Getting Knotty: Rope Fundamentals & More

Getting Knotty: Rope Fundamentals & More

Ready to get a little knotty? Join us Saturday, December 12, from noon to 4 PM for a hands-on rope workshop with Austin, an experienced rigger and former organizer of Knotty New York, recently relocated to San Diego.

We’ll explore rope safety, basic ties, frictions, and fun ways to play with rope. Whether you’re brand-new or more experienced, there will be opportunities to learn, practice, and progress at your own pace.

No partner needed! Bring a partner if you like, but we’ll pair people up. Some rope will be provided, but bring your own if you have it.

When: Saturday, December 12 | Noon–4 PM
Where: Location shared upon RSVP

Come learn, connect, and get knotty with us!

RSVP to join us!

Chastity Social: Show & Tell & Discussion

November 21, 2026

Chastity Social: Show & Tell & Discussion
Connection, curiosity, conversation, and a little playful fun!

Ready to unlock a good time?

Come spend a relaxed and playful afternoon connecting with others who share an interest in chastity. Whether you're experienced, newly curious, currently locked, or holding the key, this is an opportunity to meet new people, share experiences, exchange stories, and enjoy some good conversation and laughter.

We'll have time to mingle, share our personal journeys, and, for those who feel comfortable, show off your cage. Clothing is optional, so please bring a towel if you'd like to take advantage of that freedom!

With Locktober behind us, it's a great time to reflect on the experience. Let's talk about the highs, the challenges, the discipline, the surprises, and the pleasures that come with the chastity journey. Whether you made it through Locktober, are still locked, or are simply exploring what chastity means to you, your perspective is welcome.

Our goal is to create a welcoming community where we can be ourselves, learn from one another, build connections, and share a little cheeky fun along the way.

Who Should Join?

Kinky men, those currently locked, the chastity-curious, and keyholders who enjoy connecting with others. Whether you're a seasoned veteran or just starting to explore, there's a place for you here. Everyone is welcome!

Event Details

• When: Saturday, November 21st | 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
• Where: Private residence (address shared upon RSVP)
• RSVP: Scan the QR code provided to sign up. Or click Here!
• What to Bring: A favorite snack to share!

A Little Something Extra

This will be a potluck-style gathering, so bring along something tasty to share. Most importantly, bring yourself, your stories, your curiosity, and an open mind.

Expect a casual, cozy, welcoming atmosphere where conversation flows, connections happen, and everyone can feel comfortable being themselves.

We look forward to seeing you, sharing some laughs, and making this another great afternoon together.

Come as you are. Stay curious. And let's have some fun!

Show and Tell and TRY IT OUT/Kink on a Budget

Show and Tell and TRY IT OUT/Kink on a Budget

RSVP Here!

Let's get creative! Join us for a relaxed, playful afternoon celebrating imagination, connection and kink on a budget.  "Pervertables" is a fancy way of describing everyday household objects that have a secret second life in the bedroom or dungeon. We want to see how you used items like wooden spoons, clothes spins, etc.  Surprise us!  Let's swap ideas and try things out!

Everyone is welcome.  Bring an open mind, a playful spirit and respond for everyone's boundaries.  Participation is always optional; you're welcome to observe, chat or join in as much or as little as you are comfortable. 

WHEN: Saturday, November 14, Noon-4:00PM

WHERE: A private home' the address will be shared after you RSVP.

It's potluck style so bring a favorite snack to share. 

This is an alcohol free event. 

We cannot wait to see what everyone brings!

FMSD Chastity Social — Connect Before Locktober

Join Fetish Men San Diego on Saturday, September 26, from noon–4 p.m. for a social gathering for guys who are caged, curious about chastity, or keyholders. Meet others with shared interests, exchange experiences, and connect as Locktober approaches.

Clothing is optional; please bring a towel. Scan the QR code on the flyer to RSVP.

FMSD Monthly Discussion

Join FMSD for monthly discussion. This shared conversation explores understanding and lived experiences within leather, kink, and BDSM communities. Bring your questions and perspectives, listen to others, and help keep this important conversation going.

Monthly discussions take place on the third Wednesday of each month, from 7–9 p.m. 

The Lowdown: Everything You Need to Know Before You Go

Getting ready for our upcoming FMSD event? Here is the complete rundown on what to expect, house navigation, safety guidelines, and how we keep the space comfortable for everyone.

The Day at a Glance

• Hour 1 (Social Hour): Music playing, casual mingling at your own pace.
• Hour 2+ (Workshop): Educational demo begins; background music is turned way down or off.
• After the Workshop: Open play space opens up for anyone interested. Participation is never mandatory!
• Crowd Size: Typically 10–30 people, keeping things intimate and easy to navigate.

Arrival & Checking In

• Parking: Street parking available. Arriving on time is recommended for a closer spot.
• Entry: Enter through the side gate—look for the FMSD sign.
• Check-In: Check in at the entrance table. Donations are optional.
• Merch: Official FMSD shirts and pins are available for purchase at check-in.

The Spaces

• Living Room & Kitchen: The central social hub with food, drinks, and music during the first hour.
• Garage: Equipped with a Saint Andrew’s Cross and massage table.
• Backyard: Play space featuring lounge furniture, shade umbrellas, and an open pool.
• Decompression / Aftercare Area: Dedicated quiet space to rest and reset.
• Bathrooms: Two restrooms available on site.

What to Wear & Bring

• Dress Code: Clothing is optional throughout the event. Most attendees wear shorts and a t-shirt, casual leather/gear, or nothing at all. Wear whatever makes you feel good.
• Potluck: Bring a dish or drink sized to serve 3–4 people. Please take any leftover food home at the end so nothing goes to waste.
• Pool & Gear: Bring your own towel if you plan to use the pool.

For Our Sensory Friends

• Sound Management: Music is limited to the living room during the initial social hour and lowered significantly or shut off during the workshop.
• Calmer Zones: The backyard and back rooms offer lower-stimulation environments.
• Comfort Items: Bring whatever you need to stay regulated (headphones, fidgets, blankets, comfort items)—zero judgment.
• Zero Pressure: You are welcome to step away, decompress, or leave at any time.

Safety, Consent & Privacy

• Safe, Sane & Consensual (SSC): All activities strictly follow SSC standards. Always ask before touching any person or their belongings. No means no, always and without exception.
• Dungeon Monitors (DMs): DMs wear identifying lanyards and are introduced at the start of the workshop. Reach out to them at any point if you need support or mediation.
• Photo Privacy: Prefer not to be photographed or posted online? Ask for a wristband at check-in so others know not to include you in photos.

Questions? Reach out anytime before the event at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.