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Monday, January 28, 2019

Huge New Resource: The Kink Mentoring Archive

From Papa Tony:

Back in December 2018, Tumblr went kablooey.  It didn't just take down porn blogs.  It also took down many blogs written by wise, kind and deeply experienced kinky folks.

Using special tools, I have been digging through the wreckage to find the treasures that have proven to be so valuable for so many.  I have been curating the collection: gathering articles together, re-formatting them for clarity and re-posting them in a safe space:

The Kink Mentoring Archives



As of January 28, there are 534 articles, instructional videos and audio recordings, and many more are on the way, in categories such as:

Submissives, Slaves & Littles - Looking for mentoring? Here are massive amounts of relatable advice. Scroll through the whole thing.

Doms, Daddies & Masters - Many, MANY mentoring, opinion and advice articles, meant to help dominants to reach their next level, and beyond.

Advice & Soft Skills - Learn solid interpersonal skills, and to overcome obstacles in healthy ways

Opinions - Sharing some ideas that might work well for others

How-To: Hard Skills - Covering technical skills that will last you a lifetime

Consent - Consent is one of the biggest themes of BDSM—if you don’t know that, you really need to read up before you pick up a paddle. BDSM is built on a system of “safe, sane, and consensual.“

Dating and Relationships - Personal stories and advice, from those who have lived and learned.

Social Skills, Etiquette and Fitting In - How to succeed in the larger kinky community, and as a self-loving kinky person. You are NOT going to find this kind of information anywhere else.

Sub Drop, Dom Drop and Aftercare - Let’s understand the psychology and physiology of how Doms and subs may similarly experience a “drop” after a session!

Books for Kinky Folks - Recommended reading material, to help in gaining wisdom and personal growth.

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation - BDSM Play Partner Check List • Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations • If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist • What Are Negotiations Good For?

Valuable Links & Lists - Providing access to many more resources

Mental Health, for Kinky Folks - MANY resources and useful life-experiences.

Reviews and Toys - How to save money, time and wasted energy when shopping for kinky gear.



Thousands of folks all over the world have discovered this massive library, and are gaining wisdom from it.  There is a good chance that what you will find there will save you a LOT of guessing on your own!

Please help to spread the word!

Friday, January 25, 2019

Safe Word - Glory! TOMORROW!



Mr. San Diego Leather 2018, Doriam Couto, Presents:

SAFE WORD


Over the past several years working with Fetish Men San Diego, Doriam has had several requests for play parties for folks who identify as male. Thus far we've helped produce a handful, and now: Safe Word - Glory!

On Saturday, January 26 from 9:00pm to 2:00, you'd better know your Safe Word, at this Male-Only Play Party. The Party will be hosted at House of Black in Miramar, San Diego, CA near Ballast Point Brewery. This is a private indoor venue with a smoking patio and seven rooms for play (photos below). The exact address will be provided with will-call.

Tickets are $20 each via BrownPaperTickets, a secure ticketing website which produces a physical or electronic ticket at your discretion. When registering for your ticket this way, please include your First and Last name for the door list as well as a valid Email Address for any producer messages we may send out.

What You'll See:
The Main Dungeon is equipped with Two St. Andrew's
Crosses, a Sling, Cage and Massage Cage.

Your all-inclusive ticket covers cost of admission, food, drink, and use of the venue the night of January 26, 2019 from the kick off of the party until the close. This event is for all levels of players and all kinks/fetishes. Some things you might see include: 
  • Bondage
  • Flogging/Whips
  • Rope Play
  • Puppy and Pet Play
  • Suspension
  • Piss Play and Fisting
  • Sex
  • etc.

Dress Code:

Dress Code for the event is best described as "Where what makes you feel sexy". Leather, fetish gear, uniforms*, pup gear, and nudity are all welcome and encouraged! But if you don't have any, solid t-shirt and jeans with boots is more than welcome! Don't have that either? Wear whatever you like.

Clothes check WILL be available.

Note: Please be aware that there may be folks in boots in the dungeon space, as such I recommend close-toed shoes.


ALL INCLUSIVE

For only $20 Dollars you have full-access to:
  • Dungeon Space
  • Play Demos
  • Kink and Fetish Performances
  • Themed Dungeon Rooms and Equipment
  • Snack Foods and Drink Provided
  • Donations only bar
  • Shower w/ cleaning equipment**
The Party will be held on Saturday, January 26, 2019 from 9:00pm to 2:00am Doors will close at 12:00AM sharp! House of Black is located in Miramar, between the 805 and 15 freeways near Ballast Point Brewery. The Venue is a 3000 sq.ft. fully-equipped dungeon facility with 7 rooms for attendees to play in. Exact address will be provided with in the weeks preceding the event; please use a valid email address when registering.

You are encouraged to bring snacks, if you'd like to bring something to share with the attendees (drinks, food, etc.) please notify me.

Interested in Volunteering or have questions? Email MisterSDL2018@GMail.com.

Resource Links:

Facebook Event Link
Note: do to the nature of this event, don't expect a lot of response this way.
Mr. San Diego Leather 2018 on Facebook
Email Me for more Information

* Nazi and German-Style uniforms are discouraged.
** Please be prepared ahead of time, these should only be used for spot checking as needed.

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Saturday, Sunday; upcoming

Gear Invasion II

Hillcrest Brewing Company (outside, good for leather)
1458 University

This Sunday, January 27
6-8pm


We had a great time at the last Gear Invasion at Hillcrest Brewing Company.  Come join your FetishMen SanDiego brothers and hang out again this Sunday, January 27, 6-8pm.

Upcoming 

January

January 26 (Saturday)

SafeWord Glory (not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there)

https://safewordglory.brownpapertickets.com

SAFE WORD - GLORY 

SAFE WORD is a men's party at House of Black hosted by the current Mr. San Diego Leather, Doriam. This event will be taking place in a private, indoor venue in the Miramar/Mira Mesa area of San Diego. 

Your All-Inclusive ticket to SAFE WORD includes access to the Dungeon space, play demos, kink and fetish performances, and access to the Labyrinth, a dark room themed on Steamworks Chicago! 

Regular Price tickets are $20/each this time around! Bring cash for donations for our on site bar. 

Ticket costs go to fund the space, provide snacks and drinks, and any excess will be partially donated to #SDLP2019. 

Clothes check available. Leather, nudity, and fetish gear encouraged! Wear what makes you feel sexy! 

Themed Playrooms, and Showers available. More information coming soon. But if you know me at all. It's gonna be extra.

January 27 (4th Sunday)

4th Sunday is normally a skill topic but we're doing Gear Invasion II this month (see top)

February

February 6 (1st Sunday)

Core Committee meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

February 16 (not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there)

Leather Fetish Ball 2019, 7:00 PM – midnight

Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL 
Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014 

Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities. 

$24 for General Admission Tickets 
$40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )

February 24 (4th Sunday)

Skill topic:  Fisting 3-5pm

March

March 3 (1st Sunday)

Core Committee meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

March 10 (2nd Sunday = social)

Jamie & Jody’s for potluck 6-8

March 15 (Friday)

SafeWord 10pm-3am after San Diego Leather Pride event

March 24 (4th Sunday = skill topic)

Cock & ball torment / "CBT"

April

April 7 (1st Sunday)

Core Committee meeting at Lestat's (upstairs) on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

April 14 (2nd Sunday = social)

Details tbd

April 28 (4th Sunday = skill topic)

Officer Wes presents electrical, 6-8pm


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Friday, January 11, 2019

Upcoming socials and skill topics


Gear Invasion 

Hillcrest Brewing Co (outside, good for leather)1458 University

This Sunday, January 13
6-8pm



Upcoming 

January

2nd Sunday = January 13, social:  Gear Invasion (see top) 6-8pm

1/26 Saturday -- SafeWord Glory (not specifically FMSD, but some of our guys will be there)

4th Sunday = January 27, -- skill topic:  topic tba @ Doriam’s

February

1st Sunday = February 6, Core Committee meeting at Lestat's on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

2/16/2019 Leather Fetish Ball 2019, 7:00 PM – midnight
Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL
Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/leather-fetish-ball-2019-tickets-54199888325
Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities . $24 for General Admission Tickets $40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )

4th Sunday = February 24, skill topic:  Fisting 3-5pm

March

1st Sunday = March 3, Core Committee meeting at Lestat's on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

2nd Sunday = March 10, social:  Jamie & Jody’s for potluck 6-8

March 15 Friday -- SafeWord 10pm-3am after San Diego Leather Pride event

4th Sunday = March 24, skill topic:   Cock & ball torment / "CBT"

April

1st Sunday = April 7, Core Committee meeting at Lestat's on University 5-7pm.  All welcome.

2nd Sunday = April 14, social:  details tbd

4th Sunday = April 28, skill topic:  Officer Wes presents electrical, 6-8pm


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Saturday, January 5, 2019

FMSD's Perpetual Calendar of Events

FMSD's Perpetual Calendar of Events

As Papa Tony noted on our Facebook page:

The big annual events on the FMSD calendar have been updated:
https://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/…/fmsds-perpetual-ca…

The only dates that are possibly incorrect are the Up Your Alley Street Fair (late July) and the Folsom Street Fair (late September).

A suggestion: If you are planning to attend these major out-of-town events such as the International Mr. Leather Contest in Chicago, NOW would be the time to start planning for lodging, travel and event tickets.

You can also subscribe to the FMSD calendar, so that these events show up on the calendar of your your portable device or computer, and will update within seconds if changes are made on this end.

Friday, January 4, 2019

This weekend & beyond

Welcome to 2019!


Saturday January 5:

Cigars & Boots

Saturday, January 5, 4:00 – 7:00pm @ PECS Bar

Whore D'eouvres: Preshow Cocktail Social

Saturday, January 5, 4:30 – 5:30pm @ The Merrow
1271 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92103

Join us for WHORE D'EOUVRES the pre-show social for Night of Fantasies! The Merrow has been gracious to host our event this year for it's Inaugural Production, and we want to make sure attendees are enjoying themselves the day-of! 

Your bootblacks for this event will be: San Diego Bootblack 2018, Shilo Vix and Bootpup Alexander! 
** Suggested minimum donation of $10 for standard height boots

A Night of Fantasies: A Kinky Cabaret

Saturday, January 5, 5:30 – 7:20pm @ The Merrow 

Welcome to A Night of Fantasies The inaugural kinky cabaret fund-raiser 

Night of Fantasies (NoF) is a one night only cabaret style fund raiser event. We kick off at 4:30 with whore d'eouvres, the pre-show cocktail hour and the show opens at 5:30! 

The funds raised will be split 50/50 between San Diego Leather Pride 2019 and a charitable organization chosen by the performers and volunteer staff of A Night of Fantasies! 

Priority Seating will be given to attendees who pre-purchase tickets, door tickets available as space allows.


Sunday January 6:

FMSD Core Committee meeting at PECS, 5-7pm

(It's on the first Sunday each month.)
All are welcome.

Upcoming

  • 1/5 Cigars & Boots (not specifically FMSD) 4-7pm at PECS
  • Also 1/5:
    Whore D'eouvres: Preshow Cocktail Social at 4:30pm, &
    A Night of Fantasies: A Kinky Cabaret at 5:30pm.
     More information above.
  • 1/6/2019 FMSD Core Committee meeting at PECS
  • 1/26/2019 SafeWord (not specifically FMSD but full of our guys)
  • 2/2019 Fisting workshop
  • 2/16/2019 Leather Fetish Ball 2019, 7:00 PM – midnight
    Rodman Productions presents the Annual LEATHER FETISH BALL
    Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St, San Diego CA 92014
    https://www.eventbrite.com/e/leather-fetish-ball-2019-tickets-54199888325

    Join us for an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and of course, a love for leather. This pansexual event aims to celebrate all genders and sexualities, leather and gear fetishes. Help honor our deeply diverse tribes of San Diego, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Palm Springs and surrounding cities . $24 for General Admission Tickets $40 for VIP Tickets ( Includes Front Of Line, Appetizers, and 2 drink Tickets )
  • 3/2019 Mr. Eagle + San Diego Leather Pride

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