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Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Workshops, Events and More Fire!

Table of Contents:

I. Thank You!
II. Fire Class + Workshop Series
III. Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Thank You!


We, the leadership for Fetish Men San Diego, wanted to start by thanking each and every one of you for your involvement in mapping a course for FMSD. Over the last few weeks, we've seen attendance and community participation grow through events, emails, and social media presence. We are excited to keep growing and hosting events for You, our Brothers, and welcome your participation!

We also wanted to thank everyone who attended Ritual Fire this past weekend; your energies were a wonderful contribution to the feeling and fun of the evening. With the feedback we've received so far, we are looking forward to hosting more Tribal events so that we may share space, stories, and grow together.

If you have any feedback, we are happy to hear it! We are looking to know more about what YOU'RE interested in for future events - whether those be workshops, socials, potlucks, parties, or otherwise. We would like to know what interests you, and how we can help make your dreams a reality.

If you'd like to let your voice be heard, please email:
Doriam - DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Scott - FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

II. Fire Class + Workshop Series

Saturday, September 30th 
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop Space
$5 Requested Donation to FMSD

Join us at our NEW workshop venue in Hillcrest this month for our NEW 201+ Workshop Series. This series of workshops will go over forms of play of a higher level than most courses offered in San Diego, and will be taught by local community members. Like our Parties, tickets will be handled primarily online through PayPal or by emailing DoriamFMSD@GMail.com. You must be 18+ Years of Age to attend these workshops, and must provide your Legal First & Last Name, and an Email Address for the will-call email.

Justin blowing fire at Ritual Fire! 09/10/2017
This month Justin will be leading a 201 class on Fire Play. His workshop will go over basic safety and good-practices for diving in and introducing you to the joys of lighting each other on fire! Justin has been active in the kink community since 2014 and began toying around with fire shortly after his initial involvement in the community. He most recently assisted in presenting Fire Photography at Ritual Fire!

This workshop will go over the use of fire wands and how to safely light your hands on fire and spank your bottoms. Men interested in playing with fire will be asked to be nude or mostly nude, and apply a water layer to their skin; an outdoor shower is available. We will have experienced Fire-Players available for demo, and spotters for your safety.

If you are interested, you may submit your $5 donations by going to PayPal.me/FMSanDiego - Will Call emails with the location are sent starting 2 days prior to the event. Include your First Name, Last Name, and Email Address in the notes section or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

What to Bring:


  • Towels
  • Bathing Suit (Nudity is OK) 

What to Know:

  • This event is MALE-ONLY
  • Arrive ON-TIME for the Safety Portion
  • Will-Call emails sent starting 48hrs prior to the event


III. Events

XMen Academy - Stonewall Citizens Patrol
Thursday, September 14, 2017
7:00pm to 9:00pm
Pleasures & Treasures
$5 Requested Donation of Non-Club X Members
Description: Join Club X's XMen in welcoming Stonewall Citizens Patrol at Pleasures and Treasures to learn about the measures that SCP is taking to keep our communities safe in North Park, Hillcrest, and University Heights.




Rope Bondage Demo w/ Sir Francis & Doriam
Friday, September 15, 2017
9:00pm to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Have you ever fantasized about being bound? The scratch of rope against your skin, pressure building against you with each breath? Maybe you've been on the other side, and your interests are more inclined on tying your partner. Join us for a new Monthly Event at the San Diego Eagle.




Pre-Folsom Swap Meat 
Saturday, September 16, 2017
5:00pm to 7:00pm
Urban Mo's Bar & Grill
Free to Attend
Description: Fox & Fiends hosts their first Swap Meat! Bring your unwanted gear to Urban Mo's for their Swap Meat. Buy/sell/trade gear, or simply come out for an afternoon with our Brothers and Sisters in leather before Folsom Street Fair!






LUST - Leather Foundation Fund Raiser
Saturday, September 16, 2017
9:30pm - 2am
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: After the Swap Meat, join us at the San Diego Eagle for LUST; a night of Sensual Touch and Uniforms as we raise funds for the Leather Foundation.




Fetish Men at Folsom Street Fair!
Sunday, September 24, 2017
Folsom Street Fair
Description: Are you attending Folsom Street Fair this year? We would like for our Brothers to come together sometime during or after for a Meet & Greet! If interested, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for more information!

Nude Male Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6pm - 9pm
Twiggs Bakery & Coffeehouse in University Heights
Cost is $10, cash only, for artists and photographers. Please support the venue, too.
Description: Have you thought about being a male model for gay male artists? Or wondered where you could go to practice your sketching, drawing, painting, or photography skills of male models? Check out the Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego.

GMAG logo drawing created by Tony A. Magpantay Jr.


GMAG has invited FMSD and Leather Men to be models at the December 4th GMAG session in University Heights. Wear whatever makes you feel hot, powerful, and strong. Nudity, with gear and props or not, is not required although it is very welcome. Street legal to the door.

Looking for new photos of you and your gear? Just like all levels of drawing, sketching, and painting are welcome so are all levels of photography although with some restrictions.

The models will strike seven poses in the first 20 minutes, then rotate to the next set of models. After, each model returns to hold one pose for 15 to 20 minutes. Solos, duos, or trios of models on stage works. One or two is great, three is the maximum due to space restrictions.

I and the co-leaders of GMAG think it would be GREAT to have leather and kink models as it would definitely be a change of pace for the artists.

Need more info or have questions about this? Please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU

I'll keep this one short and sweet. I want to say thank you to each of you for your continued optimism and kind words. For my Brothers outside of San Diego, this includes you as well! Some of you have reached out, and I hope someday soon we can revisit the Fetish Men communities near you! Until then, please continue to reach out and we will build this together!

Have a great weekend, Gents!

In Service,
Doriam C




Friday, September 8, 2017

Ritual Fire & GMAG

Table of Contents:

I. Ritual Fire
II. Guidelines & Expectations
III. Nude Male Modeling
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Ritual Fire


Brothers, this weekend is our next BIG EVENT: Ritual Fire; A Tribal Bonfire Experience! You are invited to attend our Cross-Over Event with Club X this Sunday, September 10th from 6:30 to 9:30pm at Fiesta Island.

Ritual Fire is designed to be a unifier for our communities, in preparation for Ritual Steel. Ritual Fire is about transformation and growth, and draws inspiration from the life cycle of the Phoenix, a fire bird of Greek mythology - When tragedy draws near, the Phoenix ignites into a magnificent flame, and reemerges from its ashes, reborn.

We encourage you to look within yourselves to that which hinders your growth. By indulging in the majesty of the flames, and the energy shared beteeen our Brothers and Sisters, it is our hope that your troubles will burn to ash and, like the Phoenix, you will rise again with renewed vitality and a breath of new life.

If you've never been to Fiesta Island, it is located off of Highway 5. Keep an eye on our Like Page for an exact location on the day of the event; we will also be marking the space with an "X" in the form of a brightly lit St. Andrew's Cross! Volunteers are needed to reserve portions of the venue throughout the day, if you are able and willing to help please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

II. Guidelines & Expectation


The evening will be filled with Tribal Energy from beginning to end. Members of the Fetish Men San Diego leadership team, as well as representatives from Club X, have volunteered themselves to lead blessings, performances, and interactions designed to make the event memorable and ever-lasting for each of our Brothers and Sisters.

We recommend arriving between 6:30 and 7:00pm, as Sunset is scheduled to happen shortly after 7'o'clock. As the Sun begins to set, we will have one of Fetish Men's Elders, Papa Tony, lead us through the Opening Ceremony and Blessing for the evening to get everyone in the right frame of mind for the evening.

After this, we will have several members of our community contributing to the Tribal Energy with performances to light up the night. Attendees will be encouraged to observe these performances, and engage in Fire Photography* if they so choose!

Toward the end of the evening, we will re-congregate near the main fire. Our Leaders will welcome any of our willing Brothers and Sisters to identify their weights, and to leave the ashes of those weights behind.

* If you are interested in getting your photo taken at the Fire Photo set up, you MUST have a Bathing Suit and be ready to apply a water layer to your skin. Photos will be taken by Scott B. Smith (FMSD) and released to attendees within days of Ritual Fire.

III. Nude Male Modeling


Have you thought about being a male model for gay male artists? Or wondered where you could go to practice your sketching, drawing, painting, or photography skills of male models? Check out the Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego.

GMAG logo drawing created by Tony A. Magpantay Jr.


GMAG has invited FMSD and Leather Men to be models at the December 4th GMAG session in University Heights. Wear whatever makes you feel hot, powerful, and strong. Nudity, with gear and props or not, is not required although it is very welcome. Street legal to the door.

Looking for new photos of you and your gear? Just like all levels of drawing, sketching, and painting are welcome so are all levels of photography although with some restrictions.

The models will strike seven poses in the first 20 minutes, then rotate to the next set of models. After, each model returns to hold one pose for 15 to 20 minutes. Solos, duos, or trios of models on stage works. One or two is great, three is the maximum due to space restrictions.

I and the co-leaders of GMAG think it would be GREAT to have leather and kink models as it would definitely be a change of pace for the artists.

Need more info or have questions about this? Please contact Scott at  FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU


I would like to thank you all for your continued support. Over the next several months, I will be trying a few new things and see how they go - I ask that you bare with me during this trial period, as it may take a few attempts before I finally have it down.

I would also like to thank Scott B. S. for his contribution to this blog post & FMSD as a whole! He has been actively working with GMAG to make this happen for roughly 2 months ago. Many of you may not know, but Scott is one of the greatest contributors to FMSD since I started back in December 2016, and a lot of what you see is thanks to his diligence and patience. So next time you see Scott, please thank him for his efforts in keeping this ship afloat! I certainly couldn't do any of this without him.

I look forward to seeing you all on Sunday. If you are able to volunteer and help reserve space on the beach, email me DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

In Service,
Doriam C

Monday, September 4, 2017

A Breath of New Life

Table of Contents:

I. FMSD Party Recap
II. Ritual Fire - Volunteers Needed!
III. From ME to YOU

I. FMSD Party Recap

Howdy Gents, we first wanted to thank each and every one of you who showed interest in the Fetish Men San Diego party that took place this past weekend (September 2nd)! All-in-all, we are considering this event to have been a success, with a few hiccups along the way, but overall we are proud of what we accomplished!

But don't just take my word for it! If you haven't had the opportunity yet, read Papa Tony's review of the event here!  We would like to make this a regular event, but need your feedback to make it happen!  If you have any insight of your own that you'd like to contribute, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

We also had a few players misplace their equipment. If you find any toys that don't belong to you, please notify me and I will do my best to find its home. Vice-versa, if you have lost any toys, let me know what it is that you lost and I will keep my eyes and ears peeled to get them back to you!

II. Ritual Fire - Volunteers Needed

This Sunday, in conjunction with Club X San Diego, we are hosting Ritual Fire: A Tribal Bonfire Social. Starting at 6:30, we will have kinksters from across San Diego arriving to share in the energy. At 7pm SHARP, Papa Tony will be leading the opening ceremony, inviting each of our Brothers and Sisters to open themselves up. Jason will be leading drumming throughout the night, and many of our local players have volunteered to demonstrate their skills with light- and fire-based play. Keep track of the Facebook Event and our Fetlife Account for details on the exact location.

Speaking of volunteers, we wanted to thank everyone who has reached out about potentially teaching a class, offering themselves for setup/tear-down, giving advice and words of wisdom, etc. In the coming weeks, we will be revealing the volunteer system we're working on to show YOU how much your efforts and support means to your Brothers. Some positions on this list will include:

  • Ambassadors - Duties include attending events and answering questions, welcoming the new folk, and generally being friendly.
  • Dungeon Monitors (DMs) - Oversee play, ensuring that guidelines are being followed, and that attendees are engaging in Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) & Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).
  • Instructors - May be asked to lead a discussion or demonstration on a skill associated with BDSM/Fetish/Kink/Leather. If you have a skill or topic you are particularly passionate about, please contact us and let us know!
We will have more information available soon! But for now, we are in need of Ambassadors for Ritual Fire, as well as people to help reserve the location.

III. From ME to YOU.

It was my pleasure to organize the FMSD Party last weekend, and I was thrilled to see that so many of you enjoyed it! The stress involved with planning an event was not something I was thrilled to carry at first, but seeing it unfold and blossom, watching as my Brothers experienced the work we'd put in made everything entirely worth it. I won't go into excruciating details, but the results of the party have left me feeling as though I am floating in mid-air. I have been granted a new vitality, a breath of new life, and further excitement to continue planning events. Now, I need your help.

With all of the excitement, I need to make sure that I am listening to the most important part of Fetish Men San Diego; and that's you. Without my Brothers, we have no organization, no club, and no group to provide all of this work for. So, if there is something you'd like to see FMSD do more often, classes you'd be interested in attending, old events you'd like to see revisited, etc. Let me know by contacting DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

Additionally, we need a support team. Eventually, we hope that FMSD will begin building community leaders. In the same way I was inspired to step up, I hope some of YOU will consider stepping up, being available, and taking the opportunity to share these connections with your Brothers.

Have a wonderful week, Gentleman. I look forward to seeing you all at Ritual Fire - we may have one more post this week before then. Keep posted.


In Service,
DoriamC