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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

HARNESS: BOUND Party, Friday, August 14

Note from Papa Tony:

The men of FMSD will be showing up in quantity to get the FUN started, with toys, Tops, bottoms and creativity!

If you are normally shy, this is your best opportunity to be rewarded for taking a chance.  If you see a hot man with a flogger or some rope, be bold enough to ask for what you want!


Every 2nd Friday, Cub Club and Numb3rs Nightclub present HARNESS, a NEW monthly Leather/Gear event! With a rotating roster of kick-ass DJs, hot gogo beef, and hosts, we are sure entice the fuck out of you every time. You are always welcome to come out as you are, but LEATHER GEAR is encouraged, the least you can do is THROW ON A HARNESS!

HARNESS is growing month by month into a bonafide LEATHER EVENT! This month is going to be EXPLOSIVE!!! This month's Host is the founder of FETISH MEN SAN DIEGO, PAPA TONY LINDSEY.......PAPA TONY will be bringing his unique style and tastes to the HARNESS: BOUND! event.....So you have been warned. EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED!

This month‘s HARNESS: BOUND! August 14th at NUMB3RS (San Diego) will have some bondage shows throughout the night brought to you by PAPA TONY LINDSEY and his team. Strap your harness/ gear on and come watch (or participate if you dare) in some bondage that will leave you dripping and wanting more…DJ SIMON TAYLOT will be spinning some killer sounds to get you in the mood.

Hot GOGO BEEF Jeremy Stevens and BAMBAM will turn up the dance floor. We will have a HOSTED BAR from 10-11pm compliments of Devotion vodka, so get there early, have a drink and mingle. Drink specials all night, and lots more…VOLGUR will also have some apparel to give out, so stick around!

This event attracts the LEATHER MEN, PORN STARS, MUSCLE DADDIES, TATTOOED GUYS, PUPS, OTTERS, WOLVES, AND CUBS! If you missed the last one, here is your chance to see it again, bigger and better!

Remember HARNESS is every 2nd Friday of the month at NUMB3RS – and there is always something new to see!

COVER $8 DOLLARS.

NUM3ERS
PAPA TONY LINDSEY
FETISH MEN SAN DIEGO
PLEASURES AND TREASURES
CUB CLUB SD
CubClub's THE PACK
VOLGUR
EAGLE SAN DIEGO

Audio and Pictures from "Stories From The Old Days" Discussion

Photos by our excellent and talented brother Scott Smith

Men's Discussion, Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Pre-Event Publicity

Here is the recorded audio (one hour, 42 minutes)

It was a freewheeling, easy-going time for reminiscing and re-connecting.  This is a rare opportunity to hear some of the older brothers share their personal histories.









Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Photos from 2015 Pride Parade Leather Contingent

Photos by Scott Smith, slave larry, Felix Moo, Donnie and Ric Schuller.

Written by Papa Tony
Saturday, July 18, 2015
Many thanks to Wish Linda, 
who organizes our wild and willful crowd 
in the Pride Parade every year!

Every year, the boldest, most-proud folks march in the San Diego Pride Parade's Leather Contingent.

The very beginning of the parade. 100% soaked.

International titleholders on parade!

THIS year, we also found out that we are HARDCORE… Pouring, cold, torrential rain didn't stop us from representing the best of our city's proud kinksters!  This was my 39th San Diego Pride, and the first one where it rained.  It was a shocking surprise, but it was also a celebration that couldn't be stopped.

Poor Scott's camera got very soggy, 
but he stuck to his job like a champion!

Along the route, the majority of onlookers, supporters and tourists went away in discouragement, but the ones that STAYED were just as HARDCORE as we were.  The love that flowed between us was downright forcible, as the remaining crowd cheered themselves hoarse.



slave larry was a hugging machine!
And yes, ALL of us were that happy!
Photo is from this collection.

Thanks to slave larry, we tried something utterly new, and we plan to expand upon it in the years to come.  Two of us carried signs saying "HUG A LEATHER MAN", and as you will see below, it worked superbly.


Here is slave larry's publicity write-up:


Happy Pride from Fetish Men San Diego (FMSD)!  As in years' past, FMSD will be a visible presence at the San Diego Pride Parade and at the Leather Realm festivities.  We will be there to celebrate gay pride with all San Diegans, and to celebrate the joys of the gay fetish.  Pride Weekend is a wonderful opportunity for FMSD to reconnect with old friends in the kink/fetish world, and to sign up new members.  Our theme this year is "Hug a Leatherman".


Why this theme?  

Firstly, FMSD is a brotherhood of wonderful, caring men who are bountiful in openly expressing their affection and support for each other.  There is plenty of hugging and camaraderie at our events.  FMSD hosts weekly events at our clubhouse, The Stomping Ground, for lively discussions and hands-on demonstrations of fetish topics. 


 Our emphasis is on healthy, sane, and exuberant expression of the joys of gay fetish.  We also host play parties and numerous fetish events throughout the year at different venues.   Maybe you have joined the fun with us at The Eagle or Numbers, or Urban Mo's, or elsewhere!


Secondly, FMSD recognizes that coming out as a fetish man can be a scary thing.  In many ways, it is like coming out as a gay person.  Everything is new, and exciting, and frankly, a bit scary.  We want to welcome new members to FMSD, and help them to safely explore their kinky fetish side.  We want to show our new brothers that there is nothing to be afraid of.  We are here to welcome you, and we want to do this with a big hug.


So, please come by our booth at the Leather Realm during Pride.  We will have information about our activities and photos from past events, and will  be delighted to answer any questions you have.  There will also be hunky leather daddies and cute leather boys there for you to meet and hug.

Happy Pride!




Next year, we are going to take the concept much, much further, with MORE signs, as we stroll along the parade route:

"Hug a Leather Man".
"Hug a Leather Woman".
"Hug a Trans Man".
"Hug a Trans Woman".

And, instead of trying to KEEP UP with our contingent, we are going to relax, saunter along, and do it sweetly and honor the value of each person or (or group) that wants to embrace and treasure us right back.


Why? Because it WORKED really, really well. Pride for leather folk has two components: The Leather Realm and the parade. The Leather Realm is an intentional, gentle breakdown of the barriers between us and what we may secretly want. "Come get flogged by a certified, affectionate Top, for the first time in your life! You will be transformed, and will remember this, no matter how old you become!"


Thanks to Larry's superb idea, the PARADE can now break down the barriers as well, and open minds even more. The interface becomes more intimate. It's the next step. Rather than fifteen feet between the marchers and the onlookers, we are reaching across the gap, and CONNECTING, but only with the folks who show that they are available.

When I'd hug one participant that approached me with open arms, I'd yell out "GROUP HUG!", and would get swamped with love all around. I'd say "Happy Pride! It's my 39th San Diego Pride!" and the palm-slapping would start. Then, I'd move to the next place and start over. It was completely sweet and affectionate.

It's the next level of breaking down walls of bias and stereotyping!


Monday, July 20, 2015

This Wednesday: Smorgasbord Play Intro Demos

From Scott Smith:

7-9PM, 22 July 2015:


Smorgasbord Practical Topics: Flogging, Rope, & TBA.

Join your brothers to learn the safety aspects, soft as well as hard skills, to dive deeper into what you saw, heard and felt at the Leather Realm.

Do you have experience with a toy or tool? Please bring 'em and share/show what you know. Have a discussion or skill suggestion you want to learn about or present? Please let us know!

At our Stomping Ground meeting place.  If you identify as male, then please feel free to join us.

Monday, July 13, 2015

This Week: Stories from the Old Days

Men's Discussion, Wednesday, July 15, 2015


From Papa Tony:

In honor of this next weekend's San Diego Pride festivities (centering around the Leather Realm), some of our older brothers will be telling personal stories about what life was like for gay leathermen, back a few decades ago… Back before Internet dating, cruising apps, or even ancient BBS systems.

Back when the infamous Hanky Code was NEEDED to filter through hundreds of men in the bar every weekend.  Back when what we did was a LOT more illegal.

No, not all of us died.  Some of us made it through, and can now tell our stories to a new generation. There will be a LOT of "History on the Hoof" in the room!

Mark Holmes and Steve Heyl will be our treasured, special guests, and everyone else is very welcome to speak up with your own memories - It will probably run long, because the guys are EAGER to be talking!  I will be keeping the conversation flowing.

Starts: 7PM.  Get there early to socialize.

Location:  Stomping Ground, at Hotel Circle in Mission Valley.

Friday, July 10, 2015

Events as of July 10

From Papa Tony:

San Diego Pride is coming up soon, followed by the Up Your Alley street fair in San Francisco.  MANY events will be surrounding SD Pride, particularly FMSD's own "Hug a Leatherman" booth at the Leather Realm inside the Pride Festival grounds.  More info next week.



HARNESS NIGHT

Friday, July 10, 10PM.

From DJ Ryno:

These cool San Diego nights are perfect for putting on the fetish wear of your liking and coming to socialize with friends and some dark, tribal house music! Tonight at Numbers. Yours truly spinning from 10-2am.

Harness Party
Scheduled: Jul 10, 2015, 10:00 PM to Jul 11, 2015, 1:30 AM
Location: Numbers Bar, 3811 Park Blvd San Diego CA 92103-3609
http://goo.gl/Ad5KP


Community Picnic


Saturday, July 11, 11-2pm.
From Buster Adams:
Want a change? Join friendly, open people OUTDOORS in beautiful Balboa Park (at Sixth and Quince) at a FREE community event without fundraising, attitude, or restrictions on how you dress, identify, or live your life! 
**COST** It's free!
**18+ Event (we play Cards Against Humanity, not for kids)
**WHEN** Sat, July 11, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m.-ish
**WHERE** 6th and Quince, San Diego (Southeast corner)
**BRING YOUR OWN*** chair/towel/blanket, sunscreen, water, snacks... This isn't officially potluck style, but feel free to bring food to share--just bring extra forks/plates/napkins. ALL are welcome in this safe and fun place we create together, so bring a friend, too! (Dogs welcome.)
The COME AS YOU ARE COMMUNITY PICNIC meets every three weeks on Saturday, and this June 20 is our SEVENTH gathering! This is a GREAT and DOG FRIENDLY location with plenty of FREE parking, a good mix of sun and shade, a bevy of beautiful parkgoers to ogle, great activities, and restaurants just steps away. Come and go as you like, no agenda except to ENJOY!
SAVE THE DATES! July 11, August 1, August 22, and September 12, 2015 from 11a-2p. (Remember this is every three weeks, not the third Saturday of the month.)



Cigars & Boots


Cigars & Boots - Moved to avoid 4th of July & Redwing Anniversary
Scheduled: Jul 12, 2015, 4:00 PM to 7:00 PM
Location: Redwing Bar & Grill, 4012 30th Street, San Diego, CA 92104, United States
Info: http://goo.gl/cRWmV
Please come out and join us whether you are a seasoned smoker, or curious to learn.

Hosting Venue: Redwing Bar & Grill
Address: 4012 30th St, San Diego, CA 92104, United States
Parking: Street parking



FMSD - Men's Discussions: "Stories of Yore" / "Personal Pride History"

Scheduled: Jul 15, 2015, 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM
Location: 1235 Hotel Cir S, San Diego, CA 92108, United States
Discussion Topic: “Stories of Yore" / "Personal Pride History"

General Info: http://goo.gl/nUWDXw
Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!

Hosting Venue: TheStompingGroundSanDiego.org
1235 Hotel Cir S, San Diego, CA 92108, United States
Google Maps properly shows the location which is up the street behind the TravelLodge San Diego Mission Valley and Kings Inn San Diego
Parking: Street parking on the hill. Arrive early to park closer to the building!


Yellow Hankie Social Night

Scheduled: Jul 16, 2015, 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM
Yellow Hankie Social Night at the Eagle, at 3040 North Park Way.  Hosted by our own Preston Steel.


San Diego Pride 2015

Scheduled: Jul 17, 2015 to Jul 19, 2015
Location: Marston point, Balboa Park 6th Ave. and Laurel St, San Diego,CA, 92101



Wet ’n Hot Weekend in Palm Springs

Scheduled: Jul 17, 2015 to Jul 19, 2015


STUD Night at the Eagle


Friday, July 17 at 10:30pm - 12:00am
San Diego Eagle

Come join us on Friday of San Diego Pride Weekend as we kick it off with STUD Night, your host Preston Steel will be onstage with San Diego's own Scotty Rage.



Pride Fetish Gear Night


Saturday, July 18 at 10:00pm

From Chris Owen:

Come join us on Saturday of San Diego Pride Weekend at the San Diego Eagle - wearing your gear will get you front of the line privileges.


FMSD - Practical Smorgasbord: Flogging, Rope, and TBA


Scheduled: Jul 22, 2015, 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM
Location: 1235 Hotel Cir S, San Diego, CA 92108, USA
Smorgasbord Practical Topics: Flogging, Rope, and TBA

General Info: http://goo.gl/nUWDXw
Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!

Hosting Venue: TheStompingGroundSanDiego.org
1235 Hotel Cir S, San Diego, CA 92108, United States
Google Maps properly shows the location which is up the street behind the TravelLodge San Diego Mission Valley and Kings Inn San Diego
Parking: Street parking on the hill. Arrive early to park closer to the building!


Leather Family Feud


Thursday, July 23 at 7:00pm

#1 on 5th ave
3845 5th Ave, San Diego, California 92103

Invited by Heather Ingram
SURVEY SAYS...!! Tina M. aka Sarge: International Ms. Leather 2015 and Annette S. aka Ms. San Diego Leather 2015 bring you Leather Family Feud!!!

Come play the classic game that pits family against family for fun and entertainment. We've all seen the game on television. You may have seen the survey a few weeks ago, well, here's the game!! Come out and show your leather humor and hang out with us!

This is an event to get social time with friends. The only cost is what you choose to spend to support the venue. There will be a raffle at the event to benefit Sarge's Travel Fund, so you might even win some really kick ass stuff!

Come out and join us!


Underwear Party and Contest

Scheduled: Jul 25, 2015, 10:00 PM to Jul 26, 2015, 12:00 AM
Location: San Diego Eagle, 3040 North Park Way, San Diego,  CA 92104-3626 
Everyone is invited to strip down to those boxers, briefs or "street" legal jocks and join in the fun, you do not have to enter the contest



Up Your Alley Street Fair in San Francisco


Scheduled: Jul 26, 2015, 11:00 AM to 6:00 PM


FMSD - Potluck Social

Scheduled: Jul 29, 2015, 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM
Location: 1235 Hotel Cir S, San Diego, CA 92108, United States
Potluck Social
Host(s): FMSD Brothers

General Info: http://goo.gl/nUWDXw
Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!

Hosting Venue: TheStompingGroundSanDiego.org
1235 Hotel Cir S, San Diego, CA 92108, United States
Google Maps properly shows the location which is up the street behind the TravelLodge San Diego Mission Valley and Kings Inn San Diego
Parking: Street parking on the hill. Arrive early to park closer to the building!