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Wednesday, December 27, 2017

End of year party (Today!) & January 2018



Table of Contents


I. FMSD Potluck Social, Dec 28!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. From ME to YOU

I. End of 2017 Social Potluck, 28 December 2017!


Thursday, December 28, 2017

5pm til 8pm

Where: "Tom's Place," Hillcrest (email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for address)
Cost: Bring a potluck dish to share

During our planning meeting many of you mentioned that you've enjoyed getting together for Potlucks and socials this year, so we've decided to throw one more before the end of the year. Join us on Thursday, December 28th as we say farewell to 2017 and look forward, together, to 2018.

You'll notice we've updated the name of the location to "Tom's Place" in Hillcrest! From now on, our workshop space in Hillcrest will lovingly be named "Tom's Place"! If you don't have the address, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com! (formerly known as the "Hillcrest Workshop Space")
As this is a potluck social, we ask that you bring a dish to share with your brothers! If you're not sure what to bring, here is a handy guide on what to bring based on your last name. This is just a guideline, bring whatever you like!

A-F - Drinks/Beverages
G-L - Side Dishes/Desserts
M-Z - Entree

II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
Where: House of Black, San Diego (Address provided with Will Call Email)
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein


Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:

  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017. 
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team. 
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person!

III. From ME to YOU


Howdy Gents! With holidays nearing a close, I would like to thank you all for your continued efforts and support in keeping FMSD running! We are so excited for this coming year, in addition to a few back end things, we are looking forward to being more actively involved with the whole of our communities. Members from Orange County, North San Diego County, Los Angeles and even San Francisco have reached out and are looking forward to joining us this coming year!

With love, I'll see you guys soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Tuesday, December 26, 2017

Getting Ready for the Men's Play Party, Jan. 5th

By: Papa Tony

Note: The official publicity for this event is at the end of this post.  The following part is just my own opinion:



I attended the last Men's Play Party a couple of months ago.  I was astonished and pleased.  I saw the largest turnout for a men's play-party in San Diego's community that I have seen in decades.  It was impossible to see everything that was going on, because there were so many men there, in so many scattered locations.  Clearly, there is a need for something this nice, and so well-organized.

A scene from early December's Holiday Pot Luck, 
which attracted a BIG crowd.

If you haven't been to an FMSD event in a while, you've been missing out.  The new team is running events far better that I ever did… Doriam's youthful perspective is bringing many solid new ideas.  The men on his team are energized and smart.  Their events are satisfying, and exactly what we need. Attendance is rising swiftly, and word is getting out that the old magic is back, but with that same, kindly FMSD vibe.

December's Cigars & Boots event filled every available seat.

Of all of the Leather/Kink/Fetish communities worldwide, San Diego is DIFFERENT. We stand out for our affectionate, respectful and welcoming ways. The upcoming play-party is a good example of that.  There are multiple volunteers whose job is to make sure that everybody fits in, and starts having fun right away.

If you haven't been around us for a while, you will see a lot of men of ALL age-groups, mingling happily and pleasurably.  This is my favorite part of the new era.  Any old rifts between the generations are gone, and there are powerful benefits for everyone.

After dealing with way too much holiday and family-time, it's time to get re-connected with your brothers in our Tribe.  It's time to connect on every fun and meaningful level again!


Happy Holidays from Rein, 
on the left, and Doriam on the right

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
Location: House of Black, San Diego
Cost: $20/Person, paid via PayPal or in person to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Theme: Interrogation, BDSM Party

Hey look! We did the thing where we're scheduling another Male-Only Play Party!

We are back at House of Black this time around, and have reduced ticket prices, in addition to changing some rules around! This party will be co-hosted by two of FMSD's young up-starts, Doriam & Rein! And while this party is BDSM inclined, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome, including Sex Play, Voyeur, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene! If you care to know more about these two, here is quick bio for each of them, and what they'll be celebrating at this party!

>> Rein will be leaving for grad-school shortly after this party, and is looking forward to going out with a bang. He is a Dominant with a sadistic-streak, and has harnessed his skills in Single Tailing and Flogging with Papa Tony, in addition to adding tools to his play bag from other San Diego players!

>> Doriam will be celebrating his anniversary as a part of FMSD at this party. If you've never seen him play, Doriam is a Switch who plays actively on both sides of the slash. He enjoys dynamic Power Exchanges and several forms of Edge Play (including Fire, Medical and Suspension), but is best known as a Rope Bondage player.

We learned a lot from our last party at House of Black, which has inspired several changes for this party. The first of which is the price, we've reduced the cost of this party to $20/person, these funds will be used to pay for the venue, food and (non-alcoholic) drink - any excess will go in to the FMSD Workshop Fund to keep allowing us to host these parties and workshops!

Additionally, we will be allowing attendees to bring their own alcoholic beverages should they choose to partake. We will be required to take some additional precautions because of this, but it should not limit anyone's enjoyment of the event! For more details, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

For this party, I will be needing a few volunteers. Specifically, I will be looking for 2 Bartenders (basic knowledge preferred), 2 Dungeon Monitors, a Door Person, 2 Ambassadors, and ideally 2 people for Setup/Tear Down (each). If you are interested in volunteering, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

More information on volunteering, Here.

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@gmail.com to schedule a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person.

Monday, December 11, 2017

Holiday Events & a Party!

Table of Contents

I. This Week in Kink, 11 December 2017!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. From ME to YOU


I. This Week in Kink, 11 December 2017!


Club X - All Club's Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017, 7PM to 9PM
Joyce Beers Community Center
3900 Vermont Street, San Diego, CA  92103
Cost: Free to attend, Bring an unwrapped toy to donate & money for raffle prizes!

Join Club X for their yearly All Club's Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. This party is a Potluck (and I know how much you guys love Potlucks!), and Club X will be hosting a raffle brought upon by several of our local clubs and organizations! Please, help me in representing our growth as a Club this past year!

FMSD 2018 Planning Meeting
Wednesday, 13 December 2017, 6pm till 9pm
Di Mille's Italian Restaurant, 
3492 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116  Map
Cost: Free to attend, please support the venue!

Join us Wednesday, December 13th from 6pm to 8pm at Di Millie's Italian Restaurant for our 2018 Planning Meeting!

Some topics we will discuss at this event will include Leadership Roles, Volunteer Opportunities, Future Events and Workshops, Party Dates, and others. We want to hear from the members what they'd like to see so that we may plan the direction for FMSD in 2018.


If you have questions for our current FMSD Leadership Team, please bring them and we will do our best to answer you!

Club X - X|Men: Leather History & Earning Leather

Thursday, 14 December 2017, 7pm till 9pm
Pleasures & Treasures
2525 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92104  Map
Cost: $5 for non-Club X Members
Speaker: Tom Dickerson

The topic is "Leather History - Earning Leather". Tom Dickerson will be discussing what goes into earning leathers and what each piece of leather represents.

Naughty Santa Christmas Party
Friday, December 15, 2017
5PM to Close
San Diego Eagle
3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA  92104
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!

The San Diego Eagle is hosting a holiday party all their own! Join us at our last remaining leather bar for a Holiday Party sure to get you on the Naughty List! Raffles begin at 5PM and go on throughout the evening, and Hor'derves will be served at 8PM!


II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!


Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
House of Black, San Diego
Address provided with Will Call Email
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:

  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017. 
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team. 
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person!

V. From ME to YOU

Please don't forget to bring your questions and comments, ideas and thoughts this Wednesday to the Planning Meeting! I am excited to present to you guys what we have coming up, and I can't wait to hear what you all think!

With love, I'll see you guys soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Friday, December 8, 2017

Holidays & The New Year

Table of Contents


I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys, Dec 10, 2017!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. Holiday Parties
IV. Upcoming Community Events
V. From ME to YOU

I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys!

Sunday, December 10, 2017
3PM to 6PM
The Hole in the Wall
2830 Lytton St, San Diego, CA  92110
Cost: Free to attend, bring an unopened (children's) toy!

This Sunday, December 10th, our LGBTQ and Leather communities come together to support the Toys for Tots Foundation and the Sunburst Youth Housing Project. We will be at The Hole in the Wall from 3pm to 6pm raising funds and collecting donations for these two organizations.

Care to donate to Toys for Tots? Bring in and donate a new, unwrapped children's toy and the Hole will thank you by giving you 1/2 off of your first drink!

There will also be members of our Military service and Leathermen present, serving Jell-O Shots! Did we mention that our Military Men will be wearing Silkies throughout the day?

Enter for your chance to win the silkies off of your favorite shot-server, or one of the INCREDIBLE prizes donated by San Diego Pride, The Hole in the Wall, or Mr. San Diego Leather 2017.

This event is presented by San Diego Pride's Military Contingent, Mr. SD Leather 2017 - Nathan Kendrick, and the Hole in the Wall! Due to the nature of the venue, it is limited to attendees over the age of 21.

II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
House of Black, San Diego
Address provided with Will Call Email
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:
  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017.
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team.
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person.

III. Next Week in Kink

Club X - All Club's Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Joyce Beers Community Center
3900 Vermont Street, San Diego, CA  92103
Cost: Free to attend, Bring an unwrapped toy to donate & money for raffle prizes!

Join Club X for their yearly All Club's Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. This party is a Potluck (and I know how much you guys love Potlucks!), and Club X will be hosting a raffle brought upon by several of our local clubs and organizations! Please, help me in representing our growth as a Club this past year!

FMSD - 2018 Planning Meeting
Wednesday, December 13, 2017
6PM to 8PM
DiMille's Italian Restaurant
2942 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!
Attire: Street legal and dress for sitting outside on the patio.

We'll be discussing the future of FMSD going in to 2018! Some topics will include Leadership Roles, Volunteer Opportunities, Future Events, Workshops, Party Dates, and more! We want to hear from YOU, the members, as well as we plan for the coming year! If you have a topic you'd like to bring up, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

Naughty Santa Christmas Party
Friday, December 15, 2017
5PM to Close
San Diego Eagle
3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA  92104
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!

The San Diego Eagle is hosting a holiday party all their own! Join us at our last remaining leather bar for a Holiday Party sure to get you on the Naughty List! Raffles begin at 5PM and go on throughout the evening, and Hor'derves will be served at 8PM!

IV. Upcoming Community Events

Leather Fetish Ball 2017 - A Tribute to Tom of Finland
Friday, December 8, 2017
9PM to 2AM
The Rail, Hillcrest
CostEventbrite
Description: Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities .

V. From ME to YOU

Happy Holidays, everyone. Thank you for your continued love and support over the last several months; while things are always changing and evolving, I am happy to say that I am so excited to be a part of FMSD and to have the continued support of my Brothers!

I look forward to seeing you all soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C

Holidays & the New Year

Table of Contents


I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys, Dec 10, 2017!
II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!
III. Holiday Parties
IV. Upcoming Community Events
V. From ME to YOU

I. Santa's Orders - Fill the Hole with Toys!

Sunday, December 10, 2017
3PM to 6PM
The Hole in the Wall
2830 Lytton St, San Diego, CA  92110
Cost: Free to attend, bring an unopened (children's) toy!

This Sunday, December 10th, our LGBTQ and Leather communities come together to support the Toys for Tots Foundation and the Sunburst Youth Housing Project. We will be at The Hole in the Wall from 3pm to 6pm raising funds and collecting donations for these two organizations.

Care to donate to Toys for Tots? Bring in and donate a new, unwrapped children's toy and the Hole will thank you by giving you 1/2 off of your first drink!

There will also be members of our Military service and Leathermen present, serving Jell-O Shots! Did we mention that our Military Men will be wearing Silkies throughout the day?

Enter for your chance to win the silkies off of your favorite shot-server, or one of the INCREDIBLE prizes donated by San Diego Pride, The Hole in the Wall, or Mr. San Diego Leather 2017.

This event is presented by San Diego Pride's Military Contingent, Mr. SD Leather 2017 - Nathan Kendrick, and the Hole in the Wall! Due to the nature of the venue, it is limited to attendees over the age of 21.

II. Male-Only Play Party, Jan 05, 2018!

Friday, January 5, 2018
8PM to Midnight
House of Black, San Diego
Address provided with Will Call Email
Cost: $20, paid via PayPal or to Doriam/Scott/Rein

Join us on January 5th at House of Black, San Diego; we are kicking 2018 off with our first Male-Only Party of the year! This party will be co-hosted by Doriam and Rein, and while the theme lends itself to more SM-type play, all forms of Fetish and Kink are welcome! Including sex play, voyeur, water sports, etc.

As co-hosts, Doriam and Rein will be kicking off the night with an Interrogation Scene at 8:30! If you care to know more about these two, here's some info about each of them:
  • Rein (right) will be celebrating his admissions in to college at this party. He is a Dominant with inclinations toward Sadomasochistic play including being trained to single-tail by Papa Tony, and has been active with FMSD since September 2017.
  • Never seen Doriam (left) play? He is a Switch who enjoys in-scene protocol. While playful, he is at his core an Edge Player best known for his experience with Rope Bondage and Suspension. He is celebrating his one year anniversary as part of the FMSD Leadership Team.
We have reduced ticket prices for this party to $20. These funds will be used to pay for venue rental, snack foods, and non-alcoholic beverages. We've also made a few changes to our policies regarding alcoholic beverages - email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com if you'd like to know more.

We are still looking for volunteers for this party including 2 people to work the Food and Drink area, and 2 Dungeon Monitors, and 1 person each for Setup/Tear Down. Please see this post for more information on the benefits of volunteering, and email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com to register as a volunteer!

To purchase your ticket, please go to PayPal or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com to scheduled a time to meet Doriam/Scott to purchase your tickets in person.

III. Next Week in Kink

Club X - All Club's Holiday Party
Monday, December 11, 2017
7PM to 9PM
Joyce Beers Community Center
3900 Vermont Street, San Diego, CA  92103
Cost: Free to attend, Bring an unwrapped toy to donate & money for raffle prizes!

Join Club X for their yearly All Club's Party at the Joyce Beers Community Center. This party is a Potluck (and I know how much you guys love Potlucks!), and Club X will be hosting a raffle brought upon by several of our local clubs and organizations! Please, help me in representing our growth as a Club this past year!

FMSD - 2018 Planning Meeting
Wednesday, December 13, 2017
6PM to 8PM
DiMille's Italian Restaurant
2942 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!
Attire: Street legal and dress for sitting outside on the patio.

We'll be discussing the future of FMSD going in to 2018! Some topics will include Leadership Roles, Volunteer Opportunities, Future Events, Workshops, Party Dates, and more! We want to hear from YOU, the members, as well as we plan for the coming year! If you have a topic you'd like to bring up, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

Naughty Santa Christmas Party
Friday, December 15, 2017
5PM to Close
San Diego Eagle
3040 North Park Way, San Diego, CA  92104
Cost: Free to attend, support the venue!

The San Diego Eagle is hosting a holiday party all their own! Join us at our last remaining leather bar for a Holiday Party sure to get you on the Naughty List! Raffles begin at 5PM and go on throughout the evening, and Hor'derves will be served at 8PM!

IV. Upcoming Community Events

Leather Fetish Ball 2017 - A Tribute to Tom of Finland
Friday, December 8, 2017
9PM to 2AM
The Rail, Hillcrest
Cost: Eventbrite
Description: Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities .

V. From ME to YOU

Happy Holidays, everyone. Thank you for your continued love and support over the last several months; while things are always changing and evolving, I am happy to say that I am so excited to be a part of FMSD and to have the continued support of my Brothers!

I look forward to seeing you all soon!

Yours Truly,
In Service,
Doriam C