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Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Folsom, Fire and the Near Future (Oh My!)

Table of Contents:

I. Sensual, Exciting, and HOT
II. Leather Social & Discussion Group
III. Impact Play Demo w/ Brother Jerry
IV. Folsom Street Fair '17
V. Upcoming Events
VI. From ME to YOU
VII. Special Announcement

I. Sensual, Exciting, and HOT

Saturday, September 30, 2017
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop - Hillcrest
$5 Requested Donation*
Tickets: PayPal.Me/FMSanDiego OR pay at the door

We are happy to announce our SECURED Workshop Space in Hillcrest! Be among the first to see it by attending out first Male-Only workshop taught by Justin!

This 201 Workshop will go over the basic skills required in playing with fire in Safe, Sensual and Exciting ways. The first portion of the Workshop will go over safety precautions, you MUST arrive for the safety portion if you intend to experience Fire Play from either side of the slash. The latter portion of the class will go over the use of Fire Wands and Fire Spanking; you definitely do NOT want to miss these!

After the initial demo, Justin and his assistants will have stations set up to give our men the opportunity to experience the joys of setting one another on fire! If that sounds frightening, here are a few things to settle your mind:

Q: What do I wear?
A: We ask that anyone interested in playing with Fire be willing to be nude; this ultimately reduces the risk of accidents. There is both an outdoor shower and a pool at the venue.

Q: What should I bring?
A: Towels (recommend 2) & Bathing Suit (nudity is OK). Street Legal to the door, however. If you're interested in helping out by bringing a snack, drinks, or whatever else, please contact Doriam!

Q: Where does the fire go?
A: We start with the back, usually. But fire can be applied anywhere on the body.

Q: I'm a hairy guy, do I need to shave?
A: Not necessary. While Fire may cause your hair to burn a little, but not enough to be noticeable.

Q: Where is this place?
A: The location is being kept private until 48 hours prior to the event per the owners request; provide an Email Address and Full Name when purchasing tickets in order to receive the Address in advance. If you would like to pay at the door, Email for the address beginning 9/28.

If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to email Doriam at! You may purchase your tickets in advance by going to

*All donations go back into planning future events, workshops, parties and social for Fetish Men San Diego. If you are unable to meet the requested donation, you are still welcome to come - we ask that you give what you can, whether that be $1, a smile, or a lending hand in Setup and Tear Down.

II. Leather Social & FMSD Discussion Group

Many of you have asked that we begin hosting events that take place outside of bar environments, as well as a discussion night for FMSD. We need YOUR help to get both of these things off of the ground!

We are looking for venues for brunches, potlucks, dinners, day outings and more! If you have any ideas for a location, whether it be a restaurant, public or private venue, please send it over to Scott at

Additionally, for group discussions, we are hoping to find a space that will be comfortable for 20+ men to come together and have open, productive discussion as it applies to Relationships, Leather, Health, etc. If you have a venue idea for this, or a topic you'd like to bring for discussion, please email Doriam at

III. Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry

Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry
Friday, October 06, 2017
9:00pm to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend

Join us on the First Friday of October from 9 to Midnight at the San Diego Eagle where our Brother Jerry, along with a few other FMSD Members, will be demonstrating flogging, paddling, and other forms of physical impact play!

This is your chance to learn what it's like to find pleasure in different sensations. The sting of a paddle as it collides with your ass, or the thud of a flogger while it brushes against your back before a quick crack sends tingling across all of your senses. Who knows, you might like it more than you thought.

IV. Folsom Street Fair '17

This past weekend was Folsom Street Fair 2017; for those who missed it, I (Doriam) just wanted to share a little bit about the experience with you all. As it was my first time, there were a lot of things that I got to see and experience that I had not expected, I'll keep this short -- if you have any interest in reading the full experience, contact me and I will link you to the Blog Post elsewhere where I talk about the entire trip.

The weekend started on Friday with a trip to Mr. S Leather, which was FLOODED with men from end-to-end, shopping for new gear for the weekend. As a young pup, my tail was a-waggin' once I made my way over to the Puppy Park section where I stumbled upon several new pieces of gear for the weekend, including a new Woofy Tail and Jock Holster! Not too far from Mr. S, we found ourselves at Leather Etc. where members of my Family found new harnesses, kilts, arm bands, vests and more at a FRACTION of the cost at Mr. S.

Later that evening, we made our way to Worn Out West where we found amazing deals on Toys on consignment, leather pants and chaps, latex shirts, former year Folsom tee's and so much more! I recommend it as a MUST the next time you're in the Castro. After dinner that evening, we made our way to the San Francisco Eagle (Eagle Tavern) where we were able to wear our new gear and make new friends who were locals, or visiting for Folsom Street Fair! I, unfortunately, missed out on the KUF (Kinksters Under Forty) party, but heard it was a great time from gentleman I met the rest of the time!

The following night, we saw the Baloney Boys at Oasis, and if you've never been to an All-Male Revue - make it a POINT to go watch these guys next time you're in San Francisco! The show was worth every penny! After the show, I made my way over for the All-Male Party hosted by The 15 Association. Their play space was everything I could have imagined and more, between the aesthetic, the focus and the energy exchange happening between all of the men playing that evening, I can't put in to words how perfect of a party it was! Not to mention, many of our own FMSD Member's made their way to the same party!

Sunday's Street Fair was full of amazing performances, kinksters hanging from street signs, locked in
cages, flogged by Mr. S Employees, vendors from all corners of the Kink-iverse were floating around happy to share in this experience with our Brothers and Sisters. There were LIVE performances from the Models from Steamworks, Men and Women walking around entirely in the nude, I might have even caught a few back alley blow jobs while walking down the street! But what's most important was that everyone who was attending FSF was there to enjoy one another, everyone was free to express their fetishes, their happiness, with people who they might have otherwise completely disregarded. It was an energy throughout the city blocks that FSF occupied, where it didn't matter if this was your first event EVER, or if you'd been doing this for your entire life. We were all brothers, sisters, cousins and friends - if even just for the day.

On the way home, I contacted many of the leaders for FMSD and my uncles, mentors, and teachers in the community to express my gratitude for their teaches. The excitement of being a First-Timer at FSF has gotten me excited to introduce some of our brothers next year to Folsom -- but now I'm getting ahead of myself, just scroll down to the Special Announcement for more on that. If you have never been to Folsom Street Fair, Dore Alley, or any kink conference at that, I need you to do something, not for me, but for YOU. I need you to make it a GOAL to attend FSF or DA, and experience it first hand.

V. Upcoming Events

Pet Play Lab w/ Pup Bandit & Kit Karmelit
Saturday, September 30, 2017
12:00pm - 2:00pm
House of Black, email for address
$10 to attend via Eventbrite or at the door
Tickets: Eventbrite
Description: Pup Bandit and Kit Karmelit introduce the greater San Diego Community to the wonderful world of Pet and Pup Play! This is a 101-level series designed to be grab-and-go, giving the a skill to use with the special pets in your life! Doriam (Pup Bandit) will be leading discussion about Power Exchange Dynamics, and he and Kit Karmelit will introduce the entire group to the world of Pet Moshes! After their instructional period, the space is available for open play!

Fire Play Workshop with Justin
Saturday, September 30, 2017
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop - Hillcrest
$5 Requested Donation*
TicketsPayPal.Me/FMSanDiego OR pay at the door
Description: Learn about Fire Play at this three-hour workshop! Starting at 3, Justin will go over safety and best practices when it comes to Fire-Play. After the safety portion, you will learn to use Fire Wands and perform Fire Spankings before multiple stations start running allow you to experience the joys of setting one another on fire!

Impact Demo @ The Eagle
Friday, October 06, 2017
9:00PM to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Experience Impact Play at your local leather bar! Our talented demo-tops will be available on-and-off throughout the night to model their favorite types of impact play on to any willing tops or bottoms!

Beat Your Drum - This Is Halloween!
Friday, October 20, 2017
10:00PM to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Join us in supporting California Drummer and Drummerboy at the San Diego Eagle! Beat Your Drum is a night designed for you to represent your own personal Fetish! This Month's theme is "This is Halloween" but all gear and fetish play are welcome!

Body Based Ritual Discussion w/ Elwood Reid
Saturday, October 21, 2017
10AM to 12PM
$10, or free with purchase of Ritual Steel Ticket
Description: Earlier in the day, special guest Elwood Reid will host a presentation discussing the history and intent behind many global body-based rituals. This 2-hour educational discussion will be open to the public for $10, and is included in your ticket price for Ritual Steel. Presentation attendance is offered free with your ticket, but is not required in order to participate in the evening event.

Ritual Steel: An X-Treme Tribal Experience
Saturday, October 21, 2017
6PM to Midnight
World Beat Community Center
Tickets: Eventbrite
Description: Club X in conjunction with Edgewalkers is producing Ritual Steel: An Xtreme Tribal Experience a night filled with Tribal, spiritual energy. On Saturday, October 21st, join together in the WorldBeat Cultural Center in Balboa Park for a one-night event, three years in the making. Ritual piercing, hook pull, flesh suspension, and more. You don't want to miss this event from 6:00pm till midnight.

FMSD Workshop - Things That Scare You
Saturday, October 28, 2017
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop
$5 Requested Donation
Description: What frightens you? Perhaps the idea of needle play or blood? Knives pressed against your skin? Having your senses dulled and excited at once? Does the idea of being terrified also arouse you? For many Men, these are just a few examples of how Fear can be used to increase their sexual, sensual, and play experiences. Join us for this Fear Themed Workshop in October. More information to come.

Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland
Wednesday, November 1, 2017
7PM to 10PM
Landmark's Hillcrest Cinemas
More Information: Here
Description: Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution. Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation of gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

GMAG December - Male Modeling Opportunity
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Twiggs in University Heights
Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only
Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought about male modeling? Or perhaps refining your photography and artistic skills when it comes to the male form? Check out the Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego. GMAG has invited FMSD to participate in their shoot for December 4, the theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is welcome and encouraged, but not required! If you are interested, contact Scott at

VI. From ME to YOU

Thank you, first of all, for sticking through to the (near) end of this blog post. I understand this is much longer than our usual posts, but there has been so much to share with you that I couldn't contain myself! It is with YOUR support that I will continue to put out these posts, share events and gatherings with you, and continue to grow this Family.

VII. Special Announcements

Now that I've made you wait six sections, it's time to reveal our Special Announcements. I've mentioned before that I am planning on making 2018 a big year for FMSD. This is just a tiny preview of what we have planned for you, and while all of the details are not finished yet, we will do everything in our power to get it taken care of.

Parties - FMSD would like to start hosting a Bi-Monthly All-Male parties, alternating between small parties of 30-40 Men, to large parties up to 80+ Men. If all goes well, we will be announcing the next party sometime in October!

Volunteer Trip to DA/FSF - We are hoping that our new volunteer system will give us the opportunity to invite some of our volunteers to join us next year at Dore Alley or Folsom Street Fair! This will require some finessing, but we want you to know that we TRULY appreciate the hard work you put in as a Volunteer!

Ritual Swarm - I'll leave this one to your imaginations.

In Service,
Doriam C

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