The Lowdown: Everything You Need to Know Before You Go

Getting ready for our upcoming FMSD event? Here is the complete rundown on what to expect, house navigation, safety guidelines, and how we keep the space comfortable for everyone.

The Day at a Glance

• Hour 1 (Social Hour): Music playing, casual mingling at your own pace.
• Hour 2+ (Workshop): Educational demo begins; background music is turned way down or off.
• After the Workshop: Open play space opens up for anyone interested. Participation is never mandatory!
• Crowd Size: Typically 10–30 people, keeping things intimate and easy to navigate.

Arrival & Checking In

• Parking: Street parking available. Arriving on time is recommended for a closer spot.
• Entry: Enter through the side gate—look for the FMSD sign.
• Check-In: Check in at the entrance table. Donations are optional.
• Merch: Official FMSD shirts and pins are available for purchase at check-in.

The Spaces

• Living Room & Kitchen: The central social hub with food, drinks, and music during the first hour.
• Garage: Equipped with a Saint Andrew’s Cross and massage table.
• Backyard: Play space featuring lounge furniture, shade umbrellas, and an open pool.
• Decompression / Aftercare Area: Dedicated quiet space to rest and reset.
• Bathrooms: Two restrooms available on site.

What to Wear & Bring

• Dress Code: Clothing is optional throughout the event. Most attendees wear shorts and a t-shirt, casual leather/gear, or nothing at all. Wear whatever makes you feel good.
• Potluck: Bring a dish or drink sized to serve 3–4 people. Please take any leftover food home at the end so nothing goes to waste.
• Pool & Gear: Bring your own towel if you plan to use the pool.

For Our Sensory Friends

• Sound Management: Music is limited to the living room during the initial social hour and lowered significantly or shut off during the workshop.
• Calmer Zones: The backyard and back rooms offer lower-stimulation environments.
• Comfort Items: Bring whatever you need to stay regulated (headphones, fidgets, blankets, comfort items)—zero judgment.
• Zero Pressure: You are welcome to step away, decompress, or leave at any time.

Safety, Consent & Privacy

• Safe, Sane & Consensual (SSC): All activities strictly follow SSC standards. Always ask before touching any person or their belongings. No means no, always and without exception.
• Dungeon Monitors (DMs): DMs wear identifying lanyards and are introduced at the start of the workshop. Reach out to them at any point if you need support or mediation.
• Photo Privacy: Prefer not to be photographed or posted online? Ask for a wristband at check-in so others know not to include you in photos.

Questions? Reach out anytime before the event at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

Inkless Tattoo Workshop Presented by Savage Sal

Join Fetish Men San Diego for an afternoon of skill-sharing, community, and sensation play at our upcoming Inkless Tattoo Workshop, presented by Mr. San Diego Leather 2026, Savage Sal.

Whether you're curious about the mechanics of inkless tattooing, want to explore needle play and sensory thresholds, or simply want to hang out with the brotherhood poolside, this is an afternoon you won't want to miss.

Event Details:

• Date: Saturday, September 12, 2026
• Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
• Presenter: Savage Sal (Mr. San Diego Leather 2026)
• What to Expect: A hands-on educational demonstration exploring inkless tattoo techniques, safety protocols, equipment handling, and sensation dynamics.

What to Bring

• Potluck Dish: Bring a small dish or snack to share with the group.
• Pool Gear: The pool is open—bring your towel, swimwear, or gear to cool off between demos.
• Curiosity & Good Energy: Open to all experience levels, from complete beginners to seasoned kinksters looking to expand their skill set.

RSVP Required 

Click here to RSVP

To ensure we have enough space and materials for everyone attending, an RSVP is mandatory.

Secure your spot now through the link below or by logging into your member portal. Space is limited, so don't wait to register!

FMSD 2026 2nd Saturday Lineup: Demos, Skills & Community

Mark your calendars and get ready to learn, connect, and explore—the Fetish Men San Diego 2nd Saturday 2026 Lineup is officially here.

Join us each month for hands-on demos, technique breakdowns, and community skill-shares led by experienced community presenters.

2026 Second Saturday Schedule:

• August 8, 2026 — Caning
• Presenter: Sir Brian
• Explore impact techniques, precision, rhythm, and safety fundamentals using canes.
• September 12, 2026 — Inkless Tattoo
• Presenter: Savage Sal
• Discover the art, sensation, and prep involved in inkless needle play and temporary marking.
• October 10, 2026 — Needles
• Presenter: Jyro
• A deep dive into medical play, piercing play, sterile technique, and sharps safety.
• November 14, 2026 — Single Tail Whips
• Presenter: Alpha Rob
• Learn handling, cracking mechanics, body mechanics, and targeted accuracy with single tails.
• December 12, 2026 — Erotic Massage
• Presenter: Dom
• Close out the year with techniques focusing on bodywork, touch, tension release, and sensual flow.

Questions & Details

Got questions before an event or want more information on venue and entry? Reach out directly via email at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

FMSD Social: Chastity Show & Tell & Discussion

FMSD Social: Chastity Show & Tell & Discussion

Chastity is about more than just a cage. It’s a journey of trust, anticipation, connection, and playful exploration. Whether you’re currently locked, curious about trying chastity, or a key holder looking to meet others who share your interests, this gathering offers a welcoming space to connect and learn.

Fetish Men San Diego hosts this Chastity Social every other month, creating an ongoing opportunity for community members to build connections, share experiences, and support one another in a relaxed and respectful environment.

Join us for a casual, potluck-style afternoon designed to foster conversation and camaraderie. Attendees are invited to mingle, share their stories, and, if they choose, participate in a show and tell of their devices in a supportive, clothing-optional setting. Whether you’re new to chastity or have years of experience, you’ll find a friendly and inclusive space to engage with like-minded men.

What to Expect

• Casual Mingling: Meet and connect with other members of the community in a comfortable, welcoming setting.

• Show and Tell: Participants are welcome to share their devices and discuss their personal experiences. Participation is entirely optional.

• Open Discussion: Engage in conversations about the joys, challenges, and dynamics of chastity from both the perspectives of those who are locked and key holders.

• Inclusive Environment: Open to all experience levels, from the simply curious to the more experienced.

Event Details

• Date: Sunday, May 23, 2026

• Time: Noon – 4:00 PM

• Location: Private residence (the address will be shared via email after completing the RSVP Google Form)

• RSVP: Please complete the Google Form so we can send you the event address and any important updates. There is no attendance limit. RSVP

What to Bring

• A towel (required for clothing-optional spaces)

• A valid ID

• A potluck dish to share

• An open mind and respectful curiosity

Join the Conversation

This recurring event is all about building community, encouraging open dialogue, and creating a space where everyone feels welcome and supported. Whether you’re attending to learn, share, or simply socialize, we look forward to spending the afternoon with you.

Feel free to share this post with others who may be interested in joining the Fetish Men San Diego community.

 March 29, 2026

💫 Chastity Social, Show & Tell & Discussion 💫

Hey, ready to unlock a good time? 😉 not you of course!

Join us for a relaxed, sexy, and laughter-filled afternoon where you can mingle, share your story, and show off your cage (clothing optional bring a towel). Let’s get real about our chastity journeys and build a community that celebrates connection, curiosity, and a little cheeky fun.

Who’s invited: Kinky guys, locked guys, the curious, and key holders looking to meet others who get it. Everyone’s welcome as long as you bring your open mind and flirty energy.

When: Sunday, March 29th, Noon – 4:00 PM

Where: A private home (address shared once you RSVP).

RSVP: Shoot us an email to lock in your spot (pun very much intended 😉). Signmeupforevent@gmail.com

Bonus: It’s potluck-style! Bring your favorite snack to share, bring yourself & your best vibes. Casual, cozy, and very community-focused.

Rubber & Latex, Sat, 14 MAR 2026, Noon-4pm

Greetings Gentlemen,

This month, Fetish Men San Diego is excited to invite you to a kinky and educational afternoon focused on rubber and latex, featuring our guest presenter Mr. West Coast Rubber 2022, Gypse Lee.

Whether you are brand new to rubber, rubber-curious, or already love the feel, scent, and shine, this is a welcoming space to learn, connect, and enjoy community together. Expect a relaxed presentation with time for conversation, questions, and shared experience.

Event Details

Date: Saturday, March 14, 2026 (2nd Saturday)
Time: Noon – 4:00 PM
Location: Private home (address provided after RSVP)

Who Should Attend

This event is for kinky guys and male-identified folks who are interested in rubber and latex, including beginners, enthusiasts, and anyone who wants to learn more in a respectful, community-centered environment.

What to Bring

• Government-issued photo ID
• A towel (especially if you plan to be nude or in gear)
• A potluck snack or non-alcoholic drink to share
• An open mind and respectful curiosity

RSVP Required

To attend, please RSVP using our RSVP FMSD Rubber/Latex Presentation form. You will receive an email with the address once your RSVP is received.

Want to suggest a future event topic?

Complete this form: FMSD Event Ideas & Community Interest Form

We look forward to seeing you and sharing an afternoon of learning, connection, and kink.

Warmly,
Leo
President, FMSD
Fetish Men San Diego (FMSD)
San Diego, CA
www.FetishMenSanDiego.org

Bootblacking 101: Leathercare, Sat, 14 Feb, Noon-4pm

Bootblacking 101: Leathercare
Location: Private Residence - RSVP before Friday, 13 February by emailing SignMeUpForEvent [at} GMail (com). RSVPs will start to go out Wed, 11 Feb.
--- Use the subject line: “Leather care workshop – February 2026” and include your first and last name in the body of the email.

Taking care of leathers can be a simple task, a service, or an erotic exchange of energy. For some it is a fetish for a type of boot, an act of community service, or an expression of service to a select few people. The individuals that take on the identity of being someone that cares for leathers and boots are often called bootblacks.

This class will be an introduction to the basics of taking care of high shine and oil tan boots and leather garments with some discussion on how it can be used in different contexts.

Attendees are invited to bring a basic pair of boots or a garment that needs some basic work (cleaning/conditioning) and any bootblacking supplies they may already own. There will be opportunities for some hands-on practice. If you don’t have supplies, the basics should be available to borrow.

Presenter Bio: Pup Rune

Pup Rune is a trans masc non binary queer boy with 7 years of bootblacking experience and the honor of being San Diego Bootblack 2025. He is a founding member of the San Diego Bootblack Guild and an all around Good Boy™️. As a member of Haus von Rowdyhousen he excels at both technical bootblacking as well as stirring up trouble in the stand.

Please bring your ID so we can make sure those who attend match our guest list.

Proof of COVID-19 vaccination or recent negative COVID-19 test is required for entry

Open to those who identify as male who are 18 years of age and older

FMSD supports negotiation and consent in all kink play. Granting consent and clearly negotiating are hindered if you are in an altered state. Therefore, this is a non-alcoholic event and is open to male identifying persons at least 18 years old. 

 Chastity Social, Show & Tell, and Community Discussion

Saturday, January 24, 2026 | Noon to 4:00 PM

Starting the new year locked, curious, or holding the key? Fetish Men San Diego is excited to invite you to a relaxed and welcoming Chastity Social, Show and Tell, and Community Discussion focused on connection, curiosity, and shared experience.

This gathering is part of our ongoing effort to build a stronger local community of chastity lovers. Whether you are currently caged, exploring the idea, or enjoy being a keyholder, this event is designed to bring like-minded men together in a comfortable and respectful environment. We will talk about what draws us to chastity, the thrills and frustrations of being locked, and the dynamics of holding the key, all while enjoying a laid-back social atmosphere.

This is a casual social where you can mingle, chat, and if you choose, show off your cage. Clothing is optional, and attendees who plan to go nude or partially nude should bring a towel.

Event Details
Saturday, January 24, 2026
Noon to 4:00 PM
Private home in San Diego (address provided after RSVP)

Who Should Attend
This event is for kinky guys, men who are caged, men curious about chastity, and keyholders who want to connect, socialize, and have fun together.

Potluck and Vibe
This is a relaxed potluck-style gathering. Feel free to bring a favorite snack or drink to share if you would like, and most importantly, bring your good energy. We are creating a friendly, welcoming space for community and connection.

RSVP Required
To attend, please RSVP by Friday, January 23 in the evening by emailing:
SignMeUpForEvent@gmail.com

Use the subject line:
“Chastity Social – January 2026”
Include your first and last name in the body of the email.

We look forward to starting the year together in community.

Leo
President, Fetish Men San Diego

FMSD Workshop: Impact Play

Back by Popular Demand

Fetish Men San Diego is excited to welcome you to an upcoming hands-on workshop focused on impact play, one of the most common and versatile forms of kink play. Whether you are curious, just getting started, or looking to refine your technique, this workshop is designed to meet you where you are.

Impact play can include flogging, paddling, spanking, and other forms of consensual striking. While it may look simple from the outside, doing it well and safely takes knowledge, communication, and practice. This workshop offers a supportive environment where learning and exploration are encouraged without pressure or judgment.

Throughout the afternoon, experienced tops and educators will be available to:

• Demonstrate a variety of impact techniques

• Talk through different toys, styles, and approaches

• Answer questions openly and honestly

• Offer personalized coaching for those who want hands-on guidance

The focus of the workshop is not just technique, but also consent, safety, and communication. We will discuss negotiation, reading reactions, aftercare, and how to build confidence as both a top and a bottom. This is an ideal space for beginners and the impact-curious, as well as those looking to sharpen existing skills.

Event Details

Date: Saturday, January 10, 2026
Time: Noon – 4:00 PM
Experience Level: Open to all experience levels
Location: Private residence (address provided after RSVP)

RSVP Information

RSVP is required to attend.

Please RSVP by Friday, January 9th by emailing:
SignMeUpForEvent@gmail.com

Subject line:
Impact Play Workshop – January 2026

Be sure to include your first and last name in the body of the email.

We look forward to creating a space where members can learn, practice, and connect in a way that reflects the values of Fetish Men San Diego: education, respect, and community.

We hope to see you there.

Chastity Social, Show and Tell, and Discussion

Saturday, November 22, 12:00 PM to 4:00 PM

Chastity is more than a kink. It is connection, communication, trust, and a unique blend of tension and release that draws people back again and again. Whether you are locked, curious, or the one holding the key, the experience can be exciting, frustrating, intimate, or deeply fun. This month, we are creating space to explore all of that together.

We invite you to join us for a relaxed and welcoming Chastity Social, complete with show and tell, discussion, and community connection. This is a clothing optional event, so please bring a towel if you plan to undress. The atmosphere is casual and social. Expect open conversation, shared experiences, and a supportive space for anyone interested in chastity play.

What to Expect

This event is designed for kinky men, caged guys, the chastity curious, and key holders who want to connect in a low pressure environment. Whether you are seasoned or brand new, this is a chance to ask questions, share stories, and learn from others in the community.

We will spend the afternoon talking about what draws us to chastity, what challenges us, and what excites us about it. If you want to show off your cage or gear, you are welcome to do so. If you simply want to listen and learn, that is welcome too.

Event Details

Date: Saturday, November 22
Time: 12:00 PM to 4:00 PM
Location: Private residence. Address will be shared upon RSVP.
RSVP: Email SignMeUpForEvent@GMail.com to reserve your spot.

Notes

This is a casual social event. Potluck is optional, so feel free to bring a snack to share. Most importantly, bring your curiosity, your respect for others, and your good energy.

We look forward to spending an afternoon building community, sharing knowledge, and celebrating the many experiences of chastity play.

Pet Play 101: Exploring the World of Pups, Ponies, Kitties & Cows

Title: Pet Play 101: Exploring the World of Pups, Ponies, Kitties & Cows

From pups to ponies to kitties to cows, pet play is a wonderfully diverse part of kink culture — and there’s room for everyone!

Join Pup Rowdy of San Diego Pets & Handlers (SAN-PAH) and Tanuski (Steve), founder of Bay-PAH, DEFCON Furs, Hack Your Lives, and Whiskey Pups, for a deep dive into all things pet play — for both sides of the lead.

Date: Saturday, November 8
Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
Location: Provided upon RSVP

In this interactive session, we’ll cover:
Safety & consent for human and pet roles
Gear & toys that enhance connection and play
Play styles, training, and mindset
Negotiation tips and community resources

Whether you’re a curious newcomer or a seasoned handler, this workshop will help you explore pet play in a safe, affirming, and inclusive space.

RSVP by November 7: signemupforevent@gmail.com

FMSD Presents: Mummification — Learn / Play / Explore

 This October, we’re wrapping up something special.

Join us for an afternoon of exploration, education, and kink community connection as Sir Francis guides us through the art and practice of mummification — the sensual, sensory, and psychological play that invites deep trust and surrender.

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Event Details

Date: Saturday, October 11
Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM
Location: Provided in RSVP confirmation email

With Halloween just around the corner, what better time to learn how to safely wrap up a partner—or yourself—for an unforgettable scene or party? This hands-on workshop offers a welcoming space for learning, practicing, and witnessing. Whether you’re brand-new or experienced, there’s room for everyone to participate at their own comfort level.

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What to Expect

Where does one even start? That’s where Sir Francis comes in. He’ll share his personal experiences, safety techniques, and creative tips for both aesthetic and restrictive wrapping.

You can:

• Mummify

• Be mummified

• Or simply observe and learn

Bring curiosity, an open mind, and leave expectations behind. You might be surprised where the experience takes you.

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What to Bring

• A towel and a sheet if you wish to be wrapped (please indicate this in your RSVP)

• Bandage scissors if you have them

• Optional: The pool will be open—bring an extra towel or two. A bathing costume is not required.

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About Sir Francis

Born and raised in New York and now a proud San Diego native, Sir Francis entered the Leather community in 2013. He is deeply committed to promoting Safe, Sane, and Consensual BDSM play through mentorship and education. His approach to mummification carries a strong spiritual and connective element.

In 2016, he was welcomed into San Diego’s Leather family as Officer Wes’ slave, and today he continues to share his knowledge with warmth and humility—reminding us that play can be both profound and playful.

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Submit a Question

Want to ask something ahead of time?
You can pre-submit your questions when you RSVP or by emailing us directly at fetishmensandiego@gmail.com.

Please note: All thoughtful questions are welcome, but presenters may choose not to answer some. Attendance at this event doesn’t imply permission to ask personal questions of trans individuals—or anyone—outside of this space.

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RSVP

To attend, email SignMeUpForEvent@gmail.com with the subject line:
“Mummification Discussion – Oct 11”

Include your first and last name, and let us know if you’d like to be wrapped so we can plan pairings and materials.
Please RSVP by Friday, October 10 at 6 PM PT.

If you’re interested in assisting or demoing, mention that in your RSVP as well—we’ll follow up with details.

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Join Us

This workshop is part of FMSD’s ongoing mission to create spaces where men can connect, learn, and grow through kink and community. The most valuable thing you can bring is yourself—along with respect, curiosity, and a willingness to learn.

Come explore, share, and celebrate your kinky side with the men of Fetish Men San Diego.

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fetishmensandiego@gmail.com
Fetish Men San Diego

Explore the Art of Impact Play — Join Us August 9th!

 Fetish Men San Diego invites you to a special hands-on Impact Play Workshop on Saturday, August 9th, from 12:00 PM to 4:30 PM. Whether you're a seasoned veteran or just starting your journey, this event is an opportunity to learn, explore, and connect in a safe, supportive environment.

🗓 Date: Saturday, August 9, 2025
🕛 Time: 12:00 PM – 4:30 PM
📍 Location: Provided upon RSVP

This workshop will dive into the techniques and dynamics of flogging, paddling, and single tails—with a focus on safety, respect, and consent. Experienced tops and educators will lead live demonstrations and answer your questions, offering insights for all skill levels.

Why Attend?

• Get hands-on guidance in a low-pressure, community-focused space
  
  

• Learn the importance of negotiation and aftercare
  
  

• Observe or participate—it’s entirely up to your comfort level
  
  

• Connect with others who share your curiosity and passion
  
  

💬 "The most valuable thing you can bring is an open, curious, and respectful mindset—and a willingness to learn from each other."

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🎟 RSVP Required

Space is limited and no drop-ins will be admitted.
Please RSVP by Friday, August 8th at 12:00 PM by emailing:

📧 signmeupforevent@gmail.com
Subject line: Impact Play Workshop – August 9th
Include your first and last name in the body of the email.

Once confirmed, you’ll receive the location details via email.

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We’re proud to offer events like this that educate, empower, and build stronger bonds within our kink and leather communities. Whether you’re exploring impact play for the first time or refining your technique, we welcome you to join us.

See you there,
The FMSD Admin Team
📧 fetishmensandiego@gmail.com
🌐 fetishmensandiego.org

Fire Play Workshop, Sat, Jan 11, 4pm-8pm

 Greetings Gentlemen!

Our first event of 2025 is sure to keep you warm on these cold winter nights. The workshop is all about fire play! Fire play is incorporating the use of fire into your scenes in a multitude of creative ways. From heat and sensation, to impact, and even as a human vessel for other people to use such as roasting marshmallows! Our presenter is Justin, also known as IBuildThings who has been in the community for a number of years. He'll go over safety precautions as well as some easy ways to include fire in your scenes. THIS WILL BE A HANDS ON EVENT SO COME READY TO PARTICIPATE!

The event will be held on SATURDAY JANUARY 11th from 4-8pm. This is so that we can take advantage of an early sunset so we can see the fire during the workshop.

Please send your RSVPs with your first and last name to SignMeUpForEvent@gmail{dot}com by 6pm Friday January 10th. Please specify the event you are attending so we can make the door list.

Here are some other events coming up in our community!

• Steve Wendt (Moose Leather) Celebration of Life- Saturday January 18th 2-4pm @ The Rail
• America's Finest City Pup Contest: Saturday February 8th
• SDBB and Leather Contest: Friday March 7th and Saturday March 8th

The most important thing to bring is yourself and your warm, open, friendly personality to share with others!

The Men of Fetish Men San Diego

We will not be checking email the day of the event.

Please bring your ID so we can make sure those who attend match our guest list.

Proof of COVID-19 vaccination or recent negative COVID-19 test is required for entry

Open to those who identify as male who are 18 years of age and older

Responses will be sent starting Wednesday, 19 June 2024.

FMSD supports negotiation and consent in all kink play. Granting consent and clearly negotiating are hindered if you are in an altered state. Therefore, this is a non-alcoholic event and is open to male identifying persons at least 18 years old.

Gear Invasion & Coffee Social, Sun, 15 Dec, 10:30am till 12:30pm, Lestat's Hillcrest

Join us for a delightful morning at Lestat's Hillcrest, where we combine the love of gear and coffee in a safe, inclusive, and relaxed environment. This is the perfect opportunity to connect with like-minded individuals, admire unique gear, and enjoy some of San Diego's finest coffee.

🕥 When: Sunday, December 15, 2024, 10:30 AM - 12:30 PM

📍 Where: Lestat's Hillcrest, 1045 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92116

☕️ What to Expect:

A welcoming space to share and showcase your favorite gear

Casual conversation over freshly brewed coffee and snacks

A chance to build connections within the kink community

Reminder: This event is for adults in the lifestyle. Please respect others’ boundaries, practice discretion, and honor the space we share.

Gear up, grab your coffee, and come join the fun! 🌟

Upcoming Discussion (17 Nov) and Workshop (23 Nov)

Upcoming Events:

• SUN 17 Nov: Discussion: Leathermen / Kink men: What does it mean and how does it show up in life?
• SAT 23 Nov: Potluck and Kinky Show and Tell Workshop

Other local, and near local, events

• Sat 9 NOV: SWAP MEAT at The Hole, 6pm-12am (doors open at 3pm)
• Sun 10 NOV: Kinky Karnival at The Rope Collective, 1-5pm
• Thr 21 NOV: "Leather 101: <intense> Play" at PECS Bar, 6-9pm
• Thr-Sun 28 NOV - 01 DEC: Leather Thanksgiving (CLAW LA)
• Sat 30 NOV: Kinky Swap Meat at The Hideaway, <time>

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What: Discussion: Leathermen / Kink men
When: SUNday, 17 November 2024, Noon - 4pm

    Yes, SUNday, not Saturday
Where: Private residence. RSVP with the event name and First and Last Name to SignMeUpForEvent [at} GMail

Leather is a thread that wove this subculture within the gay men’s, LGBTQI+, and greater society together, the connections these men formed ran much deeper than just fabric. They are leathermen —proud of their identities, their community, and the space they had carved out in a world that often rejected them.

A Leatherman is an umbrella term that most often included those who engage in BDSM, Kink, and fetishes. There is a long history of leathermen that in modern times go back to the 1930s and 40s. Since then it has changed and evolved. Many leathermen have guiding principles or values that show up in their lives weather or not they are wearing leather that makes them who they are. The leather subculture incorporates BDSM into one’s lifestyle. Leather has different meanings and associations to us. It can be symbolic of strength and power as well as sexiness and danger. Leather/animal skins is a useful and practical material that is used for clothing, and other useful items not the least for floggers and restraints.

Some of the qualities that can be associated with a leatherman are caring, integrity, honesty, growth, and passion. Your personal values are a central part of who you are – and who you want to be.

Come ready to share your thoughts and ideas that we will explore through discussion on such topics as:

• What is a leatherman?
• What is/was the draw for each of us to this community?
• What are “leather / kink” values?
• What does leather mean to me? The community?
• How do we show up as leather every day and how do we come together as a community of leathermen?

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What: Potluck and Kinky Show and Tell Workshop
When: Saturday, 23 November 2024, Noon - 4pm

Where: Private residence. RSVP with the event name and First and Last Name to SignMeUpForEvent [at} GMail

Potluck and bring your favorite toy and talk about why you like it, how you use it, and answer questions about it from the other men in the group.

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What: 5th Annual Kinky Karnival

When: SUN 10 NOV, 1-5pm

Where: The Rope Collective, 953 S. 16th St., San Diego

Tickets: $25 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/leather-realm-carnival-tickets-1059023240019

🎪 Kinky Karnival is COMING! 🎪18+ only.

Join San Diego's kink community for a wild day of fun, games, and community love—all to support Leather Realm at Pride 2025! 🌈

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What to Expect: Karnival games like Toy Bowling, Ring Toss, Slap Happy & more!

Raffles, prizes, and mystery surprises 🎁

Shop local vendors for all your fave kinky gear 🛍️

Delicious food & unforgettable vibes 🍔

🎟️ Tickets: $25 (Includes game tokens + raffle tickets)

All proceeds go to support Leather Realm—a 30-year staple of San Diego’s kink scene! 💖

Get tickets here:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/leather-realm-carnival-tickets-1059023240019

📅 When: November 10th, 2024

📍 Where: The Rope Collective, 953 S. 16th St., San Diego

👗 Dress Code: Vanilla, but express yourself!

Let’s make this the best Pride fundraiser ever! 🔥 Grab your ticket today and come ready to play, win, and support an amazing cause!

#KinkyKarnival #LeatherRealm #Pride2025 #SupportYourCommunity #SanDiegoKink

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What: SWAP MEAT

When: SAT 9 NOV, 6pm-12am (doors open at 3pm)

Where: The Hole, 2820 Lytton St, San Diego 92110

Join San Diego’s original SWAP MEAT leather/kink/bear event at 6pm on Saturday, Nov. 9th. We welcome all kink-curious & experienced trade for MANLY fun. Shop, Cruise & Dance with new buds in real time off the apps at The Hole.

Doors open @ 3pm (Classic 70s/80s)

Swap Meat event @ 6pm-12 with special Guest DJs Barbarossa B2B Ax Grind spinning (Tech) House/Groove/NuDisco.

- No Cover

- Free Parking

- Bootblack

- Vendor Market

- Outdoor Patios

- Interactive Games

- Heavy Cruising

- $5 Bud Light pitchers

- $10 well pitchers (except Mules)

- Flaco’s famous burgers (4pm)

- Pups welcome

- Coat Check (6pm)

✅For the price of 2 Hillcrest drinks, you could have a pitcher and share an Uber to The Hole! Come for the SWAP, Stay for the MEAT.

✅ Gay spaces are our sacred places. This is a MALE energy event. NO pics w/out permission.

📍The Hole - 2820 Lytton St, San Diego 92110

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What: "Leather 101: <intense> Play" at PECS Bar, 6-9pm

When: Thr 21 NOV, 6-9pm

Where: PECS Bar

Leather 101 is an educational series set up by Mr. San Diego Leather 2024 in coordination with San Diego's experienced educators to provide a safe space for those who are curious to explore leather, kink, and fetishes that they have always been interested in, but didn't know how or where to begin.

Classes will rotate between different locations monthly so that learners can experience more of San Diego's LGBT spaces, and to accommodate the needs of each course.

Class 6: Presented by Alpha Rob

Get ready for an intimate evening of discovery and exploration, as we delve into the world of <intense> play. This interactive workshop will guide you through the basics of <intense> play, emphasizing safety, communication, and consent.

Experience the sensual thrill of this unique practice and learn how to incorporate it into your personal connections. Our featured educator, Alpha Rob, will provide a comprehensive introduction, covering:

- Safety protocols and hygiene best practices

- Communication techniques

- Various <intense> play techniques and styles

This course will be held at PECS on the lower patio bar area. While the event is scheduled 6pm- 9pm to allow time to be social, class will start promptly at 7pm to be respectful of our educator's time.

This is a free event but purchasing drinks from our host location is encouraged. 🙂

Finally THANK YOU to our November sponsors for Leather 101 - 

Gear Blackout Party: linktr.ee/gearblackoutparty

and

Pleasures and Treasures: https://pandtstore.myshopify.com/

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Thr-Sun 28 NOV - 01 DEC: Leather Thanksgiving (Formerly CLAW LA)

What: Leather Thanksgiving

When: 27 Nov through 01 Dec 2024

Where: Hotel Indigo, Los Angeles, CA

For registration, visit: https://ClawInfo.org/

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• Sat 30 NOV: Kinky Swap Meat at The Hideaway, <time>

In Leather,

The Men of FMSD

Discussion: Limits - How to Set them and How to Push Them, Sat, 19 Oct, noon-4pm

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Rope Bondage Workshop and potluck, Sat, 26 Oct, Noon-4pm

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