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Monday, December 11, 2017

Holiday Events & a Party!

Table of Contents

I. This Week in Kink, 11 December 2017!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. From ME to YOU


I. This Week in Kink, 11 December 2017!


Club X - All Club's Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017, 7PM to 9PM
Joyce Beers Community Center
3900 Vermont Street, San Diego, CA  92103
Cost: Free to attend, Bring an unwrapped toy to donate & money for raffle prizes!

Join Club X for their yearly All Club's Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. This party is a Potluck (and I know how much you guys love Potlucks!), and Club X will be hosting a raffle brought upon by several of our local clubs and organizations! Please, help me in representing our growth as a Club this past year!

FMSD 2018 Planning Meeting
Wednesday, 13 December 2017, 6pm till 9pm
Di Mille's Italian Restaurant, 
3492 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116  Map
Cost: Free to attend, please support the venue!

Join us Wednesday, December 13th from 6pm to 8pm at Di Millie's Italian Restaurant for our 2018 Planning Meeting!

Some topics we will discuss at this event will include Leadership Roles, Volunteer Opportunities, Future Events and Workshops, Party Dates, and others. We want to hear from the members what they'd like to see so that we may plan the direction for FMSD in 2018.


If you have questions for our current FMSD Leadership Team, please bring them and we will do our best to answer you!

Club X - X|Men: Leather History & Earning Leather

Thursday, 14 December 2017, 7pm till 9pm
Pleasures & Treasures
2525 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92104  Map
Cost: $5 for non-Club X Members
Speaker: Tom Dickerson

The topic is "Leather History - Earning Leather". Tom Dickerson will be discussing what goes into earning leathers and what each piece of leather represents.

Naughty Santa Christmas Party
Friday, December 15, 2017
5PM to Close
San Diego Eagle
3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA  92104
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!

The San Diego Eagle is hosting a holiday party all their own! Join us at our last remaining leather bar for a Holiday Party sure to get you on the Naughty List! Raffles begin at 5PM and go on throughout the evening, and Hor'derves will be served at 8PM!


II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!


Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
House of Black, San Diego
Address provided with Will Call Email
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:

  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017. 
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team. 
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person!

V. From ME to YOU

Please don't forget to bring your questions and comments, ideas and thoughts this Wednesday to the Planning Meeting! I am excited to present to you guys what we have coming up, and I can't wait to hear what you all think!

With love, I'll see you guys soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Friday, December 8, 2017

Holidays & The New Year

Table of Contents


I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys, Dec 10, 2017!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. Holiday Parties
IV. Upcoming Community Events
V. From ME to YOU

I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys!

Sunday, December 10, 2017
3PM to 6PM
The Hole in the Wall
2830 Lytton St, San Diego, CA  92110
Cost: Free to attend, bring an unopened (children's) toy!

This Sunday, December 10th, our LGBTQ and Leather communities come together to support the Toys for Tots Foundation and the Sunburst Youth Housing Project. We will be at The Hole in the Wall from 3pm to 6pm raising funds and collecting donations for these two organizations.

Care to donate to Toys for Tots? Bring in and donate a new, unwrapped children's toy and the Hole will thank you by giving you 1/2 off of your first drink!

There will also be members of our Military service and Leathermen present, serving Jell-O Shots! Did we mention that our Military Men will be wearing Silkies throughout the day?

Enter for your chance to win the silkies off of your favorite shot-server, or one of the INCREDIBLE prizes donated by San Diego Pride, The Hole in the Wall, or Mr. San Diego Leather 2017.

This event is presented by San Diego Pride's Military Contingent, Mr. SD Leather 2017 - Nathan Kendrick, and the Hole in the Wall! Due to the nature of the venue, it is limited to attendees over the age of 21.

II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
House of Black, San Diego
Address provided with Will Call Email
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:
  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017.
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team.
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person.

III. Next Week in Kink

Club X - All Club's Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Joyce Beers Community Center
3900 Vermont Street, San Diego, CA  92103
Cost: Free to attend, Bring an unwrapped toy to donate & money for raffle prizes!

Join Club X for their yearly All Club's Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. This party is a Potluck (and I know how much you guys love Potlucks!), and Club X will be hosting a raffle brought upon by several of our local clubs and organizations! Please, help me in representing our growth as a Club this past year!

FMSD - 2018 Planning Meeting
Wednesday, December 13, 2017
6PM to 8PM
DiMille's Italian Restaurant
2942 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!
Attire: Street legal and dress for sitting outside on the patio.

We'll be discussing the future of FMSD going in to 2018! Some topics will include Leadership Roles, Volunteer Opportunities, Future Events, Workshops, Party Dates, and more! We want to hear from YOU, the members, as well as we plan for the coming year! If you have a topic you'd like to bring up, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

Naughty Santa Christmas Party
Friday, December 15, 2017
5PM to Close
San Diego Eagle
3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA  92104
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!

The San Diego Eagle is hosting a holiday party all their own! Join us at our last remaining leather bar for a Holiday Party sure to get you on the Naughty List! Raffles begin at 5PM and go on throughout the evening, and Hor'derves will be served at 8PM!

IV. Upcoming Community Events

Leather Fetish Ball 2017 - A Tribute to Tom of Finland
Friday, December 8, 2017
9PM to 2AM
The Rail, Hillcrest
CostEventbrite
Description: Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities .

V. From ME to YOU

Happy Holidays, everyone. Thank you for your continued love and support over the last several months; while things are always changing and evolving, I am happy to say that I am so excited to be a part of FMSD and to have the continued support of my Brothers!

I look forward to seeing you all soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Holidays & the New Year

Table of Contents


I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys, Dec 10, 2017!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. Holiday Parties
IV. Upcoming Community Events
V. From ME to YOU

I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys!

Sunday, December 10, 2017
3PM to 6PM
The Hole in the Wall
2830 Lytton St, San Diego, CA  92110
Cost: Free to attend, bring an unopened (children's) toy!

This Sunday, December 10th, our LGBTQ and Leather communities come together to support the Toys for Tots Foundation and the Sunburst Youth Housing Project. We will be at The Hole in the Wall from 3pm to 6pm raising funds and collecting donations for these two organizations.

Care to donate to Toys for Tots? Bring in and donate a new, unwrapped children's toy and the Hole will thank you by giving you 1/2 off of your first drink!

There will also be members of our Military service and Leathermen present, serving Jell-O Shots! Did we mention that our Military Men will be wearing Silkies throughout the day?

Enter for your chance to win the silkies off of your favorite shot-server, or one of the INCREDIBLE prizes donated by San Diego Pride, The Hole in the Wall, or Mr. San Diego Leather 2017.

This event is presented by San Diego Pride's Military Contingent, Mr. SD Leather 2017 - Nathan Kendrick, and the Hole in the Wall! Due to the nature of the venue, it is limited to attendees over the age of 21.

II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
House of Black, San Diego
Address provided with Will Call Email
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:
  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017.
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team.
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person.

III. Next Week in Kink

Club X - All Club's Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Joyce Beers Community Center
3900 Vermont Street, San Diego, CA  92103
Cost: Free to attend, Bring an unwrapped toy to donate & money for raffle prizes!

Join Club X for their yearly All Club's Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. This party is a Potluck (and I know how much you guys love Potlucks!), and Club X will be hosting a raffle brought upon by several of our local clubs and organizations! Please, help me in representing our growth as a Club this past year!

FMSD - 2018 Planning Meeting
Wednesday, December 13, 2017
6PM to 8PM
DiMille's Italian Restaurant
2942 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!
Attire: Street legal and dress for sitting outside on the patio.

We'll be discussing the future of FMSD going in to 2018! Some topics will include Leadership Roles, Volunteer Opportunities, Future Events, Workshops, Party Dates, and more! We want to hear from YOU, the members, as well as we plan for the coming year! If you have a topic you'd like to bring up, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

Naughty Santa Christmas Party
Friday, December 15, 2017
5PM to Close
San Diego Eagle
3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA  92104
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!

The San Diego Eagle is hosting a holiday party all their own! Join us at our last remaining leather bar for a Holiday Party sure to get you on the Naughty List! Raffles begin at 5PM and go on throughout the evening, and Hor'derves will be served at 8PM!

IV. Upcoming Community Events

Leather Fetish Ball 2017 - A Tribute to Tom of Finland
Friday, December 8, 2017
9PM to 2AM
The Rail, Hillcrest
Cost: Eventbrite
Description: Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities .

V. From ME to YOU

Happy Holidays, everyone. Thank you for your continued love and support over the last several months; while things are always changing and evolving, I am happy to say that I am so excited to be a part of FMSD and to have the continued support of my Brothers!

I look forward to seeing you all soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Friday, November 24, 2017

Gratitude and A Party!

Table of Contents


I. Happy Thanksgiving
II. Gratitude & Service Social + Potluck
III. Male-Only Play Party, Take Two
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Happy Thanksgiving


Hey there, Gents! WE just wanted to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving (or if you're reading this on a later date; we hope you had a great holiday) on behalf of the Fetish Men San Diego leadership team! I (Doriam) wanted to personally say that I am so very grateful for those of you who have inspired me to keep pushing and growing with FMSD. It is with your assistance that I have been so excited to provide for my community.

From those of you who have been mentors to me, and those whom I have mentored; Thank You. From the bottom of my heart.

Let us know a little about what you're thankful for in the comments, or by emailing FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com


II. Gratitude & Service Social + Potluck


Sunday, November 26, 2017
5PM to 8PM
Location: Hillcrest workshop space, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Bring a dish to share with the guys, otherwise Free! Donations to FMSD accepted!

The Holidays are a time for us to get together and support one another for all that we do. Many men do not have a place or a family with whom to share the holidays with, and we would like to provide a place where we can all come together and share in each others energy. Bring a friend! As this is a social, there will be no formal hard skill training, and we expect men from all sides of the FMSD spectrum to attend!

This is a Dinner Social and we hope that everyone attending be willing to bring a dish (Meats, Salads, Soups, Breads, Desserts, etc.) to share. We hope men will share their stories and build friendships and that we can all sit together for a meal.

There will be a few men present who will be used as serving trays/tables during the event. Scott, Rein and Doriam will be available to handle donations to FMSD and Ticket Sales for our Men's Party!

III. Male-Only Play Party, Take Two

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
Location: House of Black, San Diego
Cost: $20/Person, paid via PayPal or in person to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Theme: Interrogation, BDSM Party

Hey look! We did the thing where we're scheduling another Male-Only Play Party!

We are back at House of Black this time around, and have reduced ticket prices, in addition to changing some rules around! This party will be co-hosted by two of FMSD's young up-starts, Doriam & Rein! And while this party is BDSM inclined, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome, including Sex Play, Voyeur, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene!  If you care to know more about these two, here is  quick bio for each of them, and what they'll be celebrating at this party!


  • Rein (right) will be leaving for grad-school shortly after this party, and is looking forward to going out with a bang. He is a Dominant with a sadistic-streak, and has harnessed his skills in Single Tailing and Flogging with Papa Tony, in addition to adding tools to his play bag from other San Diego players!
  • Doriam (left) will be celebrating his anniversary as a part of FMSD at this party. If you've never seen him play, Doriam is a Switch who plays actively on both sides of the slash. He enjoys dynamic Power Exchanges and several forms of Edge Play (including Fire, Medical and Suspension), but is best known as a Rope Bondage player.

We learned a lot from our last party at House of Black, which has inspired several changes for this party. The first of which is the price, we've reduced the cost of this party to $20/person, these funds will be used to pay for the venue, food and (non-alcoholic) drink - any excess will go in to the FMSD Workshop Fund to keep allowing us to host these parties and workshops!

Additionally, we will be allowing attendees to bring their own alcoholic beverages should they choose to partake. We will be required to take some additional precautions because of this, but it should not limit anyone's enjoyment of the event! For more details, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

For this party, I will be needing a few volunteers. Specifically, I will be looking for 2 Bartenders (basic knowledge preferred), 2 Dungeon Monitors, a Door Person, 2 Ambassadors, and ideally 2 people for Setup/Tear Down (each). If you are interested in volunteering, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

More information on volunteering, Here.

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person.

III. Upcoming Community Events


Club X - Dungeon Etiquette
Monday, November 27, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Location: Pleasures & Treasures, 2525 University Avenue
Cost: Free to Club X Members, $5 requested donation of non-members
Description: Join Bikja Amy and her Club X BasiX Series going over the How-Tos of being a new person in the San Diego kink community! This month's workshop will go over the etiquette affiliated with attending a Play Party, how to find play partners, tips and tricks to feel comfortable at your first big event!

FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

Leather Fetish Ball 2017 - Tom of Finland
Friday, December 8, 2017
9PM to 2AM
Location: The Rail, Hillcrest,
Cost: Eventbrite
Description: Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities .

Santa's Orders - Fill Nathan's Hole (with toys)!
Sunday, December 10, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: The Hole in the Wall, 2830 Lytton St
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise FREE.
Description: Join us as our out LGBTQ service members and the leather community come together to support Toys For Tots and the Sunburst Youth Housing Center! Bring a new children’s toy and get 1/2 off your first drink! Enter to win the silkies off your favorite shot-server, or one of the incredible prizes donated by San Diego Pride, The Hole in the Wall, and Mister SD Leather! #SantasOrders #LeatherTea #SDPride

Club X - All Clubs Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Location: Joyce Beers Community Center
Cost: Free to attend!!
Description: This will be a potluck, please bring something to share. Club X will provide water, soft drinks, music, and a little bit of mayhem. They'll have kinky games going on throughout the night where you can compete to win some great prizes! We will have a Community Information table set up where local clubs and organizations can display their brochures, flyers, bar cards, etc. If you have a poster for an upcoming event, we will reserve wall space in this area also. There will be raffle tickets for sale, and many prize drawings, with all proceeds going to local leather organizations and charities.

IV. From ME to YOU

I just wanted to wrap this up by saying Thank You to those of you who have contributed to the energy for Fetish Men San Diego. We would not be growing nearly as quickly as we have been if it weren't for your continued efforts and support!

Happy Holidays, see you Sunday!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Anniversaries, Fund Raisers and Community




Table of Contents

I. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!
II. News-ception (News within the News)
V. Upcoming Community Events
VI. From ME to YOU

I. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!




All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle
Friday, November 17 to Sunday, November 19th
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

Description: Join us starting on Friday, November 17 at 9:00pm at our cities' last remaining Leather Bar -- The Eagle. Fifteen years since The Eagle opened its doors, and we are now coming together to celebrate our community as a whole! Join our brothers and sisters in leather and kink for a weekend full of demos, fetish wear and community.

Friday evening, many of our instructors and members of our leadership team will be available and demonstrating their favorite kink-based skills! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn!

Saturday, some of us will be at the Eagle again with more demos, but at 10:00pm we will stop and stand in unity with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for their blessing to our community; if you are seeking tribal energy, seeking unity and connection - you don't want to miss this.

Lastly, on Sunday, join us for the Eagle Bus Trip to Palm Springs! This is a great day-long adventure with our brothers. Purchase your ticket at the Eagle during or before All Clubs Weekend!


II. News-Ception (The Newsletter within the Newsletter)

This is a little different than my usual From ME to YOU, as this one is a reflection/projection.

Did you know... [My FMSDversary]

My first year as a part of the FMSD Leadership Team has been focused on establishing a firm floor
for us to build upon. A lot of the hurdles this year have been finding venues, becoming visible, and really getting to know You, the membership, and how best I can support your dreams. since December 2016, we have gone from a single discussion night to 3 monthly events, including two Workshops/Discussions, and a demo night at the San Diego Eagle. This does not include our introduction workshops, parties, or cross-over events!

We are now approaching a period in which we can do MORE! We can host a broader spectrum of workshops and events; we have become visible enough that organizations and clubs have begun reaching out to do things with us, venues that had previous said "no, thank you," are now offering their services! Now, to take advantage of those things, we need to do some fund raising.

So here's the deal... [Fund Raising Venture]

At many of our events, we ask for a small donation (usually $5) - however, we do not turn anyone away for not being able to donate! People have asked where this money goes, the answer is: it goes back into the club, it goes in to venue rentals, food and drink, it goes to purchasing supplies and equipment, it goes to giving back to the members in any way we can.

We are still looking for more fund raising ideas, but have settled on a few that we think are great, and we would like to be able to give back to our community in 2018! Our goal is to find a common organization that the membership would like to support and begin donating a portion of our proceeds to that organization!

The first fund raiser we'll be putting on to achieve this is the "Men of FMSD" Calendar! A celebration of the things that make us SPECIAL!

Yes, we know, it's a little on the cliche side. However, we find that there is a strength in men willing to step out of their comfort zone and represent themselves in front of a camera. We are playing with themes, and would love to hear which you might find the most interesting! That list can be found at the bottom of this email.

What I'm saying is... [Men of FMSD]

We are asking you to consider representing yourself as a Man of FMSD. We want men from all walks of life, all ages, all body types and fetishes, men who are submissive, men who are dominant, men who like to fuck, men who like to throw a single tail, men who like the things they like and are unapologetic about that. We want YOU to represent YOU.

If you are interested in being a part of this project, please email me (DoriamFMSD@GMail.com) or Scott (FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com)! We are also looking for additional photographers for this project and future events, to assist the Archivist Team (Papa Tony currently leading) in capturing our History!

For the future... [My Promise for Year 2]


Year 2 will be my Year of Service to the members, to my brothers. If I have learned only one thing this year, it is that I have a heart of service dedicated to supporting others, watching them grow as I continue to do so myself. I would love to see and support many of you as grow in to your own power and most confident selves. I hope that you will open your heart to me, and in return I will open mine to you. Join hands with me as we continue build this community together!

V. Upcoming Community Events


San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!

Saturday, November 18
6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, treasure hunting excitement, all with a pirate theme! Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!


Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!

FMSD Discussion - Gratitude & Service Social
Sunday, November 26, 2017
5PM to 8PM

Location: Hillcrest Workshop (Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for Address)
Cost: Free to attend, donations to FMSD are welcomed!
Description: The Holidays are a time for us to get together and support one another for all that we do. Many men do not have a place or a family with whom to share the holidays with, and we would like to provide a place where we can all come together and share in each others energy. This is a Dinner Social and we hope that everyone attending be willing to bring a dish (Meats, Salads, Soups, Breads, Desserts, etc.) to share. We hope men will share their stories and build friendships and that we can all sit together for a meal.


FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!



GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com


Yours Truly, 
In Service,
Doriam C

Monday, November 6, 2017

Health, Bondage and MEAT

Table of Contents

I. Club X - XMen Academy - Men's Health
II. Fox & Friends - Swap Meat!
III. Bedroom Bondage Workshop
IV. All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle
V. Upcoming Community Events
VI. From ME to YOU

I. Club X - XMen Academy - Men's Health w/Nathan Kendrick

Thursday, November 9, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Location: Pleasures & Treasures
Cost: Free to Club X members, $5 for non-members
Description: Out health is not something we discuss nearly enough in our line of play, whether it be kink-related or fetish-oriented; however, it is something that is undeniably important for us in order to keep doing the things we love! Join us this Thursday at Pleasures & Treasures, and bring your general health questions, as Nathan will be answering whatever questions you may have regarding general Men's Health!



II. Fox & Fiends - Swap Meat!


Saturday, November 11, 2017
6PM to 8PM
Location: Urban Mo's
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

"Come for the swap, stay for the MEAT."

Description: Join us this weekend at Urban Mo's in Hillcrest for Fox & Fiends leather swap meat! This is a great place to bring your old, used or outgrown leathers, toys and gear in order to pass them on to another of our brothers or sisters. With the holidays just around the corner, this is also ample opportunity to pick-up gifts for yourself and others!

Selling of gear is welcomed, and Urban Mo's will be providing tables for vendors to set up during the event! Demoing is also welcomed and encouraged, please respect the venue and the belongings of each individual vendor. Contact the hosts by following the information line in the flier above!

III. FMSD Workshop - Bedroom Bondage

Sunday, November 12, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: Hillcrest workshop, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: $5 Requested donation on-site or via PayPal.com/FMSanDiego

Howdy Gents! It's my turn to teach a workshop from the ground up, and this time I will be teaching a skill near and dear to my heart: Bondage! This workshop will cover several types of bondage, including what I've become known for (Shibari/Rope) and some forms of bondage I don't get to show nearly as much to the general public! Before the class, please familiarize yourself with the knot demonstrated in this video, HERE as it will be the primary knot we will be using during the rope bondage section of this class.

"Wait. Did you say SECTION?" -- Why yes, floating head! I did!

This workshop will be divided into parts, including quick and effective rope bondage used to, well, tie your partner down! In addition to the rope section, I will be covering introducing you on how to use less formal objects to bind your partner down in a bedroom or at-home setting for "extra-curricular activities."

You do not NEED to come partnered to this workshopIf you have someone you'd like to play with at this workshop, please invite them, otherwise we will do our best to get hands-on time for everyone!

From Doriam:
I will need 3 Demo Bottoms for this workshop. All demo bottoms will be asked to arrive by 2pm or meet with me prior to the workshop to practice/prepare/plan for the workshop. Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for details.

All Attendees: You are welcome to bring any toys (dildos, butt plugs, gags, cuffs, etc) you'd like to see used. If you have rope, please bring it. If you have folding chairs, please contact Doriam.

Bondage (Givers): Please bring a tie (like you'd wear with a collared shirt), a belt, and a pillow case with you. Please bring one mundane object you'd like to see used for bondage purposes.

Bondage (Receiver): Please bring condoms and lube. You may decide you'd like to try using one of the toys present for the workshop, and to mitigate risk we ask that bottoms provide their own condoms/lube.

IV. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!


All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle
Friday, November 17 to Sunday, November 19th
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

Description: Join us starting on Friday, November 17 at 9:00pm at our cities' last remaining Leather Bar -- The Eagle. Fifteen years since The Eagle opened its doors, and we are now coming together to celebrate our community as a whole! Join our brothers and sisters in leather and kink for a weekend full of demos, fetish wear and community.

Friday evening, many of our instructors and members of our leadership team will be available and demonstrating their favorite kink-based skills! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn!

Saturday, some of us will be at the Eagle again with more demos, but at 10:00pm we will stop and stand in unity with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for their blessing to our community; if you are seeking tribal energy, seeking unity and connection - you don't want to miss this.

Lastly, on Sunday, join us for the Eagle Bus Trip to Palm Springs! This is a great day-long adventure with our brothers. Purchase your ticket at the Eagle during or before All Clubs Weekend!


V. Upcoming Community Events

San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!
Saturday, November 18
6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, treasure hunting excitement, all with a pirate theme! Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!



Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!


FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com


VI. From ME to YOU

With the holidays around the corner, it is a time for us to reflect on the things that make us all thankful and grateful! I look forward to seeing many of you over the next few weeks for several of the events we have coming up, we are hoping to put something together during the Thanksgiving Weekend if we can manage it, so keep tuned!

I do want to share one thing that I personally am thankful for, and it's the continued love and support I get from you all. I could and would not be running FMSD if it wasn't for all of you. It is your dedication to our continued growth that keeps me motivated and wanting to provide more and more. My first FMSD meeting was November 16, 2016 and the first meeting I led was the following month on December 20th! It feels like no time has passed between now and then, but coming up on my one year of leadership has made me reflect on what WE have achieved together; and I value each of you for what you have done to help get us here.

If you haven't already, take a moment and look at our Volunteer Program. Our leadership team is still hoping to bring at least a few of you with us next year to Up Your Alley; but we can't do it without volunteers! Here is a link for your convenience: Volunteer Program

Until next week, gents!

In Service,
Doriam C

Saturday, November 4, 2017

Gratitude, Community and Bond[age]s

Table of Contents

I. Fox & Friends - Swap Meat!
II. All Clubs Night at The Eagle
III. Bedroom Bondage workshop
IV. Upcoming Community Events
V. From ME to YOU

I. Fox & Fiends - Swap Meat!

Saturday, November 11, 2017
6PM to 8PM
Location: Urban Mo's

"Come for the swap, stay for the MEAT."


CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: Join us next weekend at Urban Mo's in Hillcrest for Fox & Fiends leather swap meat! This is a great place to bring your old, used or outgrown leathers, toys and gear in order to pass them to another of our brothers or sisters. With the holidays just around the corner, this is also ample opportunity to pick-up gifts for yourself and others!

Selling of gear is welcomed, and Urban Mo's will be providing tables for vendors to set up during the event! Demoing is welcome and encouraged (please refer to each vendor individually), please respect the venue. Contact the hosts by following the information line in the flier above!

See you there, Brothers!


II. FMSD Workshop - Bedroom Bondage


Sunday, November 12, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: Hillcrest workshop, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: $5 Requested donation on-site or via PayPal.com/FMSanDiego
Description: This workshop will go over using the mundane objects in your home and bedroom for bondage purposes. Attendees are encouraged to bring pillow cases, ties, belts, or any everyday objects lying around on their nightstands.

III. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!


All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle

Friday, November 17 to Sunday, November 19th
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

Description: Join us starting on Friday, November 17 at 9:00pm at our cities' last remaining Leather Bar -- The Eagle. Fifteen years since The Eagle opened its doors, and we are now coming together to celebrate our community as a whole! Join our brothers and sisters in leather and kink for a weekend full of demos, fetish wear and community.

Friday evening, many of our instructors and members of our leadership team will be available and demonstrating their favorite kink-based skills! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn!

Saturday, some of us will be at the Eagle again with more demos, but at 10:00pm we will stop and stand in unity with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for their blessing to our community; if you are seeking tribal energy, seeking unity and connection - you don't want to miss this.

Lastly, on Sunday, join us for the Eagle Bus Trip to Palm Springs! This is a great day-long adventure with our brothers. Purchase your ticket at the Eagle during or before All Clubs Weekend!


III. Upcoming Community Events

Cigars & Boots, Leather Social

Saturday, November 4th
4PM to 7PM
Location: The Redwing
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: Cigars and Boots is San Diego's very own leather and ash social hosted by California Drummer at The Redwing in North Park. Come on out and join our brothers and sisters starting at 4PM, and be sure to support our local attending Bootblacks!

San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
See description for times
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!
Saturday, November 18

6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, water boarding excitement, all with a pirate theme! Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!

Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!


FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

V. From ME to YOU

Hi Gents! Thank you for the responses I've received so far about where you're reading from! If you haven't let me know where YOU'RE from and how we can better serve YOU, please take a moment and email me at DoriamFMSD@GMail.com. Even if you are part of our central San Diego group, let me know what part of the town we're reaching you in!

Also, because it bears repeating, I'd also like to take a moment and thank all of you who've reached out in regards to teaching, being mentors, attending events with new folk, etc. Without you, I don't think I would have the mental faculties to make everything work! If you're interested in giving back to your brothers, check out our new Volunteer Program and see what we're doing to give back!

Until next week, gents!

In Service,
Doriam C