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Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Return of Cigars & Boots at Redwing Bar & Grill, June 7th


In One Month:

June 7, 4-7PM: Return of Cigars & Boots at Redwing Bar & Grill4012 30th Street!

Hosted by Jon LeatherBoy Somerville (left)
and Ron Brundige LeatherAlpha (center).  
That's GladiatorDog Nikita on the right.


BIRTHDAY BOYS!

Dan Woodward, Robb Rodd and Mike Russell are all celebrating birthdays that same day, so let's have them be our valued guests of honor!  Let's make this one extra-special. Are there any other Gemini's out there, that are hungry for cake???


Cigars, tobacco pipes, cigarettes, and dip welcome.


You don't have to be a tobacco enthusiast to enjoy the socializing!


$3 Well Drinks, $3 Domesic Bottled Beers, and Happy Hour Menu Specials until 6PM.


Bootblack on site, so bring your leathers!


Open to all genders/sexualities (21 and over).

Friday, April 25, 2014

Newest Updates for April 24

Our new newsletter system provides a BIG listing, found here.  This is the short listing, to keep from overloading folks with too much information:



Sunday, April 27, 2014, 3:00pm - 4:30pm: Leather boys of San Diego, Membership Meeting at the Eagle




Wednesday, April 30, 2014 7PM: FMSD Discussion Group - "SIZE Matters"
Host: Jon LeatherBoy Somerville

This will be a discussion about body size/type discrimination, and any discrimination people have encountered based on cock size. An invite will be extended to members of Bears San Diego to join us as they will have some interesting perspectives on the body size/type portion of the discussion.

There is some simple, OPTIONAL homework for people to complete here:


(The surveys will be randomly distributed and read out loud to the group by our members. No names, tracking, or other identifying information is gathered from this webpage.)

LOCATION:

Upper Classroom of the outbuilding at Mission Gathering
(Please arrive at 6:45PM to allow time to locate street parking.)
Address: 3090 Polk Ave, San Diego, CA 92104
Hope to see you all there!




Thursday, May 8, 9PM:  FBSD Kickoff Social/Red Hankies Night at the @ the Eagle, at 3040 North Park Way.

Expect a VERY sociable time.  Most times, a man arrives lonely, or unsure, or feeling awkward and shy.

NO PROBLEM!

This time around, we will have several natural-born "Julie the Cruise Directors" mixing and mingling, and making sure that every man feels welcome and safe.  Bring your friends, or come alone... It makes no difference - We’re all brothers here!




Mr. San Diego Leather 2013 Eli

Saturday, May 10, 5-9PM: Eli's Saturday Night Variety Show at Numbers, 3811 Park Boulevard.

From Mr. San Diego Leather 2013 Eli:

Calling all the Bears, Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Imperial Court, Pups, FMSD, Club X, Leather, and any others I missed. Do you have talent and want to show it off. All those interested please private message me. Deadlines for all performers will be April 20.

Otherwise come out to see the variety of performers for one night and on one stage for only a $5 SUGGESTED and only SUGGESTED donation price. We will have raffles throughout the night and giveaways.

After the event ends you can stay for the Harness Event to enjoy great music and hot men.

Performers confirmed so far:
Ian Morton
Brandon Potter
Develyn Angels
Michael L Perry
Michael Johnathan Fillion

After the event ends you can stay for the Harness Event to enjoy great music and hot men.




Saturday, May 10 at 6:30pm - Sunday, May 11 at 3:00am Bus Trip from The Barracks in Palm Springs to the Eagle in San Diego. Let's make our brothers feel extra-welcome! Email Chris at clowen67 @yahoo.com, or talk to the bartenders at the Eagle!

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Review of Club X Black & White Party, April 19, 2014

First of all, I haven't got a single bad thing to say.  This is a rave review. I left deeply satisfied on many levels.




A few of the brothers from FetishMenSanDiego came to check out the action at the recent Club X play party:

- The party was perfectly produced, laid-out, furnished, and staffed. This is a Class Act: the team clearly cares about the result.  I've seen bigger events, and flashier events, but this one was just right.  Any bigger and it would have been too much. It sold-out early, with 125 attendees.

- I honestly suspect that the folks there were turning themselves inside out to convince us gay guys that they were just as sweet, just as intimate and just as available for friendship as their brothers in FMSD have shown ourselves to be.  I totally get that, and I believe it. This new generation of folks are damn nice. The previous team did a great job of teaching them, but I also see a whole new energy that is delightful to see. At all times, I felt like red carpets were being rolled out in front of me, with rose-petals raining down in my path. It was all heartfelt and authentic.

- On that same topic, I kept hearing the same thing all night (and I'm paraphrasing): "Club X was started by gay leathermen, and we really want our brothers back in the mix."  I think I heard a variation of this from at least ten folks, and each time, it was said with great passion.  We are missed, guys.  Our sisters and brothers want the Family Reunions to include the entire family.  I'm doing a lot of pondering on this topic.

- The folks who staffed this event worked as though their lives depended on it.  I'd be able to distract them for a few seconds, but each time, I'd be asked to come back at the end of their shift, because they had a job to do.  I'm deeply impressed by that.  That level of dedication has to be cultural, and baked right in.  It doesn't show up any other way.

- I play with gay males all of the time.  I recommend it to everybody... AND, I had a blast playing with folks of every type at this party.  There's a different dynamic, with each different person, but it's never anything less than wonderful.  I got to connect on a really good level with everybody who crossed my path.  If you're looking to learn, this is a GREAT way to learn new styles, new techniques and new ways to interact.  Superb role-modeling and social-interaction opportunities everywhere.

- It was visually SPLENDID.  My lord - what a show!  These folks know how to kick out the JAMS!

I wish that I could take my visual memories and place them here for everybody to share.  Since I can't, I urge my gay-male brothers to come to the NEXT Club X Play Party with me - I don't want to miss a single one!



From Frank, to the Club X team:

Chuck and I wanted to let you know the club threw a terrific party last night.

I’m new to the scene and Chuck is a football field behind me trying to decide if it’s for him. In November 2013 I attended a Body Electric: Power, Surrender, Intimacy workshop and that was what turned me on to BDSM.

This was our first play party and your DMs made us feel very comfortable. We appreciated that not only as a gay couple but as first timers.

The space was laid out well and the variety of scenes that were going on was incredible. I particularly appreciated the women that were expressive submissives and just beautiful to watch. I am a painter by hobby and have trained painting nudes, there were times I wished I had a canvas with me.

I also work in healthcare and appreciated the time taken to orient us to safe, healthy practices while playing; particularly the hygiene of the equipment and Muffin’s needlework was exceptional.
I hope we will be seeing more of each other.

As with Papa Tony I think the work that you guys do is valued and necessary.

I do have questions about pan-sexual gatherings and relationships that perhaps one day we could discuss.

But for now Thank You for a GREAT first time experience, Frank and Chuck

Audio, Pictures & Review of Kilts & Karaoke & Relationships Night

Photos are by the always-superb Scott Smith, who is currently training our brother Mike to be the new, up-and-coming documentarian star of our group's Tribal History.  What our Tribe has needed for decades is a core group of essential elders/mentors who stick around and help the next generation along.  I couldn't be more proud of Scott for taking his craft to the next level, and SHARING it. This behavior speaks really well for his character.




On Wednesday, April 16, 2014, the men of FMSD enjoyed one of the most interesting, vivid evenings we've ever had.  At the end of the evening, I went around and asked each man "At which point during the evening were you bored out of your skull?"  In every case, I got the amused response that I was looking for:

"NEVER!"


KILTS


The evening started out with everybody swarming around, exchanging hugs and love, and catching up with each other.

Once everybody calmed down enough to have a seat, we started out with announcements, and then I introduced our special guest Rob Scott, who I had met at the Hole a few days earlier. Rob makes his own kilts, and as a surprise, some of the men in FMSD wore OUR kilts to welcome him.


Rob fascinated us with his stories and craftsmanship, and his warmth.


He's a charmer!


He even modified a pair of shoes to be more Scottish-Traditional in style.  He sews leather, if it's thin!


Rob and I started throwing kilt-themed jokes back and forth, but I got booed off of the stage when I pulled out the old, old stinkeroo:

"What's the difference between a gay man in a kilt, and a washing-machine?"

Hands on hips, swishing the kilt from side to side, and using a very effeminate voice: "Well, I'm SURE that I DON'T KNOW!"


Some our men tried on Rob's kilts, and did the Runway Walk, with the Turn, the Significant Pause and the Head Toss, while the rest of us cheered and encouraged them to "work that kilt, baby!"

We gathered on stage to get a Kilted Men Group Photo, and then somebody (I suspect Jon) yelled out "Do the Braveheart Photo!"


So, we did.


Our photographer Scott deserves to be documented in a kilt as well!

At the end of the meeting, Rob was eager to become our newest member, and will be attending events going forward.  With THAT kind of affectionate welcome, can you blame him?


Rob also sold a kilt (the blue denim one), to his very first customer Ron, who proudly wore it the rest of the evening. I think we can all agree that it looks like it was custom-made, just for him, to show off his manly attributes.

If YOU are interested in purchasing a custom-made kilt, please contact Rob the Kiltmaker at Rgscott41 @gmail.com


WHIP PRESENTATION


Then, I asked the men with the most experience in the group to come stand shoulder-to-shoulder with me on stage. They were there to act as witnesses as I presented Frank, our newest Whipmaster, with a whip that he had earned. I was acting in my capacity as Tribal Elder.

I'm drawing the curtain of discretion over the topic of HOW he had earned it, though I told him privately, afterward - I keep my criteria pretty secret. Why?  Because I want to study each trainee with careful, considered observation, and to reward him when he has reached a level of excellence that tells me that he is ready to own a certain level of Mastery.  If I just hand away the criteria publicly, then folks will feel like they will only have to check items off of a list, and get an automatic treat in return.

I never, ever try to CHANGE anybody - Instead, I hold a metaphorical mirror up to his gaze, to show him how wonderful he has always been. My goal is to have him OWN who he is, flaws and all, and to love the man that he has become. If he has earned some signifier of personal growth and upward transformation, then he will treasure his passage more if he knows that he has thoroughly earned it.


DISCUSSION

Then, it was my turn to lead a discussion on "NAVIGATING THE CHALLENGES IN POLY/OPEN RELATIONSHIPS" Including Jealousy, Conflict And Agreements. The link for the audio of this discussion is that the top of this page.

Given that it was one of the largest turnouts we've ever had for a Men's Discussion, the topic was one that attracted a lot of men to show up.  Clearly, even eighteen hours of discussion wouldn't have been enough, so a team of men will be hosting more of these sessions on the topic of Relationships as time goes by.

Here are the books that were referenced in the discussion.

From Donnie: It was a Wonderful discussion night and one we should continue, I think many of us still wanted to get a word in but we ran out of time. Maybe our first week in May we can continue...


KAROKE NIGHT!

Then, we walked three blocks over to Redwing bar, for camaraderie, chicken wings, beer and applauding each other as we belted out tunes. This is an intensely FUN time, and this was the biggest turnout we've ever had for Karaoke Night.

We used to do this regularly, months ago, thanks to our dear brother Ian, whose sweet nature, vocal range (tenor to baritone) and perfect pitch have always kept the rest of us on-key by way of example.

Then, life got in the way. Things shifted around, and we all got distracted.  Thanks to our brother Brett, we once again have something wonderful to look forward to, on the third Wednesday of each month.

Ian joined us this time around, and it was like the very best times have never left us at all. I kept looking around at the large number of happy, close and satisfied FetishMen (several in kilts) and felt as close to them as I ever have.

Many things have changed in our group since the last time we were all singing lustily on Karaoke Night, but this shows that they have all been changes for the better..

Review of Fisting 101 "Hands-In" Demo Night

From Papa Tony:

On Wednesday, April 23, 2014, FetishMenSanDiego hosted our biggest Hands-On Demo Night.

Luckily, we planned for it.

This is just 27 of the 52 men who showed up!

The RSVP's kept rolling in, and rolling in, up until well past the start of the event.  It was clear that this was going to be a breakthrough event.  So, we made a preliminary announcement about a new brother club forming, which is now complete:



Fisting Brotherhood San Diego!



Ever since 2007, when Red Hankies San Diego died, it has been difficult for many folks to find a local Tribe of fistfuckers. Yes, you can join up and advertise your desires on any number of online cruising resources, but they are not going to help you feel like you're part of something bigger. Some men like to be a "lone wolf", and that's fine, but there is also a hunger in many men to feel trust and affection as part of a larger brotherhood.

So, the new group was formed, with:

- 54 members right off the bat (and many more have joined since)
- A Web site (http://fistingbrotherhoodsd.blogspot.com)
- An email address (FistingBrotherhoodSD @gmail.com)
- A logo
- An email subscription system at the top of every web-page, so that folks can stay abreast of news about upcoming events, and
- A kickoff event coming up, as the first part of creating regularly-scheduled social and play events.

Since FBSD is based upon the same structure and philosophy as FetishMenSanDiego, it has a MUCH better chance of sticking around for years to come.



Slutbottom Chris Knows His Stuff!

Slutbottom Chris on the left, with the evening's host, Magnum

The evening started out jammed, (we prefer to call it "intimate), and honestly, it worked fine.  Chris started out the topic of Fisting 101, and the conversation got lively and interactive in the best possible way. 

We were honored with the presence of some deeply experienced, wise and glorious men who were eager to share their hard-earned knowledge, so as soon as Chris would make an important point, the Tribal Elders would make their points and counterpoints, and the newer faces among us got to see something deeply rare:

Respectable, wise and courteous brothers sharing passionately, and all wanting the same thing - To pass along their wisdom. This has been needed badly for too long a time. Many thanks to the entire team that came together to make this magical event happen. It never happens randomly - the space has to be created where folks feel safe enough to step up.

Chris pulled Chef Lee out of the crowd to draw diagrams on his front and back, indicating anatomical details that explained his points.  Much instructional material was brought forth, with plenty of props to show products that Chris recommended, and tools that he finds essential.

Then, it was time for demonstrations.  After Chris got the ball rolling from the BOTTOM'S viewpoint, he got topped for the first time that evening, by his long-term play-partner Roger.  Cobi and I moved to the two slings with Pigboy Richard and Chef Lee, and demonstrated the finer points of fisting from the TOP'S perspective.  I'm proud to say that I was able to get my ginormous paw comfortably inside of Lee with zero pain, and only pleasure.  He said later that I was the biggest fist he has ever taken.



In Conclusion:

The evening ended far too soon, unfortunately. There simply wasn't enough time, space or equipment to send everybody home, smiling at both ends.  However, it's an EXCELLENT beginning.  This evening's symposium proved that there is a widespread hunger for more information, connectedness, diversity and sheer good will.

All adult age-groups were present, involved and friendly.  In 2014, that's what we need.



Feedback

From Slutbottom Chris:

Wow, I'm blown away by how much fun tonight was! Fetish Men San Diego has yummy and diverse members & this was the most fun I've had presenting a fisting workshop.
Oh and 9 men put their hand in my butt.

Jorge Lieras Lucky bitch!

SB Chris:

Lucky to be enjoyed by some great men.

Mangum:

Chris, you were amazing! You & Roger touched, moved & inspired us with your knowledge, expertise & wit. On behalf of Fetish Men SD. Thanks for your service.

Ron Brundige LeatherAlpha Chris, thanks so very much for sharing your knowledge. I learned so much from you. All the "little" questions are answered. Hugs my friend

From David:

I just wanted to say THANK YOU!! I had the Most Amazing time last night.. and I also want to Thank Slut-boy Bottom Chris!! I don't think I have ever felt a bond between so many men as I did last night.. You hear the term "Brotherhood" and until you actually FEEL it you don't quite Comprehend what it really means. Last night it was OBVIOUS that I have found a Genuine down to earth group of loving and non-judgmental men where I can truly be myself and feel SAFE about doing so.. This is Truly the beginning of something wonderful in My life.. and I hope and pray that I will be a blessing to others as well. You forever have my Love, Respect, and Loyalty for what you do! Again Thank You!



From pig boy richard

This boy was thrilled to have the opportunity to be participating in the Demo nite event. While having a past history with and some knowledge of Fisting , it had been many years ago and the presentation made by S B Chris allowed for a somewhat "public" experience of what had previously been a very private one to become much less intimidating. S B Chris' Demo allowed the "playfulness" of playing within asses become what it is supposed to be ...FUN ! His talk was not only informative but done in such a way that I believe allowed all of those observing to feel very relaxed and excited in a highly charged and crowded room.

When my own time to be placed in the sling arrived I felt comfortable and relaxed (BTW, loved having it be You, Sir, who picked me up and put this boy into the sling!) Despite the noise/many observers, etc., having listened to the presentation and following what had been said, the room very quickly disappeared and all there was in the world was Cobi's sweet and gentle presence with me floating beneath him and his hand slowly entering me. I was able to enter a subspace within my head that I had not known for 15+ years and it was so wonderful to know it and be in it once more. Even tho' this boy bled like the "born-again virgin" I was, LOL, the experience held no negative trauma for me. I felt "safe" in the energy of the space that had been created by the event.

In retrospect, it may have been a few more men attending the event than was prudent. I was fortunate to have been very close to the presenter and felt included by being able to interact with him/them. I don't think those in the far end of the room were able to experience that  as much, even when the "one on one part" up on the table began. An event as big as that one might be more effective in a larger space if that many men are expected to attend, Sir. I've gotten that point of feedback from several others since the event. Also, considering that the event is in someone's apt., I think the limitations of the space's square-footage and personal items are a challenge when setting up the space for the events. I have some ideas for how some of the current "placements" (refreshment table area/furniture/etc.) might be more efficient for future events if were possible to present those ideas to you, Sir.

I remain most humbly grateful that You would ask this boy's opinion/responses,  Sir - pig boy richard



From Brett:

The fisting demo was a great event! Prior to the demo, my knowledge and experience with fisting on a scale of 1-10 was probably a 2 at best, but after the event I felt very educated about the preparation, safety, and technique. The room was packed but it felt cozy like a get-together with friends and family.

Slut Bottom Chris was an amazing teacher and role model. He was fun and approachable. Another big take away for me was learning more tips for training a bottom for fucking, as the concepts applied to both. Really glad I attended!



From Michael:

I’ll cut to the chase: I liked the workshop a lot -- it was helpful, practical and friendly.  I also have a couple of suggestions if you do it again.

What I liked was that it didn’t talk down to anybody: if you didn’t have fisting experience, you weren’t made to feel like an idiot.  Chris was personable (well, let’s be honest here: he’s adorable…) and he did a great job of explaining what the top can expect.  I especially liked that he brought up the yuck factor (“What if there’s shit?”) – everyone thinks about it, but we’re all afraid to say something.  Chris was down to earth and just brought it up.

What I was also hoping to learn was how the bottom takes a fist.  (I’ve fisted a few guys already, so I’m interested in learning how to take one.)  Maybe it was too much to cover both sides in one workshop and you’ll do another one from the bottom’s pov.  If so, you might want to mention the emotional component: how it’s important to caress the bottom and keep asking if he’s doing okay.  I saw a lot of guys stick their hand up Chris’s butt (which is admittedly a big step), but I didn’t see many of them caress him or be concerned about how he was doing.  I did so when it was my turn, and it made the whole experience more meaningful to me to know that he was enjoying it also.

(In the other room in the far sling, there was a top who was going about in a very thoughtful and concerned way.  I spoke to him afterwards – sweet guy (tattoo of a pen and inkwell on his shoulder), but I didn't catch his name.  Just watching him be so concerned about the bottom was very moving).

So: great workshop – helpful, sensitive and caring.  And maybe there’s room for a second workshop from the bottom’s perspective. 

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Updates for FISTING 101 Workshop: New Fisting Group Forming


This is going to be a breakthrough event.  We have NEVER had so much interest in one of FMSD's workshops.  Expect crowding.  We will make it work, no matter what.

As of right now, we are creating a new FISTING BROTHERHOOD SAN DIEGO (FBSD) special interest group email list.


If you WANT to be added to the list, send an email to fistingbrotherhoodsd @gmail.com.

We WILL be doing a Group Photo, and if you don’t want to be in it, that’s fine.  No pressure.  Here’s why we are doing a Group Photo:  We want to have a BIG group of happy, handsome faces in the publicity, to entice even MORE men to attend the first big FBSD social event:

RED HANKIES NIGHT AT THE EAGLE, THURSDAY, MAY 8, 9PM ONWARD.

The Eagle has been hosting Red Hankies nights for years, and the only thing lacking has been momentum.  Well, we’ve got PLENTY of momentum now, and then some:

There’s currently around a Nine-Tops-to-Every Bottom ratio in the eager RSVP’s that we’ve been receiving. FMSD has been pushing hard on flogging, and whipping, and sometimes bondage, but the turnout for the fisting event is staggeringly impressive. So, we’re going to push HARD in this direction.  There has clearly been a need, ever since Red Hankies San Diego went out of business.

PREPARATION TIPS FOR TOPS:

Clip your nails, and then file them down smooth.  REALLY SMOOTH.  Use your tongue to thoroughly test whether there are any sharp edges. Tops with sharp nails will never be popular, and we WANT you to be popular!

Chris will be teaching Fisting from the Bottom standpoint, and Papa Tony (among others) will be teaching fisting from the Top standpoint.  It's going to be a large-scale sharing of wisdom!

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Newest Updates for April 16

This is a new, short way of putting-out the newest information, without overwhelming people.

Going forward, there will be one, LONG listing of upcoming events each month, and weekly, bite-size updates, like this one.




Tonight: Wednesday, Apr 16, 7PM: Men's Discussion at our meeting space. Papa Tony leads discussion on "Navigating Challenges In Poly/Open Relationships" including jealousy, conflict and agreements. Expect large numbers of men in KILTS (you'll see why), and KARAOKE two blocks away, after the meeting!



It's easy to walk from the meeting to the Redwing!

Afterwards, we'll all stroll over for "Karaoke Nights" at the Redwing Bar & Grill, nearby. This event will regularly happen on the 3rd Wednesday of every month, after our Discussion.  If you haven't tried it, give it a chance. It's a jolly gathering of fun brothers!





Saturday, April 19 at 9:30pmLL Bear Dance Party @ Rich's, at 1051 University, featuring SINGLET NIGHT!




Saturday, April 19 at 8:00pmCLUB X BLACK AND WHITE PARTY

Note from Tony: Several of us are planning to attend this event. From what we are finding out, gay male kinksters are REALLY missed at Club X events, and we will be eagerly welcomed as long-lost brothers.  After we've spent so much time developing true trust and intimacy with each other, it's time to show off what we have learned!




Wednesday, Apr 23, 7PM: DEMO/PLAY PARTY "FISTING 101" WITH SLUT BOTTOM BOY CHRIS" from Club X, who is eager and excited to share his knowledge and experience, and strongly encourages audience participation. We want a group of "hungry" bottoms & "eager" tops to assist in this "hands on & in" demo. Our demo/play parties are held at a private residence, and it's encouraged to RSVP due to our large attendance and space limitations. RSVP at signmeupforevent @gmail.com.




From: Mr. Long Beach Leather 2013, Marc Ransdell-Bellenger:

As you may or may not know my hometown of Long Beach CA is traditionally the first in the country to kick off Pride Season. This year it is May 17th and 18th, with the parade taking place on the morning of the 18th.. As Mr. Long Beach Leather, 2013, I would like to officially invite you to march with the Long Beach Leather contingent in the parade. I hope you accept my invitation and enjoy the hospitality of Long Beach’s Leather community has to offer.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Kilts and Karaoke, (and JEALOUSY), Wednesday, April 16

Tomorrow night, FMSD will be hosting multiple entertaining reasons to get out of the house, learn, discuss, and have a bunch of FUN:

6:45PM: Try to find parking near our meeting-space at Mission Gathering. Parking is pretty horrendous around there.


7PM: Men's Discussion: Papa Tony leads a discussion on "NAVIGATING THE CHALLENGES IN POLY/OPEN RELATIONSHIPS" Including Jealousy, Conflict And Agreements.


At some point during the evening's events, we will be introducing Rob Scott, who is hand-crafting kilts here in San Diego.  In a fun gesture of support, a good number of us (who are known kilt-wearers) will be flashing the men across from us in the circle! If you own a kilt, this would be a great time to show off what ya got!



9PM: Afterwards, we all stroll over for "Karaoke Nights" at the Redwing Bar & Grill.

On the 3rd Wednesday of each month, join us at 9PM at Redwing, which is only a short walking distance from our meeting location for great food, drinks and karaoke. Whether or not you want to sing (on or off key) isn't important: what really matters is having a good time and enjoying each other's company & brotherhood!

9PM FMSD Karaoke Night!
Redwing Bar & Grill
4012 30th St, San Diego CA 92104-2602


Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Upcoming Events as of April 2014

The purpose of this listing is to provide a one-stop, unbiased and reasonably complete listing of events that would attract gay FetishMen in and around the San Diego area.  It is meant to be spread as widely as possible, so that folks inside and outside Facebook have free access.

If you have a posting that you would to go out on the FMSD social network, post it on our Facebook page, and we will send it out the next Tuesday.


======= NEWS YOU CAN USE=======




It's HISTORY WEEK!



It's archived online, for your enjoyment. It's a real slice of our shared history!
You will find thousands of pictures and articles. This is the first time that this information has seen the light of day in twelve years.




While you're in the mood for history, also make sure to stop by Jack Fritscher's Drummer Magazine Archives.




From Dan: OfficerWes (who presented last month's Electrical Play workshop) maintains a useful resource website at www.officerwes.com




May, 2003: Audio of Leadership Lecture by Jack McGeorge, 
during the Leather Leadership Conference. It's at the end of the page.



In Los Angeles: 
With 3 L.A. Gays Dead from Meningitis, Here's Where You Can Get Vaccinated


Thanks to our brother Terry for passing this along.




History didn't just happen, way back then: 
It's happening all along, and here is an important part of our current history:


Wish Linda's big, annual triumph, and we all get to participate!
Lots of pictures (and a video) at the link.


 ======= UPCOMING EVENTS=======

Note: All FMSD Wednesday Night Men's Discussions are held on the first, second, third (and sometimes fifth) Wednesday of each month, in the upper classroom of the Mission Gathering Church (3040 Polk Ave San Diego, CA 92104). Please arrive at 6:45pm to allow time to locate parking.



Wednesday, Apr 9, 7PM: Men's Discussion at our meeting space. SIR Erik from The Next Generation (TNG) with their active members will lead, share and discuss the challenges and triumphs about young adults staying visible and participating in the San Diego leather/BDSM/kink community.

From Leatherboy Jon:


Some FMSD brothers will be getting together for an informal dinner before the discussion group this Wednesday. They are meeting at 5:15PM at Harvey Milk's American Diner. (535 University Ave, San Diego, CA 92103)

We know a lot of you can't make this due to work, but throwing it out there for those who can drop by and join them.

***COMING SOON***

Our head honcho Mangum, myself, and the other guys involved in coordinating FMSD Discussion Groups/Events will have a date for a pizza party or potluck happening on a Wednesday during the normal discussion group time.

This will give the discussion group attendees a chance to have a whole night to break bread together and socialize without the hurry back from the 10-minute break. We won't have to squeeze our hugs in and make new friendship connections in such a hurry. Also, those folks who aren't interested in the normal discussion format but want to spend some time with their brothers will have a chance to do so.







Friday, April 11 (second Friday of each month), 10PM:  Harness Party @ Numbers Bar, at 3811 Park Blvd.




April 15-16, 6-8PM, PrEP Talk at the Center:

You've heard of PrEP, the once-daily pill used to help prevent HIV infection. But what is PrEP? How does it work? How can you get it?

Join us for FREE PrEP Talk. HIV specialist physicians from UC San Diego will talk about HIV risk, HIV testing, and PrEP. Learn the difference between the different HIV tests and when you should get tested. Get educated about PrEP, how it works and how it may help prevent HIV infections. A representative from Gilead will discuss the company's Patient Assistance Program and how to access Truvada(R) for prevention.

Register online at: www.preptalkSD.eventbrite.com






Wednesday, Apr 16, 7PM: Men's Discussion at our meeting space. Papa Tony leads discussion on "Navigating Challenges In Poly/Open Relationships" including jealousy, conflict and agreements.

It's easy to walk from the meeting to the Redwing!

Afterwards, we'll all stroll over for "Karaoke Nights" at the Redwing Bar & Grill, nearby. This event will regularly happen on the 3rd Wednesday of every month, after our Discussion.  If you haven't tried it, give it a chance. It's a jolly gathering of fun brothers!





Saturday, April 19 at 9:30pmLL Bear Dance PartyRich's, at 1051 University, featuring SINGLET NIGHT!




Saturday, April 19 at 8:00pm: CLUB X BLACK AND WHITE PARTY

Note from Tony: Several of us are planning to attend this event. From what we are finding out, gay male kinksters are REALLY missed at Club X events, and we will be eagerly welcomed as long-lost brothers.  After we've spent so much time developing true trust and intimacy with each other, it's time to show off what we have learned!




Wednesday, Apr 23, 7PM: DEMO/PLAY PARTY "FISTING 101" WITH SLUT BOTTOM BOY CHRIS" from Club X, who is eager and excited to share his knowledge and experience, and strongly encourages audience participation. We want a group of "hungry" bottoms & "eager" tops to assist in this "hands on & in" demo. Our demo/play parties are held at a private residence, and it's encouraged to RSVP due to our large attendance and space limitations. RSVP at signmeupforevent @gmail.com.



Sunday, April 27, 2014, 3:00pm - 4:30pm: Leather boys of San Diego, Membership Meeting at the Eagle




Wednesday, April 30, 2014 7PM: FMSD Discussion Group - "SIZE Matters"
Host: Jon LeatherBoy Somerville

This will be a discussion about body size/type discrimination, and any discrimination people have encountered based on cock size. An invite will be extended to members of Bears San Diego to join us as they will have some interesting perspectives on the body size/type portion of the discussion.

There is some simple, OPTIONAL homework for people to complete here:


(The surveys will be randomly distributed and read out loud to the group by our members. No names, tracking, or other identifying information is gathered from this webpage.)

LOCATION:

Upper Classroom of the outbuilding at Mission Gathering
(Please arrive at 6:45PM to allow time to locate street parking.)
Address: 3090 Polk Ave, San Diego, CA 92104
Hope to see you all there!



Sunday May 4th, 3PM: Pool Tournament for Scottie Tidwell

From boy kevin:

Ok Everyone, the Leather boys of San Diego will be hosting a pool tournament. Start time is 3:00 pm. Minimum donation is $5.00 entry fee. Trophy to the winner. This is a fundraiser to help Scottie Tidwell for his run for Mr. IML . Even if you don't play you can donate. 

There will be a BBQ from 4-8 pm. Minimum Donation of $5.00. Corona beer for $2.50. Jell-O shots for a $1.00. 

Hope to see everyone there!




Thursday, May 8, 9PM:  FBSD Kickoff Social/Red Hankies Night at the @ the Eagle, at 3040 North Park Way.

Expect a VERY sociable time.  Most times, a man arrives lonely, or unsure, or feeling awkward and shy.

NO PROBLEM!

This time around, we will have several natural-born "Julie the Cruise Directors" mixing and mingling, and making sure that every man feels welcome and safe.  Bring your friends, or come alone... It makes no difference - We’re all brothers here!




Mr. San Diego Leather 2013 Eli

Saturday, May 10, 5-9PM: Eli's Saturday Night Variety Show at Numbers, 3811 Park Boulevard.

From Mr. San Diego Leather 2013 Eli:

Calling all the Bears, Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Imperial Court, Pups, FMSD, Club X, Leather, and any others I missed. Do you have talent and want to show it off. All those interested please private message me. Deadlines for all performers will be April 20.

Otherwise come out to see the variety of performers for one night and on one stage for only a $5 SUGGESTED and only SUGGESTED donation price. We will have raffles throughout the night and giveaways.

After the event ends you can stay for the Harness Event to enjoy great music and hot men.

Performers confirmed so far:
Ian Morton
Brandon Potter
Develyn Angels
Michael L Perry
Michael Johnathan Fillion

After the event ends you can stay for the Harness Event to enjoy great music and hot men.




Saturday, May 10 at 6:30pm - Sunday, May 11 at 3:00am Bus Trip from The Barracks in Palm Springs to the Eagle in San Diego. Let's make our brothers feel extra-welcome! Email Chris at clowen67 @yahoo.com, or talk to the bartenders at the Eagle!



Tuesday, May 13, 8PM-2AM, First Annual San Diego Bartenders Bash Fundraiser

The First Annual San Diego Bartenders Bash will be an annual celebration for all those that tend/work in a bar and for those bar flies that keep us happy.  Very Casual, PURPLE ATTIRE SUGGESTED !!!  Vendors with samples and giveaways TBA! Proceeds from the cover charge will be donated to charity.





May 17-18: Long Beach Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY May 18.

http://www.longbeachpride.com/


From: Mr. Long Beach Leather 2013, Marc Ransdell-Bellenger:

As you may or may not know my hometown of Long Beach CA is traditionally the first in the country to kick off Pride Season. This year it is May 17th and 18th, with the parade taking place on the morning of the 18th.. As Mr. Long Beach Leather, 2013, I would like to officially invite you to march with the Long Beach Leather contingent in the parade. I hope you accept my invitation and enjoy the hospitality of Long Beach’s Leather community has to offer.



Saturday, May 17, 6 PM: International Mr. and Ms Olympus Leather 2014 Contest

Doors open at 5 PM

Los Angeles Ballroom on the second floor of the Hilton LAX on Century Blvd.

Approximately 12 men and women will compete for this International title. Each will present tantalizing fantasies on stage.

You can attend International Mr. and Ms Olympus Leather 2014 without missing Long Beach LGBT Pride Parade and Festival. The contest will be over in time to make it back to Long Beach for the late parties and the parade on Sunday morning.

Attached are International Mr. and Ms Olympus Leather 2014 log at 294px and photo of International Mr. Olympus Leather 2013 Praxxis and International Ms Olympus Leather 2014 robyn. robyn is lower case by design.

http://www.theleatherjournal.com/index.php/international-olympus-leather-contest






May 22nd: Commemorative Postage Stamp release day: San Diego's team of champions have arm-twisted those in charge, so that we are FINALLY getting a Harvey Milk Forever postal stamp.

From Bill Neilson: Kudos to Nicole & Big Mike, Frank & Tom!!!… Event Heads-Up: Our Very Own LOCAL Restaurant ‘Harvey Milks American Diner’ Is planning a huge ‘PARTY’ for this Very Special ‘Commemorative Postage Stamp release day: May 22nd, 2014 ’... Monitor FB page for updates https://www.facebook.com/HarveysHillcrest ... Or visit (soon to come) new redesigned website http://harveymilksamericandiner.com/




May 23-26: International Mr. Leather 2014 Contest in Chicago




May 30 & 31: Second Annual Family Reunion Weekend, featuring the return of the Flog Swarm, and a visit by the folks who run the Folsom Street fair, to be our honored guests for our HUGE Movie Night!





June 6-8: Los Angeles Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, June 8.


Saturday, June 7, 4-7pm: Return of Cigars & Boots at Redwing Bar & Grill!

Hosted by Jon LeatherBoy Somerville and Ron Brundige LeatherAlpha

Cigars, tobacco pipes, cigarettes, and dip welcome.
You don't have to be a tobacco enthusiast to enjoy the socializing!

$3 Well Drinks, $3 Domesic Bottled Beers, and Happy Hour Menu Specials until 6PM.

Bootblack on site, so bring your leathers!

Open to all genders/sexualities (21 and over).




June 12-14: FistFest West





June 13-15 - All Male Butchmanns Experience, Phoenix, AZ





June 20-22: SoCal LeatherSIR, Leatherboy, Community Bootblack & Puppy Contest Weekend, at Queen Bee's Art & Cultural Center, 3925 Ohio St., San Diego, California 92104 (one block north of the Eagle)

Southern California Leather Sir/boy, Community Bootblack and Puppy Contest will be held at Queen Bee’s in San Diego, CA June 20-22 2014. This is a feeder contest for International Leather Sir/boy and Community Bootblack to be held in Dallas TX, Labor Day Weekend, in August/September 2014. Contestants will be judged on interviews, speeches, stage presence, fantasy of their choice, and a text-messaging tally for popular votes.  Contestants will be assigned a text number to provide to their supporters.  Based on the number of text votes, a score will be added to their final tally.  Contestant sponsors and financial backers are encouraged to assist with the travel fund purse to the international contest.

Judges are:

Sir George – International Leather Sir 2014

Sir Miles Brooks – California Leather Sir 2010

Tom Pardoe – Mr. Eagle Los Angeles 2009

TC – Southern California Leather boy 2008

Alan Tunstall – International Bootblack, 2004

Skip – Palm Springs Leather Order of the Desert (PSLOD),  President

Mr. Tom Dickerson – Mr. San Diego Leather, 2002 (Judge Emeritus)

MC: Roxy Bleu

Judges boy – Paulo – Mr. San Diego Eagle, 2014

Judges girl – Wish – Ms San Diego Leather 2012

Tally Masters  - Brian Teague – American Leather Boy 2010 and Annie Romano – International Ms Leather 1998

The weekend is as follows:

Friday, June 20th, at 9:00pm the San Diego boys of Leather and Mr. San Diego Eagle will host a Meet and Greet/Contestant and Judges Introductions at the San Diego Eagle.

Saturday June 21st, doors to Queen Bees will open at 7:00 for art show, vendors, cocktails and contestant mingling.  The contest will start at 8:00pm.

Sunday, June 22nd, the winners will be presented at a community picnic/fund raiser at Morley Field or a TBD location from 1:00 to 5:00pm.

Producer: Sir Mike Russell

Co-Producer: Chris Owen

For more info Text 585858, Subject: Contest

www.southerncalifornialeather.com; at Face Book: Southern California Leather, or email producer @southerncalifornialeather.com

 We're looking for Contestants!!!!!  Could that be you???




Saturday, June 21, 11:00am - 4:00pm: Southern California Leather Gathering (SCLG) 2014




June 28-29: San Francisco Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, June 29.





July 11-13: Wet ’n Hot Weekend in Palm Springs. Over 500 sexy, attitude-free guys will descend upon an underground location in Palm Springs for a weekend filled with uninhibited pig play, brotherhood and fun. It’s the Biggest Piss Party on the Planet, and it’s unlike anything else that you’ve ever experienced




The 2013 Leather Contingent. 2014's will be MUCH bigger!

July 18-20: San Diego Pride, with the parade on SATURDAY, July 19, and the Leather Realm on Saturday and Sunday.





Sunday, July 27: Up Your Alley Street Fair in San Francisco





July 30-Aug 4: Lazy Bear Weekend in Guerneville, California





September 5-6: Las Vegas Pride, with the parade at NIGHT, from 7-10PM, on SATURDAY, Sep. 5.





Sunday, Sep 21: Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco





October 18-19: Bearquake in San Diego. BearQuake grew out of an idea of forming an alliance between the various clubs in Southern California and elsewhere. A "Bear Weekend" was planned where we could all get together and get to know each other. A contest was also held for Mr. So Cal Bear and Cub. The success of that first event opened the door to future gatherings which has become "BearQuake".





October 30 - November 2: Desert Leather Pride in Palm Springs

Note: This is a BIG CHANGE in the scheduling, since this usually happens on the SECOND weekend of the month  - Make a note of it!


Here are pics from last year:





Nov. 7-9: Palm Springs Gay Pride, with the parade on SUNDAY, Nov. 9




January 16-19, 2015: Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend

Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend is a three-day long party and event with participants that now number in the thousands. The heart of the weekend is the historic leather formal Saturday evening cocktail social, Leather Cocktails. Leather Cocktails is the weekend lynchpin gathering from which all other weekend events evolved.

The Weekend also includes official events organized by weekend hosts, Centaur MC that include a bustling Leather Exhibit Hall; Sunday brunch; Mr. MAL Contest and the official Sunday night closing party, REACTION. In addition, Weekend hosts provide hotel space for what has evolved into a huge leather-loving community and affinity annual reunion. Weekend participants may purchase a full weekend package that includes access to all events. Tickets to a few select events are sold separately.

http://www.leatherweekend.com