Wednesday, October 28, 2015

FMSD - Men's Discussions: "Surrender", Wed. 4 Nov. 2015







San Diego, CA (Mission Valley)
Wednesday, November 4, 7PM: FMSD Men's Discussion at The Stomping Ground San Diego.


Discussion Topic: "Surrender"
Guest Speaker / Presenter: Jerry

General Info: Topic Discussion -- Surrender – to give control to someone else, to allow something or someone control you.

Who surrenders? Why surrender? Does a bottom really surrender? Does the top surrender? Where is the power? How do we explore this dynamic of control and surrender? Submission vs. Surrender

1233 Camino Del Rio South, Suite #275, San Diego, CA 92108, United States
South of Interstate 8 from Mission Valley Shopping Center and in-between the Wendy's and Sheraton Hotel is the Chuze Fitness building. Park in the back and take the elevated walkway onto the second floor of the building. Suite 275 is on the right just a bit more than halfway towards the front of the building.

Check out the Fetish Men San Diego website to learn about Who We Are, our Purpose, and what we're up to.


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Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Slowing Down During Holiday Season


Note from Tony:

Every year at this time, this announcement gets posted - It's very difficult for any affinity-group to maintain a regular schedule during the holiday season…

The calendar fills up with competing, specific holidays, office parties, family visits, distractions, and a zillion competing events, scattering everybody's energy.

So, every year, we choose to take it easy, slow down, and start hatching plans for the new year. There are ideas that are hatching to start off the New Year with a major, exciting BANG, to get everybody's blood boiling after spending too much time with family, and scarfing down food and drink that isn't doing us much good.

Watch this space for further developments, and have a GREAT holiday season!



From Scott Smith:

As we move into the end of the calendar year other social and familial commitments become more prominent. Please note the following Wednesdays FMSD will not have a discussion and, and these are the topics that we will have for the balance of 2015:

28 Oct: DARK - no meeting (Wednesday of this week)
4 Nov: Jerry - Topic: "Surrender"
11 Nov: Rod - "On-Line Tips & Techniques"
18 Nov: DARK - no meeting
25 Nov: Potluck Social - Familyless Fetish Feast ... or ... Gear Invasion @external location (DARK at The Stomping Ground)
2 Dec: Jerry - Topic: TBD
9 Dec: DARK - no meeting
16 Dec: DARK - no meeting
23 Dec: DARK - no meeting
30 Dec: DARK - no meeting

Monday, October 19, 2015

FMSD Discussion Topic - 21 Oct '15: Sensory Deprivation




San Diego, CA (Mission Valley)
Wednesday, October 21, 7PM: FMSD Men's Discussion at The Stomping Ground San Diego.
Discussion Topic: "Sensory Deprivation"

What is FMSD talking about Wed, 21 October 2015?
Discussion / Instruction Topic: Sensory Deprivation
Guest Speaker / Presenter: Frank

General Info: Frank guides us through how to integrate Sensory Deprivation into our intimate and erotic play.

1233 Camino Del Rio South, Suite #275, San Diego, CA 92108, United States

South of Interstate 8 from Mission Valley Shopping Center and in-between the Wendy's and Sheraton Hotel is the Chuze Fitness building. Park in the back and take the elevated walkway onto the second floor of the building. Suite 275 is on the right just a bit more than halfway towards the front of the building.


This would be an excellent page to bookmark, as it will continue to remain accurate at any point in the future.

You can also subscribe to the FMSD calendar, so that these events show up on the calendar of your your portable device or computer, and will update within seconds if changes are made on this end.





Nov. 6-8: Palm Springs Gay Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, Nov. 8




November 13-15: Desert Leather Pride in Palm Springs




November 21: Mr. So Cal Bear 2015 - 2016 in San Diego


Location and time: TBD.

Saturday, October 10, 2015

Upcoming Master Class: FLOGGING, ALL LEVELS

When: Thursday, October 22nd, 7PM


Cost: $10 for non-members of The Stomping Ground




FLOGGING, ALL LEVELS: Papa Tony will be guiding eager Flogging Tops with their individual technique (at ANY level of expertise, including 100% newbies), their ability to “read” the bottom, and establish trust with beginners. Flogging bottoms are quite welcome for obvious reasons, and will be encouraged to give clear feedback.  The overall goal is happier, satisfied bottoms, by training Tops to be excellent in all cases.

Watching this one-hour video beforehand (and a flogger, for the Tops!) are PREREQUISITES for the class, so that we can get to the good stuff right away.

Folks who don’t watch the video first, might get left behind, because we have a lot to cover!



About the Master Classes, held on the Second and Fourth Thursdays of each month:

The ongoing “semester” of Master Classes focus primarily upon “soft skills” - Life-wisdom, coping-mechanisms, interpersonal skills and philosophical foundations for becoming the wise, respected and successful Dom that you were always meant to be.  You can find “hard skills” (specific, step-by-step techniques for kink) - anywhere online, and in our beautiful town of San Diego. 

It’s a lot harder to find ways to SUCCEED at using those techniques - that sort of information doesn’t show up on the Internet, and what if you are looking for a SPECIFIC answer to what is not working well in your own case?  There simply aren’t enough patient, caring and accessible mentors around, and having an old-timer who genuinely cares about your success can make all of the difference. Papa Tony created these classes as a way to spread the mentoring around, within a wider audience - Female and male, all kinds. Our diversity is our strength.

As we gay leathermen have been saying for a long, long time, “Even Daddies Need Daddies”.  That goes for Mommies, too. We don’t have this sort of deep knowledge directly-wired into our chromosomes, and we need to watch and learn and TRY things, with affectionate and supportive feedback. We can get really tired of negative feedback from others as a primary way of learning.  Let’s all do the positive-reinforcement thing instead!




Papa Tony has actively been part of the kink/leather/fetish community since 1977, and a community leader since 1981. He has recently retired as an active leader, describes himself as a Tribal Elder, and now concentrates upon mentoring others in their quest to reach their next level, whatever that may be. Papa Tony has been mentoring Tops, Doms and Sirs for a long, long time.

The goal is always to pass on what he learned in the last 38+ years, as a repayment for the superb mentoring that he received, before AIDS swept his mentors away. Examples of his work may be found all over the Internet - All are welcome!