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Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Social this Saturday (MOVED); Swap Meat & more

FMSD Social @ Urban MO's  

Saturday, April 13, 4:00pm – 6pm

Urban MO's

308 University Ave., San Diego, CA 92103, USA

Join club brothers this Saturday, April 13, 4-6pm at Urban MO's.  This event immediately precedes this month's Swap Meat (see below).  This social had been slated for another time at another venue on the same day, but we learned of the conflict and voted to change time and location to support Swap Meat. 


Swap Meat @ Urban MO's

Saturday, April 13, 6-9pm

Urban MO's

308 University Ave., San Diego, CA 92103, USA

Clean out your closets and make a few bucks on your used gear that might need a new dungeon. Buy/Sell/Trade your gear and meet others to connect over fetishes, toys & gear in real time off the apps. or introduce new curious guys to your turn-ons. Demos welcome (with  approval) Feel free to forward this to any groups/blogs or peeps that you know would be interested.  Free to enter, $5 donation to sell. More Info: 619-352-0666. See you soon, Fox.


SWAP MEAT is San Diego’s bimonthly social event for all kink backgrounds to meet and connect over our fetishes, toys & gear. Our event takes place in Mo’s semi-private dance floor for an intimate setting outside the apps and back into real time cruising. We’ve had the pleasure in the past to host custom harnesses by Anthony Rollar Greika of Pleasures & Treasures, Detoxxx Custom Leather, rope and flogging demos, and full leather custom suits by Ryder-Gear and more.


The Boys Will Play - Round 2

Saturday, April 20, 8:00pm – 1:00am

"The Compound", San Diego, CA

Men's Play Party - There will be Demos!

BONDAGE - IMPACT - SOUNDING - FIRE PLAY - FISTING
(and risk aware sex play, supplies available)
Snacks and refreshments provided.
All proceeds benefit: Club-brother Doriam's 2019 IML Travel Fund & The Leather Realm at San Diego Pride 2019.
Ticket purchase available at: HTTPS://SDBoysWillPlay.EventBrite.com










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Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Cigars & Boots fundraiser for Doriam's IML bid; FMSD Planning Meeting + Social

FMSD - Flogging Friday  

Friday, April 5, 9:00 – midnight

San Diego Eagle

3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA 92104, USA

Join club brothers at this relaxed event at the Eagle this Friday, April 5, 9-midnight.




Cigars & Boots: April & IML Bid Edition

Saturday, April 6, 4:00 – 7:00pm

Pecs Bar

2046 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92104, USA

Join San Diego Cigars & Boots and San Diego Leather Pride on Saturday, April 6 from 4 to 7 at Pecs Bar in North Park for the April Edition, hosted by our clubbrother Mr. San Diego Leather 2018, Doriam Couto!

This month, Cigars and Boots will be a fundraiser for Doriam's bid for International Mr. Leather (#IML41) and an opportunity to introduce you to San Diego Bootblack 2018, Shilo Vix and Doriam's sash kids: 

Jody, Mr. San Diego Leather 2019 
Serafine, Ms. San Diego Leather 2019 
Pup Rowdy, San Diego Bootblack 2019! 

Bootblacks Rowdy and Shilo will be available to show your gear some love, Sir Karen will be hosting a demo/discussion on Cigars and Cigar Play, and raffles will be happening throughout the event! 

Come on out and support one of San Diego's longest running Cigar Socials! 
#LetsWalkTogether 
#FistDaddy 
#CigarsandBoots

Cigars & Boots, Leather Social, First Saturday of the month. San Diego Cigars & Boots is held at Pecs Bar at the corner of University and Alabama from 4pm until 7pm on the first Saturday of the month. Come join us! Even if you don’t smoke cigars or you sample a pipe or other things it’s a good time to make new friends in the leather community. Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free




FMSD - Planning Group Meeting @The Eagle

Sunday, April 7, 4:00 – 6:00pm

San Diego Eagle

3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA 92104, USA

For a change of pace, we'll meet at The San Diego Eagle for the FMSD Planning Group Meeting. Do you have an idea, request or venue suggestion for a FMSD workshop, demo, discussion, or social? Come let us know! We'll be planning what we're doing for the next three months, each month.



FMSD - Social @Hillcrest Brewing Company

Saturday, April 13, 6:00 – 8:00pm

Hillcrest Brewing Company

1458 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92103, USA

Come join your friends old and new for a relaxed social in leathers at Hillcrest Brewing Company on Saturday April 13, 6-8pm.  HBC serves craft beers, pizzas and other appetizing lite morsels and salads.





The Boys Will Play - Round 2

Saturday, April 20, 8:00pm – 1:00am

"The Compound", San Diego, CA

Men's Play Party - There will be Demos!
BONDAGE - IMPACT - SOUNDING - FIRE PLAY - FISTING
(and risk aware sex play, supplies available)
Snacks and refreshments provided.
All proceeds benefit: Doriam's 2019 IML Travel Fund & The Leatehr Realm at San Diego Pride 2019.
Ticket purchase available at: HTTPS://SDBoysWillPlay.EventBrite.com

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Thursday, March 21, 2019

Sunday: Rough Body and Wrestling

"I could just PUNCH SOMETHING"
A Rough Body and Wrestling workshop

Sunday, March 24, 4–6 p.m.

Morley Field (2221 Morley Field Drive San Diego, CA 92104)

==> Meet at the parking lot on Alabama <==
==> Can't find us?  txt (no calls) 619-356-1299 <==

About the class

This class will demonstrate and educate on how to safely, effectively, and properly use your own body for impact plat that reduces long term harm for you and your partners. Face slapping, punching, stomping, and spanking are all featured topics in this hands-on workshop, and with time permitting you'll see a live demo of A Rigger's Waltz, rough body and rope bondage. 

About our presenter

Boy Doriam Chaotic Goodboy (CG), Humanoid (Human, Shapechanger). Language: English, Spanish, Pup. boy Doriam is a homo-sexual, pan-romantic Leatherman who has been engaged as an activist and educator in his local community since 2015. He recently held the title of Mr. San Diego Leather 2018 and is honored to have the chance to travel and share his experience all over! Doriam's play involves the negotiation of scene-based energy exchange to elicit an emotional, primal response from all parties involved. Rough Body and Rope Bondage are boy Doriam's preferred forms of play, and he has been fortunate to travel across the country leading workshops on the topic.





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Thursday, March 14, 2019

Jeremy's Fist Cream Recipe

We've had requests for Jeremy's Fist Cream Recipe used in his and Nate's Fisting workshop 2/24.  Just in time for Leather Pride, it is below.  Thanks, Jeremy!

Jeremy's Fist Cream Recipe


6 oz boiling water
1 rounded tablespoon J-lube powder
1 oz vegetable glycerin
1 oz emulsifying wax (polysorbate 60)
3 oz coconut oil
1/8 teaspoon essential eucalyptus oil
1/8 teaspoon essential lavender oil

Directions:
- Blend water, J-lube, and vegetable glycerin.
- Add wax to above and blend.
- Add coconut oil and essential oils to
above and blend.
- Divide into single use containers and chill.
- Keep chilled until ready for use! www

Recipe Doubled:

12 oz boiling water
2 rounded tablespoons J-lube powder
2 oz vegetable glycerin
2 oz emulsifying wax (polysorbate 60)
6 oz of coconut oil
1/4 teaspoon essential eucalyptus oil
1/4 teaspoon essential lavender oil



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Wednesday, March 13, 2019

San Diego Leather Pride is upon us

San Diego Leather Pride 2019

The five-day festival starts on March 13 with Leather/Fetish Night @ Pictionary hosted by our 2018 emcee, Ms San Diego Leather 2010, Tiger, at Number One on Fifth. Tiger has been fundraising every Wednesday for five years now, with ALL tips and donations going directly back into the community.

The spacious World Beat Center in Balboa Park is our venue again from the following Friday March 15 through Sunday March 17. This has become a favorite venue–it has ample free parking, the WBC is an easy 10-minute ride to the Hillcrest area. You’ll also enjoy the bootblacks, vendors, and special entertainers in the private, tented area connected to the venue.

Check out the schedule for more information on the Friday Leather Pride Flag Raising, All Clubs Night, the Leather Olympics, the Saturday San Diego Bootblack and Leather Contests, and a Sunday Keynote Brunch with Vendor Faire.

Packages available at San Diego Leather Pride site http://sdleatherpride.org

Wednesday, March 13

TIGER’S PICTIONARY LEATHER/FETISH NIGHT

Time: 7:30 pm – 10:00 pm
Location: #1 Fifth Avenue, 3845 Fifth Ave., San Diego, CA 92103
Description: The annual festival starts on March 13 with Leather/Fetish Night @ Pictionary hosted by our 2018 emcee, Ms San Diego Leather 2010, Tiger, at Number One on Fifth. Tiger has been fundraising every Wednesday for five years now, with ALL tips and donations going directly back into the community


Thursday, March 14

CIGAR & WHISKEY SOCIAL @ REDWING

Time: 8:00 pm – 10:00 pm
Location: Redwing Bar & Grill
Description: Join us on the patio of the Redwing in North Park for their weekly Cigar and Whiskey social. Featuring Cigar and whiskey pairings and a your chance to walk away with a basket donated by their liquor sponsors!


Friday, March 15

LEATHER PRIDE FLAG RAISING

Time: 4:00pm – 5:00pm
Location: Hillcrest Pride Flag, corner of University Avenue & Normal Street

MEET & GREET THE JUDGES AND CONTESTANTS

Time: Doors: 6:30 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101
Description: Meet our VIP judges and the 2019 contestants while you enjoy the spacious patio with leather vendors, social area, and bootblack stands!

OPENING CEREMONIES

Time: 7:30 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101
Description: Color Guard, Blessing from the San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence and Contestant Introductions

THE LEATHER OLYMPICS AND ALL CLUBS NIGHT

Time: 8:30 pm – 10:30 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101
Description: Celebrate our “Tribes That Bind” when Sir Karen and Boots host one of the largest All Clubs Nights in Southern California. Over 20 unique clubs are there for you to network with, and to compete in The Leather Olympics where the top three teams chosen by YOU by vote will win prizes and bragging rights for the year. (Contact SDAllClubsNight@gmail.com for more information.)

CONTEST EVENTS

Tech Boot8:30 pm – 9:15 pm
taking place inside WBC. This is a timed and judged event for the bootblack contestants where they have 40 minutes to revitalize and high-shine a sad boot into glory!
Open Shine9:30 pm – 11:00 pm
on the patio. Bootblack contestants take the stands to showcase their skills in caring for your leather and fetishwear boots & garments. Sign up early with the stand coordinator, San Francisco Bootblack 2019 Allison. This is a judged category.

ENERGY PLAY PARTIES

DESIRE: Women and GQ, trans-inclusive event.
SAFEWORD – TRICK: Play party for male-identified people.



Saturday, March 16

DOORS OPEN TO THE PUBLIC

Time: 9:30 am
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101

CONTESTANT INTERVIEWS — OPEN TO PUBLIC

Time: 9:45am – 10:30 – Bootblacks; 10:30am – 12pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center

BOOTBLACK STANDS OPEN

Time: 11:00 am – Midnight
Location: World Beat Center Patio
Description: Sit for some of our local and visiting bootblacks to get your gear looking its best. We probably don’t have to remind you but don’t forget to tip your bootblacks!

WORKSHOPS

Time: 12:00 pm – 6:00 pm
12 – 2: Meanings, uses and misuses of pain
12 – 2: Rough body and impact play
2 – 4: PoC Caucus
2 – 4: Erotic Shaving
4 – 6: Cigar Service & Play

SAN DIEGO BOOTBLACK AND LEATHER 2019 CONTESTS


Time: 7:30 pm – 9:30 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101
Description: San Diego Bootblack, Ms San Diego Leather 2019 and the Mr San Diego Leather 2019 Contests with bootblacks and servers who will attend to your desires while you enjoy the array of contestants who have LOTS to show you this year. The fourth San Diego Bootblack and the 25th and 37th Ms and Mr San Diego Leather will be chosen by a panel of esteemed and titled community members!
$30 General Admission

TALLY HO!

Time: 9:30 pm – 10:00 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101
Description: Enjoy drink specials, finger foods, and enjoy the tented shopping pavilion as we tally the numbers.

ANNOUNCEMENT OF WINNERS & PHOTOS

Time: No Later Than 10:30 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101

AFTERGLOW PARTY

Time: 10:45 pm – ??
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101

UNOFFICIAL AFTER PARTY AT THE SAN DIEGO EAGLE

Location: 3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA 92104 www.sandiegoeagle.com


Sunday, March 17

VICTORY BRUNCH WITH KEYNOTE SPEAKER AND VENDOR FAIRE

Time: 11:00 am – 1:00 pm
Location: World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92101
$30 General Admission
Description: Sunday is your best opportunity to get those leather gifts at the leather vendor faire in the huge social pavilion, while we host a catered victory brunch with keynote speaker inside the WBC. It is also our time to pay tribute (or roast!) our outgoing titleholders. Bootblacks will be available and the Leather History Project will have exhibits up for the last day.



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Thursday, March 7, 2019

This week!



FetishMen SanDiego event

Potluck Picnic at the Eagle this Sunday, March 10, 3-6pm

Because of the weather forecast and rain we've had today, the "Picnic in the Park" has relocated to the San Diego Eagle. Please support the venue and leave your beverages at home. There are plenty of tables for potluck items. Feeling full after stuffing your face? Maybe a flogging is what you need to settle the food and make room for desert.


Other leather events

The Leather Boys, Swap Meat and Harness all happen on the same day at Mo’s, this Saturday, March 9:

Description:

4-6pm:  Leather Boys of San Diego: SOLD!  

Join the Leather Boys of San Diego at Mo’s Bar and Grill for an evening of auctions, raffles, and fun! Come bid on the boys’ goods and services! Jell-O shots and slingers abound! Then stick around for Swap Meat after SOLD! See you there!

6-9pm:  SWAP MEAT

Hey Kinksters, Time to clean out your closets before San Diego Leather Pride and make a few bucks on your used gear that might need a new dungeon. Buy/Sell/Trade your gear and meet others to connect over fetishes, toys & gear in real time off the apps. or introduce new curious guys to your turn-ons. We will have a pup mosh pit and flogging demo. Demos welcome (w approval) Feel free to forward this to any groups/blogs or peeps that you know would be interested. Sat. March 9 6-9pm Free to enter, $5 donation to sell. More Info: 619-352-0666.

SWAP MEAT is San Diego’s bimonthly social event for all kink backgrounds to meet and connect over our fetishes, toys & gear. Our event takes place in Mo’s semi-private dance floor for an intimate setting outside the apps and back into real time cruising. We’ve had the pleasure in the past to have the talents of Red Bootblack, custom harnesses by Anthony Rollar Greika, Detoxxx Custom Leather, rope demos, masks/hoods by Jose Santoyo and Full leather custom suits by Ryder-Gear.com and more.

10pm-2am:  HARNESS - Puppy Play Party

Dress Code Private Party DJ Eli - Puppy Play spaces - Hot GoGos - Lube Wrestling for Prizes $5 cover after 10pm - Late night Happy Hour 10pm


San Diego Leather Pride 2019

March 13-17 (Wednesday - Sunday)

Leather Pride Weekend (3rd weekend in March)

The five-day festival starts on March 13 with Leather/Fetish Night @ Pictionary hosted by our 2018 emcee, Ms San Diego Leather 2010, Tiger, at Number One on Fifth. Tiger has been fundraising every Wednesday for five years now, with ALL tips and donations going directly back into the community.

The spacious World Beat Center in Balboa Park is our venue again from the following Friday March 15 through Sunday March 17. This has become a favorite venue–it has ample free parking, the WBC is an easy 10-minute ride to the Hillcrest area. You’ll also enjoy the bootblacks, vendors, and special entertainers in the private, tented area connected to the venue.

Check out the schedule for more information on the Friday Leather Pride Flag Raising, All Clubs Night, the Leather Olympics, the Saturday San Diego Bootblack and Leather Contests, and a Sunday Keynote Brunch with Vendor Faire.

Packages available at San Diego Leather Pride site http://sdleatherpride.org


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Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Fisting this Sunday 3-5pm

FMSD presents Fisting 2/24

February 24 (4th Sunday = skills topic) 3-5pm

Reaching for the heart is no easy task!

But our presenters Jeremy & Nathan can help you achieve that.  

They will be showing the dos and don'ts of Fisting properly.

Bring a notepad, a pen, an open mind and any questions you've been wanting to ask.

Interested parties drop a line to SignMeUpForEvent@GMail.com

About our presenter Jeremy:


Jeremy has been a self identified kink enthusiast since his early twentie
s and an active member of the Leather & Kink community for 15 years. As a former Mr. Bolt Sacramento Leather Title-Holder, his love of service sparked a desire to broaden his kinky talents. Today he maintains active membership in the Delta Leather Brotherhood, Club X San Diego, and is a recurring member of the planning committee for The Leather Realm at San Diego Pride.

Jeremy's desire for connectedness and service drew him to seek membership in House Andor. In House Andor he proudly shares in service work with and his Leather Brothers and Sisters and enjoys helping and teaching in the greater pansexual Kink community.

While Jeremy's kink interests range from bondage, to sharp shiny objects (needles), to impact play, and watersports, his passion for Fisting remains his favorite. Jeremy has studied fisting form, safety standards, and fisting etiquette as an active participant in Fisting events across the country and enjoys "giving a hand" to teach and share what he has learned. He hosts a local fisting social & play group and is open to help with "hole training".

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Sunday, February 10, 2019

Social today (correction: no food)

FetishMen SanDiego social today!

#1 Fifth Avenue

3845 5th Avenue, San Diego, CA  92103
Today, Sunday, February 10
6-8pm


Come binge on amazing drinks and great conversations with friends.  Join your FetishMen SanDiego brothers and hang out at #1 Fifth Avenue.



Friday, February 8, 2019

Social 2/10; Fetish Ball 2/16, Fisting 2/24...

FetishMen SanDiego social this Sunday

#1 Fifth Avenue

3845 5th Avenue, San Diego, CA  92103
This Sunday, February 10
6-8pm


Come binge on delicious food, amazing drinks, and great conversations with friends.  Join your FetishMen SanDiego brothers and hang out again this coming Sunday, February 10th 6-8pm, at #1 Fifth Avenue.

We had a great time at the last Gear Invasion at Hillcrest Brewing Company. (Photo below.)

Photo courtesy Papa Tony


Leather Fetish Ball 2019

February 16, 7:00 PM – midnight

(Not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there.)

Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL 
Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014 

Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities. 

$24 for General Admission Tickets 
$40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )

Call for Volunteers

The Leather Fetish Ball could use 8 volunteers.

There are 8 volunteer tickets to the Leather Fetish Ball next weekend. 
Would anyone like to help us?e-mail DoriamFMSD@gmail.com

FMSD presents Fisting 2/24

February 24 (4th Sunday = skills topic) 3-5pm

Reaching for the heart is no easy task!

But our presenters Jeremy & Nathan can help you achieve that.  

They will be showing the dos and don'ts of Fisting properly.

Bring a notepad, a pen, an open mind and any questions you've been wanting to ask.

Interested parties drop a line to SignMeUpForEvent@GMail.com

March

March 3 (1st Sunday = planning meeting) 5-7pm

Planning meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

March 10 (2nd Sunday = social) 2-5pm

FMSD presents Picnic in the Park

Join your leather brothers March 10 at 6th Avenue at Laurel under the giant tree from 2-5pm.

March 15 (Friday) 10pm-3am

SafeWord

10pm-3am after San Diego Leather Pride event (see below).

March 13-17 (Wednesday - Sunday)

San Diego Leather Pride 2019

San Diego Leather Pride 

Leather Pride Weekend — THIRD WEEKEND IN MARCH

The five-day festival starts on March 13 with Leather/Fetish Night @ Pictionary hosted by our 2018 emcee, Ms San Diego Leather 2010, Tiger, at Number One on Fifth. Tiger has been fundraising every Wednesday for five years now, with ALL tips and donations going directly back into the community.

The spacious World Beat Center in Balboa Park is our venue again from the following Friday March 15 through Sunday March 17. This has become a favorite venue–it has ample free parking, the WBC is an easy 10-minute ride to the Hillcrest area. You’ll also enjoy the bootblacks, vendors, and special entertainers in the private, tented area connected to the venue.

Check out the schedule for more information on the Friday Leather Pride Flag Raising, All Clubs Night, the Leather Olympics, the Saturday San Diego Bootblack and Leather Contests, and a Sunday Keynote Brunch with Vendor Faire.

March 24 (4th Sunday = skills topic) 4-6pm

FMSD presents Cock & ball torment "CBT" by Officer Wes 4-6pm.  Location tbd.

There's nothing quite like the connection between men when one is working over the other guy's nuts.  Join us at this sexy, intimate gathering.  There will be nudity.

April

April 7 (1st Sunday = planning meeting) 5-7pm

Planning meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

April 14 (2nd Sunday = social)

Details tbd

April 28 (4th Sunday = skills topic) 4-6pm

FMSD presents electrical by Officer Wes, 4-6pm.  Location tbd.

Officer Wes has presented erotic electrical and high-end electrical at events across the country for 25 years.  Join us as he shares one of his kink passions.  There will be nudity.

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Sunday, February 3, 2019

FMSD Planning Group Meeting - 4PM, Sun 03 Feb 2019

TIME CHANGED TO 4PM to accommodate Leather boys of San Diego changing their meeting time to 3pm and Doriam's birthday celebration at The Hole in the Wall at 4pm
Join us for the FMSD Planning Group Meeting *UPSTAIRS* at Lestat's on University (grab the goatee on the sarcophagus in the front right corner of the shop), Super Sports Ball Sunday, 03 Feb 2019, 4-5pm
Have an idea, request or venue suggestions for FMSD to have a workshop, demo, discussion, or social? Share it with your brothers in leather.
Are you going to The Hole In The Wall for Doriam's birthday celebration? No problem, send us an email with your suggestions. FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

Friday, February 1, 2019

FMSD Planning Group Meeting - Sun 03 Feb 2019

TIME CHANGED TO 4PM to accommodate Leather boys of San Diego changing their meeting time to 3pm and Doriam's birthday celebration at The Hole in the Wall at 4pm

Join us for the FMSD Planning Group Meeting *UPSTAIRS* at Lestat's on University (grab the goatee on the sarcophagus in the front right corner of the shop), Super Sports Ball Sunday, 03 Feb 2019, 4-5pm

Have an idea, request or venue suggestions for FMSD to have a workshop, demo, discussion, or social? Share it with your brothers in leather.

Are you going to The Hole In The Wall for Doriam's birthday celebration? No problem, send us an email with your suggestions. FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com


Monday, January 28, 2019

Huge New Resource: The Kink Mentoring Archive

From Papa Tony:

Back in December 2018, Tumblr went kablooey.  It didn't just take down porn blogs.  It also took down many blogs written by wise, kind and deeply experienced kinky folks.

Using special tools, I have been digging through the wreckage to find the treasures that have proven to be so valuable for so many.  I have been curating the collection: gathering articles together, re-formatting them for clarity and re-posting them in a safe space:

The Kink Mentoring Archives



As of January 28, there are 534 articles, instructional videos and audio recordings, and many more are on the way, in categories such as:

Submissives, Slaves & Littles - Looking for mentoring? Here are massive amounts of relatable advice. Scroll through the whole thing.

Doms, Daddies & Masters - Many, MANY mentoring, opinion and advice articles, meant to help dominants to reach their next level, and beyond.

Advice & Soft Skills - Learn solid interpersonal skills, and to overcome obstacles in healthy ways

Opinions - Sharing some ideas that might work well for others

How-To: Hard Skills - Covering technical skills that will last you a lifetime

Consent - Consent is one of the biggest themes of BDSM—if you don’t know that, you really need to read up before you pick up a paddle. BDSM is built on a system of “safe, sane, and consensual.“

Dating and Relationships - Personal stories and advice, from those who have lived and learned.

Social Skills, Etiquette and Fitting In - How to succeed in the larger kinky community, and as a self-loving kinky person. You are NOT going to find this kind of information anywhere else.

Sub Drop, Dom Drop and Aftercare - Let’s understand the psychology and physiology of how Doms and subs may similarly experience a “drop” after a session!

Books for Kinky Folks - Recommended reading material, to help in gaining wisdom and personal growth.

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation - BDSM Play Partner Check List • Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations • If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist • What Are Negotiations Good For?

Valuable Links & Lists - Providing access to many more resources

Mental Health, for Kinky Folks - MANY resources and useful life-experiences.

Reviews and Toys - How to save money, time and wasted energy when shopping for kinky gear.



Thousands of folks all over the world have discovered this massive library, and are gaining wisdom from it.  There is a good chance that what you will find there will save you a LOT of guessing on your own!

Please help to spread the word!

Friday, January 25, 2019

Safe Word - Glory! TOMORROW!



Mr. San Diego Leather 2018, Doriam Couto, Presents:

SAFE WORD


Over the past several years working with Fetish Men San Diego, Doriam has had several requests for play parties for folks who identify as male. Thus far we've helped produce a handful, and now: Safe Word - Glory!

On Saturday, January 26 from 9:00pm to 2:00, you'd better know your Safe Word, at this Male-Only Play Party. The Party will be hosted at House of Black in Miramar, San Diego, CA near Ballast Point Brewery. This is a private indoor venue with a smoking patio and seven rooms for play (photos below). The exact address will be provided with will-call.

Tickets are $20 each via BrownPaperTickets, a secure ticketing website which produces a physical or electronic ticket at your discretion. When registering for your ticket this way, please include your First and Last name for the door list as well as a valid Email Address for any producer messages we may send out.

What You'll See:
The Main Dungeon is equipped with Two St. Andrew's
Crosses, a Sling, Cage and Massage Cage.

Your all-inclusive ticket covers cost of admission, food, drink, and use of the venue the night of January 26, 2019 from the kick off of the party until the close. This event is for all levels of players and all kinks/fetishes. Some things you might see include: 
  • Bondage
  • Flogging/Whips
  • Rope Play
  • Puppy and Pet Play
  • Suspension
  • Piss Play and Fisting
  • Sex
  • etc.

Dress Code:

Dress Code for the event is best described as "Where what makes you feel sexy". Leather, fetish gear, uniforms*, pup gear, and nudity are all welcome and encouraged! But if you don't have any, solid t-shirt and jeans with boots is more than welcome! Don't have that either? Wear whatever you like.

Clothes check WILL be available.

Note: Please be aware that there may be folks in boots in the dungeon space, as such I recommend close-toed shoes.


ALL INCLUSIVE

For only $20 Dollars you have full-access to:
  • Dungeon Space
  • Play Demos
  • Kink and Fetish Performances
  • Themed Dungeon Rooms and Equipment
  • Snack Foods and Drink Provided
  • Donations only bar
  • Shower w/ cleaning equipment**
The Party will be held on Saturday, January 26, 2019 from 9:00pm to 2:00am Doors will close at 12:00AM sharp! House of Black is located in Miramar, between the 805 and 15 freeways near Ballast Point Brewery. The Venue is a 3000 sq.ft. fully-equipped dungeon facility with 7 rooms for attendees to play in. Exact address will be provided with in the weeks preceding the event; please use a valid email address when registering.

You are encouraged to bring snacks, if you'd like to bring something to share with the attendees (drinks, food, etc.) please notify me.

Interested in Volunteering or have questions? Email MisterSDL2018@GMail.com.

Resource Links:

Facebook Event Link
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* Nazi and German-Style uniforms are discouraged.
** Please be prepared ahead of time, these should only be used for spot checking as needed.

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Saturday, Sunday; upcoming

Gear Invasion II

Hillcrest Brewing Company (outside, good for leather)
1458 University

This Sunday, January 27
6-8pm


We had a great time at the last Gear Invasion at Hillcrest Brewing Company.  Come join your FetishMen SanDiego brothers and hang out again this Sunday, January 27, 6-8pm.

Upcoming 

January

January 26 (Saturday)

SafeWord Glory (not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there)

https://safewordglory.brownpapertickets.com

SAFE WORD - GLORY 

SAFE WORD is a men's party at House of Black hosted by the current Mr. San Diego Leather, Doriam. This event will be taking place in a private, indoor venue in the Miramar/Mira Mesa area of San Diego. 

Your All-Inclusive ticket to SAFE WORD includes access to the Dungeon space, play demos, kink and fetish performances, and access to the Labyrinth, a dark room themed on Steamworks Chicago! 

Regular Price tickets are $20/each this time around! Bring cash for donations for our on site bar. 

Ticket costs go to fund the space, provide snacks and drinks, and any excess will be partially donated to #SDLP2019. 

Clothes check available. Leather, nudity, and fetish gear encouraged! Wear what makes you feel sexy! 

Themed Playrooms, and Showers available. More information coming soon. But if you know me at all. It's gonna be extra.

January 27 (4th Sunday)

4th Sunday is normally a skill topic but we're doing Gear Invasion II this month (see top)

February

February 6 (1st Sunday)

Core Committee meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

February 16 (not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there)

Leather Fetish Ball 2019, 7:00 PM – midnight

Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL 
Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014 

Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities. 

$24 for General Admission Tickets 
$40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )

February 24 (4th Sunday)

Skill topic:  Fisting 3-5pm

March

March 3 (1st Sunday)

Core Committee meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

March 10 (2nd Sunday = social)

Jamie & Jody’s for potluck 6-8

March 15 (Friday)

SafeWord 10pm-3am after San Diego Leather Pride event

March 24 (4th Sunday = skill topic)

Cock & ball torment / "CBT"

April

April 7 (1st Sunday)

Core Committee meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

April 14 (2nd Sunday = social)

Details tbd

April 28 (4th Sunday = skill topic)

Officer Wes presents electrical, 6-8pm


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Friday, January 11, 2019

Upcoming socials and skill topics


Gear Invasion 

Hillcrest Brewing Co (outside, good for leather)1458 University

This Sunday, January 13
6-8pm



Upcoming 

January

2nd Sunday = January 13, social:  Gear Invasion (see top) 6-8pm

1/26 Saturday -- SafeWord Glory (not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there)

4th Sunday = January 27, -- skill topic:  topic tba @ Doriam’s

February

1st Sunday = February 6, Core Committee meeting at Lestat's on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

2/16/2019 Leather Fetish Ball 2019, 7:00 PM – midnight
Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL
Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/leather-fetish-ball-2019-tickets-54199888325
Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities . $24 for General Admission Tickets $40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )

4th Sunday = February 24, skill topic:  Fisting 3-5pm

March

1st Sunday = March 3, Core Committee meeting at Lestat's on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

2nd Sunday = March 10, social:  Jamie & Jody’s for potluck 6-8

March 15 Friday -- SafeWord 10pm-3am after San Diego Leather Pride event

4th Sunday = March 24, skill topic:   Cock & ball torment / "CBT"

April

1st Sunday = April 7, Core Committee meeting at Lestat's on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

2nd Sunday = April 14, social:  details tbd

4th Sunday = April 28, skill topic:  Officer Wes presents electrical, 6-8pm


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Saturday, January 5, 2019

FMSD's Perpetual Calendar of Events

FMSD's Perpetual Calendar of Events

As Papa Tony noted on our Facebook page:

The big annual events on the FMSD calendar have been updated:
https://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/…/fmsds-perpetual-ca…

The only dates that are possibly incorrect are the Up Your Alley Street Fair (late July) and the Folsom Street Fair (late September).

A suggestion: If you are planning to attend these major out-of-town events such as the International Mr. Leather Contest in Chicago, NOW would be the time to start planning for lodging, travel and event tickets.

You can also subscribe to the FMSD calendar, so that these events show up on the calendar of your your portable device or computer, and will update within seconds if changes are made on this end.

Friday, January 4, 2019

This weekend & beyond

Welcome to 2019!


Saturday January 5:

Cigars & Boots

Saturday, January 5, 4:00 – 7:00pm @ PECS Bar

Whore D'eouvres: Preshow Cocktail Social

Saturday, January 5, 4:30 – 5:30pm @ The Merrow
1271 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92103

Join us for WHORE D'EOUVRES the pre-show social for Night of Fantasies! The Merrow has been gracious to host our event this year for it's Inaugural Production, and we want to make sure attendees are enjoying themselves the day-of! 

Your bootblacks for this event will be: San Diego Bootblack 2018, Shilo Vix and Bootpup Alexander! 
** Suggested minimum donation of $10 for standard height boots

A Night of Fantasies: A Kinky Cabaret

Saturday, January 5, 5:30 – 7:20pm @ The Merrow 

Welcome to A Night of Fantasies The inaugural kinky cabaret fund-raiser 

Night of Fantasies (NoF) is a one night only cabaret style fund raiser event. We kick off at 4:30 with whore d'eouvres, the pre-show cocktail hour and the show opens at 5:30! 

The funds raised will be split 50/50 between San Diego Leather Pride 2019 and a charitable organization chosen by the performers and volunteer staff of A Night of Fantasies! 

Priority Seating will be given to attendees who pre-purchase tickets, door tickets available as space allows.


Sunday January 6:

FMSD Core Committee meeting at PECS, 5-7pm

(It's on the first Sunday each month.)
All are welcome.

Upcoming

  • 1/5 Cigars & Boots (not specifically FMSD) 4-7pm at PECS
  • Also 1/5:
    Whore D'eouvres: Preshow Cocktail Social at 4:30pm, &
    A Night of Fantasies: A Kinky Cabaret at 5:30pm.
     More information above.
  • 1/6/2019 FMSD Core Committee meeting at PECS
  • 1/26/2019 SafeWord (not specifically FMSD but full of our guys)
  • 2/2019 Fisting workshop
  • 2/16/2019 Leather Fetish Ball 2019, 7:00 PM – midnight
    Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL
    Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014
    https://www.eventbrite.com/e/leather-fetish-ball-2019-tickets-54199888325

    Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities . $24 for General Admission Tickets $40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )
  • 3/2019 Mr. Eagle + San Diego Leather Pride

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