Chastity Social, Show & Tell, and Community Discussion

Saturday, January 24, 2026 | Noon to 4:00 PM

Starting the new year locked, curious, or holding the key? Fetish Men San Diego is excited to invite you to a relaxed and welcoming Chastity Social, Show and Tell, and Community Discussion focused on connection, curiosity, and shared experience.

This gathering is part of our ongoing effort to build a stronger local community of chastity lovers. Whether you are currently caged, exploring the idea, or enjoy being a keyholder, this event is designed to bring like-minded men together in a comfortable and respectful environment. We will talk about what draws us to chastity, the thrills and frustrations of being locked, and the dynamics of holding the key, all while enjoying a laid-back social atmosphere.

This is a casual social where you can mingle, chat, and if you choose, show off your cage. Clothing is optional, and attendees who plan to go nude or partially nude should bring a towel.

Event Details
Saturday, January 24, 2026
Noon to 4:00 PM
Private home in San Diego (address provided after RSVP)

Who Should Attend
This event is for kinky guys, men who are caged, men curious about chastity, and keyholders who want to connect, socialize, and have fun together.

Potluck and Vibe
This is a relaxed potluck-style gathering. Feel free to bring a favorite snack or drink to share if you would like, and most importantly, bring your good energy. We are creating a friendly, welcoming space for community and connection.

RSVP Required
To attend, please RSVP by Friday, January 23 in the evening by emailing:
SignMeUpForEvent@gmail.com

Use the subject line:
“Chastity Social – January 2026”
Include your first and last name in the body of the email.

We look forward to starting the year together in community.

Leo
President, Fetish Men San Diego

FMSD Workshop: Impact Play

Back by Popular Demand

Fetish Men San Diego is excited to welcome you to an upcoming hands-on workshop focused on impact play, one of the most common and versatile forms of kink play. Whether you are curious, just getting started, or looking to refine your technique, this workshop is designed to meet you where you are.

Impact play can include flogging, paddling, spanking, and other forms of consensual striking. While it may look simple from the outside, doing it well and safely takes knowledge, communication, and practice. This workshop offers a supportive environment where learning and exploration are encouraged without pressure or judgment.

Throughout the afternoon, experienced tops and educators will be available to:

• Demonstrate a variety of impact techniques

• Talk through different toys, styles, and approaches

• Answer questions openly and honestly

• Offer personalized coaching for those who want hands-on guidance

The focus of the workshop is not just technique, but also consent, safety, and communication. We will discuss negotiation, reading reactions, aftercare, and how to build confidence as both a top and a bottom. This is an ideal space for beginners and the impact-curious, as well as those looking to sharpen existing skills.

Event Details

Date: Saturday, January 10, 2026
Time: Noon – 4:00 PM
Experience Level: Open to all experience levels
Location: Private residence (address provided after RSVP)

RSVP Information

RSVP is required to attend.

Please RSVP by Friday, January 9th by emailing:
SignMeUpForEvent@gmail.com

Subject line:
Impact Play Workshop – January 2026

Be sure to include your first and last name in the body of the email.

We look forward to creating a space where members can learn, practice, and connect in a way that reflects the values of Fetish Men San Diego: education, respect, and community.

We hope to see you there.

Chastity Social, Show and Tell, and Discussion

Saturday, November 22, 12:00 PM to 4:00 PM

Chastity is more than a kink. It is connection, communication, trust, and a unique blend of tension and release that draws people back again and again. Whether you are locked, curious, or the one holding the key, the experience can be exciting, frustrating, intimate, or deeply fun. This month, we are creating space to explore all of that together.

We invite you to join us for a relaxed and welcoming Chastity Social, complete with show and tell, discussion, and community connection. This is a clothing optional event, so please bring a towel if you plan to undress. The atmosphere is casual and social. Expect open conversation, shared experiences, and a supportive space for anyone interested in chastity play.

What to Expect

This event is designed for kinky men, caged guys, the chastity curious, and key holders who want to connect in a low pressure environment. Whether you are seasoned or brand new, this is a chance to ask questions, share stories, and learn from others in the community.

We will spend the afternoon talking about what draws us to chastity, what challenges us, and what excites us about it. If you want to show off your cage or gear, you are welcome to do so. If you simply want to listen and learn, that is welcome too.

Event Details

Date: Saturday, November 22
Time: 12:00 PM to 4:00 PM
Location: Private residence. Address will be shared upon RSVP.
RSVP: Email SignMeUpForEvent@GMail.com to reserve your spot.

Notes

This is a casual social event. Potluck is optional, so feel free to bring a snack to share. Most importantly, bring your curiosity, your respect for others, and your good energy.

We look forward to spending an afternoon building community, sharing knowledge, and celebrating the many experiences of chastity play.

Pet Play 101: Exploring the World of Pups, Ponies, Kitties & Cows

Title: Pet Play 101: Exploring the World of Pups, Ponies, Kitties & Cows

From pups to ponies to kitties to cows, pet play is a wonderfully diverse part of kink culture — and there’s room for everyone!

Join Pup Rowdy of San Diego Pets & Handlers (SAN-PAH) and Tanuski (Steve), founder of Bay-PAH, DEFCON Furs, Hack Your Lives, and Whiskey Pups, for a deep dive into all things pet play — for both sides of the lead.

Date: Saturday, November 8
Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
Location: Provided upon RSVP

In this interactive session, we’ll cover:
Safety & consent for human and pet roles
Gear & toys that enhance connection and play
Play styles, training, and mindset
Negotiation tips and community resources

Whether you’re a curious newcomer or a seasoned handler, this workshop will help you explore pet play in a safe, affirming, and inclusive space.

RSVP by November 7: signemupforevent@gmail.com

FMSD Presents: Mummification — Learn / Play / Explore

 This October, we’re wrapping up something special.

Join us for an afternoon of exploration, education, and kink community connection as Sir Francis guides us through the art and practice of mummification — the sensual, sensory, and psychological play that invites deep trust and surrender.

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Event Details

Date: Saturday, October 11
Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
Location: Provided in RSVP confirmation email

With Halloween just around the corner, what better time to learn how to safely wrap up a partner—or yourself—for an unforgettable scene or party? This hands-on workshop offers a welcoming space for learning, practicing, and witnessing. Whether you’re brand-new or experienced, there’s room for everyone to participate at their own comfort level.

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What to Expect

Where does one even start? That’s where Sir Francis comes in. He’ll share his personal experiences, safety techniques, and creative tips for both aesthetic and restrictive wrapping.

You can:

• Mummify

• Be mummified

• Or simply observe and learn

Bring curiosity, an open mind, and leave expectations behind. You might be surprised where the experience takes you.

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What to Bring

• A towel and a sheet if you wish to be wrapped (please indicate this in your RSVP)

• Bandage scissors if you have them

• Optional: The pool will be open—bring an extra towel or two. A bathing costume is not required.

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About Sir Francis

Born and raised in New York and now a proud San Diego native, Sir Francis entered the Leather community in 2013. He is deeply committed to promoting Safe, Sane, and Consensual BDSM play through mentorship and education. His approach to mummification carries a strong spiritual and connective element.

In 2016, he was welcomed into San Diego’s Leather family as Officer Wes’ slave, and today he continues to share his knowledge with warmth and humility—reminding us that play can be both profound and playful.

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Submit a Question

Want to ask something ahead of time?
You can pre-submit your questions when you RSVP or by emailing us directly at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

Please note: All thoughtful questions are welcome, but presenters may choose not to answer some. Attendance at this event doesn’t imply permission to ask personal questions of trans individuals—or anyone—outside of this space.

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RSVP

To attend, email SignMeUpForEvent@gmail.com with the subject line:
“Mummification Discussion – Oct 11”

Include your first and last name, and let us know if you’d like to be wrapped so we can plan pairings and materials.
Please RSVP by Friday, October 10 at 6 PM PT.

If you’re interested in assisting or demoing, mention that in your RSVP as well—we’ll follow up with details.

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Join Us

This workshop is part of FMSD’s ongoing mission to create spaces where men can connect, learn, and grow through kink and community. The most valuable thing you can bring is yourself—along with respect, curiosity, and a willingness to learn.

Come explore, share, and celebrate your kinky side with the men of Fetish Men San Diego.

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fetishmensandiego@gmail.com
Fetish Men San Diego

Explore the Art of Impact Play — Join Us August 9th!

 Fetish Men San Diego invites you to a special hands-on Impact Play Workshop on Saturday, August 9th, from 12:00 PM to 4:30 PM. Whether you're a seasoned veteran or just starting your journey, this event is an opportunity to learn, explore, and connect in a safe, supportive environment.

🗓 Date: Saturday, August 9, 2025
🕛 Time: 12:00 PM – 4:30 PM
📍 Location: Provided upon RSVP

This workshop will dive into the techniques and dynamics of flogging, paddling, and single tails—with a focus on safety, respect, and consent. Experienced tops and educators will lead live demonstrations and answer your questions, offering insights for all skill levels.

Why Attend?

• Get hands-on guidance in a low-pressure, community-focused space
  
  

• Learn the importance of negotiation and aftercare
  
  

• Observe or participate—it’s entirely up to your comfort level
  
  

• Connect with others who share your curiosity and passion
  
  

💬 "The most valuable thing you can bring is an open, curious, and respectful mindset—and a willingness to learn from each other."

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🎟 RSVP Required

Space is limited and no drop-ins will be admitted.
Please RSVP by Friday, August 8th at 12:00 PM by emailing:

📧 signmeupforevent@gmail.com
Subject line: Impact Play Workshop – August 9th
Include your first and last name in the body of the email.

Once confirmed, you’ll receive the location details via email.

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We’re proud to offer events like this that educate, empower, and build stronger bonds within our kink and leather communities. Whether you’re exploring impact play for the first time or refining your technique, we welcome you to join us.

See you there,
The FMSD Admin Team
📧 fetishmensandiego@gmail.com
🌐 fetishmensandiego.org

Fire Play Workshop, Sat, Jan 11, 4pm-8pm

 Greetings Gentlemen!

Our first event of 2025 is sure to keep you warm on these cold winter nights. The workshop is all about fire play! Fire play is incorporating the use of fire into your scenes in a multitude of creative ways. From heat and sensation, to impact, and even as a human vessel for other people to use such as roasting marshmallows! Our presenter is Justin, also known as IBuildThings who has been in the community for a number of years. He'll go over safety precautions as well as some easy ways to include fire in your scenes. THIS WILL BE A HANDS ON EVENT SO COME READY TO PARTICIPATE!

The event will be held on SATURDAY JANUARY 11th from 4-8pm. This is so that we can take advantage of an early sunset so we can see the fire during the workshop.

Please send your RSVPs with your first and last name to SignMeUpForEvent@gmail{dot}com by 6pm Friday January 10th. Please specify the event you are attending so we can make the door list.

Here are some other events coming up in our community!

• Steve Wendt (Moose Leather) Celebration of Life- Saturday January 18th 2-4pm @ The Rail
• America's Finest City Pup Contest: Saturday February 8th
• SDBB and Leather Contest: Friday March 7th and Saturday March 8th

The most important thing to bring is yourself and your warm, open, friendly personality to share with others!

The Men of Fetish Men San Diego

We will not be checking email the day of the event.

Please bring your ID so we can make sure those who attend match our guest list.

Proof of COVID-19 vaccination or recent negative COVID-19 test is required for entry

Open to those who identify as male who are 18 years of age and older

Responses will be sent starting Wednesday, 19 June 2024.

FMSD supports negotiation and consent in all kink play. Granting consent and clearly negotiating are hindered if you are in an altered state. Therefore, this is a non-alcoholic event and is open to male identifying persons at least 18 years old.