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Saturday, February 28, 2015

Experienced Fisting Bottom Wanted For Upcoming "Hands-In" Demo

From Papa Tony:

I've been a bit frustrated lately, trying to find a man who can take a BIG fist. I plan to be teaching a class on "FISTING 101 FROM THE TOP'S PERSPECTIVE", sometime soon. The men who I have approached have tended to flake out, and I need somebody dependable.

My own expertise, sensitivity and capacity for fun will not be in question, as I have been fisting since 1977.   LET'S PLAY!

Message me privately, at MasterTonyInSD AT

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Photos from CBT 101 Hands-On Demo Night

Photos by Scott Smith, who helps us celebrate our successes!

Wednesday, February 25, 2015 - From Papa Tony:

This was our first event at our new, much-more open meeting space. It was crowded, rowdy, and evidently fascinating to everyone attending. Michael brought macaroons and cookies, and slave keith brought superb fruit-trays.

I started the event with basic CBT techniques, and handed off to Sir Magnum and Hardy, who demonstrated mid-level techniques, and then our own Cobi led us into "Advanced CBT on a Budget".  I learned a lot!

There were plenty of cautionary warnings (we don't want to break our toys!), and then we had a few brave bottom-boys strip down to be practiced upon.  Clearly, we didn't JUST stick with CBT techniques, but we sure took the bottom-boys around the world!

One couple came all of the way from Palm Springs for the class.  I made sure that they got a special set of instructions on how to conduct a scene, which were witnessed by many men taking mental notes.

If our events continue to be this crowded and popular, we are eventually going to have to rent the stage at the MGM Grand in Vegas!

Monday, February 23, 2015

CBT 101 Hands-On Demo Night, This Wednesday

Hosted by Papa Tony and Sir Magnum, at our new meeting space:

7-9PM, Wednesday, February 25th
Get there early - You have a form to fill out and sign!

1235 Hotel Circle S, Suite C
San Diego, CA  92108-3436

(Artist's Conception)

(Artist's Conception)

What is CBT? It's Cock and Ball Torture. Sounds scary, huh?

Not with proper training and some basics to be understood, first.

We will demo some easily-mastered moves, with inexpensive toys that you probably already have in your home. The main tool you will use is your brain, because we will also teach you the MIND FUCKS that lead to the best excitement for all concerned.

Be prepared to try it for yourself, on either side of the scene, because we will have the freedom to do as we wish, at our wonderful new home.

FMSD's New Meeting Space!

The men of FMSD have a new meeting-space, effective immediately:

1235 Hotel Circle S, Suite C
San Diego, CA  92108-3436

(Artist's Conception)

Compared to the old space, parking is WONDERFUL, and we will have a lot more freedom.  We will meet here EVERY Wednesday, except for holidays.

It's a little rough right now, but together, we will make it much, much better.  Think of this as the equivalent to the original San Diego Gay & Lesbian Center from the 1970's, which was just a bungalow near 17th and Broadway. Now, the Center is a showplace, in the heart of Hillcrest.

This is a starting-point for a San Diego Kink, Leather & Fetish Center.  It deserves all support!

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Events as of February 19


FetishMenSanDiego has a NEW MEETING SPACE.  More details soon.

Also, the dates for the next couple of days are a bit messed-up.  Just remember: Thursday is the Leather Banquet (listed below), and Friday is the BDSM 101 Class, AND the Mr. San Diego Eagle Meet and Greet at Sunset Temple.

From Bill Nelson: FINALLY- Public Recognition of the Leather Community in SF... They need to convert this to a THEME Park... where U can 'give & receive' RIDES- I'd be the first in line to buy an Annual Pass- jus sayin ; )-

San Francisco Plans First Public Park Honoring Gay Leather Culture


Note from Tony:  For men with open minds, the FMSD newsletter will include news about more and more educational events that are NOT exclusively for gay males.  Why?  Because FMSD can't do it all, and we have dozens and dozens more mentors and educators in our local community who want to reach out to us, SPECIFICALLY.  In my own case, I've learned an enormous amount over my lifetime from folks who were not remotely like me, but come from the same place of generous sharing of wisdom.  

We are entering a new, Internet-fed phase where "Information Shared is Wisdom Multiplied".  These wonderful, big-hearted new Tribemembers warmly invite us to come play, learn, grow and build friendships that will last a lifetime!

Friday, February 20, 7-9PM: BDSM 101 -- Presented by The Stomping Ground

Stephina Photography
1235 Hotel Circle South Suite C San Diego CA 92108

BDSM 101 is an informative class for those just discovering the kink community and a great refresher for getting back to basics for those who are already in it. We will be going over everything from the basic terms and negotiations, to protocols and dungeon etiquette, to equipment and toys used in play. Please come ready with questions and feel free to PM me beforehand with anonymous inquiries.

Presented by: Muffin-Anna Ab

Muffin is a strong presence in the local San Diego community. Along with her social advocacy work, she volunteers her time at BDSM events such as the Leather Realm, various Club X events, and is the president of San Diego girls of Leather. Muffin devotes her free time on further perfecting herself on play techniques and educating herself and others on her knowledge of BDSM.


The Stomping Ground San Diego promotes the exploration and celebration of human sexuality. TSGSD seeks to educate and facilitate consensual open sexual expression and dialogue and provides a venue for fellowship and community.

$10 at the door/Free to The Stomping Ground members

More pictures and reviews from last year's contest can be found here.

February 19-21:  Mr. San Diego Eagle 2015 Contest Weekend.

From Russ:

This year is even better than last year. All the judges are from the country's Eagle bars (New York City, Atlanta, Dallas, San Francisco, Los Angeles, San Diego and Indianapolis).

== All events are located at Sunset Temple ==
== 3911 Kansas St, San Diego, California 92104 ==

Thursday, Feb 19th, 7PM: Leather Banquet (Cost: $25)

Friday, Feb 20th, 7PM: Meet and Greet, Fashion show and Underwear Auction (Cost: $10)

Saturday, Feb. 21st, 7PM: Mr. San Diego Eagle Contest.  There will be raffles and basket auctions. (Cost: $10)

VIP tickets, (seating at the contest and other goodies) is $20 per night on Fri and Sat. Combination tickets can be purchased at regular $40.00 and VIP $60. Tickets can be purchased through eventbrite or mortensonboyd @ or at the door. Credit cards accepted.

Wednesday, February 25 (Fourth Wednesday of each month), 7PM:  FMSD Hands-On Demo Night.

Wednesday, March 4 (1st, 2nd & 3rd Wednesday of each month), 7PM: FMSD Men's Discussion. NEW LOCATION, to be announced soon. Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!

Wednesday, March 4 (first Wednesday of each month), 9PM: Puppy Night @ San Diego Eagle, at 3040 North Park Way.

Thursday, March 5 (first and third Thursday of each month), 10pm: Yellow Hankie Social Night @ the San Diego Eagle, at 3040 N Park Way

Saturday, March 7 (first Saturday of each month), 4-7PM: Cigars & Boots at Redwing Bar & Grill4012 30th St. - Relaxed, happy, comfortable, serene. Pure brotherhood.

Saturday, March 7 (first Saturday of each month), 10PM: BearNight Dance @ Numbers Bar,  3811 Park Blvd.

Saturday, March 7 at 5pm: Bears San Diego 20th Anniversary and Green Underwear Contest!

Numbers Nightclub
3811 Park Blvd, San Diego, California 92103

Join us as we celebrate the 20th year of Bears San Diego, at Numbers Nightclub in Hillcrest. We will be honoring our founders, Wayne Dietz, Robert Sokolowski and John Winkelman. The evening's events will be emceed by Wayne and we will have some great entertainment as well. 

We are requesting a $5 donation at the door which will benefit this year's Bears San Diego charities - Special Delivery, Stepping Stone and The San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Refreshments will be served, along with a no host bar. 

We will also be having our infamous annual Green Underwear Contest in honor of St. Patrick's Day. Be sure to wear your favorite pair of green underwear! Prizes will be given for the most creative undies, the most revealing ones, and which bear looks the hottest in his undies, so put some imagination into it!


From Mr. SoCalBear 20i5 Donnie Vella: In Celebration of the 20th Anniversary of Bears San Diego and in the St. Patrick's Day Spirit, we are hosting a Celebration at Numbers on March 7th @ 5pm. Wear Your Green Undies and enter the Green Underwear Contest for Prizes. There will also be Entertainment, Raffles, and a Silent Auction. Hope to see My FMSD Brothers there. Big Bear Huggz

Wednesday, March 11 (1st, 2nd & 3rd Wednesday of each month), 7PM: FMSD Men's Discussion. NEW LOCATION, to be announced soon.  Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!

Thursday, March 12 (second Thursday of each month), 9PM; Red Hankie Social Night @ the Eagle, @ 3040 N Park Way.

Friday, March 13 (second Friday of each month), 10PM:  Harness Party @ Numbers Bar, at 3811 Park Blvd.

Friday, March 13 at 10pm: BOUND Party at the Eagle LA,
4219 Santa Monica Blvd, Los Angeles, California 90029

From Mr. San Diego Leather 2013/2014 Eli Correa:

Join us for a night of bondage, BLUF men, and our special guests the current International Bootblack Scout TheBootblack, also Erik James EscareƱo will be there with rope, and bringing the tunes will be DJ CANDY. They will not disappoint and worth pulling out those boots need some leather love. We will also be having some prizes to give out.This is also BLUF night so Gear is encouraged. Hope to see you all there. Sponsored by VOLGUR and more….

Wednesday, March 18 (1st, 2nd & 3rd Wednesday of each month), 7PM: FMSD Men's Discussion. NEW LOCATION, to be announced soon.  Come to a quiet, safe and welcoming space, where we can talk about stuff that matters, learn from each other, and build new friendships outside of a noisy bar!

Thursday, March 19 (first and third Thursday of each month), 10pm: Yellow Hankie Social Night @ the San Diego Eagle, at 3040 N Park Way

Sunday, March 22, at 3pm: The INSTIGATORS Present "DISCO DADDY"

Urban MO's Bar & Grill
308 University Ave, San Diego, California 92103

The INSTIGATORS Present "DISCO DADDY" a 70's Retro T DANCE on the Patio at Mo's with DJdirty Kurty spinning! This Event will be Benefiting STONEWALL COMMUNITY WATCH! Photo by Kristofer Reynolds

March 22-29: LA Leather Pride 2015

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The Los Angeles Leather Coalition and the LA Leather Pride Committee are happy to announce that the 2015 Los Angeles Leather Pride Celebration will take place the week of March 22 – 29, 2015.  The theme of this year’s event will be The Tribe: Celebrating the Rites of Passage.

The highlight of Leather Pride will be the selection of Mr. Los Angeles Leather 2015, which will take place on Saturday March 28th at a location to be announced soon.
And as an extra special attraction, the wild and popular OFF SUNSET FESTIVAL street fair will be held on Sunday Mach 29, 2015 the day after the Mr. LA Leather contest and LEGION dance, extending a full weekend of leather and kink fun for everyone!

A series of Mr. LA Leather “Feeder Contests” are being held across the city by various clubs and businesses to select their representing contestant.  The qualifying contest schedule is posted on the LA Leather Pride website at, and will be updated as new dates are added.

Also confirmed to be returning for 2015 are the very popular Southland Honors Awards celebration as well as The Assembly Uniform Reception.

Additional events will be added soon, so you can expect a full week-long celebration of the leather lifestyle.  The 2014 event was a huge success, resulting in significant donations to charity beneficiaries.  The 2015 committee expects to out-do those results, and are pulling out all the stops to create a fantastic event week that everyone will want to be part of.

Contestants from last year.  It was a GREAT event!

Saturday, March 28, 6pm: Mr. Los Angeles Leather 2015 Contest @ TBA

Sunday, March 29, 11am: Off Sunset Festival in Silverlake.  Closing event for LA Leather Pride.  WELL worth sticking around for.

Early April: Phoenix Pride, with the parade on SATURDAY.

May 16-17: Long Beach Pride, with the parade on Sunday, May 17.

May 22-25: International Mr. Leather 2015 Contest in Chicago

June 12-14: Los Angeles Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, June 14.

Mid-June: FistFest West

June 12-14 - All Male Butchmanns Experience, Phoenix, AZ

Mid-June: Southern California Leather Gathering (SCLG) is an annual outdoor picnic gathering that is open to ALL leather, bdsm, fetish, kink, motorcycle and bear groups/individuals of all genders and orientations. The aim of the event is to provide an opportunity for these various folk to interact in a relaxed atmosphere, have fun and raise awareness about the size and diversity of the leather/bdsm groups within Southern California.

June 27-28: San Francisco Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, June 28.

July 17-19: Wet ’n Hot Weekend in Palm Springs. Over 500 sexy, attitude-free guys will descend upon an underground location in Palm Springs for a weekend filled with uninhibited pig play, brotherhood and fun. It’s the Biggest Piss Party on the Planet, and it’s unlike anything else that you’ve ever experienced!

July 17-19: San Diego Pride, with the parade on SATURDAY, July 18, and the Leather Realm on Saturday and Sunday.

This is a few of the 100 or so folks in the 
2014 Pride Parade Leather Contingent!

Sunday, July 26, 11am to 6PM: Up Your Alley Street Fair in San Francisco

Late July: Lazy Bear Weekend in Guerneville, California

September 18-19: Las Vegas Pride, with the parade at NIGHT, from 7-10PM, on SATURDAY, Sep. 19.

Thursday, September 3, 2015: Master/slave Conference - MsC 2015

MsC 2015 - Building Community!

MsC 2015 is produced by MTTA, Inc., a 501-c-3 all-volunteer non-profit educational organization.

The highly educational and unique event will take place over Labor Day Weekend outside Washington, DC

Education, Networking and History!

MsC 2015 will include a diversity of educational opportunities with Workshops, Intensives, Panels, Roundtables and Service Stations on Master/slave relationships

Keynote Speaker: Patrick Mulcahey from San Francisco

Our Traditions Live! Program: A Tribute to Men and Women of Color in the Master/slave. Leather and BDSM Communities. Speaker: Sir Guy from New York City

Labor Day Weekend - Sept, 3 - 7, 2015

Crowne Plaza Rockville / Washington DC
Two exclusive hotels with 257 rooms!

Online Registration & Hotel Room Booking will open in March 2015

Advance Registration: $125 (to May 31)
Early Registration: $150 (to July 31)
Standard Registration: $175 (to August 30)
Door Registration: $195

Sunday, September 27: Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco. Last Sunday in September, every year.

Mid-October: Bearquake in San Diego. BearQuake grew out of an idea of forming an alliance between the various clubs in Southern California and elsewhere. A "Bear Weekend" was planned where we could all get together and get to know each other. A contest was also held for Mr. So Cal Bear and Cub. The success of that first event opened the door to future gatherings which has become "BearQuake".

Nov. 6-8: Palm Springs Gay Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, Nov. 8

November 13-15: Desert Leather Pride in Palm Springs

Here are pics from 2013...