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Wednesday, October 18, 2017

This Is Halloween - FMSD Hosts Beat Your Drum Night!

Table of Contents

I. Masques & Mischief - Friday, 10/20
II. Fetish Show & Tell - Saturday, 10/28
III. Upcoming Community Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Masques & Mischief - Friday, 10/20

Friday, October 20, 2017
9:00PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free!




"AWRRUUUUU!!!" - Pup Bandit

It's that time of year again! Where ghosts and ghouls come out to play; at least, that's what we tell the kids so they don't rot their teeth on candy! This year, FMSD and California Drummer have something special planned for you naughty freaks --

This is Halloween - Masques & Mischief

Join us for this Fetish Men Takeover of the San Diego Eagle as we partner with California Drummerboy 2017, Erik Thomas, and host Beat Your Drum - This is Halloween! Pup Bandit (aka Doriam!) will be your Host Pup for this evening of Kinky, Fetishy, Freaky Fun! The Eagle will be running Drink Specials all evening, and you're encouraged to wear your Hottest, Raunchiest, Scariest Fetish Gear this evening for a chance to win the "This is Halloween Costume Contest." The Costume Contest will be held at Midnight on the stage, sign up with Pup Bandit for your chance to win! California Drummer will also be running a silent auction in support of Erik's travel fund, so be sure to make it in before Midnight for your chance to add these to your Trick-or-Treat Bag!

"But, Doriam!! What's FMSD doing!?"

Great question floating head! Fetish Men San Diego is hosting the Masques & Mischief portion of the evenin' starting at 9PM! Masques and Mischief is a night of Masked Men, Kinksters and Cruisers, coming out and starting trouble having fun! Inside the bar, if you aren't already in a mask, you can donate* any amount to Fetish Men San Diego and receive a mask of your very own! Because let's be honest, there is something HOT about a Man in a Mask. But wait! There's MORE!

Pup Bandit will be wandering around, carrying his Doggy Bag of Tricks & Treats! What's in Bandit's Sack? You'll just have to reach in and find out! Don't miss this FMSD Takeover!

*All donations go toward their respective organizations (CA Drummerboy'17 Travel Fund or FMSD Resource Fund), to keep future workshops, events and discussions funded for your enjoyment!

II. Fetish Show & Tell - Saturday, 10/28

Saturday, October 28, 2017
5:00PM to 8:00PM
Location: Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Donations to FMSD are welcome, otherwise Free!

You've asked for a Monthly Discussion group and we're bringing it to you! Join us for the first reincarnation of the Fetish Men San Diego discussion group - Fetish Show & Tell. This early evening discussion will give those of us sticking around during Palms Springs Leather Pride weekend a chance to catch up and talk about our commonalities - the things that turn us on.

Discussion will be lead by two of our Brothers, and will give each person the opportunity to talk about the thing that turns them on. From cigars and fire, to role play and water sports, this is an open table discussion for you to talk about that special something that just does it for you! If you are so inclined, bring something to show the group that represents your fetish! Bring a friend and introduce them to FMSD, the more the merrier!

If there is enough interest, members are welcome to bring food to share with the group or a small donation to order food for our brothers to enjoy during the discussion!

III. Upcoming Community Events


FMSD Hosts Beat Your Drum! - This is Halloween, Masques & Mischief!

Friday, October 20, 2017
9:00PM to Midnight
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: We're taking over BYD Night at the Eagle this month! Join your host, Doriam/Pup Bandit, for a night of Kinky, Fetishy Fun at San Diego's local Leather Bar! Drink Specials will be running all night, and we'll be auctioning off a few items in addition to hosting a Costume Contest - so bring out your hottest, raunchiest, scariest gear! Pup Bandit will be there with his Doggy Bag of Tricks & Treats! All donations will go to Erik's, California Drummerboy 2017, travel fund!


Body Based Ritual Discussion w/ Elwood Reid
Saturday, October 21, 2017
2PM to 4PM
Location: World Beat Community Center, 2100 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92101
Cost: $10, or FREE with purchase of Ritual Steel ticket
Description: Earlier in the day, special guest Elwood Reid will host a presentation discussing the history and intent behind many global body-based rituals. This 2 hour educational discussion will be open to the public for $10.

Ritual Steel: An X-Treme Tribal Experience

Saturday, October 21, 2017
6PM to Midnight
Location: World Beat Community Center, 2100 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92101
Cost: $0-$45
TicketsEventbrite
Description: Club X in conjunction with Edgewalkers is producing Ritual Steel: An Xtreme Tribal Experience a night filled with Tribal, spiritual energy. On Saturday, October 21st, join together in the WorldBeat Cultural Center in Balboa Park for a one-night event, three years in the making. Ritual piercing, hook pull, flesh suspension, and more. You don't want to miss this event from 6:00pm till midnight.

LOCK-tober Chastity Social
Saturday, October 28, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Location: San Diego Eagle
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free!
Description: Curious about chastity? Ever wondered what it would be like to hold the key to a locked up boy? Join the meet up at the San Diego Eagle this month on October 28, from 3PM to 6PM and meet boys and Sirs with an interested in cock cages, chastity devices, and more! And stick around for the Underwear Party later that evening!

FMSD Discussion Group - Fetish Show & Tell
Saturday, October 28, 2017
5PM to 8PM
Location: Contact DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Cost: Free to attend, donations to FMSD are welcome.
Description: After the chastity social, join Brothers us as we host this month's discussion - Fetish Show & Tell. Tell us a little about the thing that turns you on, that fetish that just takes you right over the tipping point - you'd be surprised to find how many guys share in your interests! Bring a friend, and if you are so willing, something that shows off your fetish!

Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland

Wednesday, November 1, 2017
7PM to 10PM (6PM Ticket Purchasing)
Location: Landmark Theater - Ken Cinema
More Information: Available on Facebook
Description: Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution. Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation of gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Location: Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU


Howdy Gents! If you haven't seen already, we have finally released our new Volunteer Program which has been modeled after the volunteer systems of many of the clubs in San Diego. We have modified to suit OUR needs, and also worked it in such a way that it benefits YOU for your service to FMSD. If you haven't had the chance to look over it, please take a moment and do so!

I am also very happy to announce that we are now scheduling out the next year's worth of events, and securing more and more venues as we go! With the first year of my leadership of Fetish Men San Diego wrapping up, I can honestly say that this club has done so much good for me that I can't thank you, my brothers, enough! Had it not been for you, and for the support, trust, and friendship you've bestowed in me to this point, I don't know that I could have done this all!

So thank you. Thank you a hundred times over, for supporting me when I fumbled and when I charged. I hope for your continued support as we wrap up this year and move in to the next! We have a lot of great classes, workshops, events and discussions planned, and everything just becomes more and more real the more you are involved! With that, I will wrap this up and look forward to seeing you all at Masques & Mischief on Friday Night!

In Service,
Doriam C

Announcement! NEW Volunteer Program!

Table of Contents

I. Thank You & Volunteers
II. Volunteers Needed
III. Who Qualifies?
IV. What Do I Get?
V. Fingers Crossed

I. Thank You & Volunteers


First, I want to thank you for taking the time to read this posting. In an organization like this, the involvement of our membership as volunteers is imperative for continued success and growth. Without YOU, this club can not and will not thrive; so again, Thank You for considering becoming a part of our Volunteer Program.

Volunteers come in several different forms. From Ambassadors who are willing to be visible members of FMSD to welcome the new folk, to Dungeon Monitors ensuring that our members are playing safely within the Dungeon Space and Guidelines, to our very own Leadership Positions -- No volunteer position is any more important than the next, and all are needed for the success of Fetish Men San Diego. As you go through this post, you'll learn more about our Volunteer Program, keeping in mind that some positions will be added/removed as events require them.

If you find that Volunteering isn't in the cards for you right now, we completely understand - but please keep an open mind, and encourage our Brothers to take a look, you never know who the next diamond in the rough will be!

II. Volunteers Needed

These lists will be split between Specific Events & On-Going Volunteer Positions, as well as Special Request positions by the FMSD Leadership.

On-Going:

  • Ambassadors 
    • Ambassador is a role designed for the more social men amongst our membership. The Ambassadors role is to welcome new and returning attendees, as well as providing basic club information. We ask that as an Ambassador you be available for one social event a month. [Ambassadors will be given 2VP per Event Hour]
  • Instructors/Hosts 
    • Instructors & Hosts are needed to help in putting together the events for FMSD. These positions are directly involved with planning events. Instructors are in charge of leading workshops or being available to assist in workshops, while Hosts act as facilitarors for discussion and friendliness during socials and discussion groups. [Instructors & Hosts will be given 5-10VP per event lead]
  • Promotion 
    • Promoters are asked to assist in spreading the word about FMSD events across multiple platforms, as well as bringing other events to our attention. A Promoter should be able to easily use Social Media Outlets such as Facebook, Fetlife, Email, Blogspot, Recon, etc. and be available to share posts to the Fetish Men Pages for the membership to see. [Promoters will be given 1VP weekly for sharing events]
  • Set-Up/Teardown 
    • Each of our events has some degree of Set-Up and Teardown, whether that be arriving early and arranging furniture and putting out food, or staying late to do some cleaning. This team is absolutely necessary for any and all events put on my FMSD. [Members of this team will be given 2VP for each role they fill per event.]


Event Specific:

  • Dungeon Monitors (DMs)
    • DMs are asked to monitor play spaces and events to prevent safety violations and guideline violations. To be a Dungeon Monitor, you will be asked to go through a small training with an existing DM. [DMs will ben given 3VP per Volunteer Hour]

FMSD Leadership

  • Advisor 
    • Advisors are closely involved with the Leadership for FMSD. This is a "team" role, and we ask that anyone interested in acting as an advisor for FMSD be available to meet with the current Leadership once a month for discussion. [Advisors will be given 1VP per Hour of attended meetings.]
  • Archiving Team
    • We are looking to build a team of men who are willing to work as FMSD Archivists. This role can be as few or as many men as we like, and will be co-led by Scott and Papa Tony; the role of the Archivist Team is to document events, write reviews and generate interest for future events, all while keeping a lively record of this history of FMSD. [Archivists VP will be awarded based on contribution.]

III. Who Qualifies?


To Volunteer, the only prerequisite is that you ATTEND a Fetish Men San Diego event! After which, we ask that you email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com with what you are interested in volunteering for; you may be asked a few questions thereafter as well.

For Ambassadors, Instructors, and Hosts we recommend you have a willingness to be extroverted and welcoming to the new folk, as it makes the position much easier on you. For DMs, we ask that you have a good grasp on multiple forms of play and that you know what to look for to prevent risk; we can train if needed.

For most first-time volunteers, you may be paired with another volunteer to shadow and see the requirements of the position before being left on your own.

IV. What Do I Get?


Promotion Flyer 9/2/17 (Past)
You may have noticed the bracketed text after each volunteer position above. If you did not, they read:
"[This position] be will be given [#]VP per [source]."
What this means is that each position will award the acting volunteer with a number of Volunteer Points (VP) that the Leadership will keep track of. Volunteer Points can be used at a 1VP-to-1$ Ratio when purchasing tickets to events.

For Example:
Johnny has 10VP and wants to attend the Big Party in February, which costs $25. Johnny cashes in his 10VP and pays the $15 difference for the event.
Additionally, if you are volunteering for an event, you are invited to attend the event for free - except for parties. If you are Volunteering for a party, you will be asked to purchase a reduced cost ticket for the portion that you will not be volunteering during.

For Example:
Johnny volunteers for First Shift DM at the February Party ($25) from 8p-10p, he earns 6VP for working his shift, and instead of paying for the entirety of the party, he pays instead $15.
Volunteer Points may NOT be used at the same party they are earned. In the example above, Johnny has 6 points added to his account for the next event, but still has to pay the $15.

V. Fingers Crossed


The Leadership of FMSD has been trying to figure out a way to give more to our volunteers. We are hoping that by gaining your involvement, and by growing our organization, we may be able to give one more big reward to the Volunteers.

Come July, we would like to be able to take up-to 5 Volunteers with us to Up Your Alley in San Francisco as a Thank You for your involvement with FMSD! We will announce the Gentleman who we feel have committed themselves as volunteers in June. There is a lot of work that will go in to making this happen, so please stay tuned!

In Service,
Doriam C

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

FMSD Potluck and Upcoming Events



Table of Contents

I. FMSD Potluck Social
II. X-Men Leather Care
III. Upcoming Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. FMSD Potluck Social

Saturday, October 14, 2017, 
2PM to 6PM
LOCATION: Contact DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
DESCRIPTION: We are happy to have our second event at our SECURED Workshop Space in Hillcrest! We had a successful Fire Play Workshop there last month. C'mon back to attend our first Male-Only Potluck Social at that location.

Q: What should I bring?
A: Cups, plates/bowls, and eating tools will be provided. In an effort for this not being a desert buffet bar, please bring entrees, salads, and non-alcoholic beverages. Scott will bring his triple chocolate bundt cake and if you have a non-chocolate dessert you are compelled to bring, please do so!

Q: What else should I bring?
Bring some toys if you like. Maybe there will be some opportunity to share what you know and demonstrate it. They will at least be a conversation starter.

Q: What do I wear?
A: As always, Street Legal to the door. Bring a towel or two for the pool and hot tub, Bathing Suit if you wish, although nudity is OK. The outdoor shower should be used before you get into the pool or hot tub.

Q: Where is this place?
A: The location is being kept private until 48 hours prior to the event per the owners request so contact Doriam directly for the address.

If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to email Doriam at DoriamFMSD@GMail.com! Care to attend but not sure what to bring, or afraid of your own cooking? If you'd like to support FMSD by making a donation to purchasing supplies and/or further food items, please go to Paypal.me/FMSanDiego

II. X-Men Leather Care



Thursday, October 12th, 2017

7PM to 9PM
Location: Pleasures & Treasures
Cost: $5 requested donation, Free to Club X members
Description: Join Erik T, San Diego Bootblack 2016 & California Drummerboy 2017, and Jacob, Runner-Up San Diego Bootblack 2017, as they introduce us to the ins-and-outs of Leather Care. Bring your gear for a chance at receiving some hands-on demo time, as they go over what is in their bootblacking kits and perform live demos for you to see them in action!

III. Upcoming Events

Beat Your Drum Night @ San Diego Eagle
Friday, October 20, 2017
10:00PM to Midnight
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Join us in supporting California Drummer and Drummerboy at the San Diego Eagle! Beat Your Drum is a night designed for you to represent your own personal Fetish! This Month's theme is "This is Halloween" but all gear and fetish play are welcome!

Body Based Ritual Discussion w/ Elwood Reid
Saturday, October 21, 2017
2PM to 4PM
World Beat Community Center, 2100 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92101
Cost: $10, or FREE with purchase of Ritual Steel ticket
Description: Earlier in the day, special guest Elwood Reid will host a presentation discussing the history and intent behind many global body-based rituals. This 2 hour educational discussion will be open to the public for $10.


Ritual Steel: An X-Treme Tribal Experience
Saturday, October 21, 2017
6PM to Midnight
World Beat Community Center, 2100 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92101
Cost: $0-$45
Tickets: Eventbrite
Description: Club X in conjunction with Edgewalkers is producing Ritual Steel: An Xtreme Tribal Experience a night filled with Tribal, spiritual energy. On Saturday, October 21st, join together in the WorldBeat Cultural Center in Balboa Park for a one-night event, three years in the making. Ritual piercing, hook pull, flesh suspension, and more. You don't want to miss this event from 6:00pm till midnight.

The San Diego Eagle - LOCKtober
Saturday, October 28, 2017
3PM to 6PM
Cost: Support the venue, otherwise Free!
Description: Curious about chastity? Ever wondered what it would be like to hold the key to a locked up boy? Join the meet up at the San Diego Eagle this month on October 28, from 3PM to 6PM and meet boys and Sirs with an interested in cock cages, chastity devices, and more! And stick around for the Underwear Party later that evening!

Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland
Wednesday, November 1, 2017
7PM to 10PM (6PM Ticket Purchasing)
Landmark Theater - Ken Cinema
4061 Adams Ave, San Diego, California 92116
More Information: Available on Facebook
Description: Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution. Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation of gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.

GMAG December - FMSD: Leather, Gear, and Kink Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Twiggs in University Heights
Cost: Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only. Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought posing for artists in, and out of, your gear? Or perhaps refining your sketching, drawing, painting or photographic artistic skills of the male form? The Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego (GMAG) has invited FMSD to participate in their monthly art night on December 4. The theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is very welcome although not required! Photography is restricted to the photographer and model and the private Facebook group if the model consents to that. If you are interested, please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

IV. From ME to YOU

Hello Gents! Thank you again for supporting us in our endeavors to grow this club and brotherhood! I would love to hear more from you as we continue to grow. I understand than many men avoid using Facebook as a means for communication as we continue forward, however it is my only means of effective communication in collecting data for future workshops and events. As of right now, we have run two polls for Party Frequency and Workshop topics, if you have not voted or did not see these polls because you aren't on Facebook, please email me and let me know your thoughts! I am open to other suggestions for better communication methods for these polls! We are currently thinking about 4 parties each year (2 Large, 2 Small), and the top votes for workshops are Bondage Based and Body Workship/Torture based.

Also, we are looking for more venues for socials and events. We would like eventually to host up to 4 events each month with FMSD including a Social, a Workshop, and Discussion Group and a "Special" event each month. For that, we need space to do so, if you know of ANY spaces that may be willing to accommodate us, reach out to me by emailing: DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

Lastly, keep an eye out for another blog post coming shortly! It goes over our NEW Volunteer Program, and the perks that come with being a volunteer! Expect that in your Inboxes within the next 48hours if you are subscribed to this blog!

In Service,

Doriam C

Friday, October 6, 2017

TONIGHT! Impact Play @ San Diego Eagle - 9PM to Midnight!

Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry


Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry
Friday, October 06, 2017
9:00pm to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend

Join us on the First Friday of October from 9 to Midnight at the San Diego Eagle where our Brother Jerry, along with a few other FMSD Members, will be demonstrating flogging, paddling, and other forms of physical impact play!

This is your chance to learn what it's like to find pleasure in different sensations. The sting of a paddle as it collides with your ass, or the thud of a flogger while it brushes against your back before a quick crack sends tingling across all of your senses. Who knows, you might like it more than you thought.