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Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Stepping Away from FMSD, and Leadership



From Papa Tony:

It has been a very, very good run, and… Now that I'm almost sixty-one years old, I'm ready for my next phase.  Tonight's Men's Discussion is the last event that I will be hosting for the foreseeable future.  Maybe ever.  I'm okay with that.

I've been a community leader for decades, and it's been an incredible journey. Starting in 1981, I've created a lot of events for the kinky gay leathermen's community that became traditions.  I've hosted thousands (no exaggeration) of dance parties, discussions, annual events, educational classes, potluck socials, bar socials, kinky demos, play-parties, cruising events, and on and on.   I've also gladly helped with many other people's events and fundraisers.

I've invented new forms of kinky play, and I have continued to be a force for creativity and flexibility, in a community that has needed a lighter heart, after going through the flames of AIDS.

I've judged, tallymastered and emcee'd many, many titleholder contests, and other fundraising events. I've photographed many hundreds of public events and posted them online, because we lost so much of our history when so many of us died.

I've written thousands of articles, and made videos and audios.  I've created many websites, social columns, blogs and email lists.  I've mentored hundreds of new, rising stars, and I'm proud to have been the first to see their magnificence before anyone else ever did.  Best of all, I have connected many couples to each other, because I believe in love.

I know how rare that I am - I'm a gay leatherman of my age and experience, who didn't die, and who still stepped out to try to heal a Tribe that lost so much. The wound in our hearts is going to still be around, long after I'm gone, but at least the newer generations are stepping up, and the healing is slowly taking place.

I'm proud of my record.  It hasn't been perfect, but nobody can say that I didn't put my whole heart and soul behind everything that I did.  I like to think that I have been a force for kindness and cooperation… for Strength, versus Force.  I can go into a different kind of future, knowing that  I never held back from taking chances, and lived every day as if it were my last.

So, now what?  My husband Dennis and I are heading off to Europe for the Grand Tour, as a way to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary (we got married in 1991).  After that, it's time for me to work on my own life, after taking care of so many others for so long.

If you see me at a public event, be sure to come up for a sweet, sweet hug. I will never hold back from being present, holding space, and treasuring you, heart to heart.

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

Magnum's Bon Voyage Dinner: Tuesday, August 23rd

Tuesday, August 23rd, 7-9PM

DiMille's Italian Restaurant, on the patio
3492 Adams Ave (corner of 35th and Adams in Normal Heights)
San Diego, CA 92116-2434



Magnum's Bon Voyage Dinner

Our good brother Magnum is heading out of town permanently, and he will be missed. He has been a rock-steady man of the Tribe for years, and has added value to every event.

This event is our chance to let him know that he will be missed, and why.  Let's send him off to his new adventures, with plenty of love and hugs!


It's hard to find a photo of FMSD events from the last few years that DOESN'T include our good brother Magnum.  When we needed a solid leader, he stepped right up.  He has created and co-created many of our best, most-prestigious events.


Now, it is time for him to move into his next phase in Albuquerque, New Mexico with family.  Let's take this opportunity to thank him for his many contributions, and to send him off with much love.


He has been a fine role-model, a loving friend to many, and a solid example of what a mature, masculine man can be.


If he has touched your life in some meaningful way, please stop by and let him know.

Men's Discussion: My Future Kinks

Wednesday, August 10, 2016:

Rosemary is head of the Lesbian Health Project, 
and is graciously allowing us to meet in the community space.

The FMSD monthly Men's Discussions are now being held in The Mural Building: our new, quiet discussion-space in Azalea Park.

Second Wednesday of every month, 6-9pm

4133 Poplar Street
San Diego CA 92105-4541



Discussion topic:  MY FUTURE KINKS

We may have reached a certain level of perverse participation in particular fetishes, kinks or other forms of intense pleasures, but there are always certain items that are still on the wish-list.

Let's talk about those things that we may be too shy, inexperienced, or wary about, and would like to explore some day!

Monday, July 25, 2016

Magnum's Bon Voyage Dinner @ DiMille's, Tuesday August 2

6PM to 9PM, Tuesday August 2

This event will repeat on the First TUESDAY of each month.

DiMille's Italian Restaurant, on the patio
3492 Adams Ave (corner of 35th and Adams in Normal Heights)
San Diego CA 92116-2434

FetishMen's Social… Meant to introduce kinky men to each other in a pleasant, quiet environment.  Many men want to get away from their computer and phone displays and meet up with possible new friends, to get news about upcoming events, and to become closer to a community that wants to welcome them.

Maybe that's you!

There is no dress code, except no bare ass or tits, brothers.  You don't have to buy anything, either. Your company is what we crave.  Come on by, be relaxed, and get introduced around at your own comfort-level.



Theme for this month: Magnum's Bon Voyage
Hosted by our Tribal Elder brother Jerry Moreau.


It's hard to find a photo of FMSD events from the last few years that DOESN'T include our good brother Magnum.  When we needed a solid leader, he stepped right up.  He has created and co-created many of our best, most-prestigious events.


Now, it is time for him to move into his next phase in Albuquerque, New Mexico with family.  Let's take this opportunity to thank him for his many contributions, and to send him off with much love.


He has been a fine role-model, a loving friend to many, and a solid example of what a mature, masculine man can be.


If he has touched your life in some meaningful way, please stop by and let him know.

Men's Play Party, Sunday, July 31st


Theme:  PUPPY PLAY,

Sunday July 31. @ 1230-430pm

RSVP to cbgood61 @gmail.com for location.

It's a GREAT location, and plenty of fun.  Take a chance!


Monday, July 4, 2016

Reminder: Dinner Social This Week is TUESDAY Night

Due to a conflict with an increasingly-popular "Live Music Night" at DiMille's Italian Restaurant, we have shifted the regularly-scheduled FMSD Social Dinner's schedule.  This allows us to meet outdoors on the patio again:

This social event repeats on the First TUESDAY of each month, starting in July 2016

Tuesday, July 5, 6PM

DiMille's Italian Restaurant, INSIDE on the left, NOT on the patio!
3492 Adams Ave (corner of 35th and Adams in Normal Heights)
San Diego CA 92116-2434

FetishMen's Social… Meant to introduce kinky men to each other in a pleasant, quiet environment.  Many men want to get away from their computer and phone displays and meet up with possible new friends, to get news about upcoming events, and to become closer to a community that wants to welcome them.



Maybe that's you!

There is no dress code, except no bare ass or tits, brothers.  You don't have to buy anything, either. Your company is what we crave.  Come on by, be relaxed, and get introduced around at your own comfort-level.



Wednesday, June 22, 2016

FMSD Men's Discussions: New Meeting Space

Rosemary is head of the Lesbian Health Project, 
and is graciously allowing us to meet in the community space.

The FMSD monthly Men's Discussions are now being held in The Mural Building: our new, quiet discussion-space in Azalea Park.

Second Wednesday of every month, 7-9pm

4133 Poplar Street
San Diego CA 92105-4541