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Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Anniversaries, Fund Raisers and Community




Table of Contents

I. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!
II. News-ception (News within the News)
V. Upcoming Community Events
VI. From ME to YOU

I. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!




All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle
Friday, November 17 to Sunday, November 19th
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

Description: Join us starting on Friday, November 17 at 9:00pm at our cities' last remaining Leather Bar -- The Eagle. Fifteen years since The Eagle opened its doors, and we are now coming together to celebrate our community as a whole! Join our brothers and sisters in leather and kink for a weekend full of demos, fetish wear and community.

Friday evening, many of our instructors and members of our leadership team will be available and demonstrating their favorite kink-based skills! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn!

Saturday, some of us will be at the Eagle again with more demos, but at 10:00pm we will stop and stand in unity with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for their blessing to our community; if you are seeking tribal energy, seeking unity and connection - you don't want to miss this.

Lastly, on Sunday, join us for the Eagle Bus Trip to Palm Springs! This is a great day-long adventure with our brothers. Purchase your ticket at the Eagle during or before All Clubs Weekend!


II. News-Ception (The Newsletter within the Newsletter)

This is a little different than my usual From ME to YOU, as this one is a reflection/projection.

Did you know... [My FMSDversary]

My first year as a part of the FMSD Leadership Team has been focused on establishing a firm floor
for us to build upon. A lot of the hurdles this year have been finding venues, becoming visible, and really getting to know You, the membership, and how best I can support your dreams. since December 2016, we have gone from a single discussion night to 3 monthly events, including two Workshops/Discussions, and a demo night at the San Diego Eagle. This does not include our introduction workshops, parties, or cross-over events!

We are now approaching a period in which we can do MORE! We can host a broader spectrum of workshops and events; we have become visible enough that organizations and clubs have begun reaching out to do things with us, venues that had previous said "no, thank you," are now offering their services! Now, to take advantage of those things, we need to do some fund raising.

So here's the deal... [Fund Raising Venture]

At many of our events, we ask for a small donation (usually $5) - however, we do not turn anyone away for not being able to donate! People have asked where this money goes, the answer is: it goes back into the club, it goes in to venue rentals, food and drink, it goes to purchasing supplies and equipment, it goes to giving back to the members in any way we can.

We are still looking for more fund raising ideas, but have settled on a few that we think are great, and we would like to be able to give back to our community in 2018! Our goal is to find a common organization that the membership would like to support and begin donating a portion of our proceeds to that organization!

The first fund raiser we'll be putting on to achieve this is the "Men of FMSD" Calendar! A celebration of the things that make us SPECIAL!

Yes, we know, it's a little on the cliche side. However, we find that there is a strength in men willing to step out of their comfort zone and represent themselves in front of a camera. We are playing with themes, and would love to hear which you might find the most interesting! That list can be found at the bottom of this email.

What I'm saying is... [Men of FMSD]

We are asking you to consider representing yourself as a Man of FMSD. We want men from all walks of life, all ages, all body types and fetishes, men who are submissive, men who are dominant, men who like to fuck, men who like to throw a single tail, men who like the things they like and are unapologetic about that. We want YOU to represent YOU.

If you are interested in being a part of this project, please email me (DoriamFMSD@GMail.com) or Scott (FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com)! We are also looking for additional photographers for this project and future events, to assist the Archivist Team (Papa Tony currently leading) in capturing our History!

For the future... [My Promise for Year 2]


Year 2 will be my Year of Service to the members, to my brothers. If I have learned only one thing this year, it is that I have a heart of service dedicated to supporting others, watching them grow as I continue to do so myself. I would love to see and support many of you as grow in to your own power and most confident selves. I hope that you will open your heart to me, and in return I will open mine to you. Join hands with me as we continue build this community together!

V. Upcoming Community Events


San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!

Saturday, November 18
6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, treasure hunting excitement, all with a pirate theme! Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!


Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!

FMSD Discussion - Gratitude & Service Social
Sunday, November 26, 2017
5PM to 8PM

Location: Hillcrest Workshop (Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for Address)
Cost: Free to attend, donations to FMSD are welcomed!
Description: The Holidays are a time for us to get together and support one another for all that we do. Many men do not have a place or a family with whom to share the holidays with, and we would like to provide a place where we can all come together and share in each others energy. This is a Dinner Social and we hope that everyone attending be willing to bring a dish (Meats, Salads, Soups, Breads, Desserts, etc.) to share. We hope men will share their stories and build friendships and that we can all sit together for a meal.


FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!



GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com


Yours Truly, 
In Service,
Doriam C

Monday, November 6, 2017

Health, Bondage and MEAT

Table of Contents

I. Club X - XMen Academy - Men's Health
II. Fox & Friends - Swap Meat!
III. Bedroom Bondage Workshop
IV. All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle
V. Upcoming Community Events
VI. From ME to YOU

I. Club X - XMen Academy - Men's Health w/Nathan Kendrick

Thursday, November 9, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Location: Pleasures & Treasures
Cost: Free to Club X members, $5 for non-members
Description: Out health is not something we discuss nearly enough in our line of play, whether it be kink-related or fetish-oriented; however, it is something that is undeniably important for us in order to keep doing the things we love! Join us this Thursday at Pleasures & Treasures, and bring your general health questions, as Nathan will be answering whatever questions you may have regarding general Men's Health!



II. Fox & Fiends - Swap Meat!


Saturday, November 11, 2017
6PM to 8PM
Location: Urban Mo's
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

"Come for the swap, stay for the MEAT."

Description: Join us this weekend at Urban Mo's in Hillcrest for Fox & Fiends leather swap meat! This is a great place to bring your old, used or outgrown leathers, toys and gear in order to pass them on to another of our brothers or sisters. With the holidays just around the corner, this is also ample opportunity to pick-up gifts for yourself and others!

Selling of gear is welcomed, and Urban Mo's will be providing tables for vendors to set up during the event! Demoing is also welcomed and encouraged, please respect the venue and the belongings of each individual vendor. Contact the hosts by following the information line in the flier above!

III. FMSD Workshop - Bedroom Bondage

Sunday, November 12, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: Hillcrest workshop, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: $5 Requested donation on-site or via PayPal.com/FMSanDiego

Howdy Gents! It's my turn to teach a workshop from the ground up, and this time I will be teaching a skill near and dear to my heart: Bondage! This workshop will cover several types of bondage, including what I've become known for (Shibari/Rope) and some forms of bondage I don't get to show nearly as much to the general public! Before the class, please familiarize yourself with the knot demonstrated in this video, HERE as it will be the primary knot we will be using during the rope bondage section of this class.

"Wait. Did you say SECTION?" -- Why yes, floating head! I did!

This workshop will be divided into parts, including quick and effective rope bondage used to, well, tie your partner down! In addition to the rope section, I will be covering introducing you on how to use less formal objects to bind your partner down in a bedroom or at-home setting for "extra-curricular activities."

You do not NEED to come partnered to this workshopIf you have someone you'd like to play with at this workshop, please invite them, otherwise we will do our best to get hands-on time for everyone!

From Doriam:
I will need 3 Demo Bottoms for this workshop. All demo bottoms will be asked to arrive by 2pm or meet with me prior to the workshop to practice/prepare/plan for the workshop. Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for details.

All Attendees: You are welcome to bring any toys (dildos, butt plugs, gags, cuffs, etc) you'd like to see used. If you have rope, please bring it. If you have folding chairs, please contact Doriam.

Bondage (Givers): Please bring a tie (like you'd wear with a collared shirt), a belt, and a pillow case with you. Please bring one mundane object you'd like to see used for bondage purposes.

Bondage (Receiver): Please bring condoms and lube. You may decide you'd like to try using one of the toys present for the workshop, and to mitigate risk we ask that bottoms provide their own condoms/lube.

IV. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!


All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle
Friday, November 17 to Sunday, November 19th
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

Description: Join us starting on Friday, November 17 at 9:00pm at our cities' last remaining Leather Bar -- The Eagle. Fifteen years since The Eagle opened its doors, and we are now coming together to celebrate our community as a whole! Join our brothers and sisters in leather and kink for a weekend full of demos, fetish wear and community.

Friday evening, many of our instructors and members of our leadership team will be available and demonstrating their favorite kink-based skills! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn!

Saturday, some of us will be at the Eagle again with more demos, but at 10:00pm we will stop and stand in unity with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for their blessing to our community; if you are seeking tribal energy, seeking unity and connection - you don't want to miss this.

Lastly, on Sunday, join us for the Eagle Bus Trip to Palm Springs! This is a great day-long adventure with our brothers. Purchase your ticket at the Eagle during or before All Clubs Weekend!


V. Upcoming Community Events

San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!
Saturday, November 18
6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, treasure hunting excitement, all with a pirate theme! Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!



Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!


FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com


VI. From ME to YOU

With the holidays around the corner, it is a time for us to reflect on the things that make us all thankful and grateful! I look forward to seeing many of you over the next few weeks for several of the events we have coming up, we are hoping to put something together during the Thanksgiving Weekend if we can manage it, so keep tuned!

I do want to share one thing that I personally am thankful for, and it's the continued love and support I get from you all. I could and would not be running FMSD if it wasn't for all of you. It is your dedication to our continued growth that keeps me motivated and wanting to provide more and more. My first FMSD meeting was November 16, 2016 and the first meeting I led was the following month on December 20th! It feels like no time has passed between now and then, but coming up on my one year of leadership has made me reflect on what WE have achieved together; and I value each of you for what you have done to help get us here.

If you haven't already, take a moment and look at our Volunteer Program. Our leadership team is still hoping to bring at least a few of you with us next year to Up Your Alley; but we can't do it without volunteers! Here is a link for your convenience: Volunteer Program

Until next week, gents!

In Service,
Doriam C

Saturday, November 4, 2017

Gratitude, Community and Bond[age]s

Table of Contents

I. Fox & Friends - Swap Meat!
II. All Clubs Night at The Eagle
III. Bedroom Bondage workshop
IV. Upcoming Community Events
V. From ME to YOU

I. Fox & Fiends - Swap Meat!

Saturday, November 11, 2017
6PM to 8PM
Location: Urban Mo's

"Come for the swap, stay for the MEAT."


CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: Join us next weekend at Urban Mo's in Hillcrest for Fox & Fiends leather swap meat! This is a great place to bring your old, used or outgrown leathers, toys and gear in order to pass them to another of our brothers or sisters. With the holidays just around the corner, this is also ample opportunity to pick-up gifts for yourself and others!

Selling of gear is welcomed, and Urban Mo's will be providing tables for vendors to set up during the event! Demoing is welcome and encouraged (please refer to each vendor individually), please respect the venue. Contact the hosts by following the information line in the flier above!

See you there, Brothers!


II. FMSD Workshop - Bedroom Bondage


Sunday, November 12, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: Hillcrest workshop, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: $5 Requested donation on-site or via PayPal.com/FMSanDiego
Description: This workshop will go over using the mundane objects in your home and bedroom for bondage purposes. Attendees are encouraged to bring pillow cases, ties, belts, or any everyday objects lying around on their nightstands.

III. San Diego Eagle's 15th Anniversary!


All Clubs Weekend at The Eagle

Friday, November 17 to Sunday, November 19th
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free

Description: Join us starting on Friday, November 17 at 9:00pm at our cities' last remaining Leather Bar -- The Eagle. Fifteen years since The Eagle opened its doors, and we are now coming together to celebrate our community as a whole! Join our brothers and sisters in leather and kink for a weekend full of demos, fetish wear and community.

Friday evening, many of our instructors and members of our leadership team will be available and demonstrating their favorite kink-based skills! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn!

Saturday, some of us will be at the Eagle again with more demos, but at 10:00pm we will stop and stand in unity with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for their blessing to our community; if you are seeking tribal energy, seeking unity and connection - you don't want to miss this.

Lastly, on Sunday, join us for the Eagle Bus Trip to Palm Springs! This is a great day-long adventure with our brothers. Purchase your ticket at the Eagle during or before All Clubs Weekend!


III. Upcoming Community Events

Cigars & Boots, Leather Social

Saturday, November 4th
4PM to 7PM
Location: The Redwing
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: Cigars and Boots is San Diego's very own leather and ash social hosted by California Drummer at The Redwing in North Park. Come on out and join our brothers and sisters starting at 4PM, and be sure to support our local attending Bootblacks!

San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
See description for times
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!
Saturday, November 18

6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, water boarding excitement, all with a pirate theme! Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!

Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!


FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

V. From ME to YOU

Hi Gents! Thank you for the responses I've received so far about where you're reading from! If you haven't let me know where YOU'RE from and how we can better serve YOU, please take a moment and email me at DoriamFMSD@GMail.com. Even if you are part of our central San Diego group, let me know what part of the town we're reaching you in!

Also, because it bears repeating, I'd also like to take a moment and thank all of you who've reached out in regards to teaching, being mentors, attending events with new folk, etc. Without you, I don't think I would have the mental faculties to make everything work! If you're interested in giving back to your brothers, check out our new Volunteer Program and see what we're doing to give back!

Until next week, gents!

In Service,
Doriam C


Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Happy Howl-Oween!

Happy Howl-Oween Gents!

This post is just to wish you all a happy and safe Halloween! Keep posted for an update on events and workshops coming up! For now, don't forget that Gear Invasion is tomorrow at the Ken Theatre in Kensington!

Happy Halloween! Let us know about your Tricks & Treats in the blog comments or on our Facebook Group and Like Page!

Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland


Come and Join the Fun on November 1st, at The Historic Landmark Ken Theater for the Film based on the Life of Tom of Finland! Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution.

Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Dome Karukoski’s stirring biopic follows his life from the trenches of WWII and repressive Finnish society of the 1950s through his struggle to get his work published in California, where he and his art were finally embraced amid the sexual revolution of the 1970s. Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

Make sure to be at the Historic San Diego Ken Cinema to come together with our brothers and sisters in leather, for a night of rejoice and pride in Who We Are. There will be a raffle in support of the Leather Foundation* during this event, so please help by giving back where you can!

*The Leather Foundation is a 501c3 that helps those in need here in San Diego, and also provides condoms and lube for safer sex practices for social events.

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Show & Tell, This Saturday!

Table of Contents

I. Fetish Show & Tell
II. Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland
III. Upcoming Community Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Fetish Show & Tell - Saturday, 10/28

Saturday, October 28, 2017
5:00PM to 8:00PM
Location: Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Donations to FMSD are welcome, otherwise Free!

Join us for Fetish Show & Tell, the first reincarnation of the Fetish Men San Diego discussion group. This early evening discussion will give those of us sticking around during Palms Springs Leather Pride weekend a chance to catch up and talk about our commonalities - the things that turn us on!

Discussion will be lead by Brothers Brett and Brian, and will give each person the opportunity to talk about the thing that turns them on. From cigars and fire, to role play, leather and water sports, this is an open table discussion for you to talk about that special something that does it for you! If you are so inclined, bring something to show the group that represents your fetish, and bring a friend to introduce them to FMSD. The more the merrier!

If there is enough interest, members are welcome to bring food to share with the group or a small donation to order food for our brothers to enjoy during the discussion!

II. Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland


Come and Join the Fun on November 1st, at The Historic Landmark Ken Theater for the Film based on the Life of Tom of Finland! Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution.

Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Dome Karukoski’s stirring biopic follows his life from the trenches of WWII and repressive Finnish society of the 1950s through his struggle to get his work published in California, where he and his art were finally embraced amid the sexual revolution of the 1970s. Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

Make sure to be at the Historic San Diego Ken Cinema to come together with our brothers and sisters in leather, for a night of rejoice and pride in Who We Are. There will be a raffle in support of the Leather Foundation* during this event, so please help by giving back where you can!

*The Leather Foundation is a 501c3 that helps those in need here in San Diego, and also provides condoms and lube for safer sex practices for social events.

III. Upcoming Community Events


HPP Lab - Communication & Position Training
Saturday, October 28, 2017
12PM to 2PM
Location: House of Black, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: $10 for Non-members, payment can be made at the door.
Description: Pup Bandit will be going over the higher levels skills involved in training pets and pups for this form of Human/animal role play. This class will focus on the skills pets use to communicate with their humans, as well as the intention behind command and position training. Doriam is excited to teach this class for House of Black for their Human Pet Play Lab.

LOCK-tober Chastity Social
Saturday, October 28, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free!
Description: Curious about chastity? Ever wondered what it would be like to hold the key to a locked up boy? Join the meet up at the San Diego Eagle this month on October 28, from 3PM to 6PM and meet boys and Sirs with an interested in cock cages, chastity devices, and more! And stick around for the Underwear Party later that evening!

FMSD Discussion Group - Fetish Show & Tell
Saturday, October 28, 2017
5PM to 8PM
Location: Contact DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Free to attend, donations to FMSD are welcome.
Description: After the chastity social, join Brothers us as we host this month's discussion - Fetish Show & Tell. Tell us a little about the thing that turns you on, that fetish that just takes you right over the tipping point - you'd be sur rised to find how many guys share in your interests! Bring a friend, and if you are so willing, something that shows off your fetish!

Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland

Wednesday, November 1, 2017
7PM to 10PM (6PM Ticket Purchasing)
Location: Landmark Theater - Ken Cinema
More Information: Available on Facebook
Description: Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution. But who was the man behind the leather? Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

Flogging Friday
Friday, November 3, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The sting of leather, the feel hands caressing your back before the cool rush of air as a flogger brushes past your back. Flogging Friday, hosted by California Drummer, happens the First Friday of every-other month, starting at 9PM!

Cigars & Boots, Leather Social
Saturday, November 4th
4PM to 7PM
Location: The Redwing
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: Cigars and Boots is San Diego's very own leather and ash social hosted by California Drummer at The Redwing in North Park. Come on out and join our brothers and sisters starting at 4PM, and be sure to support our local attending Bootblacks!

Fox & Fiends - Swap Meat!
Saturday, November 11, 2017
6PM to 8PM
Location: Urban Mo's
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: Gear up for the Swap Meat at Urban Mo's! Bring out your leather gear, toys and wear that maybe don't fit anymore, or might need new homes - demoing is welcomed and encouraged, within the limits of the venue! Tables will be provided! "Come for the Swap, stay for the MEAT."

FMSD Workshop - Cigars & Cigar/Ash Play
Sunday, November 12, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: Hillcrest Workshop, Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: $5 Requested donation on-site or via paypal.me/FMSanDiego
Description: There is something Sexy about a man with a cigar in his mouth, something that makes some of us crave his attention. Join us for this Discussion and Workshop, covering the basics of the cigar and ash fetishes.

San Diego Eagle 15th Birthday - All Clubs Weekend
Friday, November 17 - Sunday, November 19, 2017
See description for times
Location: San Diego Eagle
CostSupport the venue, otherwise Free
Description: The Eagle is celebrating 15 years of life on Friday, November 17th and is sharing it with you! Friday Night, starting at 9PM, FMSD will be showing en masse to the San Diego Eagle to demo several forms of play, including, but not limited to, rope bondage, spanking, flogging, booting/trampling, and others! At 10PM that night, there will be a featured performance by the Bad Boyz of Porn! Saturday Night, join us for drink specials all night, and a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, with further demos from our local San Diego Kink, Leather, Fetish, and BDSM Clubs!

Club X - Open Party - Treasure Island!
Saturday, November 18

6PM to Midnight
Location: North Park
Cost: $30 for Club X Members, $50 for non-members. Purchase your ticket Here
Description: Treasure Island will be a night of seafaring, booty pillaging, plank walking, water boarding excitement, all with a pirate theme!
 Purchase your tickets ahead of time by following the link above, and if you like what you see, roll the $20 surcharge into your Club X Membership for the next 12 months!

Eagle Bus Trip - Palm Springs HERE WE COME!
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Noon to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle to Palm Springs
Cost: $50/Attendee
Description: The Eagle Bus Trip is back! This time, we're heading to Palm Springs and will be visiting several of our favorite cruizing spots along the way! Reserve your seat by purchasing a ticket from the bartenders at the San Diego Eagle!

FMSD Demo Night - Human Pet Night
Friday, December 1, 2017
9PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free
Description: You know them, you love them, and you, more than likely, know quite a few of them! Human Pet Play is a quickly growing type of Role Play, beyond just the Pups in our lives, come out and play with your local kittens, foxes, and other pets at this Role Play Demo at our local Leather Bar!

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU


Hi Gents! I've got a small request of you, each of you, I'm curious where you're reading from! I know that FMSD's membership spans cities, counties and states, but I'd like to know where YOU'RE from and how we can better serve YOU. Please, take a moment and email me at DoriamFMSD@GMail.com and let me know where you're from! Even if you are part of our central San Diego group, let me know what part of the town we're reaching you in!

I'd also like to take a moment and thank all of you who've reached out in regards to teaching, being mentors, attending events with new folk, etc. Without you, I don't think I would have the mental faculties to make everything work! If you're interested in giving back to your brothers, check out our new Volunteer Program and see what we're doing to give back!

Until next week, gents!

In Service,
Doriam C

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

This Is Halloween - FMSD Hosts Beat Your Drum Night!

Table of Contents

I. Masques & Mischief - Friday, 10/20
II. Fetish Show & Tell - Saturday, 10/28
III. Upcoming Community Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Masques & Mischief - Friday, 10/20

Friday, October 20, 2017
9:00PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free!




"AWRRUUUUU!!!" - Pup Bandit

It's that time of year again! Where ghosts and ghouls come out to play; at least, that's what we tell the kids so they don't rot their teeth on candy! This year, FMSD and California Drummer have something special planned for you naughty freaks --

This is Halloween - Masques & Mischief

Join us for this Fetish Men Takeover of the San Diego Eagle as we partner with California Drummerboy 2017, Erik Thomas, and host Beat Your Drum - This is Halloween! Pup Bandit (aka Doriam!) will be your Host Pup for this evening of Kinky, Fetishy, Freaky Fun! The Eagle will be running Drink Specials all evening, and you're encouraged to wear your Hottest, Raunchiest, Scariest Fetish Gear this evening for a chance to win the "This is Halloween Costume Contest." The Costume Contest will be held at Midnight on the stage, sign up with Pup Bandit for your chance to win! California Drummer will also be running a silent auction in support of Erik's travel fund, so be sure to make it in before Midnight for your chance to add these to your Trick-or-Treat Bag!

"But, Doriam!! What's FMSD doing!?"

Great question floating head! Fetish Men San Diego is hosting the Masques & Mischief portion of the evenin' starting at 9PM! Masques and Mischief is a night of Masked Men, Kinksters and Cruisers, coming out and starting trouble having fun! Inside the bar, if you aren't already in a mask, you can donate* any amount to Fetish Men San Diego and receive a mask of your very own! Because let's be honest, there is something HOT about a Man in a Mask. But wait! There's MORE!

Pup Bandit will be wandering around, carrying his Doggy Bag of Tricks & Treats! What's in Bandit's Sack? You'll just have to reach in and find out! Don't miss this FMSD Takeover!

*All donations go toward their respective organizations (CA Drummerboy'17 Travel Fund or FMSD Resource Fund), to keep future workshops, events and discussions funded for your enjoyment!

II. Fetish Show & Tell - Saturday, 10/28

Saturday, October 28, 2017
5:00PM to 8:00PM
Location: Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Donations to FMSD are welcome, otherwise Free!

You've asked for a Monthly Discussion group and we're bringing it to you! Join us for the first reincarnation of the Fetish Men San Diego discussion group - Fetish Show & Tell. This early evening discussion will give those of us sticking around during Palms Springs Leather Pride weekend a chance to catch up and talk about our commonalities - the things that turn us on.

Discussion will be lead by two of our Brothers, and will give each person the opportunity to talk about the thing that turns them on. From cigars and fire, to role play and water sports, this is an open table discussion for you to talk about that special something that just does it for you! If you are so inclined, bring something to show the group that represents your fetish! Bring a friend and introduce them to FMSD, the more the merrier!

If there is enough interest, members are welcome to bring food to share with the group or a small donation to order food for our brothers to enjoy during the discussion!

III. Upcoming Community Events


FMSD Hosts Beat Your Drum! - This is Halloween, Masques & Mischief!

Friday, October 20, 2017
9:00PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: We're taking over BYD Night at the Eagle this month! Join your host, Doriam/Pup Bandit, for a night of Kinky, Fetishy Fun at San Diego's local Leather Bar! Drink Specials will be running all night, and we'll be auctioning off a few items in addition to hosting a Costume Contest - so bring out your hottest, raunchiest, scariest gear! Pup Bandit will be there with his Doggy Bag of Tricks & Treats! All donations will go to Erik's, California Drummerboy 2017, travel fund!


Body Based Ritual Discussion w/ Elwood Reid
Saturday, October 21, 2017
2PM to 4PM
Location: World Beat Community Center, 2100 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92101
Cost: $10, or FREE with purchase of Ritual Steel ticket
Description: Earlier in the day, special guest Elwood Reid will host a presentation discussing the history and intent behind many global body-based rituals. This 2 hour educational discussion will be open to the public for $10.

Ritual Steel: An X-Treme Tribal Experience

Saturday, October 21, 2017
6PM to Midnight
Location: World Beat Community Center, 2100 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92101
Cost: $0-$45
TicketsEventbrite
Description: Club X in conjunction with Edgewalkers is producing Ritual Steel: An Xtreme Tribal Experience a night filled with Tribal, spiritual energy. On Saturday, October 21st, join together in the WorldBeat Cultural Center in Balboa Park for a one-night event, three years in the making. Ritual piercing, hook pull, flesh suspension, and more. You don't want to miss this event from 6:00pm till midnight.

LOCK-tober Chastity Social
Saturday, October 28, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free!
Description: Curious about chastity? Ever wondered what it would be like to hold the key to a locked up boy? Join the meet up at the San Diego Eagle this month on October 28, from 3PM to 6PM and meet boys and Sirs with an interested in cock cages, chastity devices, and more! And stick around for the Underwear Party later that evening!

FMSD Discussion Group - Fetish Show & Tell
Saturday, October 28, 2017
5PM to 8PM
Location: Contact DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Free to attend, donations to FMSD are welcome.
Description: After the chastity social, join Brothers us as we host this month's discussion - Fetish Show & Tell. Tell us a little about the thing that turns you on, that fetish that just takes you right over the tipping point - you'd be surprised to find how many guys share in your interests! Bring a friend, and if you are so willing, something that shows off your fetish!

Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland

Wednesday, November 1, 2017
7PM to 10PM (6PM Ticket Purchasing)
Location: Landmark Theater - Ken Cinema
More Information: Available on Facebook
Description: Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution. Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation of gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU


Howdy Gents! If you haven't seen already, we have finally released our new Volunteer Program which has been modeled after the volunteer systems of many of the clubs in San Diego. We have modified to suit OUR needs, and also worked it in such a way that it benefits YOU for your service to FMSD. If you haven't had the chance to look over it, please take a moment and do so!

I am also very happy to announce that we are now scheduling out the next year's worth of events, and securing more and more venues as we go! With the first year of my leadership of Fetish Men San Diego wrapping up, I can honestly say that this club has done so much good for me that I can't thank you, my brothers, enough! Had it not been for you, and for the support, trust, and friendship you've bestowed in me to this point, I don't know that I could have done this all!

So thank you. Thank you a hundred times over, for supporting me when I fumbled and when I charged. I hope for your continued support as we wrap up this year and move in to the next! We have a lot of great classes, workshops, events and discussions planned, and everything just becomes more and more real the more you are involved! With that, I will wrap this up and look forward to seeing you all at Masques & Mischief on Friday Night!

In Service,
Doriam C