Alert: Tonight's Events

We went from NO events last Wednesday (due to Thanksgiving weekend starting early), to the most-exciting ones ever held on a Wednesday night in San Diego's gay fetishmen community. It's all happening tonight:

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6PM: PLANNING MEETING

I will be bringing everybody up to date on what is tentatively being called "Our Loving Culture" weekend, February 1-3, 2013.  We're doing a whole weekend of cultural events that will attract a lot of out-of-towners. We will be celebrating local artists, artisans, wise elders, vibrant youth, celebrate our history and our future, and have a lot of fun that won't COST us to death. It's 100% about getting back to our basics and being brothers to the community all over Southern California.

I'm being coy about details because we still need to get all of our ducks in a row. If the current plans hold steady, this is going to be REALLY BIG, and really meaningful. Anybody who has ever been to Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend has come home swearing that it is the most powerful expression of true brotherhood they've ever seen, and I think San Diego can easily pull off something just as authentic, but with a different itinerary.

Tonight's Planning Meeting is where we will all contribute ideas (there are already many of them, from at least thirty people), make the first solid plans, and build teamwork so that everybody succeeds and gains glory. Our Loving Culture Weekend won't be a lot of work, just shared intentions and good will. If all goes well, it's meant to be ultra-inexpensive, too.

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7PM: INNOVATIVE NEW WAY TO SHOW BROTHERHOOD

I'm intentionally going to be frustratingly vague, but you will DEFINITELY want to be present, in time for this portion of the evening's pleasantries. We will be showing a lot of love for one of our brothers in a way that no affinity-group has ever done, ever before (as far as I am aware).  You're going to be unhappy if you miss it.  

There will be pictures and a story from me afterward in the newsletter, but I invite you to come and be a part of history in the making. The more, the merrier.

This one is going to go viral, worldwide.

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7:15PM-ONWARD: PADDLING LESSONS, ALL LEVELS

On the fourth Wednesday of each month, we go from TALKING about stuff, to DOING stuff with our hands-on workshops. Last month, we had so many men show up for FLOGGING, ALL LEVELS, the usual oval arrangement of chairs became a rectangle because we filled up the entire perimeter of the meeting space. Nobody wanted to leave, and I'm pretty certain that there were still men there at P&T's 11PM closing time. 

This picture shows how happy and close everyone was. Nobody was left out. After the instruction portion, we cleared the chairs and had the Tops on one side, the bottoms on the other, and the Lookyloos over yonder. By the end of the evening, all of the Lookyloos had given in to temptation, and had gotten happily involved.

Tonight's workshop should be just as unified, fun and satisfying.  If paddling is not your scene, that's no big deal. Nobody will be pressured in any way. Teddy is a phenomenal new instructor, and your host for the evening will be our own Mr. San Diego Leather 2012 Aaron.

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The entire evening is set to be a powerful affirmation of our Tribe's unity and deep levels of mutual trust and affection. You have every right to be a part of it!

Upcoming Events

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UPCOMING EVENTS

As always, for a full listing of all known upcoming events, click here, and I've recently written an article on how to get the best use out of the FMSD Events Calendar.  I'm open to suggestions on how to make it better!

This being a holiday week, there will be relatively fewer events to announce.  No Wednesday events tonight.

I plan to be at the Dress It Up/Strip It Down Gear Night at the Eagle this Friday, and the Uniform Night at the Eagle this Saturday currently shows up as a repeat of the Dress It Up scene. Same crowd, same gear. Very nice for a leather/fetish bar on a weekend.

Things get more Large Social Event-Oriented in early December:

- On Sunday, December 2 at 5PM, the big, annual, splashy Meatball Turkey Day Dinner 3 will be at the Center. This one really jams the crowd into the Center's big auditorium. Personally, I love dressing up for this big benefit, because I get to see a lot of fine, admirable folks that I haven't seen in years. It's the place to see and be seen!

- On Friday, December 7th at 7PM, it's the big annual Inter-Club Holiday Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. I'm asking ALL of my brothers in FMSD to show up for this event. It's a hoot, and it's like a three-ring circus - Lots of fun activities that mix the members of the various local kinkster clubs together, in a great big Family Reunion event. Peaceful, serene, affectionate and fun!

- Two days afterward, on Sunday, December 9th at 5PM at Numbers, there is the Leather and Lace Benefit for Special Delivery at Numbers.

Review of Women's Gear Social

On Sunday, November 18, the women of the local kink community invited their brothers from FMSD to show support for a geared-up social event at Numbers.

Here is what I wrote afterward to the guys who attended:

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I think yesterday's event was one of the VERY happiest times for me since I started FMSD, and it was all because of you.

I have been club-presidenting since 1981, and I am keenly aware that any group (no matter how large) is only as good as its inner, Golden Core of true brothers.  I saw you beautiful men at your absolute best, and I couldn't have been prouder of every one of you.

You were ALL being ambassadors for the men of the Tribe… Standing tall, being charming and fun, and willing to go along with whatever showed up (being whipped by women?  Interesting).  You participated in 100% appropriate and majestic ways, willing to be flexible from moment to moment.

In the past, the men and women of the community have had issues. The women told me over and over again that they had never, ever seen such a loving turnout of men for a women's event.

The bottom line is that we have proven that FMSD can attract and retain the very best of our community. If I had a bunch of trophies, I'd be handing them around right now.  I'm finding it hard to fully explain WHY this means so much in the long run, but you have cemented the image of FetishMenSanDiego as a Tribe that can bring out the best men out when it really matters.  I have been doing a lot of deep observation of the patterns of interpersonal dynamics in crowds and between individuals, for my whole adult life, and I would score all of you at 100%.

I doubt that we will need to do this again, in exactly this same way. We were honoring Wish's requests for her first event of its kind, and we all did so, and very kindly.  You sweet men were so typically amiable, open and available for new possibilities… This is why I love you!

I mean, really - LOOK at the joy and brotherhood in this picture.  It clangs like a bell!

Joyce Beers Community Center

Once and for all, I want to make it easy for somebody to find the Joyce Beers Community Center.  I have two entirely wrong addresses for the place, and it's all too confusing.  So, here is my attempt to make it easy to find:

How to Get the Most Out of the FMSD Calendar of Events

We are averaging at least twenty events per month that would be of interest to gay fetishmen in the San Diego area. In the old days, we had no way of knowing what was coming up, because we don't hang out in the same venues, like we did in the days before the Internet. We also no longer read the gay newspapers.

So, I created the FMSD email list, calendar and so forth. That way, our brothers can feel connected with the larger community. It's working great!

MY NEWSLETTER

Every week, I send out a compilation of interesting news, links, photos and updates.  It has a lot of entertainment value. I get zero payment for any of this - It is not a sales tool. You can sign up for the emailed newsletter here. You can also follow it on Facebook, or on Twitter. I use the dated items of the newsletter to update the calendar:

MONTH AT A GLANCE

You can look at the month-by-month calendar of upcoming events by clicking here.  That's a good link to bookmark in your web-browser.

LIST OF EVENTS

If you go to that same calendar, and then click "Agenda" on the upper right, you will see a nice, concise list of upcoming events, starting from today's date.

ADDING A SINGLE EVENT TO YOUR COMPUTER'S CALENDAR

If you click on the name of any event on the calendar, you will see a "copy to my calendar" link. Many people seem to like this feature.

GETTING DEEPER INFORMATION

Every event has a LOT more detailed information hidden inside, with pictures and links.  Just click any event, and then "more details", and then click on the link that starts with "http://goo.gl/".

SUBSCRIBING TO THE CALENDAR ON A MAC

Just click here to add the entire FMSD calendar of events to your iCal program's list of calendars.

- Click the link, which downloads a file.

- Open the file. This brings you into the iCal program:

- Choose New Calendar and then "OK".

SUBSCRIBING TO THE CALENDAR ON A PC

Just click here to add the RSS feed to your PC. Let me know how that works - I am a Mac guy.

Upcoming Events, Version 2.0

THIS NEWSLETTER HAS RADICALLY CHANGED!

Thanks to the excellent advice of the wise and wonderful Race Bannon in San Francisco, I'm doing a complete re-thinking of how the FMSD team will be putting out news about upcoming events so that:

- it doesn't take so much darned energy and time.

- There will be a month-at-a-glance calendar, and

- It will work properly and update automatically on any device.

Things will be very different from this point onward, but my intention is to make this process a lot easier, simpler and quicker for all concerned.  I'd like to spread the work around a bit more, so that it's not all on my shoulders.  I have many, many dear friends that want to help, and soon, they will be able to!

Click here to check out the beta version FMSD Events calendar-at-a-glance. Please help me test it out, and give your feedback. I'd like to streamline it thoroughly.

The most important thing for me is to find out if you are able to CLICK LINKS within the calendar that bring you directly to a web-page that gives full details with pictures.  

- If not, please tell me what platform you are viewing it on. 

- If yes, send me a screen-shot of the link as you see it before clicking on it.

From now on, I'm only sending out a weekly newsletter that merely announces anything new or interesting, and you will only have to click on the permanent calendar link to see EVERYTHING.

IN BRIEF:

Tonight's Planning Meeting  (6PM), Men's Discussions (7PM), and Puppy Night (9PM) are all still happening, just as planned.

This weekend is going to be NUTS at the Eagle - I'm predicting a line outside on both Friday and Saturday night. It's their Tenth Anniversary Weekend, and it's all about gear, with a contest and prizes.

Friday is the Beat and Greet.

Saturday is the LL Bear Dance Party.

Sunday is the Women's Gear Social. I would love to see LOTS of my kinky brothers in gear, as our sisters have requested.

CORRECTION: 

I got the date wrong in last week's newsletter for the BearNight Dance. It's December 1st, not the 8th.

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RECENTLY-ADDED EVENTS:

Inter-Club Holiday Party, Friday, December 7,  7:00 pm  to 9:30 pm

Leather And Lace Benefit, Sunday, December 9, beginning at 5PM at Numbers, 3811 Park Blvd

Pre-Harness Party Dinner: Friday, Dec. 14, 5:30PM on the patio at DiMille's Italian Restaurant

LET THEM EAT CAKE: Aaron’s Birthday Celebration, Saturday, January 19, 2013 from 4-7PM

Titleholder Boot Camp, Sunday, January 20, 2012 from 11AM – 6PM

San Diego Eagle's 10th Year Anniversary Weekend

From Chip:

This weekend is the San Diego Eagle's 10th Year Anniversary Weekend.

This Friday, Nov. 16th: Customer Appreciation. Hors d'oeuvres 8pm-10pm, with Sweet Revenge Boys at 10pm passing out shots and Stud Night with FF Porn Star and Club Inferno Mason Garet hits the stage at 10:30pm w\Give-A-Ways (host Preston Steel)

Saturday the 17th, Best dressed FETISH / Leatherman Contest with 1st, 2nd and 3rd place prizes. Jager Boys 10p till 12am. Hosted by our own Mr. SanDiego Eagle Eli Correa

Sunday the 18th 2-5 pm, come out and enjoy a Free BBQ hosted by all your bartenders, bring a dish to show off your skills. Vote for the best dish and win a $50.00 bar tab.