The Lowdown: Everything You Need to Know Before You Go

Getting ready for our upcoming FMSD event? Here is the complete rundown on what to expect, house navigation, safety guidelines, and how we keep the space comfortable for everyone.

The Day at a Glance

• Hour 1 (Social Hour): Music playing, casual mingling at your own pace.
• Hour 2+ (Workshop): Educational demo begins; background music is turned way down or off.
• After the Workshop: Open play space opens up for anyone interested. Participation is never mandatory!
• Crowd Size: Typically 10–30 people, keeping things intimate and easy to navigate.

Arrival & Checking In

• Parking: Street parking available. Arriving on time is recommended for a closer spot.
• Entry: Enter through the side gate—look for the FMSD sign.
• Check-In: Check in at the entrance table. Donations are optional.
• Merch: Official FMSD shirts and pins are available for purchase at check-in.

The Spaces

• Living Room & Kitchen: The central social hub with food, drinks, and music during the first hour.
• Garage: Equipped with a Saint Andrew’s Cross and massage table.
• Backyard: Play space featuring lounge furniture, shade umbrellas, and an open pool.
• Decompression / Aftercare Area: Dedicated quiet space to rest and reset.
• Bathrooms: Two restrooms available on site.

What to Wear & Bring

• Dress Code: Clothing is optional throughout the event. Most attendees wear shorts and a t-shirt, casual leather/gear, or nothing at all. Wear whatever makes you feel good.
• Potluck: Bring a dish or drink sized to serve 3–4 people. Please take any leftover food home at the end so nothing goes to waste.
• Pool & Gear: Bring your own towel if you plan to use the pool.

For Our Sensory Friends

• Sound Management: Music is limited to the living room during the initial social hour and lowered significantly or shut off during the workshop.
• Calmer Zones: The backyard and back rooms offer lower-stimulation environments.
• Comfort Items: Bring whatever you need to stay regulated (headphones, fidgets, blankets, comfort items)—zero judgment.
• Zero Pressure: You are welcome to step away, decompress, or leave at any time.

Safety, Consent & Privacy

• Safe, Sane & Consensual (SSC): All activities strictly follow SSC standards. Always ask before touching any person or their belongings. No means no, always and without exception.
• Dungeon Monitors (DMs): DMs wear identifying lanyards and are introduced at the start of the workshop. Reach out to them at any point if you need support or mediation.
• Photo Privacy: Prefer not to be photographed or posted online? Ask for a wristband at check-in so others know not to include you in photos.

Questions? Reach out anytime before the event at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

Inkless Tattoo Workshop Presented by Savage Sal

Join Fetish Men San Diego for an afternoon of skill-sharing, community, and sensation play at our upcoming Inkless Tattoo Workshop, presented by Mr. San Diego Leather 2026, Savage Sal.

Whether you're curious about the mechanics of inkless tattooing, want to explore needle play and sensory thresholds, or simply want to hang out with the brotherhood poolside, this is an afternoon you won't want to miss.

Event Details:

• Date: Saturday, September 12, 2026
• Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
• Presenter: Savage Sal (Mr. San Diego Leather 2026)
• What to Expect: A hands-on educational demonstration exploring inkless tattoo techniques, safety protocols, equipment handling, and sensation dynamics.

What to Bring

• Potluck Dish: Bring a small dish or snack to share with the group.
• Pool Gear: The pool is open—bring your towel, swimwear, or gear to cool off between demos.
• Curiosity & Good Energy: Open to all experience levels, from complete beginners to seasoned kinksters looking to expand their skill set.

RSVP Required 

Click here to RSVP

To ensure we have enough space and materials for everyone attending, an RSVP is mandatory.

Secure your spot now through the link below or by logging into your member portal. Space is limited, so don't wait to register!

FMSD 2026 2nd Saturday Lineup: Demos, Skills & Community

Mark your calendars and get ready to learn, connect, and explore—the Fetish Men San Diego 2nd Saturday 2026 Lineup is officially here.

Join us each month for hands-on demos, technique breakdowns, and community skill-shares led by experienced community presenters.

2026 Second Saturday Schedule:

• August 8, 2026 — Caning
• Presenter: Sir Brian
• Explore impact techniques, precision, rhythm, and safety fundamentals using canes.
• September 12, 2026 — Inkless Tattoo
• Presenter: Savage Sal
• Discover the art, sensation, and prep involved in inkless needle play and temporary marking.
• October 10, 2026 — Needles
• Presenter: Jyro
• A deep dive into medical play, piercing play, sterile technique, and sharps safety.
• November 14, 2026 — Single Tail Whips
• Presenter: Alpha Rob
• Learn handling, cracking mechanics, body mechanics, and targeted accuracy with single tails.
• December 12, 2026 — Erotic Massage
• Presenter: Dom
• Close out the year with techniques focusing on bodywork, touch, tension release, and sensual flow.

Questions & Details

Got questions before an event or want more information on venue and entry? Reach out directly via email at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

FMSD Social: Chastity Show & Tell & Discussion

FMSD Social: Chastity Show & Tell & Discussion

Chastity is about more than just a cage. It’s a journey of trust, anticipation, connection, and playful exploration. Whether you’re currently locked, curious about trying chastity, or a key holder looking to meet others who share your interests, this gathering offers a welcoming space to connect and learn.

Fetish Men San Diego hosts this Chastity Social every other month, creating an ongoing opportunity for community members to build connections, share experiences, and support one another in a relaxed and respectful environment.

Join us for a casual, potluck-style afternoon designed to foster conversation and camaraderie. Attendees are invited to mingle, share their stories, and, if they choose, participate in a show and tell of their devices in a supportive, clothing-optional setting. Whether you’re new to chastity or have years of experience, you’ll find a friendly and inclusive space to engage with like-minded men.

What to Expect

• Casual Mingling: Meet and connect with other members of the community in a comfortable, welcoming setting.

• Show and Tell: Participants are welcome to share their devices and discuss their personal experiences. Participation is entirely optional.

• Open Discussion: Engage in conversations about the joys, challenges, and dynamics of chastity from both the perspectives of those who are locked and key holders.

• Inclusive Environment: Open to all experience levels, from the simply curious to the more experienced.

Event Details

• Date: Sunday, May 23, 2026

• Time: Noon – 4:00 PM

• Location: Private residence (the address will be shared via email after completing the RSVP Google Form)

• RSVP: Please complete the Google Form so we can send you the event address and any important updates. There is no attendance limit. RSVP

What to Bring

• A towel (required for clothing-optional spaces)

• A valid ID

• A potluck dish to share

• An open mind and respectful curiosity

Join the Conversation

This recurring event is all about building community, encouraging open dialogue, and creating a space where everyone feels welcome and supported. Whether you’re attending to learn, share, or simply socialize, we look forward to spending the afternoon with you.

Feel free to share this post with others who may be interested in joining the Fetish Men San Diego community.

 March 29, 2026

💫 Chastity Social, Show & Tell & Discussion 💫

Hey, ready to unlock a good time? 😉 not you of course!

Join us for a relaxed, sexy, and laughter-filled afternoon where you can mingle, share your story, and show off your cage (clothing optional bring a towel). Let’s get real about our chastity journeys and build a community that celebrates connection, curiosity, and a little cheeky fun.

Who’s invited: Kinky guys, locked guys, the curious, and key holders looking to meet others who get it. Everyone’s welcome as long as you bring your open mind and flirty energy.

When: Sunday, March 29th, Noon – 4:00 PM

Where: A private home (address shared once you RSVP).

RSVP: Shoot us an email to lock in your spot (pun very much intended 😉). Signmeupforevent@gmail.com

Bonus: It’s potluck-style! Bring your favorite snack to share, bring yourself & your best vibes. Casual, cozy, and very community-focused.

Rubber & Latex, Sat, 14 MAR 2026, Noon-4pm

Greetings Gentlemen,

This month, Fetish Men San Diego is excited to invite you to a kinky and educational afternoon focused on rubber and latex, featuring our guest presenter Mr. West Coast Rubber 2022, Gypse Lee.

Whether you are brand new to rubber, rubber-curious, or already love the feel, scent, and shine, this is a welcoming space to learn, connect, and enjoy community together. Expect a relaxed presentation with time for conversation, questions, and shared experience.

Event Details

Date: Saturday, March 14, 2026 (2nd Saturday)
Time: Noon – 4:00 PM
Location: Private home (address provided after RSVP)

Who Should Attend

This event is for kinky guys and male-identified folks who are interested in rubber and latex, including beginners, enthusiasts, and anyone who wants to learn more in a respectful, community-centered environment.

What to Bring

• Government-issued photo ID
• A towel (especially if you plan to be nude or in gear)
• A potluck snack or non-alcoholic drink to share
• An open mind and respectful curiosity

RSVP Required

To attend, please RSVP using our RSVP FMSD Rubber/Latex Presentation form. You will receive an email with the address once your RSVP is received.

Want to suggest a future event topic?

Complete this form: FMSD Event Ideas & Community Interest Form

We look forward to seeing you and sharing an afternoon of learning, connection, and kink.

Warmly,
Leo
President, FMSD
Fetish Men San Diego (FMSD)
San Diego, CA
www.FetishMenSanDiego.org

Bootblacking 101: Leathercare, Sat, 14 Feb, Noon-4pm

Bootblacking 101: Leathercare
Location: Private Residence - RSVP before Friday, 13 February by emailing SignMeUpForEvent [at} GMail (com). RSVPs will start to go out Wed, 11 Feb.
--- Use the subject line: “Leather care workshop – February 2026” and include your first and last name in the body of the email.

Taking care of leathers can be a simple task, a service, or an erotic exchange of energy. For some it is a fetish for a type of boot, an act of community service, or an expression of service to a select few people. The individuals that take on the identity of being someone that cares for leathers and boots are often called bootblacks.

This class will be an introduction to the basics of taking care of high shine and oil tan boots and leather garments with some discussion on how it can be used in different contexts.

Attendees are invited to bring a basic pair of boots or a garment that needs some basic work (cleaning/conditioning) and any bootblacking supplies they may already own. There will be opportunities for some hands-on practice. If you don’t have supplies, the basics should be available to borrow.

Presenter Bio: Pup Rune

Pup Rune is a trans masc non binary queer boy with 7 years of bootblacking experience and the honor of being San Diego Bootblack 2025. He is a founding member of the San Diego Bootblack Guild and an all around Good Boy™️. As a member of Haus von Rowdyhousen he excels at both technical bootblacking as well as stirring up trouble in the stand.

Please bring your ID so we can make sure those who attend match our guest list.

Proof of COVID-19 vaccination or recent negative COVID-19 test is required for entry

Open to those who identify as male who are 18 years of age and older

FMSD supports negotiation and consent in all kink play. Granting consent and clearly negotiating are hindered if you are in an altered state. Therefore, this is a non-alcoholic event and is open to male identifying persons at least 18 years old.