Friday, October 6, 2017

TONIGHT! Impact Play @ San Diego Eagle - 9PM to Midnight!

Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry


Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry
Friday, October 06, 2017
9:00pm to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend

Join us on the First Friday of October from 9 to Midnight at the San Diego Eagle where our Brother Jerry, along with a few other FMSD Members, will be demonstrating flogging, paddling, and other forms of physical impact play!

This is your chance to learn what it's like to find pleasure in different sensations. The sting of a paddle as it collides with your ass, or the thud of a flogger while it brushes against your back before a quick crack sends tingling across all of your senses. Who knows, you might like it more than you thought.


Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Folsom, Fire and the Near Future (Oh My!)


Table of Contents:

I. Sensual, Exciting, and HOT
II. Leather Social & Discussion Group
III. Impact Play Demo w/ Brother Jerry
IV. Folsom Street Fair '17
V. Upcoming Events
VI. From ME to YOU
VII. Special Announcement

I. Sensual, Exciting, and HOT


Saturday, September 30, 2017
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop - Hillcrest
$5 Requested Donation*
Tickets: PayPal.Me/FMSanDiego OR pay at the door

We are happy to announce our SECURED Workshop Space in Hillcrest! Be among the first to see it by attending out first Male-Only workshop taught by Justin!

This 201 Workshop will go over the basic skills required in playing with fire in Safe, Sensual and Exciting ways. The first portion of the Workshop will go over safety precautions, you MUST arrive for the safety portion if you intend to experience Fire Play from either side of the slash. The latter portion of the class will go over the use of Fire Wands and Fire Spanking; you definitely do NOT want to miss these!

After the initial demo, Justin and his assistants will have stations set up to give our men the opportunity to experience the joys of setting one another on fire! If that sounds frightening, here are a few things to settle your mind:

Q: What do I wear?
A: We ask that anyone interested in playing with Fire be willing to be nude; this ultimately reduces the risk of accidents. There is both an outdoor shower and a pool at the venue.

Q: What should I bring?
A: Towels (recommend 2) & Bathing Suit (nudity is OK). Street Legal to the door, however. If you're interested in helping out by bringing a snack, drinks, or whatever else, please contact Doriam!

Q: Where does the fire go?
A: We start with the back, usually. But fire can be applied anywhere on the body.

Q: I'm a hairy guy, do I need to shave?
A: Not necessary. While Fire may cause your hair to burn a little, but not enough to be noticeable.

Q: Where is this place?
A: The location is being kept private until 48 hours prior to the event per the owners request; provide an Email Address and Full Name when purchasing tickets in order to receive the Address in advance. If you would like to pay at the door, Email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for the address beginning 9/28.

If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to email Doriam at DoriamFMSD@GMail.com! You may purchase your tickets in advance by going to Paypal.me/FMSanDiego

*All donations go back into planning future events, workshops, parties and social for Fetish Men San Diego. If you are unable to meet the requested donation, you are still welcome to come - we ask that you give what you can, whether that be $1, a smile, or a lending hand in Setup and Tear Down.

II. Leather Social & FMSD Discussion Group


Many of you have asked that we begin hosting events that take place outside of bar environments, as well as a discussion night for FMSD. We need YOUR help to get both of these things off of the ground!

We are looking for venues for brunches, potlucks, dinners, day outings and more! If you have any ideas for a location, whether it be a restaurant, public or private venue, please send it over to Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

Additionally, for group discussions, we are hoping to find a space that will be comfortable for 20+ men to come together and have open, productive discussion as it applies to Relationships, Leather, Health, etc. If you have a venue idea for this, or a topic you'd like to bring for discussion, please email Doriam at DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

III. Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry


Impact Play Demo w/ Jerry
Friday, October 06, 2017
9:00pm to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend

Join us on the First Friday of October from 9 to Midnight at the San Diego Eagle where our Brother Jerry, along with a few other FMSD Members, will be demonstrating flogging, paddling, and other forms of physical impact play!

This is your chance to learn what it's like to find pleasure in different sensations. The sting of a paddle as it collides with your ass, or the thud of a flogger while it brushes against your back before a quick crack sends tingling across all of your senses. Who knows, you might like it more than you thought.

IV. Folsom Street Fair '17


This past weekend was Folsom Street Fair 2017; for those who missed it, I (Doriam) just wanted to share a little bit about the experience with you all. As it was my first time, there were a lot of things that I got to see and experience that I had not expected, I'll keep this short -- if you have any interest in reading the full experience, contact me and I will link you to the Blog Post elsewhere where I talk about the entire trip.

The weekend started on Friday with a trip to Mr. S Leather, which was FLOODED with men from end-to-end, shopping for new gear for the weekend. As a young pup, my tail was a-waggin' once I made my way over to the Puppy Park section where I stumbled upon several new pieces of gear for the weekend, including a new Woofy Tail and Jock Holster! Not too far from Mr. S, we found ourselves at Leather Etc. where members of my Family found new harnesses, kilts, arm bands, vests and more at a FRACTION of the cost at Mr. S.

Later that evening, we made our way to Worn Out West where we found amazing deals on Toys on consignment, leather pants and chaps, latex shirts, former year Folsom tee's and so much more! I recommend it as a MUST the next time you're in the Castro. After dinner that evening, we made our way to the San Francisco Eagle (Eagle Tavern) where we were able to wear our new gear and make new friends who were locals, or visiting for Folsom Street Fair! I, unfortunately, missed out on the KUF (Kinksters Under Forty) party, but heard it was a great time from gentleman I met the rest of the time!

The following night, we saw the Baloney Boys at Oasis, and if you've never been to an All-Male Revue - make it a POINT to go watch these guys next time you're in San Francisco! The show was worth every penny! After the show, I made my way over for the All-Male Party hosted by The 15 Association. Their play space was everything I could have imagined and more, between the aesthetic, the focus and the energy exchange happening between all of the men playing that evening, I can't put in to words how perfect of a party it was! Not to mention, many of our own FMSD Member's made their way to the same party!

Sunday's Street Fair was full of amazing performances, kinksters hanging from street signs, locked in
cages, flogged by Mr. S Employees, vendors from all corners of the Kink-iverse were floating around happy to share in this experience with our Brothers and Sisters. There were LIVE performances from the Models from Steamworks, Men and Women walking around entirely in the nude, I might have even caught a few back alley blow jobs while walking down the street! But what's most important was that everyone who was attending FSF was there to enjoy one another, everyone was free to express their fetishes, their happiness, with people who they might have otherwise completely disregarded. It was an energy throughout the city blocks that FSF occupied, where it didn't matter if this was your first event EVER, or if you'd been doing this for your entire life. We were all brothers, sisters, cousins and friends - if even just for the day.

On the way home, I contacted many of the leaders for FMSD and my uncles, mentors, and teachers in the community to express my gratitude for their teaches. The excitement of being a First-Timer at FSF has gotten me excited to introduce some of our brothers next year to Folsom -- but now I'm getting ahead of myself, just scroll down to the Special Announcement for more on that. If you have never been to Folsom Street Fair, Dore Alley, or any kink conference at that, I need you to do something, not for me, but for YOU. I need you to make it a GOAL to attend FSF or DA, and experience it first hand.

V. Upcoming Events


Pet Play Lab w/ Pup Bandit & Kit Karmelit
Saturday, September 30, 2017
12:00pm - 2:00pm
House of Black, email for address
$10 to attend via Eventbrite or at the door
Tickets: Eventbrite
Description: Pup Bandit and Kit Karmelit introduce the greater San Diego Community to the wonderful world of Pet and Pup Play! This is a 101-level series designed to be grab-and-go, giving the a skill to use with the special pets in your life! Doriam (Pup Bandit) will be leading discussion about Power Exchange Dynamics, and he and Kit Karmelit will introduce the entire group to the world of Pet Moshes! After their instructional period, the space is available for open play!

Fire Play Workshop with Justin
Saturday, September 30, 2017
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop - Hillcrest
$5 Requested Donation*
TicketsPayPal.Me/FMSanDiego OR pay at the door
Description: Learn about Fire Play at this three-hour workshop! Starting at 3, Justin will go over safety and best practices when it comes to Fire-Play. After the safety portion, you will learn to use Fire Wands and perform Fire Spankings before multiple stations start running allow you to experience the joys of setting one another on fire!

Impact Demo @ The Eagle
Friday, October 06, 2017
9:00PM to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Experience Impact Play at your local leather bar! Our talented demo-tops will be available on-and-off throughout the night to model their favorite types of impact play on to any willing tops or bottoms!

Beat Your Drum - This Is Halloween!
Friday, October 20, 2017
10:00PM to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Join us in supporting California Drummer and Drummerboy at the San Diego Eagle! Beat Your Drum is a night designed for you to represent your own personal Fetish! This Month's theme is "This is Halloween" but all gear and fetish play are welcome!

Body Based Ritual Discussion w/ Elwood Reid
Saturday, October 21, 2017
10AM to 12PM
$10, or free with purchase of Ritual Steel Ticket
Description: Earlier in the day, special guest Elwood Reid will host a presentation discussing the history and intent behind many global body-based rituals. This 2-hour educational discussion will be open to the public for $10, and is included in your ticket price for Ritual Steel. Presentation attendance is offered free with your ticket, but is not required in order to participate in the evening event.

Ritual Steel: An X-Treme Tribal Experience
Saturday, October 21, 2017
6PM to Midnight
World Beat Community Center
$0-$45
Tickets: Eventbrite
Description: Club X in conjunction with Edgewalkers is producing Ritual Steel: An Xtreme Tribal Experience a night filled with Tribal, spiritual energy. On Saturday, October 21st, join together in the WorldBeat Cultural Center in Balboa Park for a one-night event, three years in the making. Ritual piercing, hook pull, flesh suspension, and more. You don't want to miss this event from 6:00pm till midnight.


FMSD Workshop - Things That Scare You
Saturday, October 28, 2017
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop
$5 Requested Donation
Description: What frightens you? Perhaps the idea of needle play or blood? Knives pressed against your skin? Having your senses dulled and excited at once? Does the idea of being terrified also arouse you? For many Men, these are just a few examples of how Fear can be used to increase their sexual, sensual, and play experiences. Join us for this Fear Themed Workshop in October. More information to come.


Gear Invasion - Tom of Finland
Wednesday, November 1, 2017
7PM to 10PM
Landmark's Hillcrest Cinemas
More Information: Here
Description: Wear Your Favorite Leather Gear in Celebration of the Man who inspired the Revolution. Known to the world as Tom of Finland, the proudly erotic drawings of artist Touko Laaksonen shaped the fantasies of a generation of gay men, influencing art and fashion before crossing over into the wider cultural consciousness. But who was the man behind the leather? Tom’s story is one of love, courage and perseverance, mirroring the gay liberation movement for which his leather-clad studs served as a defiant emblem.


GMAG December - Male Modeling Opportunity
Monday, December 4, 2017
6PM to 9PM
Twiggs in University Heights
Free to Models, $10 for Photographers and Artists, Cash Only
Please support the venue!
Description: Have you thought about male modeling? Or perhaps refining your photography and artistic skills when it comes to the male form? Check out the Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego. GMAG has invited FMSD to participate in their shoot for December 4, the theme is Leather, Gear, and Kink. Nudity is welcome and encouraged, but not required! If you are interested, contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.

VI. From ME to YOU


Thank you, first of all, for sticking through to the (near) end of this blog post. I understand this is much longer than our usual posts, but there has been so much to share with you that I couldn't contain myself! It is with YOUR support that I will continue to put out these posts, share events and gatherings with you, and continue to grow this Family.

VII. Special Announcements


Now that I've made you wait six sections, it's time to reveal our Special Announcements. I've mentioned before that I am planning on making 2018 a big year for FMSD. This is just a tiny preview of what we have planned for you, and while all of the details are not finished yet, we will do everything in our power to get it taken care of.

Parties - FMSD would like to start hosting a Bi-Monthly All-Male parties, alternating between small parties of 30-40 Men, to large parties up to 80+ Men. If all goes well, we will be announcing the next party sometime in October!

Volunteer Trip to DA/FSF - We are hoping that our new volunteer system will give us the opportunity to invite some of our volunteers to join us next year at Dore Alley or Folsom Street Fair! This will require some finessing, but we want you to know that we TRULY appreciate the hard work you put in as a Volunteer!

Ritual Swarm - I'll leave this one to your imaginations.

In Service,
Doriam C

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Workshops, Events and More Fire!

Table of Contents:

I. Thank You!
II. Fire Class + Workshop Series
III. Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Thank You!


We, the leadership for Fetish Men San Diego, wanted to start by thanking each and every one of you for your involvement in mapping a course for FMSD. Over the last few weeks, we've seen attendance and community participation grow through events, emails, and social media presence. We are excited to keep growing and hosting events for You, our Brothers, and welcome your participation!

We also wanted to thank everyone who attended Ritual Fire this past weekend; your energies were a wonderful contribution to the feeling and fun of the evening. With the feedback we've received so far, we are looking forward to hosting more Tribal events so that we may share space, stories, and grow together.

If you have any feedback, we are happy to hear it! We are looking to know more about what YOU'RE interested in for future events - whether those be workshops, socials, potlucks, parties, or otherwise. We would like to know what interests you, and how we can help make your dreams a reality.

If you'd like to let your voice be heard, please email:
Doriam - DoriamFMSD@GMail.com
Scott - FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

II. Fire Class + Workshop Series

Saturday, September 30th 
3PM to 6PM
FMSD Workshop Space
$5 Requested Donation to FMSD

Join us at our NEW workshop venue in Hillcrest this month for our NEW 201+ Workshop Series. This series of workshops will go over forms of play of a higher level than most courses offered in San Diego, and will be taught by local community members. Like our Parties, tickets will be handled primarily online through PayPal or by emailing DoriamFMSD@GMail.com. You must be 18+ Years of Age to attend these workshops, and must provide your Legal First & Last Name, and an Email Address for the will-call email.

Justin blowing fire at Ritual Fire! 09/10/2017
This month Justin will be leading a 201 class on Fire Play. His workshop will go over basic safety and good-practices for diving in and introducing you to the joys of lighting each other on fire! Justin has been active in the kink community since 2014 and began toying around with fire shortly after his initial involvement in the community. He most recently assisted in presenting Fire Photography at Ritual Fire!

This workshop will go over the use of fire wands and how to safely light your hands on fire and spank your bottoms. Men interested in playing with fire will be asked to be nude or mostly nude, and apply a water layer to their skin; an outdoor shower is available. We will have experienced Fire-Players available for demo, and spotters for your safety.

If you are interested, you may submit your $5 donations by going to PayPal.me/FMSanDiego - Will Call emails with the location are sent starting 2 days prior to the event. Include your First Name, Last Name, and Email Address in the notes section or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

What to Bring:


  • Towels
  • Bathing Suit (Nudity is OK) 

What to Know:

  • This event is MALE-ONLY
  • Arrive ON-TIME for the Safety Portion
  • Will-Call emails sent starting 48hrs prior to the event


III. Events

XMen Academy - Stonewall Citizens Patrol
Thursday, September 14, 2017
7:00pm to 9:00pm
Pleasures & Treasures
$5 Requested Donation of Non-Club X Members
Description: Join Club X's XMen in welcoming Stonewall Citizens Patrol at Pleasures and Treasures to learn about the measures that SCP is taking to keep our communities safe in North Park, Hillcrest, and University Heights.




Rope Bondage Demo w/ Sir Francis & Doriam
Friday, September 15, 2017
9:00pm to Midnight
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: Have you ever fantasized about being bound? The scratch of rope against your skin, pressure building against you with each breath? Maybe you've been on the other side, and your interests are more inclined on tying your partner. Join us for a new Monthly Event at the San Diego Eagle.




Pre-Folsom Swap Meat 
Saturday, September 16, 2017
5:00pm to 7:00pm
Urban Mo's Bar & Grill
Free to Attend
Description: Fox & Fiends hosts their first Swap Meat! Bring your unwanted gear to Urban Mo's for their Swap Meat. Buy/sell/trade gear, or simply come out for an afternoon with our Brothers and Sisters in leather before Folsom Street Fair!






LUST - Leather Foundation Fund Raiser
Saturday, September 16, 2017
9:30pm - 2am
San Diego Eagle
Support the venue, otherwise free to attend
Description: After the Swap Meat, join us at the San Diego Eagle for LUST; a night of Sensual Touch and Uniforms as we raise funds for the Leather Foundation.




Fetish Men at Folsom Street Fair!
Sunday, September 24, 2017
Folsom Street Fair
Description: Are you attending Folsom Street Fair this year? We would like for our Brothers to come together sometime during or after for a Meet & Greet! If interested, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com for more information!

Nude Male Modeling
Monday, December 4, 2017
6pm - 9pm
Twiggs Bakery & Coffeehouse in University Heights
Cost is $10, cash only, for artists and photographers. Please support the venue, too.
Description: Have you thought about being a male model for gay male artists? Or wondered where you could go to practice your sketching, drawing, painting, or photography skills of male models? Check out the Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego.

GMAG logo drawing created by Tony A. Magpantay Jr.


GMAG has invited FMSD and Leather Men to be models at the December 4th GMAG session in University Heights. Wear whatever makes you feel hot, powerful, and strong. Nudity, with gear and props or not, is not required although it is very welcome. Street legal to the door.

Looking for new photos of you and your gear? Just like all levels of drawing, sketching, and painting are welcome so are all levels of photography although with some restrictions.

The models will strike seven poses in the first 20 minutes, then rotate to the next set of models. After, each model returns to hold one pose for 15 to 20 minutes. Solos, duos, or trios of models on stage works. One or two is great, three is the maximum due to space restrictions.

I and the co-leaders of GMAG think it would be GREAT to have leather and kink models as it would definitely be a change of pace for the artists.

Need more info or have questions about this? Please contact Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU

I'll keep this one short and sweet. I want to say thank you to each of you for your continued optimism and kind words. For my Brothers outside of San Diego, this includes you as well! Some of you have reached out, and I hope someday soon we can revisit the Fetish Men communities near you! Until then, please continue to reach out and we will build this together!

Have a great weekend, Gents!

In Service,
Doriam C




Friday, September 8, 2017

Ritual Fire & GMAG

Table of Contents:

I. Ritual Fire
II. Guidelines & Expectations
III. Nude Male Modeling
IV. From ME to YOU

I. Ritual Fire


Brothers, this weekend is our next BIG EVENT: Ritual Fire; A Tribal Bonfire Experience! You are invited to attend our Cross-Over Event with Club X this Sunday, September 10th from 6:30 to 9:30pm at Fiesta Island.

Ritual Fire is designed to be a unifier for our communities, in preparation for Ritual Steel. Ritual Fire is about transformation and growth, and draws inspiration from the life cycle of the Phoenix, a fire bird of Greek mythology - When tragedy draws near, the Phoenix ignites into a magnificent flame, and reemerges from its ashes, reborn.

We encourage you to look within yourselves to that which hinders your growth. By indulging in the majesty of the flames, and the energy shared beteeen our Brothers and Sisters, it is our hope that your troubles will burn to ash and, like the Phoenix, you will rise again with renewed vitality and a breath of new life.

If you've never been to Fiesta Island, it is located off of Highway 5. Keep an eye on our Like Page for an exact location on the day of the event; we will also be marking the space with an "X" in the form of a brightly lit St. Andrew's Cross! Volunteers are needed to reserve portions of the venue throughout the day, if you are able and willing to help please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

II. Guidelines & Expectation


The evening will be filled with Tribal Energy from beginning to end. Members of the Fetish Men San Diego leadership team, as well as representatives from Club X, have volunteered themselves to lead blessings, performances, and interactions designed to make the event memorable and ever-lasting for each of our Brothers and Sisters.

We recommend arriving between 6:30 and 7:00pm, as Sunset is scheduled to happen shortly after 7'o'clock. As the Sun begins to set, we will have one of Fetish Men's Elders, Papa Tony, lead us through the Opening Ceremony and Blessing for the evening to get everyone in the right frame of mind for the evening.

After this, we will have several members of our community contributing to the Tribal Energy with performances to light up the night. Attendees will be encouraged to observe these performances, and engage in Fire Photography* if they so choose!

Toward the end of the evening, we will re-congregate near the main fire. Our Leaders will welcome any of our willing Brothers and Sisters to identify their weights, and to leave the ashes of those weights behind.

* If you are interested in getting your photo taken at the Fire Photo set up, you MUST have a Bathing Suit and be ready to apply a water layer to your skin. Photos will be taken by Scott B. Smith (FMSD) and released to attendees within days of Ritual Fire.

III. Nude Male Modeling


Have you thought about being a male model for gay male artists? Or wondered where you could go to practice your sketching, drawing, painting, or photography skills of male models? Check out the Gay Men's Art Group of San Diego.

GMAG logo drawing created by Tony A. Magpantay Jr.


GMAG has invited FMSD and Leather Men to be models at the December 4th GMAG session in University Heights. Wear whatever makes you feel hot, powerful, and strong. Nudity, with gear and props or not, is not required although it is very welcome. Street legal to the door.

Looking for new photos of you and your gear? Just like all levels of drawing, sketching, and painting are welcome so are all levels of photography although with some restrictions.

The models will strike seven poses in the first 20 minutes, then rotate to the next set of models. After, each model returns to hold one pose for 15 to 20 minutes. Solos, duos, or trios of models on stage works. One or two is great, three is the maximum due to space restrictions.

I and the co-leaders of GMAG think it would be GREAT to have leather and kink models as it would definitely be a change of pace for the artists.

Need more info or have questions about this? Please contact Scott at  FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com.


IV. From ME to YOU


I would like to thank you all for your continued support. Over the next several months, I will be trying a few new things and see how they go - I ask that you bare with me during this trial period, as it may take a few attempts before I finally have it down.

I would also like to thank Scott B. S. for his contribution to this blog post & FMSD as a whole! He has been actively working with GMAG to make this happen for roughly 2 months ago. Many of you may not know, but Scott is one of the greatest contributors to FMSD since I started back in December 2016, and a lot of what you see is thanks to his diligence and patience. So next time you see Scott, please thank him for his efforts in keeping this ship afloat! I certainly couldn't do any of this without him.

I look forward to seeing you all on Sunday. If you are able to volunteer and help reserve space on the beach, email me DoriamFMSD@GMail.com or Scott at FetishMenSanDiego@GMail.com

In Service,
Doriam C

Monday, September 4, 2017

A Breath of New Life

Table of Contents:

I. FMSD Party Recap
II. Ritual Fire - Volunteers Needed!
III. From ME to YOU

I. FMSD Party Recap

Howdy Gents, we first wanted to thank each and every one of you who showed interest in the Fetish Men San Diego party that took place this past weekend (September 2nd)! All-in-all, we are considering this event to have been a success, with a few hiccups along the way, but overall we are proud of what we accomplished!

But don't just take my word for it! If you haven't had the opportunity yet, read Papa Tony's review of the event here!  We would like to make this a regular event, but need your feedback to make it happen!  If you have any insight of your own that you'd like to contribute, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

We also had a few players misplace their equipment. If you find any toys that don't belong to you, please notify me and I will do my best to find its home. Vice-versa, if you have lost any toys, let me know what it is that you lost and I will keep my eyes and ears peeled to get them back to you!

II. Ritual Fire - Volunteers Needed

This Sunday, in conjunction with Club X San Diego, we are hosting Ritual Fire: A Tribal Bonfire Social. Starting at 6:30, we will have kinksters from across San Diego arriving to share in the energy. At 7pm SHARP, Papa Tony will be leading the opening ceremony, inviting each of our Brothers and Sisters to open themselves up. Jason will be leading drumming throughout the night, and many of our local players have volunteered to demonstrate their skills with light- and fire-based play. Keep track of the Facebook Event and our Fetlife Account for details on the exact location.

Speaking of volunteers, we wanted to thank everyone who has reached out about potentially teaching a class, offering themselves for setup/tear-down, giving advice and words of wisdom, etc. In the coming weeks, we will be revealing the volunteer system we're working on to show YOU how much your efforts and support means to your Brothers. Some positions on this list will include:

  • Ambassadors - Duties include attending events and answering questions, welcoming the new folk, and generally being friendly.
  • Dungeon Monitors (DMs) - Oversee play, ensuring that guidelines are being followed, and that attendees are engaging in Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) & Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).
  • Instructors - May be asked to lead a discussion or demonstration on a skill associated with BDSM/Fetish/Kink/Leather. If you have a skill or topic you are particularly passionate about, please contact us and let us know!
We will have more information available soon! But for now, we are in need of Ambassadors for Ritual Fire, as well as people to help reserve the location.

III. From ME to YOU.

It was my pleasure to organize the FMSD Party last weekend, and I was thrilled to see that so many of you enjoyed it! The stress involved with planning an event was not something I was thrilled to carry at first, but seeing it unfold and blossom, watching as my Brothers experienced the work we'd put in made everything entirely worth it. I won't go into excruciating details, but the results of the party have left me feeling as though I am floating in mid-air. I have been granted a new vitality, a breath of new life, and further excitement to continue planning events. Now, I need your help.

With all of the excitement, I need to make sure that I am listening to the most important part of Fetish Men San Diego; and that's you. Without my Brothers, we have no organization, no club, and no group to provide all of this work for. So, if there is something you'd like to see FMSD do more often, classes you'd be interested in attending, old events you'd like to see revisited, etc. Let me know by contacting DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

Additionally, we need a support team. Eventually, we hope that FMSD will begin building community leaders. In the same way I was inspired to step up, I hope some of YOU will consider stepping up, being available, and taking the opportunity to share these connections with your Brothers.

Have a wonderful week, Gentleman. I look forward to seeing you all at Ritual Fire - we may have one more post this week before then. Keep posted.


In Service,
DoriamC

Friday, August 25, 2017

Fetish Men is on FIRE!

Table of Contents

I. This Week in Kink
II. Ritual Fire & Fire Play Workshop
III. Upcoming Events
IV. From ME to YOU

I. This Week in Kink


Don't forget that Friday, September 1st from 9pm-Midnight, FMSD will be supporting California Drummerboy, Erik Thomas, in hosting Flogging Friday at the San Diego Eagle. We will have a few men present and available to flog, or demonstrate how to throw a flogger. If you've never experienced flogging and would like to get a small taste before Saturday's Party, this is a good place to do it!

Speaking of the Men's Only Party, we're excited to announce that we have upwards of 40 men registered to attend for our Party on Saturday, September 2nd. Ticket Sales will extend until Friday, September 1st for any last-minute attendees. If you're interested in attending and would like to get more information before the event itself, see this blog post or email DoriamFMSD@GMail.Com -- Ticket Sales can be handled through Venmo, Square Cash, or PayPal to secure your spot, if any are left, you can meet Doriam at Flogging Friday!

II. Ritual Fire & Fire Play Workshop (NEW VENUE!)


Sunday, September 10 - 6:30pm to 9:30pm
Fetish Men San Diego in conjunction with Club X San Diego will be hosting RITUAL FIRE; A TRIBAL BONFIRE SOCIAL. We are looking for volunteers to assist in reserving spots in Fiesta Island during the day on Sunday, September 10th. We suggest attendees arrive by 6:30, as sunset is predicted to hit peak-time at 7:00pm. Opening Ceremony will be held at 7'o'clock SHARP.

Ritual Fire will be a night of camaraderie and unity amongst our Brothers and Sisters. Live drumming will echo throughout the night, helping you open yourself to the tribal energy. Some of our local Brothers and Sisters will be engaging in Light- and Fire-Based Performances; we invite anyone interested to bring a swim suit and engage in Fire Photography. Join us as we come together in the ebb-and-flow of energy, connecting at our cores with those who share our most spiritual instincts.


Fetish Men 201 - Fire Play Workshop!
Saturday, September 30th - 3:00pm - 6:00pm
We have secured a new venue for 201+ Classes, which will take place on the Fourth or Fifth Saturday of each month. To commemorate Ritual Fire, we will be having one of our local players teaching a Fire Play Workshop on Saturday, September 25th from 3:00pm to 6:00pm. This workshop will go over how to safely play with various forms of fire, and will allow participants to experience Topping or Bottoming Fire Play in a safe, controlled environment.

Interested in attending? A requested $10 donation will reserve your spot to the event, payment can be made online, and space will be limited. The venue is located in the heart of Hillcrest; and the workshop will take place outdoors. Keep posted for more information!

III. Upcoming Events


FMSD Male-Only Party
Saturday, September 2nd
8:00pm - Midnight
FMSD's first Male-Only party will be held on September 2nd. If you haven't purchased your tickets, message Doriam by 11:59pm on Friday, September 1st to purchase your ticket and get your will-call information! Contact him via DoriamFMSD@GMail.Com

Flux_SD Switch Discussion
Sunday, September 3rd
5:00pm - 7:00pm
Join Flux SD the First Sunday of every month at Mimi's Cafe for a New Switch Discussion Group. Not sure what a "Switch" is? It's a Kinkster who can and does play on either side of the slash, depending on their current headspace. Let's support our Brothers and Sisters as they continue to explore themselves with this new group!

Ritual Fire; A Tribal Bonfire Social
Sunday, September 10th
6:30pm - 9:30pm
As listed above, Ritual Fire will be taking place on Sunday, September 10th. Please remember to arrive between 6:30pm and 7:00pm so as not to miss the opening ceremony, and bring a bathing soon as we will by the water, engaging in several forms of Fire-Play and Light-Performances.

XMen Academy - Men's Health/Stonewall Discussion
Thursday, September 14th:
7:00pm - 9:00pm
Join Club X's XMen! and our Local Titleholders as they lead discussion about Men's Health, and the involvement of the Stonewall Citizen's Patrol. This event is held from 7:00pm to 9:00pm, and a $5 donation is requested of non Club-X Members.

FMSD Demo Night @ The San Diego Eagle
Friday, September 15th:
9:00pm - Midnight
Each Month, we will be featuring a form of Kink/BDSM-style play at our local Leather Bar. Join us from 9pm to Midnight as we demonstrate Shibari/Rope Bondage this month, led by Doriam and Sir Francis!

Fetish Men @ Folsom Street Fair
Weekend of September 22-24th:
Time TBA
Going to Folsom? Celebrate Brotherhood, Camaraderie, and Connection of Man at Folsom Street Fair! This will be the first year for many of the men of FMSD, and we are looking forward to capturing the experience with a Group Photo or Brotherhood Dinner sometime during the weekend! More details to come.

Pet Play Lab with Doriam/Pup Bandit & Kit Karmelit
Saturday, September 30th
12:00pm - 2:00pm
Curious about the wonderful world of Pet/Pup Play? This class, taught at House of Black, is a 101-level introductory class to Pet Play amongst different dynamics of pets. If you are interested in what this kind of play looks like, this may be the class to attend! Doriam teaches the "Top-Side" of Pet Play, as it applies to Handling, Training, and being the Alpha of a Pet Play Dynamic, while his Partner/Co-Teacher Kit Karmelit teaches the "Bottom-Side" of pet play as it regards to engaging as a Pet, identifying your animal, and sculpting play.

Fetish Men Workshop - Fire Play with Justin
Saturday, September 30th
3:00pm - 6:00pm
We are happy to announce that a local member of Fetish Men San Diego has offered up his venue for us to teach 201-level classes. This month, to celebrate our first few big events, we will be hosting a Fire Play Workshop with Justin. His class will teach about the safe-practices to use with Fire, using Fire Wands and how to perform Fire Spankings! Attendees will be welcome to experience Fire from the Top and bottom sides if they so choose, but are welcome to simply attend and observe as well! Space is limited, email DoriamFMSD@GMail.Com to reserve your spot!

IV. From ME to YOU

As you can see, Gents, we are working hard to provide you with a great experience as Members of FMSD. I am still learning all of the ins-and-outs of running this group, and I am still actively looking for more help! If you have ANY insight about what you'd like to see done, events in the past that you'd like to see happen again, constructive criticism to make the group better - I AM HAPPY TO HEAR IT.

I look forward to seeing many of you on Saturday at the Party, the Bonfire on the 10th, and at the Fire Workshop on the 30th! Remember, Brothers -- I, WE, cannot do this without YOU!

In service,
Doriam C

Members/Male-Only Party

Table of Contents:

I. Member's/Male-Only Play Party
II. Guidelines & What to Expect
III. Clarification on Membership
IV: From ME to YOU

I. Member's/Male-Only Play Party

Brothers, join us as we host FMSD's first BIG EVENT of the year. You are invited to attend our Mens-Only Play Party on Saturday, September 2nd.

The inspiration for this party is BDSM, Kink, and Leather. If you've never been to a Play Party
The Main Dungeon is equipped with Two St. Andrew's
Crosses, a Sling, Cage and Massage Cage.
like this, there will be Men in attendance who are more than willing to play with the new folk, and answer questions when appropriate. You'll see: Bondage, Flogging, Rope, Puppy Play, Water Sports, Suspension and more. For first-timers, we will have members of our Leadership Team available to welcome you to the space, as well as Volunteers happy to lend a guiding hand.

The Party will be held on Saturday, September 2nd, 2017 from 8:00pm to Midnight. Doors will close at 10:00PM sharp! House of Black is located in Miramar, between the 805 and 15 freeways near Ballast Point Brewery. The Venue is a 3000 sq.ft. fully-equipped dungeon facility with 7 rooms for attendees to play in.

II. Guidelines & What To Expect

Never been to a party at House of Black or an FMSD Party? See the Play Party & Dungeon Rules below:

Play Party & Dungeon Rules

House of Black is a fully-equipped dungeon with toys available for attendees to use while in the space; however, we do recommend bringing your own toys, tools, and gear as we cannot promise that any specific items will be available throughout the night. If you are curious on whether the toy(s) you'd like to bring are allowed, please email DoriamFMSD@GMail.com, or ask a Dungeon Monitor.



We Recommend:

Please consider bringing the following.
  • Toys & Gear: Storage areas available.
  • Eating Prior: We will provide light snacks during the party. Please eat before.
  • Towels: There is a shower available for attendees, the shower may also be used for play involving Water Sports.
  • Condoms & Lube: We will provide some, but better safe than sorry.

High-Risk Play:

Please receive approval prior to engaging in the following types of play. You may receive approval by emailing DoriamFMSD@GMail.com.

The Bondage Bedroom is fully equipped with Hard Points for
Rope or Leather Cuffs, Stocks and a Cage underneath.

  • Hoods/Masks (Pup Hoods are allowed)
  • Knives or Scalpels
  • Wax Play
  • Fire Play
  • Water Sports (outside of designated area)



The following are PROHIBITED at this event:
Medical Room with CBT Chair and Inspection Table
  • Scat.
  • Whips longer than 6 feet
  • Guns, Firearms, or Explosives (real or simulated)
  • Cell Phones in the main play-space.
  • Photos or Recording without prior permission.
  • Intrusive odors: Sage, Incense, Cologne, etc.

III. Clarification on Membership

Unlike many of the clubs in San Diego, FMSD does not have a formal membership, instead we welcome all Men who choose to affiliate with us as our Brothers, and Members of Fetish Men. The only 'formal' prerequisite, is that you be Male-Identifying.

For 201+ Classes, we ask that attendees have a basic understanding of BDSM/Kink/Leather because it is a faster paced class. If you are new to the community as a whole, you are welcome to email any person on the FMSD Leadership Team and ask for someone to join you at one of the intro classes hosted in San Diego. We will do our best to find someone to attend the event with you whenever possible.

Additionally, we have two forms of Contact on Facebook. @FetishMenSD is a Like Page which you can Like or Follow for regular updates about general events happening in the community, or events in which we welcome FMSD and other groups to attend. Fetish Men San Diego is a private group on Facebook where we post our FMSD Exclusive events, or events with a BDSM/Kink/Leather theme to abide by Facebook Terms of Service. If you are not a member of the group page, please submit a message to @FetishMenSD asking to be added and we will gladly do so!

IV. From ME to YOU

This is quickly becoming my favorite part of the Newsletters to write, as it requires much less formal-speech and allows me to speak with you both individually and as a whole. I am very excited to put on this event for the Membership, I look forward to seeing everyone together at the party, and hope that you all enjoy the event in-action as much as I have enjoyed putting it together.

I am looking for 2-4 Men to help before the party begins, and after the party ends, to assist in putting the space together. While the rooms are already set up, there are areas we'd like to rearrange. If you can make yourself available for either an hour before or an hour after, please email me at: DoriamFMSD@GMail.com

Additionally, if you have anyone who you'd like to bring to the party, please let me know! I will be at the Eagle this Sunday (08/27/2017) starting at 4PM for Ticket Sales, and will be available throughout the week leading up to Thursday, August 31. If you would like to reserve yourself a ticket and cannot pay the full price currently, we have volunteer spots available, or other arrangements can be made.

I wish you all a wonderful weekend, and I look forward to seeing you soon!

In Service,
Truly,
Doriam C