 31)
Standard Registration: $175 (to August 30)
Door Registration: $195




Sunday, September 27: Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco. 
Last Sunday in September, every year.




Mid-October: Bearquake in San Diego. BearQuake grew out of an idea of forming an alliance between the various clubs in Southern California and elsewhere. A "Bear Weekend" was planned where we could all get together and get to know each other. A contest was also held for Mr. So Cal Bear and Cub. The success of that first event opened the door to future gatherings which has become "BearQuake".




Nov. 6-8: Palm Springs Gay Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, Nov. 8




November 13-15: Desert Leather Pride in Palm Springs