Upcoming Events

The purpose of this listing is to provide a one-stop, unbiased and reasonably complete listing of events that would attract gay FetishMen in and around the San Diego area.  It is meant to be spread as widely as possible, so that folks inside and outside Facebook have free access.

Please follow the standard reference for events listings:

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/09/posting-guidelines-for.html

If you post your event, it will be sent out via email each week, after being edited for appropriateness and completeness.

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Recent articles:

Our new Home Page is live! Designed to work on smartphones, tablets, laptops or Times Square billboards!

Recap of Men's Discussion Workshop (Oct 23, 2013)

FMSD Status Report, Late October 2013

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Wed. Oct. 30, 7-11PM: Hallow's Eve Spanking Demo & Play Fest

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/10/hallows-eve-spanking-demo-play-fest-wed.html

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Saturday, November 2, 4-7PM: Cigars & Boots at Bourbon Street. Aaron says: Stop by Bourbon Street San Diego for our monthly cigar social. Master Tom will be visiting from London and a few new faces. I hope to see you all there. Even if you are not a smoker, please join us. It is a great event, with great people. You are guaranteed a good time.

https://www.facebook.com/events/236907626467358/

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November 1-3: Palm Springs Pride

http://pspride.org/pride-2013/festival-info/fetish-in-the-outfield/

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/09/palm-springs-pride-request-for-san.html

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Saturday, November 2, 4-7PM

Hosted by American Leatherman 2013 Aaron Duke - our newest national titleholder! He says:

Stop by Bourbon Street San Diego for our monthly cigar social. Master Tom will be visiting from London, along with a few new faces. I hope to see you all there. Even if you are not a smoker, please join us. It is a great time with great people. You are guaranteed a good time.

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Saturday, November 2:  Bear Night @ Numbers Nightclub 3811 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92103

BearNight is The First Saturday of Every Month at NUMB3RS — Now Rockin' Both Bars!

$3 Miller, Miller Lite, Coors or Coors Light
$6 Double Svedka and Seagram's flavored vodkas Plus, Grilled-to-Order food on the patio including Burgers, Hot Dogs, Tacos, Burritos and More!

Featuring the Best in High Energy Dance & House by our own DJ Jon Williams!

9pm–2am | Cover: $5 before 10pm, $7 afterwards

http://www.bearnightsandiego.com/

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November 7-10: Palm Springs Leather Pride

http://www.desertleatherpride.com

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Fri, November 8, 10PM:  Harness @ Numbers San Diego
3811 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92103
On the 2nd Friday of every month, CUB CLUB SD and Numb3rs Nightclub present HARNESS, a monthly Leather/Gear event.  It's simple; wear what you want. However, we encourage strapping on your HARNESS. GET IN EARLY to entertain your friends & imbibe......You never know what will happen in the dark.

NOVEMBER HOST: SPIKE TRANC (BOOTBLACK/ BLACK AND TAN)

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Wednesday, Nov. 13, 7PM: Massive Movie Night @ Birch North Park Theater at 2891 University Ave. Tonight's treat: The funniest gay comedy of all time.

http://tribalvibept.blogspot.com/2013/10/our-next-huge-level-three-event-is.html

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Sunday, November 17, 5-10PM @ Private Residence in Sherman Heights: Poker Tournament, Cigars, Drink Service & Cards Against Humanity side game.
Proceeds from this event will benefit Leather Cares Help Fund, an organization that benefits individuals in our community during tough times, created by Wish Linda.

https://www.facebook.com/events/530562953679565

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Monday, Nov. 18, 7PM:  White Board Session re: Leather Kink Fetish Area at San Diego Pride 2014

Please join us for an open conversation to share your input about the Leather Kink Fetish area at San Diego Pride. We're starting with a blank slate and want your ideas. (If you are unable to attend, please feel free to share your thoughts via email with Aaron at mrsandiegoleather2012 @gmail.com and/or Wish at wish.email@ cox.net)

https://www.facebook.com/events/194548120729918

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Friday, December 6, 2013, 6-11PM: December Nights Leather/Fetish Takeover

Mr. & Ms. San Diego Leather Eli Correa & Colt Everyday cordially invite you to join in this fun & free social event! Plan on meeting at the Top of the Park anytime between 6-7:30pm for a mixer and to form our posse!

If you don't feel like going to that portion or can't make it until later, we will then walk over to Balboa Park and swing slowly by the Museum of Man (which houses the Instruments of Torture exhibition) sometime between 7:45-8pm to pick up others.

We hope you'll also join us in getting geared up!

https://www.facebook.com/events/1406140706286849/

December Nights information here: http://www.balboapark.org/decembernights/

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Fri, December 13, 10PM:  Harness @ Numbers San Diego
3811 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92103
On the 2nd Friday of every month, CUB CLUB SD and Numb3rs Nightclub present HARNESS, a monthly Leather/Gear event.  It's simple; wear what you want. However, we encourage strapping on your HARNESS. GET IN EARLY to entertain your friends & imbibe......You never know what will happen in the dark.

DECEMBER HOST - IAN MORTON (BLACK AND RED MASQUERADE)

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January 17-20: Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend 2014

http://www.leatherweekend.com

Hallow's Eve Spanking Demo & Play Fest, Wed. Oct. 30, 7-11PM

Magnum says...

"It has been a pleasure and honor to organize and present this month's discussions and workshops. I trust they were fun, stimulating and inspiring and that you found the topics to be of value".

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Here's the final event for October 2013:

This Wed Oct 30th from 7-11pm: "Hallow's Eve Spanking Demo & Play Fest"!

Cum and indulge your gluttonous appetite for "spanking and butt impact" play!

This is our first attempt to create an alternate space for our monthly demo nights at a private residence to allow more freedom of expression.

Patrick (a member) has offered his home for this "trial run" and it's suggested that you email him to RSVP and to receive the address.

Here's Patrick's email: pjwilloughby11@yahoo.com

Please bring your butt, hands, paddles, canes, tree limbs, belts, spatula, spanking horse and a playful attitude for a night of "spanking" tricks & treats!

FMSD Status Report, Late October 2013

By Papa Tony

These are a few of the men are currently working, 

helping and coordinating their efforts to make 

FMSD's next phase the best one of all!

If I missed somebody, please forgive my patchy memory…

Almost exactly forty months ago, I created FetishMenSanDiego with just a few gathered emails, and a promise of more events to come. Since then, there have been 668 blog posts, hundreds of cooperative and mellow events, thousands of new followers, and a deep, rich legacy of brotherhood. 

At no time have I done it all by myself. We are greatly blessed to have always had a large, affectionate team of brothers who are dedicated to shifting our Tribe into its next phase. The magic of FMSD's design is that it is crowdsourced. Our next stage is going to be all about empowering anyone with an excellent idea that will benefit our community, so that his dreams can come true.

In my own case, rather than retiring completely (as I had previously said that I would), I have realized that I can still contribute as part of a team.  Many men are eager to create new events and traditions, and I'm sticking around to applaud, coach (if desired) and facilitate their efforts.  Decades of experience can be a great asset for men who are on the rise!

I will still be pretty darned visible in an online context, though I won't be front and center at most of our upcoming events. A BIG team of men are successfully starting out as community leaders, and each individual event will be run by the guy in charge. If you don't know these men yet, you'll have plenty of opportunities to find out how wonderful they truly are.

This is the time of year when the number and scope of events will decrease more and more as the end of the year approaches. Then, after the first of the year, expect some surprises. One of the benefits of a flexible group is that it's designed to be an environment that encourages innovation.

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The foundation of our group is tremendously strong:

- We are gaining a minimum of five followers every single day, and sometimes many more. Many of them live nowhere near San Diego, but they hunger for a strong sense of Tribe, and we supply it in a very appealing way.

- By supporting other groups through advertising their events, we are supplying "glue" that helps the larger community thrive.

- We have an increasing number of men with experience and deep wisdom among us, and they are eager to share what they know. 

- Our youngest brothers are ecstatically happy - thriving, and getting the support that they need from dozens of "Loving Uncles".

- Many couples have found each other through our group.

- We're somewhat "Top Heavy" in our membership (around fifty percent, week after week at the Men's Discussions), and this is a wonderful thing. I plan to keep mentoring other Tops as an ongoing community service… More sassy, experienced Tops = happy, happy bottoms!

- Speaking of the Men's Discussions, we're breaking new records in attendance. Each month, a new member of the team takes over the Men's Discussions; making the plans, coordinating the presenters, and taking responsibility for how things go, once the meeting is under way. This is working superbly.

- Check out our new home page - It's designed to set the goals for the group for a long time.

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Our next Enormous Movie Night is coming up on Wednesday, November 13th.  It's going to be wonderfully typical of how FetishMen can be, when we are at our best. If you want to be a part of some thoroughly enjoyable history, don't miss it!

Expect BIG announcements after the first of the year.  We're getting all of our ducks in a row before then, so stay current, and watch what happens!

Recap of Men's Discussion Workshop (Oct 23, 2013)

Note: The fourth Wednesday of each month is reserved for Hands-On Demo Night, which will be held at a private residence.

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Once again there were no empty seats at last week's "Wed Men's Discussion". At least 42 men were in attendance for the "rap group" that centered around the mutual interest concerning fetish and "claiming what you desire" in the realm of BDSM.

The workshop was facilitated by Magnum and  started with a group of members posing in a "tableau" (living portrait) to stir up our perceptions and interpretations of BDSM.

Magnum asked the men "what did they see and feel"? while they were instructed to change positions around the tableau and the room.

As the men checked-in and introduced themselves, each man talked briefly about his perceptions of the tableau. The discussion was lively and thought provoking.

Next, the men gathered in small groups and intimately shared and discussed their beliefs, judgements and opinions regarding BDSM.

As the workshop came to a close, the men expressed that they had become more aware, and discovered that "we have more in common with our fetishes and desires than our perceived differences".

Come join us next week for fun, fellowship and brotherhood!

Welcome Home our American Leatherman 2013 Aaron Duke and Fetish Finds Social

Note from Tony:  I'm completely unaffiliated with this event - I'm just posting details here so that the folks who aren't on Facebook can remain informed. However, I FULLY endorse everything to do with the event, and our newest brother club.

San Diego Fetish Brotherhood is our Tribe's newest group, and I wish that we had fifty more of them. Back in 1997, we had twenty-six local affinity-groups dedicated to kink, leather, and fetish.  The Internet killed nearly all of them.

Thanks to San Diego's renaissance of folks who are showing up at events because they are tired of living virtual lives, we are building and sustaining new groups such as San Diego Puppy Patrol, Leather boys of San Diego, FetishMenSanDiego, and now San Diego Fetish Brotherhood (SDFB). I'm revealing it a bit early, but the paperwork for the new Southern California/Southwest chapter of ONYX has now been submitted, so we'll be hearing more from them soon. 

FMSD's specialty role as "Social And Education Support Team For Our Tribe's Newest Members" will continue as before. Thanks to the rapidly growing diversity of groups, we can all focus on our strengths.

2014 is going to be our best year ever, and we are greatly blessed.

Let's give our brothers a warm welcome!

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Friday, Oct. 25, 6:30-10PM: Welcome Home our American Leatherman 2013: Aaron Duke, and Fetish Finds Social, hosted by San Diego Fetish Brotherhood.

Come congratulate the New American Leatherman 2013: our very own Aaron Duke!

While you're celebrating, check out all the awesome gear, toys, and boots that have been donated from local community members, with low prices and all funds go to support Wish Linda's help foundation. We will be providing some appetizers and cold soft drinks as well.

Upcoming Events

The purpose of this listing is to provide a one-stop, unbiased and reasonably complete listing of events that would attract gay FetishMen in and around the San Diego area.  It is meant to be spread as widely as possible, so that folks inside and outside Facebook have free access.

Please follow the standard reference for events listings:

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/09/posting-guidelines-for.html

If you post your event, it will be sent out via email each week, after being edited for appropriateness and completeness.

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A few of the 47 men who showed up for 

Rob's Ropes & Bondage workshop, Oct 16.

Review and pictures are here.

This is the time of year when events become fewer.  This is a normal part of our yearly cycle.  We are heading into a season when there will be office parties, trips to visit family out of town, holidays and endless distractions. So, expect things to pick up heavily once the new year begins.

Our newest local titleholder - 

San Diego Eagle Pup 2013 Colton 

howls with pleasure while holding his trophy, 

with Pup Gauge by his side. Saturday, Oct. 19, 2013.

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Wednesday, October 23, 5-6:30PM: Pizza Party & Planning Committee Meeting at Papa Tony's house. RSVP to psicop@cox.net

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/10/fmsd-pizza-partyplanning-meeting.html

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Wednesday, October 23, 7Pm-9PM:

Men's Discussion: Tonight's topic: MAGNUM AND CO. RAP GROUP DISCUSSION
Magnum & Co. will facilitate along with group interaction of discussion around mutual interest concerning bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism and other related topics!

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/10/magnum-co-rap-group-discussion-wed-oct.html

Optional homework (to complete and bring to the meeting) can be found here:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1pr_4_UwAjduAWoqNYUS-Qc-e_TReQNcgslodpqqSt5w/edit?usp=sharing

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Wednesday, October 23, 9:30PM

Donald Vella invites you to join him for "The Haunted Trail Of Balboa Park"
Those looking for some scares (or maybe we can do the scaring!) can join him. It's open till 11PM so we'll try to meet up after Discussion Group by 9:30. It's located off 6th and Juniper in the loop area where the pride festival is held.

http://www.hauntedhotel.com/pages/trail

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Wednesday, October 30, 7Pm-?:
DEMO NIGHT (NEW LOCATION @ PATRICK'S HOME!!!)This is the night to learn how to and/or experience flogging, bondage play, and the other fun fetish play our community has to offer.

RSVP to pjwilloughby11@yahoo.com for details.

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November 1-3: Palm Springs Pride

http://pspride.org/pride-2013/festival-info/fetish-in-the-outfield/

http://fetishmensandiego.blogspot.com/2013/09/palm-springs-pride-request-for-san.html


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Saturday, November 2:  Bear Night @ Numbers Nightclub 3811 Park Blvd., San Diego, CA 92103

BearNight is The First Saturday of Every Month at NUMB3RS — Now Rockin' Both Bars!

$3 Miller, Miller Lite, Coors or Coors Light
$6 Double Svedka and Seagram's flavored vodkas Plus, Grilled-to-Order food on the patio including Burgers, Hot Dogs, Tacos, Burritos and More!

Featuring the Best in High Energy Dance & House by our own DJ Jon Williams!

9pm–2am | Cover: $5 before 10pm, $7 afterwards

http://www.bearnightsandiego.com/

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November 7-10: Palm Springs Leather Pride

http://www.desertleatherpride.com

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Wednesday, Nov. 13, 7PM: Massive Movie Night @ Birch North Park Theater at 2891 University Ave. Tonight's treat: The funniest gay comedy of all time.

http://tribalvibept.blogspot.com/2013/10/our-next-huge-level-three-event-is.html

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January 17-20: Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend 2014

http://www.leatherweekend.com

FMSD Pizza Party/Planning Meeting, Wednesday, Oct. 23

Social portion starts at 5PM, business portion starts promptly at 6PM. Should be done by 6:30, so folks can then head to the Men's Discussion.

If you're in the mood to help with FMSD's next phase, we want you! We have a solid crowd of great volunteers already, but we want to see who else wants to make our group even better as time goes by.

Topics will include:

- Longterm goals,

- Tasks that need to be handled to maintain the group's forward motion,

- Changes in procedure, and

- Our role in the larger community as the environment changes.

This is the first of a series of such talks, as we continue to build a powerful, effective team for 2014 and beyond.

RSVP to psicop@cox.net to get the location, and to tell us how many folks will be arriving, so that we can order sufficient pizza and beverages.