Show and Tell and TRY IT OUT/Kink on a Budget

Show and Tell and TRY IT OUT/Kink on a Budget

RSVP Here!

Let's get creative! Join us for a relaxed, playful afternoon celebrating imagination, connection and kink on a budget.  "Pervertables" is a fancy way of describing everyday household objects that have a secret second life in the bedroom or dungeon. We want to see how you used items like wooden spoons, clothes spins, etc.  Surprise us!  Let's swap ideas and try things out!

Everyone is welcome.  Bring an open mind, a playful spirit and respond for everyone's boundaries.  Participation is always optional; you're welcome to observe, chat or join in as much or as little as you are comfortable. 

WHEN: Saturday, November 14, Noon-4:00PM

WHERE: A private home' the address will be shared after you RSVP.

It's potluck style so bring a favorite snack to share. 

This is an alcohol free event. 

We cannot wait to see what everyone brings!

FMSD Chastity Social — Connect Before Locktober

Join Fetish Men San Diego on Saturday, September 26, from noon–4 p.m. for a social gathering for guys who are caged, curious about chastity, or keyholders. Meet others with shared interests, exchange experiences, and connect as Locktober approaches.

Clothing is optional; please bring a towel. Scan the QR code on the flyer to RSVP.

FMSD Monthly Discussion — Consent

Join FMSD for September’s monthly discussion, focused on consent. This shared conversation explores understanding and lived experiences within leather, kink, and BDSM communities. Bring your questions and perspectives, listen to others, and help keep this important conversation going.

Monthly discussions take place on the third Wednesday of each month, from 7–9 p.m. Scan the QR code on the flyer to join.

The Lowdown: Everything You Need to Know Before You Go

Getting ready for our upcoming FMSD event? Here is the complete rundown on what to expect, house navigation, safety guidelines, and how we keep the space comfortable for everyone.

The Day at a Glance

• Hour 1 (Social Hour): Music playing, casual mingling at your own pace.
• Hour 2+ (Workshop): Educational demo begins; background music is turned way down or off.
• After the Workshop: Open play space opens up for anyone interested. Participation is never mandatory!
• Crowd Size: Typically 10–30 people, keeping things intimate and easy to navigate.

Arrival & Checking In

• Parking: Street parking available. Arriving on time is recommended for a closer spot.
• Entry: Enter through the side gate—look for the FMSD sign.
• Check-In: Check in at the entrance table. Donations are optional.
• Merch: Official FMSD shirts and pins are available for purchase at check-in.

The Spaces

• Living Room & Kitchen: The central social hub with food, drinks, and music during the first hour.
• Garage: Equipped with a Saint Andrew’s Cross and massage table.
• Backyard: Play space featuring lounge furniture, shade umbrellas, and an open pool.
• Decompression / Aftercare Area: Dedicated quiet space to rest and reset.
• Bathrooms: Two restrooms available on site.

What to Wear & Bring

• Dress Code: Clothing is optional throughout the event. Most attendees wear shorts and a t-shirt, casual leather/gear, or nothing at all. Wear whatever makes you feel good.
• Potluck: Bring a dish or drink sized to serve 3–4 people. Please take any leftover food home at the end so nothing goes to waste.
• Pool & Gear: Bring your own towel if you plan to use the pool.

For Our Sensory Friends

• Sound Management: Music is limited to the living room during the initial social hour and lowered significantly or shut off during the workshop.
• Calmer Zones: The backyard and back rooms offer lower-stimulation environments.
• Comfort Items: Bring whatever you need to stay regulated (headphones, fidgets, blankets, comfort items)—zero judgment.
• Zero Pressure: You are welcome to step away, decompress, or leave at any time.

Safety, Consent & Privacy

• Safe, Sane & Consensual (SSC): All activities strictly follow SSC standards. Always ask before touching any person or their belongings. No means no, always and without exception.
• Dungeon Monitors (DMs): DMs wear identifying lanyards and are introduced at the start of the workshop. Reach out to them at any point if you need support or mediation.
• Photo Privacy: Prefer not to be photographed or posted online? Ask for a wristband at check-in so others know not to include you in photos.

Questions? Reach out anytime before the event at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

Inkless Tattoo Workshop Presented by Savage Sal

Join Fetish Men San Diego for an afternoon of skill-sharing, community, and sensation play at our upcoming Inkless Tattoo Workshop, presented by Mr. San Diego Leather 2026, Savage Sal.

Whether you're curious about the mechanics of inkless tattooing, want to explore needle play and sensory thresholds, or simply want to hang out with the brotherhood poolside, this is an afternoon you won't want to miss.

Event Details:

• Date: Saturday, September 12, 2026
• Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
• Presenter: Savage Sal (Mr. San Diego Leather 2026)
• What to Expect: A hands-on educational demonstration exploring inkless tattoo techniques, safety protocols, equipment handling, and sensation dynamics.

What to Bring

• Potluck Dish: Bring a small dish or snack to share with the group.
• Pool Gear: The pool is open—bring your towel, swimwear, or gear to cool off between demos.
• Curiosity & Good Energy: Open to all experience levels, from complete beginners to seasoned kinksters looking to expand their skill set.

RSVP Required 

Click here to RSVP

To ensure we have enough space and materials for everyone attending, an RSVP is mandatory.

Secure your spot now through the link below or by logging into your member portal. Space is limited, so don't wait to register!

FMSD 2026 2nd Saturday Lineup: Demos, Skills & Community

Mark your calendars and get ready to learn, connect, and explore—the Fetish Men San Diego 2nd Saturday 2026 Lineup is officially here.

Join us each month for hands-on demos, technique breakdowns, and community skill-shares led by experienced community presenters.

2026 Second Saturday Schedule:

• August 8, 2026 — Caning
• Presenter: Sir Brian
• Explore impact techniques, precision, rhythm, and safety fundamentals using canes.
• September 12, 2026 — Inkless Tattoo
• Presenter: Savage Sal
• Discover the art, sensation, and prep involved in inkless needle play and temporary marking.
• October 10, 2026 — Needles
• Presenter: Jyro
• A deep dive into medical play, piercing play, sterile technique, and sharps safety.
• November 14, 2026 — Single Tail Whips
• Presenter: Alpha Rob
• Learn handling, cracking mechanics, body mechanics, and targeted accuracy with single tails.
• December 12, 2026 — Erotic Massage
• Presenter: Dom
• Close out the year with techniques focusing on bodywork, touch, tension release, and sensual flow.

Questions & Details

Got questions before an event or want more information on venue and entry? Reach out directly via email at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.