Thursday, September 17, 2015

"Training An Ass" Class, this Wednesday

From Papa Tony:


I will be teaching a Master Class on the topic of Training An Ass, starting at 7PM SHARP on Wednesday, September 23. I suggest that you set a goal of getting there early.

Location:

Stephina Photography Studio
1233 Camino Del Rio S Ste 275
San Diego CA 92108-3578

Here is the study material, strongly recommended beforehand, since I will be assuming that you've already read it:

For Tops: Preparation and Seduction, Before Fucking A Newbie's Ass

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Photos from "Erotic Shaving" demo

Photos by our good brother Scott Smith, whose talents are quite obvious to all!

Pre-Event Publicity:

What: Instruction & Demo: Erotic Straight Razor Shaving

When: Wednesday, 26 Aug 2015, 7pm till 9pm

Where: TheStompingGroundSanDiego {dot} org, Mission Valley

Presenters: Tina Maravilla, a.k.a. Sarge, International Ms Leather 2015 and Cobi Maravilla are the co-presenters for this topic.

If you are looking for a cleaner shave, looking for a new way to provide service to your Sir, or looking for a new way to mindfuck your bottom during a scene, Erotic Shaving may be just the thing you're looking for.

It’s erotic. It’s dangerous. It’s powerful. Imagine the sharp and shiny blade moving across your neck or genitals…

Erotic Shaving can be done easily and almost anywhere on the body. Come to class and see a live demo.

Better yet, come to class and BE the live demo. If you'd like to volunteer to be a demo bottom please contact me via private message, text or email prior to Wednesday so we can coordinate appropriately.





Which one is the Badger Brush?


Demo from the Dom side











Then, from the submissive's viewpoint, with DrumMaster Jason as the Dom:









Monday, August 31, 2015

Men's Discussion: "You Assume Too Much", Wednesday, September 2

What's FMSD doing this Wednesday?

We are honored to have guest speakers who are well-loved and deeply respected.  
This will be a powerful and deep presentation.


When: Wednesday, 2 September 2015, 7pm till 9pm
Where: TheStompingGroundSanDiego.org, Mission Valley


"You Assume Too Much"

or, 

Redefining authority exchange through the use 
of typically restrictive labels, titles and 
other preconceived notions.

Have you ever met a potential partner, discussed your individual power orientations, negotiated, then crashed and burned a scene, or perhaps an entire relationship? Have you been told you're a bottom, Dom, switch, etc yet never felt strongly connected to any particular label? Have you ever wanted to explore other types or play or sensations and felt unable to ask for what you wanted because you felt limited by or attached to a title you have or one you desire to have?

All too often we unconsciously group ourselves and others on ‘one side of the slash’ (B/D, S/M, D/S etc.) or the other and create preconceived notions about what what we can or can't, should or shouldn't do based on our position, title, or orientation.

In this class we will use the medium of bootblacking to demonstrate and discuss how we can take typically limiting and confining labels and turn them into springboards for reclaiming our individual power, power which we can then share honestly and authentically with our partners.



BIO:

Jason is a self identified Master with strong Daddy tendencies, living in San Diego, CA and is steeped in the primal and ‘woo’ energies of the Southwest. He possesses formal certifications in Turkish percussion and drum healing. As a perpetual student, one will often find Him at workshops and conferences regionally and beyond. He openly shares knowledge and skills with anyone willing to get close enough. Multi volunteer award winner, current secretary of Club X SD and director of MAsT Metro SD, He has a penchant for rough body play, humiliation, sharps and watersports.

shilo is a devoted, slave-leaning Leather girl, living in San Diego, CA, yet conscious of her strong central Florida roots. Skilled at giving great chair, her amazing R.A.C.K. is a common sight in many bootblack lounges and serves as a lovely distraction to her SD Bootblack 2015 1st runner up medallion. When not at the stands, you can find her driving buses or offering her perky energy to a myriad of organizations or events such as SDGoL, Club X SD, and Central Florida KCO. Besides boots, she loves pet play, objectification and energy exchange.

A simple need for leather care services led the Tampa community to pair them together two years ago, and since then they have formed a spirited duo, answering calls for their skills, experience and mutual love of service. They have contributed to the success of endeavors such as Butchmann’s Experience on the Road, Flog Swarm, Leather HEAT and other events, having as much fun as possible along the way. They employ the regular use of taboo, ritual and other types of edge play to enhance their scenes and as vehicles for self exploration. Together they enjoy building forts and fucking in them and one rarely knows where they will turn up next.

Sunday, August 16, 2015

Audio Archives

Please use your social circle to pass this along to your friends. You know how the "It Gets Better" videos are helping our youth, who can't be reached by normal means? This is just as beneficial to gay FetishMen in isolated areas.  How do I know?  They tell me, often. Let's reach as many lonely and remotely-located brothers as possible, together. Facebook is a good way to get the news out, too.


Newer postings are at the TOP.




For a wider variety of topics that are mentoring-oriented, please feel free to stop by Papa Tony's Audio and Video Archives.


AUDIO OF SAN DIEGO MEN'S DISCUSSIONS ONLINE

Unlike other articles elsewhere that merely IDENTIFY problems and then stop at the Complaint Stage, this material is all about concrete SOLUTIONS that have been tested thoroughly, work extremely well, and benefit as many people as possible.


These recordings are a real mixed bag, designed for men who crave CLOSENESS as a Tribe of brothers, Dads, Sirs, sons, boys, loving uncles and Grandpas.  If you are inclined to be sweet, authentic, fully-self-expressed and KIND (while also kinky-kinky), then you have seriously found the right place for information that will support guys like you.

The pictures tell the story.


 We've started recording just about EVERYTHING that involves shared insights in our group. Don't expect conciseness in any of the following materials - It's almost all stream-of-consciousness stuff, but MEATY. It's rich with coaching, coping-mechanisms, tips for success and other wisdom-nuggets.

The intent is to not only welcome beginners into the world of kinky gay-male play, but also to teach LIFE-SKILLS as men of the Tribe.  These are VERY wide-ranging sessions.


Please pass this along to your friends, particularly the ones who live in isolated areas. When I was at Dore Alley 2013, I had a bunch of individuals from Montana, Iowa, Tampa Bay and Denver come up to thank me for posting these sessions. My Google Analytics tell me that these sessions are being listened to in Canada, Germany, the UK, Latvia, France, Belgium, Spain, Greece, Poland, all over South America and the Middle East.

Clearly, there is an audience for such material - Please help us spread the good word!


The longer-term goal is to offer all recordings as podcasts, so that folks can start free subscriptions, and have them delivered automatically as new ones arrive.



August 12, 1015
The Penis: Friend Or Foe?, moderated by Rod.


Wednesday, August 5, 2015



Tuesday, July 28, 2015





Wednesday, February 11




Monday, February 2, 2015
The Butchmanns Experience Came to San Diego!

Monday, January 12, 2015
IMPORTANT DISCUSSION TOPIC: "Protecting yourself on the Internet"




Wednesday, December 14, 2014
Left of the Slash - a Support Group for Dominants in San Diego.

Third Monday of each month), 6:30PM:  "Left of the Slash" dinner. Tops, Doms, Sirs and Masters at ANY experience-level are invited. Send an RSVP to SignMeUpForEvent @gmail.com for location.  This is a superb opportunity to build friends, find answers to questions, and gain some mentoring that you can't find anywhere else.




Friday, November 7, 2014
Photos and Audio from Gear Invasion and Awards Dinner



Friday, September 12, 2014
Audio and Pictures from "TransMen Share Their Stories" Discussion



Thursday, August 21, 2014



Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Coming Out, Part 1” (hosted by Stewart)



Wednesday, October 8
Role Play and Verbal”, hosted by Daddy Ron and Gang, followed by "Mankind Project", 



Wednesday, September 17
"Jealousy" discussion, hosted by Brian




Audio and Pictures from "TransMen Share Their Stories" Discussion, Wednesday, September 10.

"TransMen Share Their Stories", hosted by Mr. San Diego Eagle 2014 Paulo Batista.  This is the updated version of FMSD’s most popular Discussion Meeting topic, ever.  Years ago, over a dozen of our Transsexual brothers came to share their experiences, and the men attending that night demanded that we do this again!  Learn, grow, and enjoy the authenticity - It’s a great way to learn from our brothers, and build friendships.



September 3, 2014.
Turn Ons, Turn Offs: Men's Discussion



Wednesday, June 18, 2014
Spirituality and SM

Hosted by JP, who clearly picked an excellent topic, resulting in a rousing and passionate discussion.


Wednesday, June 11, 2014 

Moderated by Mike. How we treat each other when we don't know each other, and don't see the spirit within.


Wednesday, June 4, 2014: Brainstorming FMSD's Future

Right after the Flog Swarm (and Papa Tony's retirement as a community leader), the men of FMSD gathered to discuss the path going forward.  Moderated by Sir Magnum.  It's a magnificent, dynamic and effective exchange of ideas, and shows how strong our group has become.



Wednesday, May 14, 2014: 
Unfortunately, the second half of the discussion was never recorded, 
even though it gave every indication that recording was occurring.  Rats.
Brett Robertson & Co. will facilitate along with group interaction.

We'll focus on dating and relationships in the postmodern age of the internet. Whether you're single and looking, partnered or otherwise, we invite you to share your successes and challenges on the journey to find love, family and connection.
A Special Note: After the discussion, we'll stroll over for "Karaoke Night" at the Redwing Bar & Grill in North Park. This event is usually held on the 3rd Wed, however we're switching nights to accommodate the Flog Swarm Practice next week.



Wednesday, April 30, 2014:

Pre-event publicity:
Wednesday, April 30, 2014 7PM: FMSD Discussion Group - "SIZE Matters"
Host: Jon LeatherBoy Somerville
This will be a discussion about body size/type discrimination, and any discrimination people have encountered based on cock size. An invite will be extended to members of Bears San Diego to join us as they will have some interesting perspectives on the body size/type portion of the discussion.

There is some simple, OPTIONAL homework for people to complete here:
(The surveys will be randomly distributed and read out loud to the group by our members. No names, tracking, or other identifying information is gathered from this webpage.)



April 16, 2014:



Wednesday, April 10, 2014:





Friday, April 4, 2014:
Photos and Audio From Aaron's Bon Voyage Dinner




Wednesday March 19, 2014:




March 12, 2014:




BODY ELECTRIC Discussion, with photos and audio



Switches (partial audio clip - Some kind of technical glitch truncated the full recording).






June 12, 2013
Top Talk - Roundtable discussion about what being a Top means.



June 19, 2013
Bottom Talk - Roundtable discussion about what being a bottom means.



Non-Verbal Communication.  Attraction, seduction, building trust.



Wednesday, September 11
How Do We Meet? How Do We Date, in 2013 and Beyond?  Here are the links to Adult Friend FinderFetlife and Craigslist.





This is the picture that was being passed around
 at the event mentioned below. It shows Patrick and Papa Tony 
participating in the Fifty Over Fifty Project.

Wednesday, September 4, 7PM: Male Grief, and Our Fathers. Here is a preview video that will explain some of what we covered. We also mentioned Robert Bly.



Wednesday, August 28, 7PM
Forbidden Orgasms: Barebacking, Bug-Chasing, Drugs, Brown Hankies, (Fill In The Blank). Here are the recommended books that I mentioned.  Above this is the picture that I passed around during the meeting, showing one highly endorphinated bottom being swamped by Tops. I also referenced the Dreams of Extremes and He Knows His Place Tumblr feeds. Frankly, due to the extreme honesty of this session, I've been flooded with private, emailed confessions of extreme fantasies that I've never even HEARD of before!  It's a blast.