This week is quiet, because so many people will be out of town for IML. I have been in contact with men in several states who started heading up to Chicago on Monday or Tuesday, getting ready for the competition.
If you've never been to IML weekend, there is a sharp dividing-line between two major agendas among attendees. On one hand, you've got the guys who are there to have as much sex as possible, and that's a wonderful thing. Nothing wrong with animal sensuality… I recommend it to everyone. On the other hand, you've got the folks who are there to cheer for their hometown heroes. Yes, they get around pretty thoroughly in their spare time, and, they also care passionately about the future of the larger community. When someone comes home from Chicago with a fresh new supply of idealism, everybody benefits.
Here in San Diego, I see a pattern: When we have more community-leaders who are secure, happy and well-rewarded, then the rest of us have better choices available to us. Our local businesses, affinity-groups and charities do better, more people show up for popular events, and successes build upon successes.
I hear folks complain that we have too many fundraisers and don't have enough raunchy, huge play-parties, or men-only spaces, or whatever. These are all valid complaints, and if anyone feels strongly that we need some changes around here, I invite them to start doing something about it. We haven't yet reached our limit when it comes to local leadership. You don't have to start from zero and shoulder a huge burden on your own. There is a huge support-system in place, ready to make life easier for people with big new ideas.
In fact, you can start with me. I know a lot of people reasonably well, and I'm familiar with their talents. I can introduce you to at least ten people who will be happy to help you with your goals. San Diego's community has come very far, very quickly, because we are well-connected with each other.
Be the change that you want to see.
-=-=-=-=- UPCOMING EVENTS -=-=-=-=-
* Events marked with an asterisk are mixed male/female events, usually hosted by Club X, which is a very large, very reputable and very wonderful pansexual club in San Diego. FMSD is focused on gay-male interests, always and forever, but we also support all other local kinky groups that may attract some of our members. Everybody can use some brotherhood!
Thursday, May 26, 6:30-9:30PM: Family Event Fundraiser for the Leather Realm at SD Pride.
Saturday, May 28, 9PM-2AM; I.M.L. IN EXILE party at the Eagle. It is also the UNDERWEAR PARTY AND CONTEST, hosted by Mr. SD Eagle 2010 David.
Sunday, May 29, 2-6PM: HOT-DOG EATING CONTEST at the Redwing, hosted by Mr. SD Bear 2011 Mark. This is a benefit for The Trevor Project and Special Delivery San Diego.
May 27 - May 30; International Mr. Leather 2011 weekend in Chicago. Sending our best wishes with Anthony, Mr. San Diego Leather 2010!
* June 4: Club X Play Party featuring Simon Blaise presenting "Blaise Wrap" -- Cling Play/Polyvinyl Suspensions
Sunday, June 5, 5-8PM: CIGARS & BOOTS at Redwing, hosted by California LeatherSir Miles B. First Sunday of each month, out on the patio at Redwing. I don't even smoke, and I love this event. Everybody is warm, welcoming and relaxed.
Friday, June 10, 9PM-1AM: DRESS IT UP/STRIP IT DOWN at the Eagle. This has become the biggest fetishmen event in San Diego every month! It's the nicest, friendliest crowd you'll see at a leather bar. Here are a few reviews, if you haven't been to one yet. This month's theme is HARNESSES, so please wear one if you've got it. I'll be taking a group photo at around 11PM. Here are some pictures from October, February, March and April. Notice how HAPPY everybody is. You deserve to be that happy too
June 10-12; Los Angeles Pride
June 16, 8-11PM; Yellow Hanky Night at the Eagle. Third Thursday of each month.
* Friday, June 17, 8:30PM-1AM: FRIDAY NIGHT BEAT AND GREET, downtown, hosted by Bryan Teague - American Leatherboy 2010, tiger - Ms San Diego Leather 2010, caryl - San Diego's premier Sea Monkey Trainer, and Mike Underwood - San Diego's very own Curmudgeonly teddy bear. Third Friday of each month. This is a GREAT educational event if you want some hands-on training in a safe environment.
June 17-19; California Leather Sir/boy, Bootblack and Puppy Contest. It'll be a major leather event in San Diego, so don't miss it!
June 25-26; San Francisco Pride
July 1-5; Monster Manhood Weekend in Palm Springs.
July 15-17, San Diego Pride, featuring the large, annual and well-attended Leather Realm during the festival.
Friday, July 29, 8:30PM-1AM: MEN-ONLY FRIDAY NIGHT BEAT AND GREET, downtown, hosted by Bryan Teague - American Leatherboy and Mike Underwood - San Diego's very own Curmudgeonly teddy bear. The Men-Only version is on the FIFTH Friday of each month, such as September 30, and (possibly) December 30th for 2011. There will be hands-on training for folks who want to learn from experts in a very safe environment.
July 28-30; International Leather Sir/boy/Community Boot Black in San Francisco, leading into...
July 31; Dore Alley/Up Your Alley Street Fair