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Thursday, April 24, 2014

Review of Fisting 101 "Hands-In" Demo Night

From Papa Tony:

On Wednesday, April 23, 2014, FetishMenSanDiego hosted our biggest Hands-On Demo Night.

Luckily, we planned for it.

This is just 27 of the 52 men who showed up!

The RSVP's kept rolling in, and rolling in, up until well past the start of the event.  It was clear that this was going to be a breakthrough event.  So, we made a preliminary announcement about a new brother club forming, which is now complete:



Fisting Brotherhood San Diego!



Ever since 2007, when Red Hankies San Diego died, it has been difficult for many folks to find a local Tribe of fistfuckers. Yes, you can join up and advertise your desires on any number of online cruising resources, but they are not going to help you feel like you're part of something bigger. Some men like to be a "lone wolf", and that's fine, but there is also a hunger in many men to feel trust and affection as part of a larger brotherhood.

So, the new group was formed, with:

- 54 members right off the bat (and many more have joined since)
- A Web site (http://fistingbrotherhoodsd.blogspot.com)
- An email address (FistingBrotherhoodSD @gmail.com)
- A logo
- An email subscription system at the top of every web-page, so that folks can stay abreast of news about upcoming events, and
- A kickoff event coming up, as the first part of creating regularly-scheduled social and play events.

Since FBSD is based upon the same structure and philosophy as FetishMenSanDiego, it has a MUCH better chance of sticking around for years to come.



Slutbottom Chris Knows His Stuff!

Slutbottom Chris on the left, with the evening's host, Magnum

The evening started out jammed, (we prefer to call it "intimate), and honestly, it worked fine.  Chris started out the topic of Fisting 101, and the conversation got lively and interactive in the best possible way. 

We were honored with the presence of some deeply experienced, wise and glorious men who were eager to share their hard-earned knowledge, so as soon as Chris would make an important point, the Tribal Elders would make their points and counterpoints, and the newer faces among us got to see something deeply rare:

Respectable, wise and courteous brothers sharing passionately, and all wanting the same thing - To pass along their wisdom. This has been needed badly for too long a time. Many thanks to the entire team that came together to make this magical event happen. It never happens randomly - the space has to be created where folks feel safe enough to step up.

Chris pulled Chef Lee out of the crowd to draw diagrams on his front and back, indicating anatomical details that explained his points.  Much instructional material was brought forth, with plenty of props to show products that Chris recommended, and tools that he finds essential.

Then, it was time for demonstrations.  After Chris got the ball rolling from the BOTTOM'S viewpoint, he got topped for the first time that evening, by his long-term play-partner Roger.  Cobi and I moved to the two slings with Pigboy Richard and Chef Lee, and demonstrated the finer points of fisting from the TOP'S perspective.  I'm proud to say that I was able to get my ginormous paw comfortably inside of Lee with zero pain, and only pleasure.  He said later that I was the biggest fist he has ever taken.



In Conclusion:

The evening ended far too soon, unfortunately. There simply wasn't enough time, space or equipment to send everybody home, smiling at both ends.  However, it's an EXCELLENT beginning.  This evening's symposium proved that there is a widespread hunger for more information, connectedness, diversity and sheer good will.

All adult age-groups were present, involved and friendly.  In 2014, that's what we need.



Feedback

From Slutbottom Chris:

Wow, I'm blown away by how much fun tonight was! Fetish Men San Diego has yummy and diverse members & this was the most fun I've had presenting a fisting workshop.
Oh and 9 men put their hand in my butt.

Jorge Lieras Lucky bitch!

SB Chris:

Lucky to be enjoyed by some great men.

Mangum:

Chris, you were amazing! You & Roger touched, moved & inspired us with your knowledge, expertise & wit. On behalf of Fetish Men SD. Thanks for your service.

Ron Brundige LeatherAlpha Chris, thanks so very much for sharing your knowledge. I learned so much from you. All the "little" questions are answered. Hugs my friend

From David:

I just wanted to say THANK YOU!! I had the Most Amazing time last night.. and I also want to Thank Slut-boy Bottom Chris!! I don't think I have ever felt a bond between so many men as I did last night.. You hear the term "Brotherhood" and until you actually FEEL it you don't quite Comprehend what it really means. Last night it was OBVIOUS that I have found a Genuine down to earth group of loving and non-judgmental men where I can truly be myself and feel SAFE about doing so.. This is Truly the beginning of something wonderful in My life.. and I hope and pray that I will be a blessing to others as well. You forever have my Love, Respect, and Loyalty for what you do! Again Thank You!



From pig boy richard

This boy was thrilled to have the opportunity to be participating in the Demo nite event. While having a past history with and some knowledge of Fisting , it had been many years ago and the presentation made by S B Chris allowed for a somewhat "public" experience of what had previously been a very private one to become much less intimidating. S B Chris' Demo allowed the "playfulness" of playing within asses become what it is supposed to be ...FUN ! His talk was not only informative but done in such a way that I believe allowed all of those observing to feel very relaxed and excited in a highly charged and crowded room.

When my own time to be placed in the sling arrived I felt comfortable and relaxed (BTW, loved having it be You, Sir, who picked me up and put this boy into the sling!) Despite the noise/many observers, etc., having listened to the presentation and following what had been said, the room very quickly disappeared and all there was in the world was Cobi's sweet and gentle presence with me floating beneath him and his hand slowly entering me. I was able to enter a subspace within my head that I had not known for 15+ years and it was so wonderful to know it and be in it once more. Even tho' this boy bled like the "born-again virgin" I was, LOL, the experience held no negative trauma for me. I felt "safe" in the energy of the space that had been created by the event.

In retrospect, it may have been a few more men attending the event than was prudent. I was fortunate to have been very close to the presenter and felt included by being able to interact with him/them. I don't think those in the far end of the room were able to experience that  as much, even when the "one on one part" up on the table began. An event as big as that one might be more effective in a larger space if that many men are expected to attend, Sir. I've gotten that point of feedback from several others since the event. Also, considering that the event is in someone's apt., I think the limitations of the space's square-footage and personal items are a challenge when setting up the space for the events. I have some ideas for how some of the current "placements" (refreshment table area/furniture/etc.) might be more efficient for future events if were possible to present those ideas to you, Sir.

I remain most humbly grateful that You would ask this boy's opinion/responses,  Sir - pig boy richard



From Brett:

The fisting demo was a great event! Prior to the demo, my knowledge and experience with fisting on a scale of 1-10 was probably a 2 at best, but after the event I felt very educated about the preparation, safety, and technique. The room was packed but it felt cozy like a get-together with friends and family.

Slut Bottom Chris was an amazing teacher and role model. He was fun and approachable. Another big take away for me was learning more tips for training a bottom for fucking, as the concepts applied to both. Really glad I attended!



From Michael:

I’ll cut to the chase: I liked the workshop a lot -- it was helpful, practical and friendly.  I also have a couple of suggestions if you do it again.

What I liked was that it didn’t talk down to anybody: if you didn’t have fisting experience, you weren’t made to feel like an idiot.  Chris was personable (well, let’s be honest here: he’s adorable…) and he did a great job of explaining what the top can expect.  I especially liked that he brought up the yuck factor (“What if there’s shit?”) – everyone thinks about it, but we’re all afraid to say something.  Chris was down to earth and just brought it up.

What I was also hoping to learn was how the bottom takes a fist.  (I’ve fisted a few guys already, so I’m interested in learning how to take one.)  Maybe it was too much to cover both sides in one workshop and you’ll do another one from the bottom’s pov.  If so, you might want to mention the emotional component: how it’s important to caress the bottom and keep asking if he’s doing okay.  I saw a lot of guys stick their hand up Chris’s butt (which is admittedly a big step), but I didn’t see many of them caress him or be concerned about how he was doing.  I did so when it was my turn, and it made the whole experience more meaningful to me to know that he was enjoying it also.

(In the other room in the far sling, there was a top who was going about in a very thoughtful and concerned way.  I spoke to him afterwards – sweet guy (tattoo of a pen and inkwell on his shoulder), but I didn't catch his name.  Just watching him be so concerned about the bottom was very moving).

So: great workshop – helpful, sensitive and caring.  And maybe there’s room for a second workshop from the bottom’s perspective. 

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