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Thursday, January 12, 2017

Events For This Weekend: FMSD Planning Meeting

Monday, January 16th, 7-9PM, at Joyce Beers Community Center in Hillcrest, near Ralph's Supermarket:


Fetish Men San Diego is hosting our planning meeting to codify the schedule of events for the next quarter.

Fetish Men San Diego is primarily a group of male-identifying kinksters who are looking for brotherhood, a social space, and interaction. This will be your chance to meet our new leadership team and have your voice and interests be heard.

We welcome your attendance and support in our growth. Come join us in establishing the future of FMSD.

Events For This Weekend: HARNESS

Friday, January 13th, 10PM, at Numbers Bar:

HARNESS Party


Every month, we have a kink gay men's cruising party, designed to entertain, and to mix the generations together.  Expect to see some demos of kinky behaviors, by well-respected practitioners!

Here are some photos from previous HARNESS events, where the men of FMSD have always been made very welcome:








Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Events This Weekend

From Papa Tony:  Now that the holidays are behind us, local events are starting up again.  We have two events (at least) this weekend, with many, many more on the way.  Doriam has been setting up the social calendar for the last few weeks, and he'll have plenty to say about that, soon.



Flogging Friday at the Eagle: Friday, January 6, 9PM:

The best Flogging Tops will be at the Eagle this Friday, and throwing floggers around.  Come be a part of the fun, because you will be in very safe hands!



Cigars & Boots @ Redwing on the patio, Saturday, January 7, 4-7PM:

Doriam, with Pup Rubble

There will be quite a crowd on the patio, for several reasons:

- There will be a fundraiser for the Mr. Drummer Travel Fund, with pies being pushed into the faces of folks who you might know quite well (I'm one of them).  It's all good fun, and…

- This will be the general public's first chance to meet up with Doriam, who is taking over the reins of running FetishMenSanDiego.  He's a great guy, and needs to know who is willing to support him in his many dreams for the group's future.

Come on out!

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Leather Fetish Ball, Early-Bird Special Price

From Papa Tony:

Friday, March 17, 2017:


Every year, there is a superb, huge event that really kicks off the social season for the year.  The Leather Fetish Ball is WORTH ATTENDING! The image above this gives the salient details for the 2017 show.  This time around, it has been timed to coincide with the all-new version of the annual San Diego Leather Pride celebration.

Here is the Facebook page link for the Leather Fetish Ball  and the shopping cart, and I predict that it will sell out, so order early!


Every year, there are superb entertainers, huge crowds, and it just flows so beautifully.  This is a GREAT opportunity to dress to impress!  Here is a tiny, tiny fraction of the images from previous years.  It really is this wonderful!












Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Introducing Doriam Couto

Introducing Doriam Couto:


Ever since my energies and ideas have wound down, I have searched for a man who could bring NEW energy and ideas to the huge FMSD social circle. 


As we enter into 2017, a new face has arrived among us. Doriam Manuel Couto reminds me very much of myself, waaaay back when I first stepped into being a community leader, when I was around the same age as he is now. 


He is passionate, idealistic, full of deeply practical ideas, and with deep and razor-sharp insight.  I trust him completely. 


Like me, he has taken the Meyers-Briggs personality test, with a very similar result.  We are rare. Not everyone "gets" us, but oh, my - we get results. 


So, expect to hear a lot from him in the coming months.  But, FAR more importantly:


As a personal favor to me, please support him, and show up for his events. Love him with an open heart, please. This is crucial. I could name a hundred men who rose up, expended a huge amount of idealistic energy, and who then dropped away when they didn't get the loving support that we owe to our youth. 


Let's all stand shoulder-to-shoulder so that this young powerhouse can stand upon our shoulders. Don't pre-judge him by his age, or his Facebook profile. I know the rest of him. Please trust that I have spent solid time getting to know him, and I absolutely vouch for all of his many virtues. 


He is a refreshing breath of oxygen for the community of kinky men in San Diego.  You haven't seen his lists of rock-solid plans going forward, but I have, and I can't think of any way to improve upon them. 


Doriam is the Real Deal.  Welcome to our good brother!

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

January HARNESS Party, with Special Guest: ExplorerFrank

Note from Papa Tony: Now that we are in the holiday season, things are slow. This happens every year.  After the first of the year, people will be well and truly sick of hanging around with co-workers and family. We will be ready for some FUN! 

If you have some bright ideas about upcoming events that would please kinky men, please send them to SignMeUpForEvent @gmail.com


January HARNESS Party, with Special Guest: Explorer Frank

10PM on Friday, January 13, 2017, 
at NUMBERS Bar, 3811 Park Blvd
San Diego, CA 92103-3609


NUMBERS Bar is not going to be around much longer. That entire block is going to be bulldozed, and replaced with high-rise condos.  So, this is one of your last chances to enjoy the classic vibe of this large, welcoming space with other kinky males.


This month, the men of FMSD are the featured guests.  There will be Tops roaming the place, tying up men with ropes, and flogging any men who are eager to have it done RIGHT by wise, experienced men.  Just march right up and ask for your turn!


Best of all, artistic male bondage will be demonstrated by our honored guest ExplorerFrank, whose excellent work has recently been featured in the Advocate.

Annual Inter-Club Holiday Party, December 12th

Note from Papa Tony: Now that we are in the holiday season, things are slow. This happens every year.  After the first of the year, people will be well and truly sick of hanging around with co-workers and family. We will be ready for some FUN! 

If you have some bright ideas about upcoming events that would please kinky men, please send them to SignMeUpForEvent @gmail.com


Annual Inter-Club Holiday Party, December 12th


Note from Papa Tony: This is a fun, team-building event where the men who are most interested in FMSD's future can gather, meet and bond as brothers, while surrounded by loving allies.

This year Club X is having its annual Inter-club Holiday Party on December 12th from 7pm – 9pm at Joyce Beers Community Center. We look forward to the events where we can all come together as a greater community and we hope to see you there!

This is a potluck so we asking people to bring food/drinks to share. You can coordinate this as a group or as individual attendees.

Some of our contingent at a previous Holiday Party.  Gay males are EXTREMELY well-loved at this event.  Send an RSVP to SignMeUpForEvent @gmail.com if you'd like to wear an FMSD t-shirt to this event.
We will have a table set up for you to display any printed materials about your group and/or your upcoming events. And space available if you would like to bring a banner to display.
We are holding a raffle to benefit some local Leather Charities and are looking for raffle item donations. We will recognize your group both in announcement and print when raffling/displaying the items.